My boyfriend's dad is creating problems in our relationship and shows no signs of moving out
Q. My boyfriends and I have been together 3 years in July. We got a house together almost 2 years ago and I love him very much BUT his dad moved in with us when he started going through a divorce almost a year ago. At first he refused- said he ...
A. 3 April 2012: Your age is listed as 22 - 25. What is going to happen if you decide you want children, are you prepared to have this man who disrespects you treat you like that in front of your babies, that will be teaching them his behaviour is okay.
I hon... (read in full...)
I need help fixing our relationship!
Q. I am in so much pain, my boyfriend and I spent an entire week together, I was on vacation and chose to spend it with him just to see how we would do under that same roof. Anyways we had a great time on Monday and Tuesday night after he got home from ...
A. 1 April 2012: The only person putting you into a position where you feel tortured is yourself.
He told he has never felt love for you, not at all during the past 12 months. Maybe he has actually been giving you signals about how he feels that you have not pick... (read in full...)
I'm flying to meet my LDR fiance in three days and he has said he doesn't love me anymore!
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old and I've been in a LDR with my german fiance (who's one month older than me) for 1 year and 5 months. We met for 3 times and spent one full week+2 weekends together in total. We were both virgins when we met but that changed. ...
A. 1 April 2012: Mirela, Mirela, Mirela!
This engagement is just so not happening, and wrong on too many levels!
The young man has given you a VERY BIG HINT! He said he doesn't love you anymore.
Cancel your ticket and get whatever refund you can and buy y... (read in full...)
We've been together four years and I've always hoped he would change!
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for about 4 yrs. We've had our share of issues. I always hoped somehow he would change, but I don't believe he will. Sometimes its incredible he's sooo complimentive, charming, he will cook for me treat me great and o...
A. 31 March 2012: He calls you the ‘c’ word
He gambles all his money awy
He doesn’t keep his word
He hits you
He is only nice to you when he wants your money
He forged your cheque
He stole from your bank account
Tonight you refused to buy his cigarettes an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's dad is creating problems in our relationship and shows no signs of moving out
Q. My boyfriends and I have been together 3 years in July. We got a house together almost 2 years ago and I love him very much BUT his dad moved in with us when he started going through a divorce almost a year ago. At first he refused- said he ...
A. 31 March 2012: A year is quite long enough for him to have been living with you, and being supported by your boyfriend and yourself.
As it seems you have tried discussing this with your boyfriend, without any success, try once more, ask him how long he expects ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in a faux relationship! She broke up with me but still expects me to fund her!
Q. Hello people I wonder if you can help me I am in a big big dilemna in my life at the moment, 8 months ago while I was travelling around in north america, I hooked up with my 'girlfriend' who i stayed with for 3 1/2 months to cut a long story ...
A. 30 March 2012: Yes, I can advise, leave. You are under no obligation to support this person in any way, if you need legal advise contact the nearest British consul.... (read in full...)
I just don't know what to think anymore!
Q. Ok I had a child 3 years ago. Things didn't work out with his mother but shortly after we split up I fell madly in love with her cousin. Which is also my sons cousin. We have spent the last two years together and everything has been amazing. But we ...
A. 30 March 2012: I dont see a problem. You should see some of the family connections, interconnections and inter inter connections in the small town I live in, eg my cousin has a son to the man who eventually married her cousin and had a further 3 children with ... (read in full...)
He got nasty when I got ill and couldnt have sex!
Q. Hi,I had terrible problems with my stomach including constant pain for a whole year and spent that time in and out of the medical centre. Then my condition worsened. For a while it looked like I was going to have an operation and I was absolutely ...
A. 27 March 2012: No not everybody would react like him, the vast majority of people are decent, caring human beings. Unlucky for you that you got one of the rotten ones.
He sounds like a real jerk, I would also be worried about what might happen if you ever rea... (read in full...)
How can I make my parents and grandpa see that I need to have my phone?
Q. My parents just took my cell phone. Its spring break! I cant talk to any of my firends. Im going to my grandpas house tomorrow. He says I dont spend enough time with him when im there. None of my friends live near by, he dosnt have internet, and no ...
A. 27 March 2012: why did your parents take your phone?... (read in full...)
He says he isn't going to change for anyone. Should we just break up?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together a year now. he relies on me for a lot of things, money, lifts, etc but as he is depending on me more frequently we are beginning to argue more.he does work full time but is absolutely useless with money,hence me ...
A. 25 March 2012: You need to consider the fact he has told you he is not going to change for anyone. At least now you know where you are starting from, and at least now you know what your choices are.
You can accept him as he is, and continue to support him fina... (read in full...)
What can I say to make him understand?
Q. i went to the beach with my friends and we took pictures of the day. I posted them on facebook like i normally do when i have an event that i want to share with friends. My boyfriend is a jealous person, he's trying to fix it but he believe he could ...
A. 25 March 2012: Your boyfriend is controlling. Has he given any indication that he wants to understand your point of view or did he simply expect you to comply with his wishes
He appears incapable of understanding that girls go to the beach, girls wear bikinis,... (read in full...)
Post abortion guilt is now setting in
Q. I had an abortion last November. I had been going out with this guy for a few months, the relationship had all happened very quickly as the boy I was in love with, who I had been seeing but never was officially with for three years got a girlfriend ...
A. 25 March 2012: You are NOT a bad person, you made a decision based on your life's circumstances at that moment. Unless your mother is a died in the wool Catholic who is blinkered to the facts of life and who would chose the church's teachings over you confide in ... (read in full...)
Is he abusing me?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has been verbally and emotionally abusive. I have been devastated but he says it's not abuse. Again today he shut off the cable, the Internet and the phones. All meanwhile he is calling me a slut, dumb bitch, stupid and my 10 ...
A. 24 March 2012: Yes it is abuse, also child abuse. You need to remove yourself and your child from that situation.... (read in full...)
I wanted to extend an olive branch but was confronted with the truth instead!
Q. What are the chances of a relationship ever working out for the long term if the person is an alcoholic and after breaking off a long term relationship continues to become seriously involved with one woman after another. My ex left me after 7 ...
A. 24 March 2012: This is just horrible for you, and I can empathise with you. I had something similar happen, only it had been the ex who suggested we get back together and when I phoned him a few days later to discuss arrangments etc his girlfriend answered the ... (read in full...)
35 years late he insinuates himself into facebook conversations with emotional references to the past!
Q. my first boyfriend went away to college said we should date and sleep with others while he was away said we should start doing this before he left he did not take me to his prom I found out later that he even slept with my best friend he came back ...
A. 24 March 2012: Next time he mentions how happy you and could have been remind him how lucky and fortunate you are to have had the life you have, without him in it. And then I would block him completely, he sounds weird. ... (read in full...)
I try to be nice but he takes everything the wrong way!
Q. Two friends, one guy? I like this guy that my best friend and I hang out with all the time. I am so confused by the way he treats me. I don't know if he likes me or my friend. He's really nice to her He treats my friend like his buddy. He playf...
A. 24 March 2012: Sorry but it sounds to me that he likes your friend. He invites her out without you, he complains to her about you, he flirts with her, he asks her for favours and he is more natural in his speech with her than with you, and stop texting him if he ... (read in full...)
What do you think about death?
Q. I had many death lately in my family. Very close family members died, from different causes. So it is very difficult time for me, and I have hard time dealing with it. That got me thinking of death a lot generally. And its funny , but I can't find ...
A. 23 March 2012: I about half way through a book "between lives". It claims the life we have on earth is simply a learning time, much like a classroom, and when we die we are greeted by family members and friends and our teachers.
Its an interesting concept.... (read in full...)
My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?
Q. My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...
A. 23 March 2012: Your WIFE, you know, the woman you entered into a legally binding contract with, is no longer a consenting participant in this non legally binding temporary agreement (the threesome). You currently live in a country where only one wife is legally ... (read in full...)
He hurts me so much but he is like a drug I cant live without! Help!
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 2 years constantly avoids me, often humiliates me and when i ask he says he was joking, joking or not joking, his words affect me. I told him not to do that, he never listens. I dont want his words to affect me so much, but it ...
A. 22 March 2012: When it comes down to tin tacks, the only person who can help you is you!
Are you sure this man sees himself as your boyfriend? You tell us he avoids you and never calls you, so you call him and he humiliates you. He doesn't sound like a boyfri... (read in full...)
Major crush on my neighbor, but we are both in relationships! What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a question. I have this neighbor who lives right next door to me who I have a major crush on for a while. I know he likes me too we flirt all the time and he acts all shy and nervous when we talk. This is the thing, he is with ...
A. 22 March 2012: If you are in a relationship with a partner who lies and cheats you need to decide if you want to remain in that relationship. If you decide this relationship is no longer for you, you need to ensure your children are safe and their needs are ... (read in full...)
My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?
Q. My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...
A. 22 March 2012: You say : Does she care about my own happiness? I'm holding out hope that one day we can all reconcile and put this behind us as a happy trouple.
She's your wife. She should take precendence over this other woman, and so should your kids, se... (read in full...)
Caught mid kiss, now she wont talk to me!
Q. I went away recently to visit some family, my nans brother and his step daughter / her husband. We are all very good friends and have met several times before this visit. However this time was different, it started the same as always, meet up as I ...
A. 21 March 2012: I know I will sound like a first class wowser but there is so much wrong with this story, starting with you going out and getting drunk in your mother's presence and its all okay and quite normal ....
Were you meant to stay with your cousin u... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend don't know which day our anniversary would be!
Q. Please help us settle this debate. My boyfriend and I in a disagreement about when our official anniversary should be celebrated. Option 1: September 8th. This is the day we first slept together. We had been dating for two months before this dat...
A. 21 March 2012: I find the idea of celebrating your first bonk's birthday intriguing ....
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Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 20 March 2012: That seems to be an odd thing for your girlfriend to tell you while you were fighting.
What was the fight about? Were you slinging insults at her then, asking her if she was easy? Demanding she tell you all about her sexual encounters before s... (read in full...)
My wife wants the woman I cheated with to tell her about things before she can let it go!
Q. hi there i had an affair 11 years ago and my wife found out 14 months ago .The affair lasted 2 a half years and my wife was devastated i have tried every thing possible to win her back.we have been on holidays i buy her flowers all the time and ...
A. 19 March 2012: My qualification to answer: I was a woman much cheated upon by husband.
The woman you had the affair with does not owe you anything, stop harrassing her with letters to help you with the marriage you shit on, and sorry for the use of that word, but ... (read in full...)
My cousin has been gloomy since I broke up with him
Q. Some time ago I fooled around with my cousin. I can't exactly call it fooling around because at the time we were both pretty serious about it. I know that dating between cousins is probably a big taboo but I honestly didn't care. He's a little ...
A. 18 March 2012: You are the older here, you don't say how much older?
Your father may have threatened him, or he may have also been told any relationship between you would be gross.
Making your feelings clear before you went off to college was unfair and u... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is upset that I lost my virginity to another during our break up
Q. I am in a long distance relationship because he is goes to college in washington and i live in florida. So we live on oppsite sides of the country. He is turning 20 this year and im 18. We were together for over a year when we broke up. He just sto...
A. 18 March 2012: phhht.
He disappeared, he is the one who stopped replying to you, as far as I can see that makes any agreements that were between the two of you, as far as the relationship you had then, nul and void. Especially after almost 2 years!
If he can... (read in full...)
I feel like I am just an unimportant add on to his life.
Q. Okay so I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and I have been very happy up until the last 3 months. I love him and still love seeing him etc. But I have been worrying about his lack of seriousness towards our relationship. ...
A. 18 March 2012: Sounds like a fun relationship.
Sit in his friend's shop and play games on your phone.
Go to his house and watch TV with his dad while he is upstairs.
Then he gets on his computer until its time for him to go to bed and you go home.
Wha... (read in full...)
I just want to kiss this older man at work, Just Once!
Q. There's this man at work who has really touched me..not sexually but mentally. He reminded me to value myself. I'm dating someone but I have moments where I doubt that man...anyway, this man is much older. But, I can tell he's attracted to me but ...
A. 18 March 2012: It sounds like the man may be giving off lots of pheromones, and uses the sexual attraction they cause to create a little unrest and desire in sweet young things.
Back off, no good will come of playing with this particular fire, just tell yourself... (read in full...)
He unfriended me, and I found him on another site and sent him a message
Q. I have fallen in love with a guy I met online. I have only spoken to him online. I really liked him and a few weeks ago I wrote to him on IM and he asked me would I write to him in a few days. He said if we kept writing to each other everyday...
A. 18 March 2012: Let me try and get this straight:
You fell in love with a guy online and wrote to him.
He asked you not to write every day, but everyfew days, he intimated there may be a girlfriend already.
You said you were not happy with his request.
He... (read in full...)
He says he will change but he never does
Q. hey i have a serious question.im currently engaged n my man isnt taking me seriously but he say he is. he doesnt call an let me kno wen something pops up at work where i wont see him that full day. ill call him every hour on th hour and the next day ...
A. 18 March 2012: You can't make him change, but you can change yourself, and how you react to things.
Stop texting him every hour, stop asking him to come home, change the locks on the doors so that he has to ASK you if he can come in, dont be a door mat, stop bein... (read in full...)
What did I do wrong to make a problem in our relationship?
Q. Dear Cupids Here is some background: Bf and I were together 2 1/2 years, he went away to boot camp for two months, he was supposed to be away for four but got medically discharged. While there he met a girl and they started sexting each oth...
A. 18 March 2012: He was in the process of moving in?
I think there is a lot more to this story than we are being told.
I also dont understand why you are taking the blame for his behaviour, he even tried to cheat on you with your friend, who gave him a good a... (read in full...)
I'm constantly in a nervous state when its time for a family dinner.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year an a half. Obviously you get past that phase where you're so wrapped up in love you think eveything is wonderful and now I'm seeing some problems. We have big family dinners every 2nd month in my fa...
A. 17 March 2012: In my opinion he is showing a lack of respect for you and your family traditions. If he finds it so difficult to attend a dinner where alcohol or cigarette smoking is not welcome, simply leave him home. When the time comes for you to host the next ... (read in full...)
Throwing in the towel is never been an option if you love someone, or is it???
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year. I moved 700 plus miles to be with this woman. We both come from long marriages with bad ex'es. We both have custody of our boys. Needless to say blending a family is hard. Please tell me if I'm being an ...
A. 14 March 2012: why wait for the lease to run out, if you have access to the amount required, pay it out and leave. I don't understand why you are prolonging the agony. A blind man and his dog could see this situation is not going to improve.
I am starting... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be upset about the fact that my girlfriend still keeps photos of her boyfriend who died 12 years ago?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for three years. She kept photos up of her and her deceased boyfriend (posed together) who died 12 years ago. We had none of us. After we had been togehter 2 years, I mentioned that I felt that she was living in ...
A. 13 March 2012: Maybe we need some clarification from the OP. If he and his girlfriend moved into the house at the same time, then yes, her putting up pictures of a long dead boyfriend could be viewed as disrespectful or inconsiderate. However, the way I read the ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be upset about the fact that my girlfriend still keeps photos of her boyfriend who died 12 years ago?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for three years. She kept photos up of her and her deceased boyfriend (posed together) who died 12 years ago. We had none of us. After we had been togehter 2 years, I mentioned that I felt that she was living in ...
A. 12 March 2012: My father in law, a widower, married a widow, they were both in their fifties, and had very successful marriage of just over 30 years, and for all those 30 years a photograph of her first husband shared their bedroom.
So, your girlfriend loved so... (read in full...)
Back together with my boyfriend again but found out he lied about being on his own, he was actually in a relationship with his ex!
Q. my boyfriend split up with me in November and said this was because he didn't want a relationship after this we didn't speak until January when he said he wanted another go at things and he said he knew 100% that this is what he wanted and he'd been ...
A. 12 March 2012: I wonder what else he lied about. Do you think you can trust him not to do the same thing again?
... (read in full...)
We are really happy but his attitude towards money is driving me mad!
Q. Hi, i have a problem. I am living with my boyfriend and i love him so much. we are really happy in all areas, the one and only area that i am not happy is with his attitude towards money. EVERY month without fail, he runs out of money, he cant, or ...
A. 12 March 2012: Sit him down & outline the new system, 50/50 down the line for all house hold expenses, even replacing linen or toilet paper. And money for fooe put into a "kitty" every pay day to cov er food for the next pay period. If he refuses to listen give ... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me and making my life hell. what do I do about it?
Q. Dear cupid aunts, im in a bit of trouble. This is a long story so please bare with me.. I broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months...lets call him mike....2 months ago. We were constantly arguing, he was possesive and didnt like me talking to other gu...
A. 11 March 2012: My advise would be to rewrite your question, put as close as possible dates and times and then take it to your nearest police station.
Also make sure you let your family and closest friends know what is going on.... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
Q. Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...
A. 11 March 2012: You must be looking in the wrong places, I can name at least 15 young, unattached, intelligent, attractive women who I come into contact with at least once a month.
Your original post sounded very arrogant ... ie no girls good enough for you to d... (read in full...)
Why does my friend let her bf harass me?
Q. I have no idea why but ever since I have enrolled in my new school my so-called friend's boyfriend has been extremely rude to me and she lets it happen. He's always trying to get my attention, he takes my books from me, draws ugly pictures of m...
A. 10 March 2012: Your friend may be blinded to this prat's bad behaviour through lurv. Give her the benefit of the doubt, just once, and tell her you find his behaviour hurtful and rude.
If she appears to not care well then, avoid them both as much as you can,... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
Q. Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...
A. 10 March 2012: Troll o loll o troll lol loll
either that or you are kidding right?
... (read in full...)
Throwing in the towel is never been an option if you love someone, or is it???
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year. I moved 700 plus miles to be with this woman. We both come from long marriages with bad ex'es. We both have custody of our boys. Needless to say blending a family is hard. Please tell me if I'm being an ...
A. 10 March 2012: why are you still even there? ... (read in full...)
Throwing in the towel is never been an option if you love someone, or is it???
Q. I've been in a relationship for over a year. I moved 700 plus miles to be with this woman. We both come from long marriages with bad ex'es. We both have custody of our boys. Needless to say blending a family is hard. Please tell me if I'm being an ...
A. 4 March 2012: I have also read another question here on Dear Cupid very much like this one. It appears to have been deleted.
You say you are not one to "throw in the towel" but your story would indicate that you have indeed done just that, by leaving your son... (read in full...)
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