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anonymous
writes:my vagina is too small for me to have sex. my boyfriend got angry!!! what can i do? should I make it bigger? but how?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (11 January 2012):
Everything sounds wrong here, your boyfriend for gettfing mad, and you for believing your vagina can be too small for sex. Anyone who has witnessed childbirth will know the amazing capabilities of a vagina! !!
You don't give much info but it sounds like either you are trying to have sex too quickly,or your boyfriend doesnt know what he is doing or doesnt care, or he doesnt turn you on, or a combination of the above.
If you want this to work then you need real foreplay and to be well lubricated. Remember most women only have a few days a month when this happens naturally so some help may well be needed. You have to unwind the stress that you have now so a glass of wine amd a relaxing situation is called for. Dont leave your boyfriend to do all the work, its best if you climb on top and direct him into you, after all you know best the direction and speed that feels best and works!
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reader, Shadow Rose  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 Get mad at HIM for having a penis that's too big to fit into your vagina. That's what I say. Then he'll see how stupid it is to get MAD about something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): I'm sure your vagina is not too small to have sex. When you're properly aroused and relaxed it will expand enough to fit a penis. It could be that he is too large for you anyway or you are very tight or you have vaginismis or any combination but those are all things which can be overcome. It could also be that you didn't have the right angle of entry etc. Either way he is a jerk, dump him and find someone who is a good lover and who cares about you. A visit to the gyn is a good idea too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2012): Your BF is a Loser Douche nozzle. Abusive too. Blames you because of your physicality?
Find another BF that does not have anger issues and will treat you like a Queen.
Problem solved.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 January 2012):
 Assuming there's no medical problem (there could be, but that condition where the muscles cramp immediately when touched is rare), the only reason a woman's vagina can be "too small" is if a self-entitled jerk just goes and tries to shove his penis in without foreplay or even so much as checking she's turned on. A boyfriend who gets angry because his girlfriend isn't turned on is an asshole who doesn't care if you get anything out of sex, just so long as he can get off. My assumption here is that any guy who actually gets angry at something that isn't a woman's fault is someone who wouldn't bother trying to turn you on before sex and therefore this wouldn't be a medical problem.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 January 2012):
 dump him. if a man gets angry that you can't have sex he's not worth the agony of trying to please him. he needed to be soft and gentle and understaning... he was not.
what else will he abuse you about?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 January 2012):
 Many women have tight vaginas. It is actually a blessing, but the man has to be very patient in order to penetrate. Oral stimulation can help. Asian women are typically small to receive American men, but it can be done. The key is to be very slow at first penetration. The vagina will expand to accept, usually within a few minutes.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 Dump your boyfriend. Then go see your doctor to find out if your vagina really is too small to have sex. But dump your boyfriend first, he sounds like he doesn't care much about you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 Your boyfriend might know how to get his jollies but he doesn't know anything about making love.
Dump him and find somebody who is as interested in making sex good for you as well as for him.
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