What advise can I give my friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, my girlfriend has been in an relationship with a married man for ten yrs. now she's also married. 2wks ago they were out of town together in a hotel. The guy paid for the room with his credit card and his wife tracked the hotel and ...
A. 29 February 2012: Why do you care? She doesn't!... (read in full...)
Was it right to tell the father of my child, someone on drugs who has been harassing me, that the child isn't actually his?
Q. hi. ok so i really do understand about all the parental rights and everything (i think!) but could really really use a bit of advice!! please be honest.. please dont judge but please dont just be nice to me... im 19 years old and im 20 weeks pr...
A. 26 January 2012: My qualifications to answer this question are:
I am a grandmother
I have been a single mother
I was worked for 10 years for a crisis line.
And some other stuff not up for public discussion.
I don't think you have done the wrong thing in doing... (read in full...)
I am on my way out the door and about to separate from my wife!
Q. This will be a long post and I would like honest comments to each point. I am on my way out the door and about to separate. I want to break down the problems so I can improve myself. I'll start with some things that have bothered my wife: -...
A. 24 January 2012: If her residency depends on your marriage walk out now, and then let her call you stupid!
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He will Will but I wont!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has told me that he has already changed his will although we are not married yet to make me a beneficiary (along with ather beneficiaries). I have a will as well (predating our relationship) but have not made him a benefici...
A. 24 January 2012: If you decide to get married please check the legalities because as it stands now, in England and Wales, marriage will automatically revoke a will as it is presumed that upon marriage, a testator will want to review the will. A statement in a will ... (read in full...)
I want to end the friendship with this obsessive, controlling girl.
Q. I have a friend (im 15 btw) (N) that I no longer wish to be friends with. Heres why: me, N, and my best friend (B) used to be good friends, but B and N fought a lot. It was mostly about stupid things, but many of them had to do with N feeling like B ...
A. 24 January 2012: All those Ns and Bs made your story a little difficult to read, however to be honest I think you are being a bit of a bitch.
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He will Will but I wont!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has told me that he has already changed his will although we are not married yet to make me a beneficiary (along with ather beneficiaries). I have a will as well (predating our relationship) but have not made him a benefici...
A. 24 January 2012: If you think he should know your feelings on this you need to sit him down and tell him straight. Let him know that you drew up a will before you met him and that you have no plans to draw up a new one.
He might push for information on who your... (read in full...)
I am on my way out the door and about to separate from my wife!
Q. This will be a long post and I would like honest comments to each point. I am on my way out the door and about to separate. I want to break down the problems so I can improve myself. I'll start with some things that have bothered my wife: -...
A. 24 January 2012: Your situation sounds horrible, however before you give the marriage up as a bad joke give it one more go. See if you can find some inexpensive counccelling, Relationships Australia or your local Salvation Army may be able to suggest services you ... (read in full...)
Friend and family dumped by dad, now he wants back in but she wont listen!
Q. I need elderly advice please. My friends father practically kicked her mother brothers and her out when she was 2. Reason? He had a new cindrella. My friend like me is 20 and never wants to marry. She says men are things she does when less busy! Her ...
A. 24 January 2012: I don't understand why you feel your friend should feel attachment to a man who abandoned her at age two.
Why do you feel she should feel attachment to him? So he has come back poor, oops, too bad so sad but he isn't her problem and he shouldn'... (read in full...)
My neighbour fancies my sister and its annoying! What do I do?
Q. Well im living in an estate next to a English guy he is in his 4o's and has been living alone since for as long as i remember when he usually gets a girl she takes advantage of him . He is like a brother to me and my husband and does have a big big ...
A. 24 January 2012: What's the problem here, you say he is a nice guy, why is this annoying you, who knows they may be perfect for each other.
Tell your sister he asked for your number and ask if she has a problem with you sharing it, if she doesn't pass it on and ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my bf's "step aunt?"
Q. My boyfriend has a step dad, who has a step sister which makes her his 'step aunt' in a way. She's a year younger than him and ever since I first met her things seemed fishy. They used to stare at each other across the room at family parties. She's ...
A. 23 January 2012: If his father is his step father, and she is the step father's step sister, unless there is another biological connection between your boyfriend and this girl, there is no way she is his aunty.
Maybe she likes him more than he likes her, he might... (read in full...)
Am I right in wanting more time?
Q. I have been seeing my gf for 10 months now and it has now become apparent that she wants me to decide pretty shortly if I want it to be a lifelong commitment ie marriage and kids. Or not = end of relationship. We have lived together for around 6 ...
A. 23 January 2012: 10 months isn't very long, and you moved in to her place after knowing her for only 4 months .... Ithink you need more time, but if she is a yeller, I don't know how she is going to react to that .... she may see it as a deal breaker, which might ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset and jealous over his remarks??
Q. I was watching TV with my boyfriend and Faith Hill came on for a moment. This is what he said.... "Mmmm Faith Hill is a scrumptious treat. I want to eat her up. She is sooooooo fucking hot!!!" I got upset and we had a huge argument about it...
A. 23 January 2012: I agree with peson12345, get in first and break up with him, his comments are rude, nasty and hurtful.
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LDR advice please?. Because I need it. He's stressed out over his exams. He's not giving me the attention I need. He thinks it's not big deal..
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together going on two years, we're pretty serious about each other and are planning on moving in together after I finish my Foundation degree next year. We're both 18 and we've been in a long distance relationship for ...
A. 23 January 2012: You say "But this last week has been utter HELL, I get that he has exams and I have essays too but we still need to focus and concentrate on each other."
I say NO. He needs to focus and concentrate on exams and essays, this is his future, ... (read in full...)
My wife says I should be satisfied with sex once a week or less. I'm not happy. what can I do about this?
Q. My wife only wants sex once a week or less this has made me so mad angry and upset most of the time I cant handle this lifestyle she has a low sex drive. I'm very sexed up every day I masturbate and need sex... Wife says she will never change onc...
A. 22 January 2012: So you have been telling your friends about your dreadful wife, and they think it's ridiculour your wife only has sex at her convenience.
Guess What! Give me 10 minutes and I will find MORE people who will say they think it is ridiculous for them... (read in full...)
He broke my heart and then turns up at work when he is not working? What's that? Is he trying to mess with my head?
Q. me and my ex were together for two years, he broke up with me. i blocked him on facebook broke off all contact for my benefit. 3 months later now. we work together so i occasionaly have had to bump into him not biggy i have kept my cool and beha...
A. 22 January 2012: Talk to your boss, ask him if it is policy for people not rostered on to work having access to all areas. Let your boss know you were uncomfortable having your ex following you to the back and to the cellar when he was on premises as a customer, ... (read in full...)
Why do people think it's wrong of me to not date within my own race?
Q. I've had people telling me that I cant "like" other people from different cultural/racial background. I don't understand why because as far as I'm concerned getting to know the individual is far more important. E.g The guy I like is mixed race (ha...
A. 21 January 2012: To fullow up my previous answer, when I was your age it was considered okay for white men to date black or asian girls but taboo for white women (girls) to date black men, who were considered to be less intelligent and less capable of supporting a ... (read in full...)
Why do people think it's wrong of me to not date within my own race?
Q. I've had people telling me that I cant "like" other people from different cultural/racial background. I don't understand why because as far as I'm concerned getting to know the individual is far more important. E.g The guy I like is mixed race (ha...
A. 21 January 2012: I agree with the other answers, as for your ignorant peers, tell them to enjoy the 1950s - you, in the meantime, have moved on to the 21st century and their attitudes are holding them back.
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Do I have a right to get mad and/or jealous?
Q. Long story short, my boyfriend, who lives about an hour away, went to his schools winter formal. This morning, I see all these facebook posts about that night. It seemed like a lot of fun. Apparently he ground on some girl (he even said so in...
A. 21 January 2012: I agree with the other Aunts, go out, have fun, celebrate, even put your arm around people, the comments about the other girl are could be seen as a little hurtful.....
but grinding? No way! ... (read in full...)
Why are more guys choosing to father children in their 60s?
Q. This seems to be a growing trend especially with celebrities. E.g Alexander Skarsgard's dad having a second child, with his second wife. He is in his 60s. Even though he has adult children already. Why do people do this? Don't they want to enjoy ...
A. 21 January 2012: To be honest I dont know who Alexander Skarsgard is, but I only know of one 'non celebrity' man who has young children and he would have been in his 60s when they were born. In that case it was because his first wife died, he married a much younger ... (read in full...)
Is he worth waiting around for? Commitment phobic boyfriend of 4.5 years!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 years now. We have lived together for 3 1/2 years. Whenever I bring up marriage or our future he doesn't say anything. He says he will propose some day, but that's not good enough for me. He says, ...
A. 21 January 2012: Sounds to me he doesn't care about marrying you.
Make an appointment with him for 1 hour of his undivided attention. Sit him down at the appointed time and tell him your biological clock it ticking, you want children and you want to have tho... (read in full...)
I talk regularly to an ex, but he never told me he got married. Now he wants FWB with me. What do I do?
Q. I need some advice, I dated my boyfriend for 4 years, I am still in love with him but,we broke up in 2009 and every now and then I email him just to say "HI'. My friend told me he recently (2010) got married, I was shocked. I asked him if he was ...
A. 21 January 2012: He wants the sex only, if he wanted more from you he would not have married someone else, now he is planning to cheat on her and string you along for a bit longer.
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Why would you stay with someone who ruined your life?
Q. Why does he say these horrible things to me? My partner and i of 7 yrs have called time on our relationship. After another incident of abuse both phyisical and verbal in front of my kids i told him id had enough. although i only have the odd bruise ...
A. 19 January 2012: In a relationship there is no such things as "only the odd bruise" ... can you not get him out of your house sooner,my gut tells me he is only keeping his fists to himself while he is sleeping on the sofa because he thinks he can wear you down.
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The ex and her text
Q. I feel like I go crazy every single time I see my boyfriends ex commenting on his facebook status I just wish she was not there or even in his friends. Every time I ask him to delete her, he says he is afraid it will cause drama. My thought is she ...
A. 19 January 2012: You are her ex's new girlfriend and you need to stop sweating the small stuff. In the scheme of things this is a minor irritation, like a bug that wont be swatted. Its not worth your stressing over.
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Every time I visit my boyfriend and then go home, he says I don't love him, I abandoned him!
Q. Every time I visit my boyfriend, and then go home, he says I don't love him, I abandoned him, and starts acting like a jerk, being critical, not calling, or answering the phone for weeks on end, etc. So much drama. And somehow we get back to talking ...
A. 19 January 2012: Turn the tables "If YOU loved ME you would not say these things"
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This is long but very important. I need your help!
Q. In order to get my point across I have to tell the whole story, sorry if this is long:/ So I come from a history of girls ruining me. Well, just one actually.. She was my first and i had strong feeling for her. In short, everything she t...
A. 19 January 2012: Minimum age for firefighters in the US is 18. You have your age listed at between 16 and 17.
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Not sure what to make of this
Q. I may be over analyzing this but i just want a woman's perspective. Its pretty simple i asked a girl out that i met awhile ago through some friends. She said she would love to go but she is busy this week (friday i asked her to go out). She said ...
A. 19 January 2012: If she didnt want to go out with you she would not have suggested lunch as an alternative.
Go for lunch, talk to her about your plans, and see what happens.... (read in full...)
I'm married and now my lover has got married I have lost my trust in her....what should I do?
Q. I am married and I have been in mutual relationship with a co worker for few years now. She recently got married and it was mutual decision that we shall continue working post her marriage and we both wont change our feelings for each other and ...
A. 18 January 2012: Maybe she had decided to homour he marriage vows ... maybe you should try and do that too!... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: Selfish! No concern or respect for your wishes, or your health, and a liar to boot.
I also say no second chances for him!... (read in full...)
My son's wedding will be a disaster!
Q. My son is 37 and marrying a 28 year old woman. My son is getting married this summer and im not happy with the way his fiancees family and friends re-acted at the engagement party 2 weeks ago because im afraid they will ruin the day of the weddi...
A. 15 January 2012: Sorry to say but I laughed at first on reading your question, it sounds like some of the disasters I have attended over the years.
But seriously, it would be very easy to say "who cares what the neighbours think" but I actually do care what min... (read in full...)
He tells me to get out, but when I start to pack, he starts to cry
Q. Hi I have been married for 23yrs thought everything was ok, 4yrs ago i found out that my h/b had been cheating not just once but all though our marriage on and off.To cut a long story short we stayed together to work out what went wrong he said he ...
A. 15 January 2012: In the refuge there will be people who will be able to help you get your life back together. You will have access to councelling and a social worker. They may even be able to organise some legal representation for you.
I think you need to go ba... (read in full...)
What advise can I give my friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, my girlfriend has been in an relationship with a married man for ten yrs. now she's also married. 2wks ago they were out of town together in a hotel. The guy paid for the room with his credit card and his wife tracked the hotel and ...
A. 15 January 2012: Even after his wife tracked them down and asked for the girlfriend by name their marriage is intact.
This reminds me of a real life friend who was in a similar situation. Her boyfriend's wife and she often traded insults ... it made HIM feel ver... (read in full...)
We argue, don't talk, no sex, no date nights, no vacations. I'm fed up, what do I do?
Q. I'm 31 and my boyfreind is 46, we argue, don't talk for a wek at a time, no sex, he don't take me out movie, dinner, shopping nothing, no vactions together, I'm getting really fed up this being going on for years what should I do?...
A. 14 January 2012: If this has been going on for years what's in it for you? He doesn't sound much like a boyfriend to me, no talking, no dates, no time shared, no sex.
Why are you allowing somebody who is so negative in your life? It sounds like he takes more fro... (read in full...)
FWB accuses me of cheating, how can we be a proper couple?
Q. Hi all I have a problem and I don't know what to do I am in a fwb with a man for the past 11 months we started sleeping together and naturally after a few months my feelings grew stronger for him I don't love him but I really like him I talked to ...
A. 14 January 2012: FWB is se without emotional ties. He is dangling the concept of a real relationship sometime in the future to keep you giving him sex.
FWB also doesnt mean being seually exclusive, him accusing you of cheating is just another way he has of ensur... (read in full...)
He left me with our daughter because he was too busy with classes. Should I wait for him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of one year broke up Tuesday. why? he works 40 or more hours a week only gets two days off, and goes to school. he is a senior, we have a 5 month old daughter together. we broke up because he said he couldn't handle having a...
A. 14 January 2012: Here goes from my perspective: I understand in the States there is no government support for students, and they need to be eithe supported by their parents, or support themselves.
Working 40 hours and then studying to graduate would be very tim... (read in full...)
Should I end it or try to win her back by fixing my insecurities and jealousy issues?
Q. I have been dating this girl for about 7 weeks, she just recently broke up with me because I kept complaining to her about her time being spent more with her friends (mostly guys) than me. It seems to me that the only time she wants to spend with me ...
A. 13 January 2012: I guess you should.... (read in full...)
How do I find out if they're going to the dance? And what about this language issue?
Q. Hey all! This is a two-part question. So, in my theatre class there are three exchange students from the Czech Republic. Two of them are pretty attractive, but I've only talked to one of them a few times (but he seems nice and all). They don't take ...
A. 13 January 2012: You approach them together and say something along the lines of "are you planning on going to the dance, you can hang out with me if you don't have anybody else to hang out with".
There are three possible answers,
1 we dont plan on going, and y... (read in full...)
Should I end it or try to win her back by fixing my insecurities and jealousy issues?
Q. I have been dating this girl for about 7 weeks, she just recently broke up with me because I kept complaining to her about her time being spent more with her friends (mostly guys) than me. It seems to me that the only time she wants to spend with me ...
A. 12 January 2012: Seven weeks is too soon to fall in love, it is even hard to get to know a person in seven weeks!
I think you need to listen to your gut feelings here, if she is saying you are not her boyfriend you also need to listen to her.
I think you are in... (read in full...)
Awkward breakup but I still want to be with him. Help?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me today. I hadn't expected this at all, but lately I'd been noticing that he'd been a bit distant. So I decided to ask him today if he actually liked me at all. He put his head down so I couldn't see his face and said, "I ...
A. 12 January 2012: I don't think your ex boyfriend is a jerk, he may not have been sure how to react to your tears, be thankful he had the courage to break it off with you, imagine how horrid it would be if he just treated you worse and worse in an effort to get you ... (read in full...)
Should I try call him to work things out, or let him go?
Q. My boyfriend,called me when I was talking with my dad on phone and I did not pick. Now after my call, he called me back,and just said this,'you are trying' and cut the call. I try calling but he was not picking up, then I sent him a text,telling him ...
A. 11 January 2012: You are aged between 13 & 15? I think you should break this one off, who needs some pip squeak giving you grief because he is jealous you talk to your dad on the phone.
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I cheated and he just won't stop bringing it up!! Advice pls?
Q. Hi. So, I'm 18 now from the last time I posted, which I was 17... I now have a new relationship, been with this guy for 6 months. anyway it's been the hardest relationship I have been in. First of all I will state that after my ex, I ...
A. 11 January 2012: He has already shown he will not, or cannot, drop this, so now you need to decide, another 66 years of having your past actions, and past actions of your family members, thrown in your face or not.
Personally I think you should just save yourself... (read in full...)
A moral friendship question?
Q. Ok. I'm cool with a guy who was really close with this girl who just recently passed away of cancer. I didn't personally know her. The girl who died was married. Ok. I'm really interested in getting to know her husband. He is also cool with my guy ...
A. 11 January 2012: Words to answer this question failed me, until I read the vulture comment .... I think that knocks the nail on the head.
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We had something but he has a girlfriend. How can we remain friends but set clear boundaries?
Q. I'm very confused. There's a guy I met who's in an long distance, long term relationship with his girlfriend. We live far away, but will live near one another in a few months time. After we first met, he pursued me heavily, despite his girl...
A. 11 January 2012: He is cheating, do cheaters set boundaries? Go with your gut, if you honestly don't want to be part of this guy cheating on his girlfriend cut all contact with him, block his email address and don't accept his phone calls. ... (read in full...)
I cheated and he just won't stop bringing it up!! Advice pls?
Q. Hi. So, I'm 18 now from the last time I posted, which I was 17... I now have a new relationship, been with this guy for 6 months. anyway it's been the hardest relationship I have been in. First of all I will state that after my ex, I ...
A. 11 January 2012: Tell him you current life expectancy for females in Australia is 84 and you have no intention of spending the next 66 years being reminded of something you regret doing and have no intention of doing again.
Also point out it is unfair of him to b... (read in full...)
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