Is my boyfriend being thoughtless by refusing to change his facebook status?
Q. Hi, I was having some issues with my bf because of his ex and his friendship and working with her. Anyway he swore to me that although he did really like her, they didn't really have a great relationship, that they didn't have a connection l...
A. 29 December 2011: One of the first things a woman would do would be to remove the status from facebook, along with all happy statuses, references, pictures, etc. We would ensure our nearest and dearest and the man on the moon were aware there had been a split and ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend will not tell his parents. What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid. Im 20 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. my bf of 2 years. still has not told his parents and I dont know what to do. I gave him option to leave if he wanted and he decided to stay but is still making no effort. His parents need to know ...
A. 29 December 2011: Have you asked him why he doesn't want his parents to know? Maybe your boyfriend is doing the ostrich, by sticking his head in the sand he can deny the pregnancy, by speaking out loud about it will make it more real.
If I was the grandmot... (read in full...)
I want to be first to him but his girlfriend is. How do I get him to put me first?
Q. Dear Aunts, This is killing me. To make a long story short, my best friend and I were close for a long time... like siblings, and we shared so many experiences, outings and moments together and I was always his ''best friend.'' He wants to get...
A. 29 December 2011: The way for you to be number one would be to get into a romantic relationship of your own.
The girlfriend hasn't STOLEN him from you, he is not an object, he is a human with the free will to give his love where he wants. Wanting him to put you ... (read in full...)
I want to leave but I have nowhere to go.
Q. How do i get my boyfriend (soon to be ex) to stop eating his boogers, every time i see him hes diggin in his nose and putting it in his nose.. i am so grossed out.. i dont even kiss him anymore, and he gets really really made and throws temper ...
A. 29 December 2011: If you have no family or friends who can/will help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224 and ask what services are available in your area to help you.
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I want to know how to get my wife to change her mind
Q. My wife used to hesitantly perform fellatio. A few years ago she quit. There is no discussion. Just to bring it up pisses her off. I feel like I am worthless because she will not do this for me. I am not a kid, I am over fifty. How do I cha...
A. 29 December 2011: The best way to get yourself over this is to accept your wife doesn't like doing it, and never has. It sounds like she may have felt pressured previously when she did it "hesitantly".
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Should I see this other man? I don't want to hurt my FWB!
Q. Hi everyone a bit of a complicated question here I am in a fwb sort of thing with a man I would like more with but he doesn't feel the same way being going on for 9 months now just recently I met one of my 5 brothers friends who keeps flirting with ...
A. 27 December 2011: FWB is simply a sexual relationship, and exclusiveness is not usually part of the relationship. By asking for you to be exclusive your FWB has the best of both worlds, sex on tap with you remaining available for him only, with no emotional ... (read in full...)
How do I help my wife find her next husband?
Q. I have decided my wife deserves a new husband. I cannot give what she feels will make her happy. She and I have discussed this subject at length and I am simply not the man for the "job". She does not know I have reached this conclusion but I ...
A. 21 December 2011: werrrrr ease up there!
If you and your wife decide to end your marriage it's not up to you to find your replacement .... in fact I am suspicious about your motives here, are you sure you dont have somebody waiting in the wings for you which is why ... (read in full...)
Is inviting friends over to your house during a family get together rude? This is what my cousin did!
Q. We recently had a Christmas get together with family. My two cousins, the ones who lived at the house we celebrated at, made no effort to change their plans for that day. One invited her friend over, whom none of us knew, and disappeared up...
A. 19 December 2011: Travelling a fair distance to visit family and then having some of those being visited show their lack of interest in thier family's guests shows a lack of manners on thier part and their parents.
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My boyfriend is being difficult! please help!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for well over 2 years, all of which have been long distance. Right now, I'm in college and he's living back at home in NY, about 4 hours away from my parents' house. I was planning to go visit him by train on the 26th, ...
A. 17 December 2011: He sounds like a common garden variety asshat!
why isnt he coming to visit you, or putting forward some solutions, meeting you half way to decide what can be achived for BOTH of you?
Go with your gut feeling, he does seem to be deliberately... (read in full...)
I am still sleeping with my Ex but he's grown too friendly with my friend! Shall I tell her the truth?
Q. my good friend and my ex are getting friendly..... and hiding it, i know about and confronted them and they say they are just mates at the moment. my friends tell me that if our friendship is going to get awkward then mates is all they will stay. ...
A. 17 December 2011: To help you answer your question you need to ask yourself a few more, please be honest with the answers:
Why haven't you told your friend about the sleeping together part?
Why did you break up in the first place?
Why are you both (you and him) kee... (read in full...)
8 months pregnant, and my partner seems to be getting more and more distant and resentful as the due date is approaching
Q. So i am eight months pregnant and lately the father of the baby/my boyfriend has been acting...distant. its so subtle it almost makes me think im imagining things but we have been together for two years and i know when something is different. Its ...
A. 14 December 2011: He could be nervous about the future, he may be worrying about the changes that are coming, he might be confused about how his life is now going to be determined by the needs of a third person, he might be worrying about how he will be as a dad, and ... (read in full...)
Should I sell her engagement ring?
Q. Me ard my partner were Engaged to get married next year last week she told me she does not love me and has not loved me for a long time. She doesn't want to make things work as she has feelings for someone else. Question is do I sell her engagment ...
A. 5 December 2011: Why not advertise it for sale now and see what happens. I dont see much sense in hanging on to it, any new girl you might get engaged to in the future would prefer to have a ring purchased just for her, not for an old girlfriend.
I dont see that... (read in full...)
Is he just saying he likes me, for sex?
Q. Hi, I really hope you can help me with this as it has being going on since march. I met a guy really liked him he said he just wanted sex ,which I was fine with at first but then my feelings started getting deeper for him. I told him this he said ...
A. 25 November 2011: He has already said he just wants sex. You have already spent eight months waiting for him. You need to decide how much longer you are prepared to wait .... another eight months? Two years? Five years? Ten years. If he hasnt shown any interest in ... (read in full...)
He's telling me he has commitment problems, how can I make him comfortable in our relationship?
Q. I recently just started dating this boy. It's been about a week we've been dating. The second day of our relationship he told me he wasn't good with relationships and dealing with it, as well he said he had commitment problems. When he said this I ...
A. 25 November 2011: He is young, its only been a week, expecting a boy in your age group to know, understand or even want committment is almost the same as expecting a six month old baby to sing the Hallejulah Chorus ... in parts.
Forget about committment in relation... (read in full...)
Met him online, love him, but he wants sex before marriage
Q. Gud evening , my question is . I met a guy online he live in abroad so since then we have been chatting on november 2011 he propose to me he said he's coming back next month and we will make love before marriage and am not ready to make love ...
A. 18 November 2011: Did he change because you told him no sex before marriage? If yes, this might mean he only wanted to have sex with you, not marriage.
If you havent told him no sex before marriage yet, you need to tell him this is your belief and wish, so that when... (read in full...)
I need some help to cope with what's happening now
Q. PLEASE HELP! Okay, well I have been to the doctors about depression and they are just saying it's harmones but I am lower then average. I have used marijuana a few times to make me feel better and use it I don't have a lot. I don't smoke it ...
A. 29 October 2011: Hormones are chemicals, depression is also caused by our body's chemicals, it sounds like your whole family are struggling with some issues, if your mother is in and out of hospital, and your father feels he needs to be there with her. Are your ... (read in full...)
It irritates me that my sister in law won't go to my church but instead goes to her own
Q. Hi guys. I am staying with my sister-in-law. when she first came to live with us, she would go with me to my church. then all of a sudden she decided to go to her own church on a different day. why do i feel undermined and irritated by it?is it ...
A. 23 October 2011: You dont say if she is young and in your care. If you are responsible for her well being you could perhaps suggest that you alternate churches, one week to your church and the next week attend the church she prefers.
If your sister in law in not ... (read in full...)
Should I date this liar?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a freshman and he's a junior. He's had sex with 3 girls I know of and I'm a virgin, he promises he won't hurt me or pressure me into sex. He's lied to me once about how many girls he's had sex with. When I talk to him in person i...
A. 23 October 2011: If he is a liar and drinks, and is rumoured to do drugs, and your family and friends all think he will be bad for you he doesnt sound like ideal boyfriend material.
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My friend's lover wouldn't give her money should she end things with him?
Q. My friend, who is married, but does not sleep with her husband, has had a 10 year sexual relationship with a male friend. She has talked with him every day by phone, exchanged emails, visited with him and his parents, and exchanged birthday and ...
A. 23 October 2011: Your friend's lover may have felt she was just using him to get money after his payout. He may also feel lending money to a person with numerous health problems is a risk, with little chance of being repaid.
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Why did my last guy refuse to give me another chance? I know I cheated. What should I do?
Q. Since as long as I can think back I have cheated on every guy I dated. I had been with my soul mate now for 9 years. For 2 years I did resist cheating except for the first 6 months. We was about to set a date to marry when he found out I was sex ...
A. 6 October 2011: Why should he take part of the responsibility for your sex texting other men?
You ask if he has somebody else as if that is the only reason you can think of for him to leave. Have you never considered issues of fidelity, honesty, faithful... (read in full...)
Three weeks into the relationship. What present would not "spook" seeing as it's early days?
Q. Hi All, A quick question something I haven't come across before early on in the dating process. I have been dating a girl for 3 weeks, we met online and chatted on the phone etc for about a month before this. We have since had 4 /5 dates. It's her ...
A. 21 September 2011: Spring has Sprung! What about preparing a picnic lunch to be eaten in the nearest park, or national park?
You could include some cup cakes and have a birthday candle handy to stick on it!... (read in full...)
He's blocked for a reason. Should I confront him, for seeking info about me ?
Q. I fell out with my best friend, who was a guy, around five or six weeks ago, blocked him from contacting me, so that he wouldn't be able to contact me and would leave me alone from then on. I do not want anything to do with him anymore. I have just ...
A. 19 September 2011: As you say, you have blocked him for a reason, and you know the bullsheet he is sprouting to your dad's g/f is just that, bullsheet.
Don't contact him, don't unblock, don't feel you need to speak with him, because that way he will know the bull... (read in full...)
Did I do anything wrong by not contacting him?
Q. I dated a guy for 4-5 months a while ago. After a lot of mess he ended it with me. He wasn't always nice to me, said bad things and made me feel bad about myself. But we had great chemistry in many ways, and I was very much in love, but everything ...
A. 18 September 2011: You say this: "He wasn't always nice to me, said bad things and made me feel bad about myself".
How could not contacting him be wrong, why would you even consider inviting somebody like that back into your life?... (read in full...)
How do I break off contact with him so we can still be friendly?
Q. I really like this guy, but I think he just wants to be friends. In order for me to move on I want to end contact with him. The problem is we text and phone each other every day, if I don't text him, he gets really annoyed! To be honest I really ...
A. 18 September 2011: I was going to respond and then I re read your question. This is the sentence that stood out: "if I don't text him, he gets really annoyed!"
Next time he gets "really annoyed" simply tell him friendships are a two way street and that it might be... (read in full...)
My Bf believes others on my past Bf history. What do I need to do to show my Bf that I am telling the truth?
Q. ok so i have been dating my bf for about a year and 3 months already and he recently found pictures of an ex boyfriend of mine who had broken my heart 4 months before i met my current bf and someone is telling my bf that my x and me didnt finish ...
A. 11 September 2011: Ask him if he is prepared to front the person who is telling him the lies in person with you?
If he wont do that dump him, as it means he either suspects the truth or he doesnt care for the truth, a relationship without trust is not a good rel... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell them where I'm going after I resign from this job?
Q. I have decided I need to leave my job for many different reasons. I know it sounds crazy to do but I am just not happy..it's been almost 5 yrs and feel I am not qualified to do anything else. I feel I am better off getting a part time job and ...
A. 11 September 2011: You do not have to tell your employers where you are going after you resign. I do suggest you leave on good terms, thank them for the opportunities they gave you (if any) and wish the company/department/or team etc all the best in future ... (read in full...)
Am I played out and he is looking for someone new?
Q. I have been seeing this married man for over 8yrs. His wife left him about 3yrs ago. Many would think thats what he wanted and he wuld want to start a life with me, the women he said he loved and it appeared he couldnt beapart from whil he was with ...
A. 11 September 2011: Yes, he had no intention of being with you full time, and he is probably looking for somebody new.
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I want to give my virginity to my ex, help!
Q. My ex-boyfriend/ sort of bestfriend, cheated on me when I was in hospital. He then broke up with the other girl after 2 days. For roughly 5 weeks me and him were basically unofficially going out. But at prom he tells me he is with her again, and now ...
A. 11 September 2011: He cheated on you and has a new girlfriend. Why give him something that you will only be able to give once? He doesn't value the person you are now, what makes you think he will value him after you have sex with him?
You ask what you should d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend substituted me for my sister!
Q. Hi I just need advice on this thing that happened recently my boyfriend sent a text to my sister just out of the blue and says that he's liked her for a long time even before me and him got together and because my sister had a relationship at that ...
A. 8 September 2011: I think you need to accept this relationship is going nowhere.
Do your grieving and then move on. The sooner you get over him the sooner you will be willing to meet somebody who will love you for who you are, not for some airy fairy pie in the ... (read in full...)
Is this a scam?
Q. I have an appointment with a Casting Agency, which i applied to to become a Supporting Artist/Extra, but they told me that i have to pay £40 to have some photos taken !. Do you think this is a scam, and should i not bother going to them ?. I have ...
A. 7 September 2011: You will need a portfolio of photos if you intend gaining work in the casting field.
However, there are agencies and companies who have no intention of helping you find work, and just want your money. These companies are rarely in existanc... (read in full...)
He says I'm immature and selfish. Am I being unreasonable by being upset that his family exclude me from family events but invite his ex?
Q. Hi. I have been involved with my boyfriend for 13 years now and we have one child. He has been divorced for the past 14 years. The problem is his ex wife. My boyfriend has refused to marry me in the past citing his family doesn't like me. Aft...
A. 5 September 2011: I am sorry for the double up of answers, but this is not tollerable, your daughter is being treated as second class, how must she feel knowing her half sister is accepted into the family while she and her mother are not.
She needs positive... (read in full...)
He says I'm immature and selfish. Am I being unreasonable by being upset that his family exclude me from family events but invite his ex?
Q. Hi. I have been involved with my boyfriend for 13 years now and we have one child. He has been divorced for the past 14 years. The problem is his ex wife. My boyfriend has refused to marry me in the past citing his family doesn't like me. Aft...
A. 5 September 2011: whut? Unbelievable!
13 years and a child together and says you are being unreasonable?
I wouldnt be hanging around to be treated like that. Sort your finances and change the locks next time he goes to a family do without you and his child and do... (read in full...)
My mom is having an affair with her married boss!
Q. Hi readers, I'm typing this, hoping to seek great advice from anybody/everybody. I am 19yrs. old, living with my little brother and mother. My parents are separated. My father does not live with us, although he does live fairly close to us. M...
A. 5 September 2011: Is there a reason why you cant go to your father's? Driving your little brother around town or hanging out at the mall is not good for either of you.
Does your grandma know what is going on? Can you ask her to have a word with your mother, ... (read in full...)
Just recently called me the wrong female name, twice. Is he cheating?
Q. Hello, My bf and I have been together for 3 years. We don't live together. Recently he's called me two different female names one was his exes name, the other was some name I've never heard of. He has no sisters nor anyone he works with by that name...
A. 4 September 2011: I have done that @ wrong name,it was so embarressing. So I know it doesnt automatically mean he is cheating.
I would let it drop unless there are more signs that he may be cheating, and accept it as the momentary brain slip it was!
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I know he truly wants us both!!!
Q. hello, I'm not sure what to do about a situation I've been involved with for two years and need other peoples advice! i met a man by accident two years ago. from the moment we started talking we couldn't leave each other alone. texts run into at ...
A. 29 August 2011: Is he really keeping everyone happy? What about his kids, are they happy knowing their daddy is going to leave next year? You say he has no backbone, why tie yourself to a spinless whimp?
This man is a liar and a cheat. Don't believe a word he ... (read in full...)
What does "working on things with someone" mean?
Q. If a person says they're working on things with someone, does that imply that they're a couple or that they aren't together but in talks of getting back together again? I'm confused by what that means since its not coming right out and saying yes, ...
A. 29 August 2011: I would normally take it as they are a couple and having some problems but trying to resolve them.
Hope that helps.
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Reading other's texts--snooping? or confirmation?
Q. I am curious to know what other people's opinions are with reading each others texts when you should have nothing to hide? I seem to look at the topic from anoter point of view or maybe I am just right?? help ...
A. 29 August 2011: Depends on so many things, if its a couple who have been together for 25 years and they are expecting a text or message, its okay for them to look for it
If somebody says "did you see the text from Fred, its on my phone" that is a clear indicati... (read in full...)
Can she claim for child-support payments?
Q. Hi there! Id like to ask if a woman who tricked a man to get herself pregnant can still claim for child support. You see, I'm married to a guy who already has an illegitimate child before we met. The woman admitted she deceived the guy by asking him ...
A. 27 August 2011: Regardless of why and when if your husband fathered the baby he is still liable to support the child.
While it is laudable that your husband and you are visiting the child as often as possible, if the parents are unable to come to a mutally ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends interfering mum is a nightmare!
Q. Well, I've got a little problem. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and we have a 7 month old son who we just adore. Everything is going fantastic with us, he's my best friend, I know we are going to be together forever. But the ...
A. 23 August 2011: Just a further thought, your boyfriends mother has a lot of years experience, why not ask her to help you draw up a budget, which will allow you to pay your way, pay towards the house, put money aside for the future, include a savings plan and yet ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends interfering mum is a nightmare!
Q. Well, I've got a little problem. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and we have a 7 month old son who we just adore. Everything is going fantastic with us, he's my best friend, I know we are going to be together forever. But the ...
A. 23 August 2011: She is your boyfriend's mother and you are in her house. You list your age as between 18 and 21.
We don't have his mother's side of the story, and as you are probably aware there are always three sides to a story, her side, your side, and some... (read in full...)
I am on the cusp of leaving my boyfriend and selling my house...advice?
Q. Hi, I am wondering if anyone can take a little time to help me with this, I'd be really grateful as I have no family to ask for support or for feedback. After eighteen years of living with a binge drinker who was abusive to me, I have finally ...
A. 22 August 2011: Seek professional advise, speak to a medical professional about your illness and speak to a financial adviser about your financial plans.
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