I cheated and he just won't stop bringing it up!! Advice pls?
Q. Hi. So, I'm 18 now from the last time I posted, which I was 17... I now have a new relationship, been with this guy for 6 months. anyway it's been the hardest relationship I have been in. First of all I will state that after my ex, I ...
A. 11 January 2012: He has already shown he will not, or cannot, drop this, so now you need to decide, another 66 years of having your past actions, and past actions of your family members, thrown in your face or not.
Personally I think you should just save yourself... (read in full...)
We had something but he has a girlfriend. How can we remain friends but set clear boundaries?
Q. I'm very confused. There's a guy I met who's in an long distance, long term relationship with his girlfriend. We live far away, but will live near one another in a few months time. After we first met, he pursued me heavily, despite his girl...
A. 11 January 2012: He is cheating, do cheaters set boundaries? Go with your gut, if you honestly don't want to be part of this guy cheating on his girlfriend cut all contact with him, block his email address and don't accept his phone calls. ... (read in full...)
I cheated and he just won't stop bringing it up!! Advice pls?
Q. Hi. So, I'm 18 now from the last time I posted, which I was 17... I now have a new relationship, been with this guy for 6 months. anyway it's been the hardest relationship I have been in. First of all I will state that after my ex, I ...
A. 11 January 2012: Tell him you current life expectancy for females in Australia is 84 and you have no intention of spending the next 66 years being reminded of something you regret doing and have no intention of doing again.
Also point out it is unfair of him to b... (read in full...)
I miss my ex so much it hurts and I can't stop crying!
Q. My story is a little complicated so I will try to make it short as possible. I was enganged to a guy. We were together for 4 years. I found out that he cheated on me... (several times) so I left him. I left him without a fight... I just packed my ...
A. 11 January 2012: He is married, a mere 18 months after you cleaned out your cupboard and left the engagement ring behind.
Didn't take him long to find a new girl, get to know here, become engaged and then get married did it now.
And you too have found a gre... (read in full...)
Thinking about leaving my career for a few years when I have children to avoid daycare costs, is this wrong?
Q. Just wanting others honest opinions on this and what I should do! I'm university educated, been in a great job since uni. My partner also has a great secure job. We both earn an average wage so not high but not something we struggle on. I d...
A. 10 January 2012: Check out your state's equirments for family day care, or get a copy of the regulations. In my state you dont need qualifications to provide in home care, but most people do find they need to make changes in their home to meet regulatory ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got angry because I am too small for sex! What should I do?
Q. my vagina is too small for me to have sex. my boyfriend got angry!!! what can i do? should I make it bigger? but how?...
A. 10 January 2012: Your boyfriend might know how to get his jollies but he doesn't know anything about making love.
Dump him and find somebody who is as interested in making sex good for you as well as for him.
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Worried she has manipulated me to cover half of her mortgage to sort out her financial situation, how do I explain to her I've changed my mind and want to start fresh in a new property?
Q. I've been seeing my gf for 9 months now and living with her for about 5. I recently sold a flat and moved in with her whilst looking for a new one. I was about to buy a place but my gf appeared upset by the prospect of me moving out so I didn't and ...
A. 10 January 2012: She sounds like a high investment risk, I wouldnt be sharing any financial dealings with her after only nine months.
B straight, tell her you have checked the building out and believe its would be a bad move financially. tell her you would pr... (read in full...)
The elephant in the room wont go away
Q. I wrote several months ago about my husband's old secret destroying both a marraige and friendship. Friend turned out to be an uknown to me old lover who was trying to destroy my marraige over the years by saying nasty things. I was so called ...
A. 8 January 2012: Did you take the professional help even though your husband refused to go? Maybe you need to go back and get some help determining what is the best thing for YOU to do in this situation.
He sounds a bit dumb if he is really expecting everythi... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he is threatening me!
Q. Need some advice. Ive been with my partner 2 yrs I am now 22 wks pregnant with a baby girl. My partner never wanted the baby he demanded an abortion which I booked and.couldn't go through with. Made it clear he doesn't have to be here ive made the ...
A. 7 January 2012: Ask your GP or midwife if they can refer you to a social worker or other. Tell them what you have told us. Ask for help! Believe me, he CANNOT take your child, if you are really fearful he may attempt this ask the doctor / midwife for advise on ... (read in full...)
He never treats me right
Q. I'm new to this and I'm not a person who would normally ask for help, BUT I really feel like I need a 2nd opinion on my situation. I am 24 years old. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17. He is 10 years older than me at 33 years old. We ha...
A. 7 January 2012: What you are suffering is a form of abuse, see if there are any women's health centres or help lines in your area, or a social worker, be sure to explain to them you have no family and no friends to support you.
Put a plan in action, start squi... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is controlling and he dislikes physical intimacy
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a few months. Our relationship has been very hectic, there was this period where I had terrible rashes and could not leave the house. He started to act distant towards me and my friend told ...
A. 7 January 2012: Love isn't controlling who somebody has as friends, thats not very loving at all. love doesnt issue ultimatums!
I think you are suffering from Rose Tinted Glasses syndrome. They are tinted so bad you can't even tell what "things" he did to cause... (read in full...)
How can I either improve my singing voice or learn to feel comfortable with it as is?
Q. At school I got put in a class that I didn't pick because what I picked was full. The class I got put in was chorus and I can't sing at all. Today we song and I was the one that stuck out because I had the worst voice so I had to practice in front...
A. 7 January 2012: I always thought I couldn't sing, along with the other members of the group I get with each week to sing ... here are the tips we were given, breathing exercises first. sing soft, dont try and belt it out, and drop your jaw.
I love singing,... (read in full...)
Sleeping with my boss and dating a new guy
Q. hi i have been sleepin with my boss for around six months now but we made an agreement to keep it just sex cuz it wud never work. hes about 20 years older than me, very busy wudnt have time for me properly. i started to get attatchd so i get piss...
A. 7 January 2012: Your boss doesn't care. He cares so little he told you to go and get a boyfriend, you boss has been honest with you, he is only in it for the sex, how come you can't be as honest with you as he is?
Do you really want to pass up on having a nice g... (read in full...)
I treat this guy like a king, but he is unorganized has not time for me and doesn't like anything I suggest to try to help!
Q. I'm a 43 year old divorced woman dating a 46 year old divorced man for a year. We have each been divorced for years. I've had 2 relationships before him. One with a man who was a jackass and treated me badly, but whom I loved so very much...I ...
A. 6 January 2012: Yes, I have thoughts on this matter. I think that after 12 months you need to accept that you and he have different goals, and are on different paths.... (read in full...)
Feel like she is acting like a single, not us as a couple. Is my feeling valid and normal?
Q. We have been together for about 9.5 months. We are compatible with each other and intend to take the relationship to the next level when the time is right. There is this thing that keep bugging me and upsetting me a bit. I am 32 and she is 28. B...
A. 6 January 2012: Why should your girlfriend check with you before making plans to go somewhere with her mother and sister?
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My girlfriend manipulates me into feeling guilty!
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend. We seem to get into arguments that I believe are over small stupid things, but she doesn't see it that. I rarely stand up for myself, but after this last one I have just had enough. This is what happened:...
A. 6 January 2012: My advice? You are currently on a break from her, I would make it a permanent break!... (read in full...)
Why does he choke me or restrain me during sex?
Q. The guy im having sex with will start to choke me or pin me down right before im going to orgasim. if i push his hand away from my neck or move away from his hold he will stop and hold back for a bit. then it starts all over again. he wont let me ...
A. 6 January 2012: Sounds like you need to find a new guy to have sex with, this one isn't listening when you say "No" which indicates a lack of respect for you.
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Breakup with ex but he's still mad when I talk to other guys
Q. I broke up with my ex and i regret it but he says he don't know what he wants but he's still in love with me. He say's he don't wanna get hurt again and his friend don't like me so he's saying he don't wanna lose a friend and he's also saying his ...
A. 5 January 2012: I agree with Fi, he should stick to his friend who doesnt like you and you talk to whoever you want to talk to!... (read in full...)
What can I do with my lazy husband?
Q. Please help, My new husband is so lazy. We both work full time (together) and normally get on ok. We have been together for 7 years but only recently decided to marry. A couple of years ago we bought a small house that needed some work doing on...
A. 5 January 2012: I hate to nag but please make sure you see an immediate effort, helping with dishes, hoovering etc, while you are at work, its no good accepting an assurance from him that things will change in the future if you dont know how far into the future ... (read in full...)
My ex will only talk to me about our kids, after I started dating a friend of hers. I miss her company!
Q. my ex and i split up a while ago......we did sleep together for sometime afterwards. whilst we were sleeping together i was messaging a friend of hers and now we have become a couple. my ex and i have kids together and we always got along well. ...
A. 4 January 2012: Noice! Sleeping with one woman whie messaging her friend, did her friend know you were still sleeping with her? not that that matters much now.
It's none of your business what your ex is doing, or who she is seeing, too bad if you get annoyed,... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted. What's the best advice when faced with a Love Triangle?
Q. I plan to move to another country for two years in August. The guy who i'm interested is from there. The other girl is as well. The guy started to like me first, but I felt like it was lust for him, and liked me because he was lonely. I wanted ...
A. 4 January 2012: What triangle, the possible triangle, or maybe there wont be a triangle, this guy isnt even involved with you or the other girl, and he ogled the pretty waitress, maybe its going to be a love square not at triangle.
You are looking for problems... (read in full...)
I cooked a special dinner for my boyfriend but he spent the entire time on the phone with another girl! Am I right to be mad about this?
Q. My boyfriend of one year is from another country and talks from time to time about foods he misses that aren't common here. Thinking I would surprise him, I went out of my way to make a dish he had been reminiscing about. Since I'd never tasted it ...
A. 4 January 2012: Nope, no over reaction in my opinion. His behaviour showed a lack of respect and acknowledgment for your efforts.
I'd be asking for clarification on your status as girlfriend or not, also what he beleives is involved in being girlfriend and boyf... (read in full...)
Am I being petty?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. He had a messy break up with his ex when him and I started dating. This ex of his caused both of us a lot of trouble. I felt especially affected by this because she would go around saying ...
A. 4 January 2012: You say the messy breakup happened when you and he started dating.
That indicates to me he left her for you,or that she wasn't given a lot of time to go through the process of accepting her relationship was over before she saw him with a new girl... (read in full...)
My ex was sending very lewd texts to me but denies it....Did I handle this the right way?
Q. Hi everyone. Over my school's winter break, an ex of mine started texting me. Our relationship didn't end on good terms, and I didn't text back. He started sending sexual texts, each increasing in lewdness. After recieving a few of these, I texted ...
A. 4 January 2012: Next time you receive unsolicited lewd texts just take to the nearest police station.... (read in full...)
I have trust issues and pushed him away... I love him , what should I do?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with this guy and i dont know what to do anymore. i'm young and afraid of love and have trust issues and i dont know why i have broken up with him so much. I am so confused, he used to call me and would always ...
A. 3 January 2012: If you havent heard in over a month yo may need to realise that he doesn't care anymore.
My advice?
Block his number, delete and block his email account, remove yourself from any sites he is a member of, block his facebook ID, change your hai... (read in full...)
I am asking the questions about her past, and she says its none of my business
Q. I am almost 40, married, to my grade school crush, I love her, more than anything. We were found each other 2 years ago after over 20 years graduating high school, we led very different lives, and now I am having big trouble dealing with her ...
A. 3 January 2012: You were quite prepared to marry her without the nitty gritty details, yes, I agree, it is shocking for 14 year old girls to have abortions but a way lot less shocking that 14 year old girls having babies.
Why do you need these details? Are you ... (read in full...)
What can I do with my lazy husband?
Q. Please help, My new husband is so lazy. We both work full time (together) and normally get on ok. We have been together for 7 years but only recently decided to marry. A couple of years ago we bought a small house that needed some work doing on...
A. 3 January 2012: See a lawyer about how to get your money back from the house and then tell him what you have told us, that you feel you should not have bothered getting married and being unmarried is a more attractive proposition.
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How do I date him again when he broke up with me saying I had bad breath?
Q. I am so embarrassed! I have been seeing this guy for 2 years, last year we broke up because he was not being affectionate with me.. he then told me that i have really bad breath. I was devastated and went to the dentist and doctor to be checked out, ...
A. 3 January 2012: Ask your doctor and dentist to write letters about them finding no problem, send them to him with a suggestion he visit a psychologist, because obviously the problem must be with him, and tell him you dont want to see him again until he has the ... (read in full...)
If I am a girl 17 and he is 4 years my junior then who makes the first move? Is this OK?
Q. I need some help. I am in love with a close friend but I don't know what to do about it. I am a girl 17 years old, but I am 4 years older than him, so who should make the first move? Who should make the first move me a girl or him a guy 4 year...
A. 2 January 2012: Where's your head? He is only 13 years old. Has nobody every told you girls usually develop earlier than boys and you already have four years head start on him.
Try focussing on a few boys your own age for a few years and leave this one to do so... (read in full...)
The sex in our FWB relationship is bad! How do I tell him?
Q. So my best friend and I are close. But neither of us want a relationship, but we do want an aspect of a relationship. Sex. So we have sex and because as individuals we're just the same. People probably think we date because of how much we hang out ...
A. 1 January 2012: Lolling here at the thought of a FWB who is no good at sex. What good is that?
If the sex is no good in your FWB you tell him, thanks but no thanks. ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain why people talk so positively? I think it inappropriate and don't believe it.
Q. Why are people always telling me ,that things are going to be all right, when it is not really posible in. my case. I feel deaf ears are listening my story. And they think, I m guilty. if I don t want to believe positive ideas. False hope is not ...
A. 1 January 2012: here is a non positive thought for you ... misery attracts misery.
I know a woman who sky jumped for her 90th birthday, sure, it was a tandem jump but this is by the by.
And its hard to be positive when holding the hand of a palitive care pa... (read in full...)
After 2 years of being LDR we finally meet and it ended so badly. I'm heartbroken!
Q. I've been in this ldr for almost 2 years. We met on a chatline and instantly connected! Every time me tried to meet up,something would always happen on both of our ends, so although we had never seen each other we did skype and video chat and send ...
A. 31 December 2011: My gut feeling is that he was cheating on somebody and the guilts got him.
Try and put it behind you as a bad experience, you say he said nasty things even before you finally met, that was probably the real person.
His actions show that he doe... (read in full...)
How do I work through this rage I feel towards my ex?
Q. Hi all, I could do with some advice regarding my situation with my now ex boyfriend. We broke up because he just couldn't stop lying to me and in the end it became out of control and I ended it. Today we got into a row as I once again found ou...
A. 31 December 2011: I am not sure of the time line here, was he already your ex when you kicked him out to the homeless shelter? If so, what was he doing back in your home?
If you really want him to stay away then its up to you to make sure he does, dont take his... (read in full...)
Would it be harsh of me to tell my b/f he can't move in with me till he finds a job?
Q. Hi all heres the thing i wrote recently asking advice about telling my bf im moving in alone as hes unemployed but i have recently found out im pregnant i work 40 hours n he dont. Now im stuck my parents kicked me out which is fine ive gt money ...
A. 31 December 2011: Its going to be difficult to continue working 40 hours once the baby arrives ... and there are going to be many, many unforseen costs associated with the new arrival.
Why would you add the extra burden of an unemployed adult, if he is unable t... (read in full...)
Neither my parents nor the father of my baby know that I'm pregnant. How do I tell them?
Q. Dear Cupid, I met this guy on some dating app ending of November this year. He seemed like a sweet guy and lived in my area, so we met up at a local Starbucks. We seemed to click and clearly were interested in each other so we continue...
A. 30 December 2011: First up make sure you ARE pregnant, visit a doctor or a family planning clinic .... then tell the boy, but don't expect him to be overjoyed, after all you have only just met each other. Then you will have to tell your parents 9mother) and I KNOW ... (read in full...)
B/f can't have children, when I asked him if I changed my mind about wanting them, he said "go find someone else"
Q. I met a guy who had a vasectomy and I didn't want kids either so we were dating for 2 years but I've asked him recently what if I change my mind and he says go find someone else. Should I go now or wait and see if my feelings change? I felt kind of ...
A. 30 December 2011: He entered into an intimate relationship thnking you didn't want children. You are the one who has changed their mind, not him. Unless you both discussed what would happen if one of you changed your mind BEFORE you both entered into that ... (read in full...)
My younger man wont pull his weight!
Q. OMG!! I really do not know what to do? My situation is cunning, baffaling and powerful. I am a 37 young African American Female who is a college graduate, hard working, intelligent, parent. Who tries to do the best in all situations. My problem is ...
A. 30 December 2011: He is 10 years younger, that makes him 27. Quite old enough to know how to be financially responsible and to be aware of how the world works.
his adult responsibilities should be well and truly engraved by now, it seems to me he will continue... (read in full...)
How much help is too much help?
Q. A guy I met online is coming to town and he's asked me to help him rent a bedsit so I did. The thing is the bedsit is in bad shape and there is basically nothing habitable about it. He'll be arriving late on Saturday ( no shops will be open on ...
A. 30 December 2011: If you have a spare kettle and toaster, yes, leave one there for his use, and some tea bags and maybe a loaf of bread as well. It would be a nice, welcoming, gesture.... (read in full...)
I became too controlling and she wanted out. What can I do?
Q. i have being going out for a lass for 4months it was all good until we started rushing things abit n seeing each other everynight. thats when i started making mistakes n became over protective of her i deleted her male friends numbers of er phone n ...
A. 30 December 2011: Oh my! Deleting numbers from her phone and hacking her facebook is not being 'protective'. You have the wrong word there, what you were doing was abusive. And to try and lay the blame for the problems on her when you knew they lay at your feet is ... (read in full...)
What exactly goes through a women's head when they allow me to keep treating them like trash?
Q. I am in awe at the way women let me treat them and I just don't get it. Ill see a girl I like and treat her like complete garabage but she still chases after me so I continue to do it because it works every time but I've had enough, I just don'...
A. 29 December 2011: Pheromones .... I dont know how they are measured but yours are stronger, or smellier, and its a chemical reaction.
Hopefully by the time the girls get older they will have enough sense to recognise their attraction to you is irrational, and that... (read in full...)
We love each other but he's married. Do I wait or walk away/
Q. i am a lady of about 25 years old. I am going out with this guy who had a court weding with an old white woman. We both love each other and anytime i want us to end this relationship because of the white woman he pleads with me to give him time to ...
A. 29 December 2011: We old white women tend to live for a long time, he is probably not going to be free for another 30 or more years. I think you should end it now while you are still young and have time to find somebody who wont go getting married to anybody else ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being thoughtless by refusing to change his facebook status?
Q. Hi, I was having some issues with my bf because of his ex and his friendship and working with her. Anyway he swore to me that although he did really like her, they didn't really have a great relationship, that they didn't have a connection l...
A. 29 December 2011: One of the first things a woman would do would be to remove the status from facebook, along with all happy statuses, references, pictures, etc. We would ensure our nearest and dearest and the man on the moon were aware there had been a split and ... (read in full...)
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