What is the mind of a woman like?
Q. if a woman suggests sexual activity to most any man, he's willing, probably eager, and more than likely thrilled. If most any man suggests the same to a woman, she'll say no, probably be offended, and very likely will decide that he's a shallow ...
A. 21 April 2011: nope @ penis question.
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Boyfriend says he has fallen out of love with me
Q. hello my boyfreind of six and a half years told me that he has fallen out of love with me a bit cause of the way i am but we had sex and he said he is back in love with me if i change will we be ok please help important ...
A. 21 April 2011: He fell in love with a tomato and now he want you to change into a cucumber?
What does he mean, he wants you to change?
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Dilemma. I want to get back with my ex, but his GF has to leave. I also want to be with my married lover, but he has to leave his wife.
Q. I Have a lot to say so here goes. I have a big problem with men. my ex broke up with me 6 months ago because i cheated on him with the guy i,m living with now. but this guy i,m with now well we don,t really get along. so anyway my ex is let his ex ...
A. 18 April 2011: Your second response was not visible when I posted my followup, yes, you do need to just get out of this, away from all these people, you seem to have lost touch with reality, as if this behaviour is normal, and okay.
You are all cheaters... (read in full...)
Dilemma. I want to get back with my ex, but his GF has to leave. I also want to be with my married lover, but he has to leave his wife.
Q. I Have a lot to say so here goes. I have a big problem with men. my ex broke up with me 6 months ago because i cheated on him with the guy i,m living with now. but this guy i,m with now well we don,t really get along. so anyway my ex is let his ex ...
A. 18 April 2011: Oh dear, I missed the wife was a cheater, yeah take her with you, she will make one more person to cheat and be cheated on.... (read in full...)
Dilemma. I want to get back with my ex, but his GF has to leave. I also want to be with my married lover, but he has to leave his wife.
Q. I Have a lot to say so here goes. I have a big problem with men. my ex broke up with me 6 months ago because i cheated on him with the guy i,m living with now. but this guy i,m with now well we don,t really get along. so anyway my ex is let his ex ...
A. 18 April 2011: Okayyy, I just need to sort this out in my mind.
You had a boyfriend. You were cheating on him. He found out and dumped you.
He is now with the person who was his ex when you were his current.
The person you were cheating with, you are no... (read in full...)
Am I making him wait too long?
Q. Ok so here's the deal, i just started dating this guy officially on March 26. He's 22 and I'm 19. He's had sex five times while i am still a virgin. As of late he's been bringing up sex more and more often. I'm not waiting until marriage, but i am ...
A. 18 April 2011: Less than a month is making him wait too long? You havent been going out with him long enough to know him yet, your relationship is still in the first flush of new love.
If he is getting frustrated with you, and it is less than a month since yo... (read in full...)
What would you think of this age difference?
Q. Please be as brutally honest as your thoughts might be. If you saw an 18yr old girl walking down the street holding hands with a grey haired 49yr old man what would you think? Thank you for your time xxx...
A. 18 April 2011: well you know, my first thoughts would be OMG he looks old enough to be her father, and then my brain would kick in, maybe he is her father, maybe he is a really good friend, he could even be her older brother.
And then my thoughts woulg take in ... (read in full...)
Why am I the bad guy? He's the one who dumped me!
Q. We were together for six years and we have kids together. I was thinking about breaking up with him but he broke up with me first. In the past I would beg him to take me back but this time I said Fine, let's break up, this isn't working, let's stay ...
A. 13 April 2011: Be strong, tell him you don't want to get back together with him, tell him you prefer you life without him creating stress within in, tell him you are happy you loved him enough in the past to make two beautiful babies, but the love has moved on and ... (read in full...)
Why am I the bad guy? He's the one who dumped me!
Q. We were together for six years and we have kids together. I was thinking about breaking up with him but he broke up with me first. In the past I would beg him to take me back but this time I said Fine, let's break up, this isn't working, let's stay ...
A. 12 April 2011: He is looking for excuses to have dumped you, trying to project the reasons for the split onto you so that he can point the finger and stop feeling guilty.
The fact that it has been only six weeks and he is dating already says a lot about his char... (read in full...)
Is he really is having his cake and eating it by living rent free at his mums and at mine?
Q. Please help me I'm very confused about my relationship of 15 months. He has two kids from his prev relationship of 8 years. We don't live together but he is at my place every night. For majority of the time we get along good and I really love hi...
A. 12 April 2011: Personally I still feel you both need to sit down and discuss this together, like adults.
Money is probably a bigger problem in relationships than infidelity, so you need to sort this out quickly.
Sit down and work out your expenses, for both of ... (read in full...)
Is he really is having his cake and eating it by living rent free at his mums and at mine?
Q. Please help me I'm very confused about my relationship of 15 months. He has two kids from his prev relationship of 8 years. We don't live together but he is at my place every night. For majority of the time we get along good and I really love hi...
A. 11 April 2011: Why is your paying for his kids a regular thing, why isnt it a special occassion thing, like for birthdays etc. If he wants to take his kids to an amusement park well he can bloody well pay for it! And if he cant afford it well he needs to take his ... (read in full...)
Is it right to stay in this relationship when I am hurting myself so badly?
Q. I dont want to love him anymore. For months of our relationship i found out that he had a live in partner and they are living together,ofcourse. Three months when we're together i found out that she was fregnant but i love him so much and i can't...
A. 9 April 2011: Resha, tell your family and friends the truth, tell them how sad you are that you were so blinded by love that you kept the truth a secret from them.
Your family and friends love you, unlike this man, ask them for help and they will help you stay... (read in full...)
I am secretly dating my cousin. Now her sister is threatening to tell our family about it unless we have sex with her, too!
Q. Ok, My cousin and I have been dating for close to a year without either of our families knowing or finding out. But just recently, her younger sister came forward to us about knowing about our relationship. She's threatening to tell our respective ...
A. 8 April 2011: What a crock, you are a fake and your story is too!... (read in full...)
He's my ex and wants to have sex. I want to do it, or at least say that he asked me, out of spite. Should I?
Q. So why did this boy "J" text me yesterday asking me if we still can have sex. When he has just broken up with me and is now going with another girl... a part of me wants to just have sex with him just to try and get back at her by telling her.... ...
A. 8 April 2011: You are not good enough for him to have as a girlfriend but good enough for him to screw? Don't think so sweetheart.
The most empowering thing you can do in this situation is to tell him to go screw himself.
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I made a mistake. Should I try to get her back or just get over her?
Q. me and my x split up last year due to my sexting and emailing other women and she kicked me out even thou it was meant to be for a few months she still hasn't and now wont let me back (harsh i know but that's what she wanted) basically i cant get...
A. 8 April 2011: How long are you prepared to wait? Another month, six months, 12 months, five years? What do you intend doing while you are waiting, will you sit at home twiddling your thumbs waiting for her to call? Put your life on hold?
I think the fact you... (read in full...)
How can I get my mother to kick my sister and her kids out?
Q. i have a sister that is in her 30's and her and her kids moved in with me and my mother almost 10 years ago and they wont leave. my sister wont get a job or even make an attempt to look for her own home and expects for my mother to keep taking care ...
A. 8 April 2011: You cant make your mother do anything. I can understand how it must be for you, but I can understand how it might be for your mother.
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Is it me or what's the deal with this guy???
Q. Hi, I met this guy online a couple of months back, first we just exchanged emails then we started texting and then we talked on the phone a couple of times. I think he seems nice but something inside me tells me to be cautious and wait and see( I'...
A. 6 April 2011: He sounds married or otherwise involved.... (read in full...)
I had to give up my friendship because he started telling me he wanted to be my boyfriend
Q. There is this guy that introduced himself to me last year and we begun talking and became good friends after a month or two went by. And he began telling me things about his personal life and ask for my advice on things, and I would always try my ...
A. 4 April 2011: I agree, he sounds creepy, especially if he is still texting and trying to make contact after 12 months. Speaking as a parent, I think you should talk to an older person about this issue, maybe your parents, and ask one of them to approach the cre... (read in full...)
I have injuries from the war and now no one wants to date me
Q. Here's the deal i got back from Iraq almost 1 year ago from a explosion in which took my leg off, and left me with bullet holes in my back. I had my leg put back on, but now there is a 10 inch scar going down the right side by my knee and wraps ...
A. 4 April 2011: Firstly, congratulations to the doctors who managed to save your leg, I have a grandchild, now 7, who has been an amputee since 11 months old, and would say the medical profession are marvels at some of the work they are able to do. I am going to... (read in full...)
I have no regrets but she does! What do I do?
Q. Hi all was at a convention and after a wild party a long time acquaintence and I both wound up together and had sex. I made sure that she understood that we where like 2 shops passing in the night, and nothing would come of this after. We are both ...
A. 3 April 2011: Sorry, but the picture conjured up by your typo at two shops passing in the night has me laughing. "But on to serious matters, text her back, exactly what you hav said here, I enjoyed myself, I have no regrets, what happens at convention stays... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my FWB partner is getting tired of me?
Q. I've been having this friends with benefits relationship, no strings attached with a co-worker (he works in the same building, we don't actually work together)for a couple of months now. I know I'm probably too old for that kind of "relationship", ...
A. 3 April 2011: The problem with FWB relationships is that there really isnt anything there but the benefits. Not even true friendship and so you can't have expectations. Yes, wait for him after work and ask him whats up with the no texts.
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How do I break up with a guy without breaking his heart or ruining my rep?
Q. Okay, so im 17, and im not sure if im gay or straight. I think i am still curious about my sexuality, and i think im just experimenting. Anyway, i dont want to be gay, id rather be asexual than be gay. I know i cant choose what sexuality ...
A. 3 April 2011: If he is online, and you have never met face to face you just need to be really firm and strong. Something along the lines of "I have really enjoyed talking with you over the past few months, but I am not sure a relationship is what I need right ... (read in full...)
My gf thinks I'm 22 but I'm really 16! Should I tell her??
Q. Im a 16 year old boy , but i've been living a life of a 22 year old. I smoke cigarettes and booze. And i dont look my age. I look like a guy in 20's. I got a girl's phone number from my friend and fell in love with her through the phone. After ...
A. 3 April 2011: Starting a relationship on a lie is like building a house with no foundations.
If this girl is silly enough to fall for this lie for the next six years you deserve each other.
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Will I ever find the Mr. Right for me?
Q. Hai. My name is Theona, i'm a 16years old. I like very hot, charming and a bit silly guys. My problem with this guys is that my relationships with them it always end up as a big mistake! That scares me alot, im afraid i will never have a good guy...
A. 3 April 2011: Maybe you are trying too hard to find the guy who will fit your list. Why not forget about Mr Right for a few years, and just date and have some fun, enjoy these years before you think about settling down and families and the like. By going out ... (read in full...)
He threw me over when I told his wife about us. Should I contact him and tell him how I feel?
Q. I had been seeing a man for 7 months - he is married. Whenever we were together it was amazing, just being around each other made me feel good and he described his feelings as being the same. Always told me "i love you"- in fact, he was the one who ...
A. 3 April 2011: You have already told his wife about your affair, and he has chosen to stay with her and his baby.
The real victims here are his wife and his new baby. By phoning her and telling her the truth about her husband you have already ensured he will ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to predict before marriage that a couple's sex life will suck 5-10 years after they get married?
Q. Almost every one of my guy friends who has been married for more than 5 years or so has told me their wife has lost almost all interest in sex. Many go for a month or two without it onb a regular basis. They also tell me about friends of theirs who ...
A. 22 March 2011: Listen to Dorothy Dix rather than Odds, because odds on, Odds didnt do any of the things Dorothy suggests to ensure a long and happy marriage for both partners. ... (read in full...)
Should I let him film us having sex?
Q. Ok,It would be extra helpful if some guys could answer this question,if you had a video of you and a girl having sex,would you show it to anybody-I've been seeing this guy and he's been knagging me to make a video with him for about a month now,he ...
A. 20 March 2011: Google 'ex boyfriend naked pics' and see what happens, you say you aren't sure if you can trust him, that is your intiution speaking, listen to it, dont let him do this, please dont, please at least wait until you are married and you can have a ... (read in full...)
B/f won't talk to me but won't tell me its over either!
Q. I am 22 years old and I have been dating my bf for 8 months..just recently he has pulled away a bit and I am not sure why..I was texting him a bunch of times and he wasn't replying so I started freaking out and eventually he responded and he was ...
A. 20 March 2011: Back off, most men need less communication than women, and some people, men and women, dont really feel the need to respond to every single text they receive. If your boyfriend is at work, he's at work and being paid to work, not answer a bunch of ... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him but I pushed him away. Now I want to marry him!
Q. I had the most caring man ever. He lived and breathed me and always put me before himself. He always tried to give me the universe but I messed him over and now that he's gone I realize he was the best man that ever happened to me. He asked me to ...
A. 20 March 2011: It very depends how long ago this was, and what you mean by "messing him over" It also depends on what he has done since. If he has moved on and found somebody else it would be best if you left it alone. If it was fairly recently then you are goi... (read in full...)
He cheated, doesn't want to get married, I do, should I just leave, we have a child?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 yrs cheated on me while I was pregnant with our 1st child got that woman pregnant. I found out on the night of his baby shower from his male cousin. It really hurts, I keep going back and fort whether to stay or to leave. Family ...
A. 20 March 2011: He says he will never marry. He gets other women pregnant when you already are, he is not interested in having only one partner, AND he doesn't practice safe sex. Listen to what he is saying, with his words and his actions. He is saying he doe... (read in full...)
My daughter is in a relationship with my boyfriend's younger brother and since both guys live in the same house, I find it disturbing that our lives are intersecting!!
Q. I began dating a guy a few months ago and it didn't take long to figure out that he is absolutely the love of my life. My daughter, 20 and reeling from a broken engagement, met my new love's younger brother and has began a relationship with him. I ...
A. 20 March 2011: I can understand how you must be feeling, I like to keep my mother hat and adult behaviour such as relationships, hats separate as well.
There are no practical solutions, this is something you are going to have to sort out in your mind, and tric... (read in full...)
Do I keep waiting for a guy whose parents will never let him marry me?
Q. I love a guy madly over the past 3 years and I really can't live without him but he is not ready for marriage. He says that his parents will not agrree to that. What do I do?? ...
A. 12 March 2011: You have already spent three years of your life waiting for him, how many more years are you prepared to wait, one, two, five, ten, maybe 25, or even forever?
He says his parents wont agree, in other words he is going to use his parents as an ex... (read in full...)
How can I be just friends with her, as she wants, when I'm in love with her?
Q. So I've been talking to this girl since Christmas and felt very strong about her, we became really close, she'd call me almost every day and we'd sometimes talk for hours, she'd often constantly joke about us getting married, which any guy would ...
A. 12 March 2011: Friends dont expect their friends to be in situations where they are not happy, if she really cared for you as a friend she would understand that you need to distance yourself for a while.
She just wants you hanging around like a scalp on a belt, ... (read in full...)
Is he needy and hard to please?
Q. im a 30 year old professional female,i met a guy through work who is older than me and divorced (hes 48) i didnt find him physically attractive but after asking me out a few times i agreed,got on well and formed a relationship and now see each other ...
A. 12 March 2011: He doesnt sound needy to me, he sounds downright aweful. He has no consideration for your feelings on sex, he doesnt respect you when you ask him not to make sexual jokes about you to his friends, its all me me me in the bedroom regardless of it ... (read in full...)
My lover is pregnant and I'm afraid I won't be able to see the baby!
Q. I had an affair. We were both married, and we both agreed that we would get divorces for each other. We also live 1000 miles apart. She got pregnant from me (her husband has a vasectomy and knows its mine). But she decided there were too many ...
A. 12 March 2011: Sit down and be honest with yourself about your options, although to be honest an unemployed cheater who is about to declare bankrupcy doesnt strike me as ideal parental material.
You may have to accept your only option is to build a long dis... (read in full...)
I found photos of my husband at a big fancy party that he attended without telling me! He said he was going to play pool with friends! I'm I crazy to worry about this?
Q. My husband went to a birthday party for his friends' wife without me (I knew some of the party attendees, but have not socialized with them in over ten years, not because of a falling out or anything, just because of busy lives). He went to this ...
A. 10 March 2011: The man is a liar, I dont know why he lied, or if it was the first time, but I would be really unhappy if my partner said he was going to play pool with buddies when he actually intended attending a nice party with people whose company I enjoy.
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I wasn't ready for a relationship after our first date, but now I am ready. Should I give up or still try to win her trust and love?
Q. Hello, I asked a girl out about a year ago. She accepted and we started out well. I didn't take the date seriously because I was actually not ready for a relationship at that time. The reason is that it was my first date and it was distracting me ...
A. 10 March 2011: I think you blew it when you decided you didnt want a relationship after the first date. How is this girl to know that 12 months later you are not going to be a one date wonder again?
You need to start all over from the beginning, because ... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife found out about me, so I went over to their house and confronted him. I told her everything, and now he won't speak with me!
Q. Hiya, I'm Sharon, I'm 41 and broken hearted. I was seeing a married man that I've known since school days. He texted me and called me for years. Then last year it became intimate. He is a lorry driver and I'm a door step collector. Our jobs have ...
A. 10 March 2011: Of course he screamed at you, you have upset his little world where he was pulling the wool over his wifes eyes and having hanky panky with you, and playing mum's boyfriend to your daughters.
Not only did you invade his space by going to the mari... (read in full...)
I want my daughter home but this is tearing me apart!
Q. hi i had a bad problem with alcohol when my kids were 14 and 13. both left home one of there own accord and moved to their dads who they didnt see since they were 3ys old and the other a girl left cuz social services put such a strain on us we ended ...
A. 8 March 2011: Tell her there is no room for a male in your one bedroom flat, that there is always room for her, but at this stage of your life you are unable to accommodate her boyfriend. Many 16 year old girls are very selfish, and she might just be looking ... (read in full...)
My exwife has trained my 9 year old daughter to hate my fiance.
Q. My 9 year old daughter has been trained by my ex wife to hate my fiancé. My daughter refuses to be near her so, when my kids are with me, my fiancé is not. To make matters worse, my daughter's therapist seems to be enabling the hate. This has been ...
A. 8 March 2011: If you honestly believe a therapist is not acting ethically but is in fact acting against your daughter's well being you should find out what associations/organisations/governing or licensing body oversee the therapist, and make a formal ... (read in full...)
She's always on my mind but she's taken!
Q. So here's the deal. There is this girl I know, and I know it may sound whatever but I really think she's the one. The connection is unbelievable and she is so supportive of me and my career. When I'm with it just feels right, she is just the right ...
A. 6 March 2011: You have answered your question: she has a boyfriend and they're pretty steady.
My advise? My advise would be to accept the fact she is in a relationship that even to you, who would like it to be faltering on its last legs, looks pretty steady, ... (read in full...)
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