She's always on my mind but she's taken!
Q. So here's the deal. There is this girl I know, and I know it may sound whatever but I really think she's the one. The connection is unbelievable and she is so supportive of me and my career. When I'm with it just feels right, she is just the right ...
A. 6 March 2011: You have answered your question: she has a boyfriend and they're pretty steady.
My advise? My advise would be to accept the fact she is in a relationship that even to you, who would like it to be faltering on its last legs, looks pretty steady, ... (read in full...)
I can't convince her to leave her husband.
Q. I am having trouble coping with the guilt I feel about the relationship my girlfriend and I have. She is married and has been married for 8 years, her and I have been seeing each other for 3 years and I can seriously say I love that women. When...
A. 1 March 2011: If she loved you, and had your child, she would be shouting it to the world. If she really loved you nothing would hold her back .... when one loves one will sacrifice for the object of that love
I think your family are correct about this wom... (read in full...)
Can you believe an ex-cheater when he says he has changed?
Q. My girlfriend left me because i did not come home, and she thought i was cheating on her. I have cheated on her in the past and she found out but we worked through it. Is there the chance i can prove to her that i have changed , or have i caused too ...
A. 22 February 2011: I beleived a cheater, who promised never again, I got the whole blah blah blah so sorry you are so important to me blah blah blah thing .... he cheated again, I packed up my three kids, two cats and one dog and left. He then cheated me out of my ... (read in full...)
Can you believe an ex-cheater when he says he has changed?
Q. My girlfriend left me because i did not come home, and she thought i was cheating on her. I have cheated on her in the past and she found out but we worked through it. Is there the chance i can prove to her that i have changed , or have i caused too ...
A. 22 February 2011: I beleived a cheater, who promised never again, I got the whole blah blah blah so sorry you are so important to me blah blah blah thing .... he cheated again, I packed up my three kids, two cats and one dog and left. He then cheated me out of my ... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain her behaviour?
Q. Ok so I got rejected by a friend of couple years after I had developed strong feelings for her. I have accepted that we can just be friends or less but nothing more. And because I feel uncomfortable around her I started to ignore her, avoid her a...
A. 16 February 2011: She is doing that because she wants to be friends but you are being ignorant. Keep it up and she will start treating you in the same way .... and then you will be back here wah wah wah she wont look me in the eyes, she wont ask me how my family are ... (read in full...)
How to comfort my best friend ?
Q. My friend just started crying because she's thinks we're gonna leave her, we're not, she's too upset to talk about it. How should we comfort her? She cries all the time. Me and her cousin and his friend and her boyfriend are staying at her house and ...
A. 13 February 2011: so why is she crying, why is she scared, what has frightened her, have you considered it might be an idea to take her to a doctor to work out what the problem is, you havent given very much information but if she is frightened and you know and ... (read in full...)
How do I hold a conversation with him?
Q. So I been talking to this guy for about two weeks and he is wonderful. I am 18 and he is 30. we met up and hung out then the second time we met up we had sex. but when we were done we didn't talk much. It was kind of awkward. He later texted me and ...
A. 13 February 2011: It sounds like you are going to be a little tongue tied anyway, so try and loosen up, even if you go for a walk together, you can at least find something to discuss in the scenery .... or lack of it.
Good luck!
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I feel mentally exhausted after falling for her. What can I do?
Q. After falling for two girls, I felt mentally exhausted. I spent 17 months on the first girl and she was my first love, so I didn't really know what love is. Obviously, she chose another guy instead of me which was heartbroken. Later, I spent ...
A. 13 February 2011: You need to move on, find something else to fill your time until you wake up one day and realise you have been thinking less and less of her and more and more about other things.... (read in full...)
How to comfort my best friend ?
Q. My friend just started crying because she's thinks we're gonna leave her, we're not, she's too upset to talk about it. How should we comfort her? She cries all the time. Me and her cousin and his friend and her boyfriend are staying at her house and ...
A. 13 February 2011: Why is she frightened, where are her family, why is she going to be on her own, where do you normally live, is this disrupting your lives and stopping you from doing things you need to be doing?
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My best mate loves my girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. hi i have a dilemma. it is that my best mate, he loves my girlfriend and and he is pressureing her. I've tried talking to him but it just doesn't work. What do i do....
A. 13 February 2011: Pressuring her to do what? And is the girlfriend / boyfriend relationship you are in recognised? If it is then guess what, he isn't your best mate.... (read in full...)
How do I hold a conversation with him?
Q. So I been talking to this guy for about two weeks and he is wonderful. I am 18 and he is 30. we met up and hung out then the second time we met up we had sex. but when we were done we didn't talk much. It was kind of awkward. He later texted me and ...
A. 13 February 2011: Well, it seems that he feels you both should know more about each other, so you could start with what you do doing the day, perhaps chose a movie together, or find out if he likes to read books, or what he likes to do on weekends. If there is ... (read in full...)
Why is he insisting on seeing me? He lied about having a girlfriend, which is why I stopped seeing him!
Q. What should I do with my ex? I dated this guy who is 9 years older than me. He kept playing mind games with me throughout the time of us being together. He lied to me about his girlfriend saying they weren't really together when they were. Long ...
A. 10 February 2011: he is on a power trip, its all a game to him, I don't understand why you want to be friends with him anyway, he has already proved himself a liar, do you really need him in your cicle of friends.
Its time to tell him the friendship has run its ... (read in full...)
He gets SOOO angry! Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend grabbed my head and slammed it against the door. He said that I wouldn't shut up (we were having an argument) and that because I followed him through the house (I was trying to get him to talk / listen) then I tip him over the edge and ...
A. 10 February 2011: NO, this violence is not normal. Violence is never normal, nor is it acceptable. It is not your fault, abusers who use violence against others often have the ability to shift the blame, that is why women who find themselves in violent marriages ... (read in full...)
Former boyfriend wants to be FWB but I want our relationship back
Q. So. I broke up with my boyfriend nearly a month ago now. Our breakup didn't end with the passion leaving our relationship, he just doesn't want to be tied down to a single person anymore. We're still good friends and we talk every day. We also hav...
A. 10 February 2011: If he is wanting to be FWB, and you are giving it to him, why would he want anything more, he has already said he doesnt want to be tied to a single person any more.
The only way to find out if he feels, like you do, that you would be better o... (read in full...)
Do I write an apology letter to his other girl?
Q. I have previously asked for advice on this situation, but now it has become even more complicated. I am 8 weeks pregnant with my ex boyfriends child. Me and him had been together for two years and it was a roller coaster, off and on again ...
A. 5 February 2011: You didnt know she was his girlfriend when you and he had sex, why write her a letter. If you want to write to somebody to say sorry, write it to yourself .... ... (read in full...)
Husband got another woman pregnant and says its a mistake!
Q. my husband of two years (bf for 4 years) he got another woman pregnant he told me it was a mistake and he still loves me what should i do?...
A. 5 February 2011: Interesting mistake .... but what bit was the mistake exactly, him looking outside the marriage for sex, or him having sex outside the marriage, or him impregnating another woman or you finding out about it. A mistake? Seems like more than one ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting so irrationally? I'm the one that should be annoyed!
Q. Why does my boyfriend do this? My boyfriend flew into my state monday but his flight was delayed so instead of getting in at 5pm he got in at 3am. I had class until 9pm, and then he called me asking if I was going to meet him at his apartment at 3am ...
A. 4 February 2011: If his flights had been cancelled or even delayed getting in as he has claimed should be easy enough to check with either the airlines or the airport.
If you think it would ease your mind ask them. Either way he is still acting like a tantrum ... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife calls me when he is away from her!
Q. I have two kids from different fathers, i was married to the first child dad and we divorced in 2004, i divorced him because i didnt love him anymore for no reason. i met my long high school lover and we got back together and we got engaged in 2006, ...
A. 3 February 2011: Helloooooooo
If you want his wife to stop calling you, break it off with him and start supporting your own kids.
As for his threats of suicide, I feel like shrugging and saying "so what" but that isnt very helpful so I will say this next time hi... (read in full...)
Why is he acting so irrationally? I'm the one that should be annoyed!
Q. Why does my boyfriend do this? My boyfriend flew into my state monday but his flight was delayed so instead of getting in at 5pm he got in at 3am. I had class until 9pm, and then he called me asking if I was going to meet him at his apartment at 3am ...
A. 3 February 2011: You state your age as between 26 and 29 so I am going to assume your boyfriend is in the same age range and not some wet behind the ears kid, which is just what he sounds like!
It is not considerate of him to expect you to rearrange your life at ... (read in full...)
He wants a blowjob but I don't like doing it, what can I do?
Q. i have been in a sort of relationship with a boy, we are both same age(17). at the start we were just good friends he would come up for a drink, then things started to change we would kiss at weekends and then i saw him during the week and we would ...
A. 1 February 2011: Tell him no! Plain and simple. He needs to respect your answer. ... (read in full...)
Should I confront this crazy coworker and tell her to stop stalking my husband?
Q. I discovered that one of my husbands much younger employees was sending him "I love you type" text messages. When I confronted him, he told me I misunderstood the context. He says the girl admitted to him that she was contemplating suicide and he ...
A. 31 January 2011: My answer would depend on how younger is much younger. If she is early 20s and younger your husband needs to let somebody in authority at work know, just in case she is contemplating suicide.
If she is older, more mature, late 20s or 30s I would ... (read in full...)
I messed around with two women...now I want the second one who loved me but I ended up hurting...
Q. Before anyone starts throwing rocks at me pls hold off and hear me out. I fell in love with 2 different women (woman A and woman B). I fell in love with woman A first and boy did I fall hard. The complication was she wanted an open relations...
A. 29 January 2011: Oh boy, to stuff up so badly at your age! How many times are you expecting woman B to just cop it on the chin that you preferred a woman of loose morals over her?
Most mature aged women are smart enough to know time is limited, you had your cha... (read in full...)
How important is the ring?
Q. She said "If I got an engagement ring I didn't like,or was to small I would return it and buy something I really liked." Part of me laughs at this the other part is scared out of my mind. Who would say something like that, I thought engagment was ...
A. 29 January 2011: That's not a very smart girl, I think if you are considering making her 'the one' you need to discuss what's more important, busting your gut and probably going into debt for a ring, or busting your gut and getting the money together to get the ... (read in full...)
We work together, we slept together, I wasted so many awesome blowjobs on him....just to realize now he was married all along!!
Q. My heart is broken. I've been seeing this guy for a year now. He pursued me, but I saw evidence in his car and at his office that he was involved with someone so I said no thanks, friends! He swore up and down that he was single. Eventually I starte...
A. 29 January 2011: I am sorry, but it seems that you ignored the little voice in the back of your mind telling you he was not single.
Just be thankful your friends cared enough and were couragous enough to be the messengers and bring you the evidence, because ... (read in full...)
Rejection Year for me
Q. Hey Cupid peeps ^-^ Im new here but today is just not going so well for me :( Like actually this whole year is bad. I dont mean to be all doom and gloom but my self confidence aint so great. I mean it was awesome at the end of last year when I m...
A. 28 January 2011: well here we are in 2011, its not even February yet ad you are putting the kybosh on the whole year ..... dont you think you should give it a few more months before you talk yourself into believe its a rejection year?
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Help! Do I give up on the girl of my dreams or be there for her and hope she gives us a chance later on?
Q. Alright so I've been talking to this beautiful girl I met at my friends bday party for about a month now on the phone. We have awesome convos and sometimes we talk for hours on the phone. She always jokes about us getting married and tells me how ...
A. 26 January 2011: I hate being a wet blanket but if she has said no, she just wants to be friends, you should take that as the answer.
You really do need more than a month of phone conversations to fall in love with somebody .... at this stage she has indicate... (read in full...)
My girlfriend returned a gift I bought!
Q. I have been dating my GF for four years now and this year is our fifth year. The problem is since 2008 we started a long distance relationship because we both went to different universities, and now I am working while studying at the same time I ...
A. 25 January 2011: This is not love, a woman who returns a gift bought with love doesnt who says I dont want this one I want a bigger, better, more expensive one, is not a woman in love.
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I dumped him for another man but I am so hurt he slept with another girl while we were apart! How do I get over this?
Q. so... not long ago i had a boyfriend(let's call him alex). we had been together for like 1 year and 10 months. things started to get really routinaire and i asked him for a break. he said yes but then i met this other guy (daniel) and we started ...
A. 25 January 2011: You need to get over it. These are your words: i felt like ... betrayed... i dumped and he had no right to forget me so fast(that's the first thing i thought when he told me because i was really hurted and angry at him)
You dumped him, who says... (read in full...)
Can I get my girlfriend to "sext" me?
Q. Hello. So I joked with my girlfriend while texting the other day about sending me some pics, and she told me that's something she was just not comfortable with. I dropped the subject. I understand her concern for it, and will not press her into i...
A. 25 January 2011: You have a smart girlfriend, she is a keeper. I'm not sure sure she has a smart boyfriend though .... "it's a non issue but I'd still like tips" .... sure its a non issue, if it was a non issue you would not be here looking for tips on how to ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with bad housemates?
Q. my housemates particarly one lets call her sue does not like me i get higher grades then her and the fact that i dont do what she wants i think bothers her. lets call them c1 (major annoyance) c2 (sheep) c1 went into my room switched something ...
A. 25 January 2011: Stop trying to be their friend, just relegate them to status of 'people you share a house with'. Maintain a level of politeness as you would with other people who are not friends but simply people you need to maintain a relationship with. And ... (read in full...)
Why do you think he spends his time trying to make me look bad?
Q. Ok so i need some advice. Me and my daugther's father broke up a year ago and since then we have been arguing about things like him calling his daughter or him sending her back home because he moved to georgia after the breakup but the thing is when ...
A. 23 January 2011: By attempting to make you look bad he thinks he will make himself look better.
Okayyyy, this advise was given to me when I found myself in a similar situation: write everything down. Use a notebook that you cannot easily tear pages from, no... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's ex and him talking all day
Q. My boyfriend and I live together (almost a year now). He has remained friends with some of his exes which I have no problem with, as I admit - I have maintained a friendship with one of my exes - mainly we discuss business as we were business ...
A. 23 January 2011: Who was it said 'hold your friends close, and your enemies closer"?
If your boyfriend is suggesting you all hang out maybe thats not a bad idea. Invite her around for a bbq and invite some of his other ex girlfriends as well, let her get the mess... (read in full...)
All of a sudden he doesn't trust me and thinks I'm lying
Q. Dear Cupid me and my boyfriend clicked right away and we moved in together the same night as our first date we've been together Every day since that day for the past 2months now all of a sudden there's a matter of him thinking I'm lieng and the ...
A. 22 January 2011: YOu need to remove yourself from this situation, you need to move out, so that you can have some time to think about the relationship and how come you moved in so fast, you cant know somebody well enough to move in after one date only.
I beleive ... (read in full...)
My ex-wife and fiancee cannot both be at my father's funeral...what do I do?
Q. I have a dilemma that I doubt I will get much sympathy from here. I recently divorced after a year long separation following an affair. I live with my mistress and we are in love and planning to get married in a year or so. She has met all of m...
A. 22 January 2011: You ex is the mother of your father's grandchildren. If indeed the funeral is, as you say, about your dad and honouring him, you say the marriage was long, that means your ex wife's relationship with her father in law was also long. Unless they ... (read in full...)
My brother-in-law is a nuisance and has my husband doesn't stand up for me either...
Q. I've been researching in-law troubles for a very long time and have not found any help to my problem. I have never posted a comment or entered a forum but here it goes. I'm desperate. I have been married for 8 years and with my husband for 18 yrs. I ...
A. 20 January 2011: I did read your whole question, the text your brother in law sent you was unacceptable. He has requested you stay away from him.
Families are such touchy subjects, those of us who were not born into them often have great difficulty in trying t... (read in full...)
How do I handle my feelings over my friend's actions? She is having a very public affair with a married man.
Q. A work friend is having an affair. She is 45 he is 52. When she first started seeing him she quietly told me he was married that he was just a bit of fun but asked me to keep it Hush Hush. Over the past few months she has openly discussed what the...
A. 18 January 2011: There are two ways to handle it, take her aside and tell her very firmly that if she still expects you to keep his marriage hush hush she needs to keep it out of your work place.
If she doesnt do that all previous requests for 'hush hush' are off ... (read in full...)
If I stay with him he's going to remind me of this all my life!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months already, our relationship is going OK but he is planning to move to panama in the summer. Before we started to seriously go out i had been with someone else that he actually knew, me and that ...
A. 17 January 2011: This prat wanted to break up with you, for whatever reason, and has very carefully manipulated you into believing the reason was your past, and that its your fault.
You say you know he doesnt trust you, guess what, you shouldnt trust him, you ask ... (read in full...)
I didn't know what I had in her till she left
Q. I used to think Karma was an old wise tale until it made it's way to me. I lost count of how many heart's I broke after over 30. I guess you could say it never bothered me or made me feel remorse or guilt since I hadn't experienced it. I never quite ...
A. 17 January 2011: Well, considering you say you have never as much as shook her hand I dont understand why you say you never knew what you had until you lost her.
You never had her.
Your profile is listed as Irish female, have you considered that as Val has moved of... (read in full...)
How do I stop my ex spreading rumours about me?
Q. sarah12's profile: my ex is spreading a false rumor that i had sex with him. We had only dated for 2 weeks and he wont shut up. i just cant let it go i have to do something, but i just dont know what.. what do i do???...
A. 13 January 2011: For now ignore it, if people are crass enough to ask you to your face, just shrug and say "he wishes".
If it persists ask your father, an uncle or an older brother, male cousin, to have a quiet word with him.
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Do I send him a break up message?
Q. I broke up wit my bf coz he cheated after we hv been seeing each other 4 3weeks.so we broked up 4 a month then we started calling each other But now the problem that I hve is that we jst started again after a break up but now he is not taking...
A. 13 January 2011: It doesnt sound like he deserves the courtesy of a break up call or text. I would just put it behind you and get on with living the best life you can, and if he does contact you just tell him you arent interested in pursuing an relationship with ... (read in full...)
Wonders about husband cheating?
Q. I need someone to tell me if I did the right thing although I feel in my heart I did! I recently left my husband of 6 yrs and moved to another state, rented a house and got a job! He works construction so his work takes him everywhere and he loves...
A. 11 January 2011: If you were a quitter you would have given up on him years ago. You have done all you can to bring honesty and respect into the marriage, and he has done his best to ruin it.
Turning off the phone and clearing all text points to a person with som... (read in full...)
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