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anonymous
writes:hi i have been sleepin with my boss for around six months now but we made an agreement to keep it just sex cuz it wud never work. hes about 20 years older than me, very busy wudnt have time for me properly. i started to get attatchd so i get pissd off wen i cant see him wen i want n stuff so he told me to get a boyfriend someone tht can give me all the little things i want like cuddles in bed all things he wud never have time to give me. anyway so i startd txtin this guy iv known for a while, a month later iv been on a few dates with him hes lovely couldnt actaully fault him plus he really likes me. i like him,iv told my boss hes fine with it.. but i cant go any further than a kiss with him because im all ways thinking of my boss. id really like to just forget my boss and just be with this lad. but i cant forget him hes constantly on my mind. what am susposed to do?im starting to feel guilty about still seeing my boss when this other guy likes me help .!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 Your boss clearly don't care about you, he just wants sex. Pretty simple.
Time for you to figure out what and who YOU want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): Its pretty hard to forget your boss, I assume you see him everyday at work?
You can distance yourself from him though, stop the sex, start looking for another job..if you can't get him out of your head.
You need a healthy 2 way relationship with either your boyfriend or somebody else your own age. Your boss is not emotionally attached, your just a booty call,sex, to him.He has told you that himself.
Once you have stopped giving your body to the boss and started to focus on the boyfriend instead you will soon realise what you have been missing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): I don't understand. You have a guy that cares and respects you enough to take you out and another just using you for sex since he told you to find someone else. It seems simple. You like the guy that's unavailable. You just have to ask if the heartbreak later will be worth time lost looking or being with a good guy your own age that you might have a nice future with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni have been honest with my boss iv told him how i feel and he said we need to try not get our feelings involved because we'l get hurt in the end hes told me it would be so easy for him to fall for me. thank you for your advice i no what i should do but how do i get over my boss then i dont. want to fall out with him !
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 Your boss doesn't care. He cares so little he told you to go and get a boyfriend, you boss has been honest with you, he is only in it for the sex, how come you can't be as honest with you as he is?
Do you really want to pass up on having a nice guy in your life because of the boss? Is that really what you want?
It's your life, and it will, to a large extent, be shaped by you. If you want to pine away for a guy who doesn't give two hoots well then that's a choice, your choice and you will need to live with the ramifications of that choice.
However, if you want a chance to find somebody who will give you the cuddles, and maybe even if this boy isn't the one, find one who you do want to settle down with, that's also your choice.
To recap
two choices
Choice one, pine over a guy who will use you for sex, but othewise isn't interested
Choice two, have a life dating younger men with a view to finding the one who will give you what you need from life.
I know which one I would be chosing!
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