I am on the cusp of leaving my boyfriend and selling my house...advice?
Q. Hi, I am wondering if anyone can take a little time to help me with this, I'd be really grateful as I have no family to ask for support or for feedback. After eighteen years of living with a binge drinker who was abusive to me, I have finally ...
A. 22 August 2011: Seek professional advise, speak to a medical professional about your illness and speak to a financial adviser about your financial plans.
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I caught my husband in bed with another woman.
Q. i saw my husband on bed with another woman may 13 2011 his friends gve me the hint and help me open to reality, the worst day of my life. i hate him now and we have a child. a very beautiful child. i want to teach him a hard lesson??? tell me how?...
A. 19 August 2011: I agree with "unknown2u". The best form of revenge is your own success.
I dont know how you are situated in the UAE but if you are able to get a job or an education and pursue your own dreams, building a life for yourself and your child that woul... (read in full...)
We've got so much work to do to get our marriage back on track but he is still talking to the girl he was seeing whilst we were separated!
Q. My husband and I have been separated for the last 6 months, during which time we both started seeing other people. In the last few weeks though, we have decided that we still love each other and want to try again. The circumstances of our ...
A. 18 August 2011: If you are both serious about working on your marriage it needs 100% committment from you both. He isnt giving 100%. If he is still sending hugs and hearts and drying this other person's hair I doubt he is giving even 50%.
You are correct.... (read in full...)
How can I make sure my lover's wife found out about us without him knowing I did it?
Q. I am having an affair with a man from work. I am single, he has been with his partner for about 5 years and they have lived together for one or two years. We worked very closely together for over a year. he had feelings for me throughout this ...
A. 15 August 2011: to follow on from my previous answer, the fact you are willing to do this to another women when she is dealing with some serious health issues and probably feeling quite fragile says a lot about the type of person you are.
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How can I make sure my lover's wife found out about us without him knowing I did it?
Q. I am having an affair with a man from work. I am single, he has been with his partner for about 5 years and they have lived together for one or two years. We worked very closely together for over a year. he had feelings for me throughout this ...
A. 15 August 2011: hmm, what makes you think she and he wont work out their differences IF she does find out he is a low down lying two timing cheat? How do you know that she doesn't already know that he is a low down lying two timing cheat? What makes you think ... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to get rid of a friend who you think is taking advantage of you?
Q. Hello, before I begin I just want to let you who read this, not to blow my own trumpet, know that I am a kind, forgiving, good natured person who would do anything to benefit others. I have told you this so you understand why I've put up with my ...
A. 12 August 2011: He doesnt sound like much of a friend so I feel you have done the right thing. ... (read in full...)
How else can I live alone on my income if I break up with my unreliable boyfriend? Because I need to end this relationship now
Q. Dear Cupid, I fell in love with a drug and alcohol addict. We have been together for the past 5 years. He no longer does drugs nor drinks, to my knowledge (and he's always either at home or at work). However, he just keeps messing up... First...
A. 12 August 2011: You say you cant afford to live without him, I say you cant afford to live with him. You may not have a choice if he doesnt pay the rent, you could be evicted and then what?
What did he do with the rent money? Did he pee it up against a wall? ... (read in full...)
If a man wanted to propose to a woman, he would". How true do you think this statement is?
Q. Dear Cupid! "Nevermind everything else, if a man wanted to propose to a woman, he would". How true do you think this statement is? My boyfriend/partner and I have lived together for a few years, but have been relatively poor due to loans we too...
A. 12 August 2011: A new car I can understand, but if he was serious about being engaged he would find a way to do that, as well as have weekends away and 'stuff'.
If you are already living together he may not see the need for marriage, you may need to sit him down... (read in full...)
Facebook Problem: Why is my boyfriend is chatty one day, quiet the next?
Q. My boyfriend has a weird issue where, when I log onto Facebook, he somehow never notices I'm online. Especially in the evening, I'll say hello to him, and he'll just stay on for a few seconds then log off. It hurts me knowing he's online, we haven...
A. 12 August 2011: I HATE that online chat thing on facebook. I really wish that when I turned it off it would stay OFF. Maybe he is like me and sometimes just wants to check his facebook, see who's posted funny status updates, check out the pics and then log off. ... (read in full...)
Am I his second choice? And is he out of line that he can't recall our first meeting?
Q. You know love at first sight? Well I just discovered my fiance doesn't even remember our first meeting. Is it out of line that that makes me feel bad? Clearly I can't have made any kind of impression on him! A common friend introduced us once, we ...
A. 12 August 2011: Based on what you have told us I wouldn't be worrying overmuch. Most men I know wouldnt be able to remember the finer details of the early days of their relationships either. Is he aware you are feeling unmemorable? Maybe have a light hearted talk ... (read in full...)
He helps out around the house, but it would be far more helpful if he could pay his way! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend lives with me and basically his maintenance for ex and child leaves him with no money for himself, he honestly has nothing left, I have to keep giving him cash handouts. He seems to think that he can even out the differences in ...
A. 10 August 2011: I am sure if he is not left with enough money to live on after paying maintenance for his child he can get the payments reduced, he needs to approach whoever set the amount in the first place, whether it was a family law court or government ... (read in full...)
Its like we never broke up, why is this happening?
Q. Hi ok so me and this guy were together for a year he tells me he wants to be friends .... So i agree then he says that he wants to stay in my life we now have been having sex alot like every weekend so its like we never broke up why is this ...
A. 8 August 2011: Its happening because you are allowing it to happen. Ask yourself why you are having sex every weekend with somebody who doesnt want to be in a relationship with you.
You are convienient for sex. Tell him to buzz off, you are better than tha... (read in full...)
My wife left me whilst I was away in Iraq and all she left was a note saying 'I'm sorry'!
Q. I just returned from Iraq on leave today to find my apartment empty. My wife took my son, my dog, and emptied my bank account...The one thing she left was a note on her side of the bed with her wedding ring was a note that simply said "I'm sorry". ...
A. 4 August 2011: You have your age listed at 18 - 21, I assume your wife was in the same age group, young. With you away in Iraq she may as well have been a single mother.
I have no words of comfort, and my advice is probably not going to help much either.
Yo... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a relationship, but still wants to see me and have sex. Am I wasting my time with his guy?
Q. Any advice would be much appreciate. I am a single mum of one. I've been seeing a guy nearly a year now, in the begining everything was fine between us, had an amazing time and connected very well - physically and mentally. He lives a 1 hour f...
A. 4 August 2011: And I agree, cut the ties completely, he is using you for the sex only, and as long as he is there in your life you wont find anybody new.
Cut the ties, give yourself a few months to get him out of your system, and then start looking again.
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Three years together, then we have sex and he breaks up with me the next day!
Q. My partner (who is 37) left me (mid twenties) after having sex with me. I had been with my partnr for three years and last week, we finally had sex. At first I wanted to wait, as I had never had sex before and was afraid it would hurt and I wasn't ...
A. 2 August 2011: I really do think, in this case, it isn't you, its him. It seems odd that it took two years after you agreed to have sex with him, and AFTER you moved in with him, for him to actually get around to doing it.
This situation is odd, just odd, he ... (read in full...)
20 year old straight employee got sexually involved with me, took money and favours from me, and now his wife is pregnant and he's changed his job. I feel terribly used, betrayed and hurt
Q. OK, here's one that has to top it all. I am a boss, I met this straight man 20 years old. I am 50. This is so crazy that it is hard to believe it happened. At any rate, I told him about me, and when I did, he said, well anything is possible for ...
A. 30 July 2011: He gave prior warning of what sort of person he really is when "he said, well anything is possible for the right price". He was in it for the money, nothing more, nothing less.
Why do you still want to be his friend? Why not limit contact to only ... (read in full...)
Should I feel like crap because I let him win? or do I ignore it and see what happens?
Q. My bf and I have been together for almost 4yrs now. I'm not even going to get into our history because it's been a long, exhausting, emotionally draining rollercoaster of him cheating, neglecting me, and just being a jerk in general. Lately, i...
A. 30 July 2011: This doesnt sound like a mutally respectful relationship at all, more like some sort of war. "He thinks I'm a b*tch who argues about every single thing imaginable, but I think he's an *sshole who doesn't make enough effort into our relationship... (read in full...)
Sad and worried about my marriage
Q. Hi. I have been married for 21 years and my husband is the love of my life. lately though he has been working (from home for ever) and won't do anything at night, besides watch TV. I suggest things to do even free events and he is never up for it. ...
A. 30 July 2011: Print off your letter and put it somewhere he can read it, scribble a note across the top, "This sounds just like me!" And then start building your own life, if he wont go out, go without him. See if any of your friends will go with you. Start... (read in full...)
I feel that I'm taken for granted and undervalued. My boyfriend has all the benefits whilst I don't get the one promise that I want!
Q. Hi everyone, please help! When i first met my bf he seemed so overwhelmed with love - as is typical i expect. Anyway over three years on, been living together for two +, he has waivered between talking like he wants to marry and have kids and acti...
A. 30 July 2011: When I say precise, I mean he needs to let you know the basics, what and when. For example, if he wants to wait until he has a promotion, he needs to put a time on it, also example only "If I get a promotion within the next 12 months we will b... (read in full...)
I feel that I'm taken for granted and undervalued. My boyfriend has all the benefits whilst I don't get the one promise that I want!
Q. Hi everyone, please help! When i first met my bf he seemed so overwhelmed with love - as is typical i expect. Anyway over three years on, been living together for two +, he has waivered between talking like he wants to marry and have kids and acti...
A. 29 July 2011: He has all the benefits of marriage now, and you dont have any. It might be time for you to sit him down and ask him what needs to happen before you can marry. Make sure he is very precise. If he wont participate, pick up your pre packed bag and ... (read in full...)
My lover and me are both trapped in loveless marriages and are hopelessly in love with each other...and now I think I'm pregnant with his baby
Q. Hi, I was wondering if I could get advice any would be appreciated. Where to start... I have been with my current Partner since I was 18 years old we met in college. We became best friends and fell in love we know we are soul mates... this i...
A. 29 July 2011: You live in America. Sell your story to one of the tabloids and then you and your true love can run away together on the proceeds.
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Husband caught playing "sexual chicken" now what?
Q. I've been married to my husband for over a year. Two months ago I found a sexually explicit text on his phone (I wasn't snooping, it displayed the text when I plugged his phone in the charger. You can bet I snooped after that, though). It was from a ...
A. 29 July 2011: He is a liar, and it would seem he is also incapable of sticking to his marriage vows.
You need to decide if this marriage is good enough for you or if you want something different. He has already lied twice, are you going to make it three st... (read in full...)
Why did he move on so fast after he said he wanted to be single?
Q. I was dating this guy for a little while not that long then he broke up with me saying i became too clingy and that he doesn't want to be with anyone for a while but it has been two days i called him and he had someone over and he hung up in my ...
A. 29 July 2011: He told you he wanted to be single as it was the first thing he thought of, or he didnt want deep and meaningful discussions about why he wanted to break up. He told you he was just sleeping with her because he didnt want to hurt your feelings.
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How to face my girlfriend after 7 months break up?
Q. I am a very arrogant and proud guy being from very rich family here. I get everything in my life without dropping a single drop of sweat . 30 months back, I fell in love with a amazingly beautiful girl here and I kept my family status in hide from ...
A. 26 July 2011: Dumped seven months ago and she still constantly texts, emails, calls, sms etc etc, and in the market place she looks so weak?
Does this woman have no self respect? First you lied to her, and then you dumped her for no reason, and now she is going... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is accusing me of seducing other girls with eye contact! Help!
Q. My girlfriend says I seduce every damn girl out there in shopping malls , market places and on streets using my dirty eye contacts and movements. Last night,while crying, she warned me if I couldn't get this stopped , she would dump. I talked t...
A. 25 July 2011: wow, what does she want? For you to rip your eyes out, would that make her happy or would she then complain you were seducing people with your voice?
This girl sounds so paranoid, and insecure, did this happen out of the blue or did somethin... (read in full...)
My daughter needs help in finding an attorney that deals with military matters
Q. Hello,I'm the mother of a military wife. My daughter's husband is in the army and had an affair on her. As a result of the affair came a baby. My daughter and her husband already has two boys 5 and 2 yrs of age and now he's trying to get a quick ...
A. 24 July 2011: Try these people:
http://military-attorneys.us/
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New guy has kind of shoved himself into my life, but isn't reciprocating?
Q. Hi everyone. I need opinions! I've been seeing this guy for 3 months. It all started on my birthday when he organized an office party. In 6 yrs, none of my coworkers ever bothered to do it for me even though I've done it for them. Anyway, he's ...
A. 24 July 2011: There are lots of red flags here. His inconsistency for one, also not meeting any of his friends or family when he is pushing himself into your life, and the ex girlfriend excuse? I think maybe he is still attached and not single at all.... (read in full...)
Why can't a man take me further than my bed?
Q. Just because I have huge boobs, a small waist and so I have been told a pretty face, can't a man take me further than my bed????I want a partner not just sex.What is their problem or is it mine????...
A. 24 July 2011: Dont go to bed with them, and if they get pushy tell them, "I am more than a pair of tits and until you recognise that fact we dont have much in common, if you think you want to discover what else I have to offer, let me know, until then its bye ... (read in full...)
Is this guy actually gay or am I getting played?
Q. Alright, guys. Here's the tough one, and I need to know what to do. Until recently, I've been with this girl for five and a half years. She is beautiful, caring, reserved, and I can't help but feel that she really loves me. Recently, our li...
A. 23 July 2011: It certainly sounds suss. If she needed time away from the stress of life, and it wasn't you, she would have gone somewhere with you.
My gut feeling is that he is not gay. So, start getting your life in order to move out of the house, clear up a... (read in full...)
My is ex is threatening to come to my house and take my son! What should I do?
Q. so i just found out that my sons father is back! apparently his new girl just had his baby. he keeps saying he's gonna come see my son. he didnt want my baby he walked out when my son was 1mth old. he threatened me that he was going to take my son ...
A. 19 July 2011: Yes, go to the courts, also, keep a record of what he says and when he says it. You will need to write down every time he says he is going to take your son, who he says it to, the day and the aproximate time, and if he says it to their face, or by ... (read in full...)
Should I take the attitude "its been a long time so don't worry?"
Q. Six months ago, I found an ex from 20 years ago on Faceb**k. She and I have talked on the phone for hours since then. We live in different states. She claims that she had aborted three of my children with her. At the time she was living with another ...
A. 17 July 2011: You have answered your question in your last sentence. She cant be trusted, she never could if she was having an affair with you while in a relationship with somebody else.
Three abortions? Did neither of you consider contraception after the firs... (read in full...)
What did this married man mean when he described his relationship to me?
Q. "Being Married but not to each other" When a married man say this about his marriage, what does it exactly mean?...
A. 17 July 2011: We need more information, the when, where how and why these words were spoken. ... (read in full...)
Any hope for us?
Q. Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...
A. 17 July 2011: YOu have listed all the material ways you believe you are different, consider this, do you both share interests, laugh at the same things, enjoy each others company, have common goals?
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Is the ex just bitter or is he a lying cheat?
Q. hi yeah how are yeas ok im 20 and my bf is 25 we have been going out for almost a year. He left his pregant gf for me well anyways she was angry at the break up and she said he was a cheat he said she just saying that cos she's p****ed so fast ...
A. 15 July 2011: The fact your bf dumped a pregnant girl for you indicates he was cheating her, with you. Now he appears to be cheating you with her. If your bf is cheating on you, with her, of course he wont be telling you about it, but making up stories about ... (read in full...)
My ex is sending me mixed signals and tells me he needs a few years to figure out if he wants to stay married to me!
Q. My husband and I split up because he couldn't handle a stressful situation that we had no control over..he just couldn't step up to the plate and give support when needed. Now the situation is over, it is two months since I moved out and the whole ...
A. 15 July 2011: A few years? He simply wants to keep you hanging on in the back ground just in case he finds he cant do it on his own.
NExt time he contacts you regarding insignificant matters (or significant ones), tell him you are too busy learning how to be a ... (read in full...)
How do I prove to her that I do trust her?
Q. how can i get through to my gf that i do trust her? my gf says i give vibes of not trusting her. she says i don't trust her because im not ready to give her my cc info and car insurance info for rental cars or hotel reservations, i don't want her ...
A. 15 July 2011: Do not give your credit card details or any other financial details to your girlfriend, you could end up with a massive STD - sexually transmitted DEBT. It happens. It happens a lot more than people think, and it can happen to those who consider ... (read in full...)
BF broke up with me, then apologized and said I don't need to move out, but I read his FB conversation with a friend where he said he just wanted me gone!
Q. I just recently broke up with my BF of a year. I came home late one night and he said I dont love you anymore, Im not atracted to you and its over. This was really hurtful but I sort of knew it had been comeing for a while. Anyway I went away for...
A. 14 July 2011: I can imagine how you felt reading that conversation, it would have been hurtful. All you can do is try and put it behind you. You say that you sort of knew it was coming, which indicates that perhaps the relationship had run its course.
Becau... (read in full...)
Ex BF harrassing the hell out of me - why?
Q. Hi all, my ex boyfriend of 6 months ago (whom I dated for a year) treated me horribly during our relationship. Eventually he dumped me over the phone because according to him "he didn't love me, he was just with me because his mum thought I would ...
A. 9 July 2011: Print off all his abusive posts, and then use your block button, and set your privacy high enough so that the only people who can read your wall and see your posts and pics are those people on your friends list. Cull that list while you are at ... (read in full...)
I am married but this other woman will not leave me alone!! Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 35 and married. In March this year, I started flirting with my female colleague. After few weeks, we realised that we both had a lot of things in common and we're sexually attracted to each other. She told me that she wanted commitment, so I ...
A. 8 July 2011: This sounds more like a school yard than a work place where mature adults are employed.
If you honestly think a woman who cant control herself at work and goes looking for committment with a man who is already committed while she is committe... (read in full...)
I know we're young, but I want a baby! Is this a good idea?
Q. im 16 and i want to have a baby me and my partner been together some years now and im ready to have a bby i know a baby comes with alot of expenses but we both are working and he's a senior and im a junior. and we have a lot of money saved up ...
A. 7 July 2011: Wanting a baby is your hormones talking, part of the natural changes taking place in your body.
Ignore them for now, you are better off waiting a few more years to get a little more experience of life behind you. Travel or study while you can,... (read in full...)
I'm writing her one last letter, closing off the whole relationship and saying goodbye. What should I write?
Q. I broke up with my ex fiance about a year ago to date and have cut communication for about 5 months now, but i recently found out she was asking about me. She was asking if i was dating and talked to my sister about how much she missed me, and ...
A. 7 July 2011: To be honest I would not be writing the letter. Your ex may have simply have responded to your sister to either be polite or non committal, in much the same way we sometimes tell people "we must catch up" knowing that we probably wont.
Just ... (read in full...)
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