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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Am I just a convenient arrangement for him? Or am I being over-sensitive and too demanding?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Am I just convenient? I have been dating a man for just over three months. He is 36, I am 34. At first everything seemed brilliant - he was attentive, complimentary and in constant contact. We were seeing each other for about two months before w...

Where do I go from here? Broken hearted. How long should I wait for to contact my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - My girlfriend of one year recently broke up with me. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost the entire time, although I've bought plane tickets to visit her several times, and she came to stay with me for 8 weeks over summer where we ...

Could this be true? My friend is trying to convince me that "yes, this guy does love me"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4804 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Alright so I have a slight problem. There is this guy that I really like... He and I have just met at the start of grade 10 and We've somehow become really close, we talk a lot, and we walk home together everyday, or when we can. Recently about two ...

Why does my boyfriend's behavior change every time his female cousin is around?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4755 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I have a question if my boyfriend starts to act funny with me every time when female cousin of his comes around I mean to the point that he avoids my touch and doesn't wanna kiss me or he turns to see if she is in the room or watching him should I ...

Relationship dilemma: how do I get her to believe in me again?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4805 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - I'm currently trying to win back my ex girlfriend. She has a social anxiety disorder, and recently shut down and blew up on me (seriously yelled in person, screamed, cried, etc.) because of a few things I did. All of which was about a month ago. ...

Is he more interested in sex than me? now all he seems concerned about is how soon we can become a couple and start having sex

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (?) - Hey guys would love an outsiders opinion to this... Long story short I've met this amazing guy two weeks ago who is sweet, cute, funny and matched and rivalled my humour and we got on really well. We've been talking non stop over this time and al...

Guys don't mention rings this casually, do they? Why would he do this at the wedding?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I was relaying things that happened at a wedding I attended Saturday to my boyfriend via text. The bride and groom entered the reception hall on a Harley. My boyfriend sent a joking text asking if the bride's wedding ring was chrome. He then...

Can I have a good life with my controlling man who also tells me lies?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Hi, The man I'm with is a liar, he lies frequently and sometimes over ridiculous things I never know what's real what's not. He was married and even lied about his exes age to me until divorce papers arrived and I seen her age. He's got a tem...

Should I choose to not marry him? And take action to get him to give me my money back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - ive done something really stupid and need some advice as to what i should do. My boyfriend who i havent known all that long is from a diferent country. Possibly quite jealous and possesive. He works and so do i, but i make more money than him. he ...

In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long ...

Have I done the right thing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - Hi. Been in my relationship with bf for 4yrs we have a daughter together thing is since the start of r/ship he has lied about certain things, he has an alcohol problem so he has lied about drinking. For some time I thought he was t-total! I told him ...

Is she already interested in another? I like her. but now I feel lost and have a sickening feeling inside

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - ok, here is my problem. I started college just over a month ago and in my first week met a really attractive, smart girl who happened to be doing the same course as me. We exchanged phone numbers and got on really well together, often chatting f...

My bf is convinced I'm in love with my friend (which I'm not!) and now he wants to speak to my friend's pregnant and emotional wife to see how she feels about our friendship!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend (I will name "Ned") for about 17 years. "Ned" broke up with me about two and a half years ago saying I wasn't "the one" and he wanted to find her and didn't want to waste more time with me. I had wanted to get ...

Solutions please to reduce panic attacks? old school? New school? Or other options?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4790 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hey, yep its me again so thanks for taking the time to read my question. I haven't been at school for about a year now and now and my family and I are making the necessary changes for me to go back to school. Only problem is many schools round my...

I resent my boyfried for his past experiences!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Dear Cupid, Me and My Boyfriend, we love each other so much. We've been together for 7 gonna be 8 months. And we're extremely happy together. The thing is, maybe two years ago, he had sex multiple times with his ex let's say her name is C. A...

He has images of ex's on his computer, but still says he loves me. Am I right to be bothered by this?

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30 October 2011 (F) - Ill keep it short, I've been with my boyfriend just over a month, but he says we might have well been together a year, because everyone saw it comning but us.. and we both really liked each other... Recently I've noticed that he still has a ...

True or false? Are girls attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4800 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - I have this question about dating in general: I have heard from my guy friends and even read this on a girl's profile on a online dating site, that Girls are attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging. Otherwise if yo...

Would you let him go if he were your Bf? And been together two years.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I'm not sure where to start. First off, I'm sorry if this post turns into a novel…I'll try my best to keep it short and simple. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years Its my boyfriends birthday soon and he wants to go clubbin for h...

I really need advice on making friends please? guys tell me I'm "intimidating" but I don't see how I can be intimidating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Hi there. This isn't so much of a "love" question as it is more just "how to meet people/make friends" kind of question. I seem to have a really hard time making friends. This isn't something new. All through school I only had a couple friends I wo...

Can anyone help me with my confusion? I was positive that I was straight, now I'm not sure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - i'm here because i'm confused about my sexuality and i don't know what to do. For awhile now i have been thinking about men, specifically kissing and having sex with them and even having a relationship with another man. I try not to but when i g...

My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her ...

Should my husband go out to bars so often without me? Or should he consider me more?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - For the past year my husband has been going to the bars with his friends about twice per month. He stays until the bar is closed. I was ill for a few months and never wanted to go out when he asked (not that I could, because we don't have a baby...

Did I do anything really wrong? B did have a gf, though in the past we had some major chemistry

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - What would a guy think? I met this one guy X after I met his friend, B. I knew B for four years and he had a thing for me but I was always unsure of my feelings. I decided to go for B after a year of not seeing him. We talked for a while when I g...

How do I ensure I don't mess up this relationship? I've had a track record of having a crush on a new guy every single year.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - Dear Everybody who reads this, I am an idiot. For as long as I can remember I've had a track record of having a crush on a guy every single year. If I got over one, I'd get one as soon as the new year came around. When I was younger I was really i...

Is my proposed celibacy solution workable? And any tips on helping me get over this intense amount of regret/shame?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I am 15 years old. I have given two guys bjs, and I am soooo ashamed. I regret all of it, and i feel sick whenever i think about it. I feel like i am a bad kid. However, I am in a relationship right now (although he says he doesn't care about phys...

Mom knows! Isn't she in the wrong for listening to my B/f and I 'dirty talk'on Facebook?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4806 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I've been seeing my boyfriend for a while, and we're sexually active. We're both 16, it's legal, I'm on the pill and we use condoms. Until today, neither of us had issues with our parents because we just hadn't told them. Today, my mom saw that ...

Do I wait and see? How do I find out whether or not she is playing hard to get?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - I feel I'm inaccurately reading signs she's giving off. I'm not sure whether she is playing hard to get or just isn't as interested as I am in her. How do I go about this? Do I approach her and ask her if she is into me? Do I wait and see how thi...

Fickle? what can I do? It took me courage to ask. She said yes. Then she just changed her mind

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - Hey peoples So here's the deal. Recently I told a girl that I really like her and she responded with the answer I had hoped for. Everything was great we made a plan to meet up and talk about things and see where things go, but 2 days late...

Is he using me for money?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4787 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Ok this is hard for me..I ran into an old friend on facebook and after sharing a place for a few months about four..we started sleeping together..he mentioned porn and how he used to whack off to it while single and this was for a very long ...

We were good friends. Does she have a lot on her mind maybe, and just doesn't want to talk?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - I have been best friends with my friend for almost a year now. We became really close really fast. We were inseparable and up until about a week ago i thought we still were. we texted every single day and talked on the phone almost every night. When...

Do I need to change my actions? Being nice to socially awkard boys is making them think I like them when I don't at all!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4807 days ago

29 October 2011 (?) - So, at school, I try to be nice to everybody and I hate hurting people's feelings. I never gossip or talk behind people's backs. When there is someone sitting alone, I sit with them. If someone looks sad, I smile at them. But these habits are ...

Does marriage need more than love? My B/f Mom scolded me for wanting financial stability, education completed too, before marriage.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - my boyfriends mom scolded me and blamed me because my boyfriend wants to get married before he finishes his education and i told him that i want to get married after he finishes his aeronautical engineering licence, because then he can fully ...

I enjoy going out. But guys, in error, think I'm ready for one night stands. Nooo.! But am I missing out ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - i enjoy going out and having a good time with friends, but often guys assume this means that i'm down for one night stands. i've only slept with one guy in my life and he was my ex boyfriend, but now i feel like guys are not even interested in you ...

Is it normal to feel lonely close to 30? All my friends are married and presumably happy. But they don't talk to me anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4808 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - Hi I just remembered that once upon a time, a few years ago, I used to have friends I could pick up the phone and talk to, but now I have none, and it really isn't my fault that I don't - just that, choices were made by them. And I went far away, an...

Should I try to mend our friendship or leave him altogether in fear of falling for him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4804 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - I have a very long history with a boy who shall be called X . You see, I've liked X as more than a friend off and on for basically my whole life, and I know there have been times when he has liked me in the same way. To give a summary, we were close ...

Is he worth the wait to date? He's 17. Or should I just move on? He only wants to talk about sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Ok so there's this guy, I've liked him for about 4 months. His name is X and we met at a battle of the bands back in January. In June we started texting and getting to know each other. (: He turned out to be a really sweet guy, and always said cute...

Got cheated upon once, and now I am paranoid it will happen again in my present relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Is this what one may call trauma? Two and a half years ago, i found out my ex was cheating on me which left me so scarred, it took me a year to accept what happened. He was my first bf. Anyway, i am fully recovered now in terms of any emotion towa...

Broke up with my girl, and I need advise on how to make friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - Hello I am 19 year old male and I have no friends. I lost my female best friend 2 months ago and my girlfriend 3 days ago(it was a mutual agreement, she didn't dump me). I started studying economics this year and it is still hard for me to find one ...

What to do to stop feeling so lonely? I haven't felt like I've done something fun for a long time. It's getting me down.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - It's been a while since I've had a good conversation, it's been a while since I was sure I'd make plans and they would actually follow through. It's been a while since I've had this feel as I've started college. Everyone in my class is 2 years yo...

He seems weird sometimes. But I'm confused and cannot work him out. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4809 days ago

28 October 2011 (F) - someone please help, I really don't know what's going on right now. last year I liked this guy, we got along amazingly, a had a bit of a thing for him. to make a long story short, I found out through mutual friends that I wasn't his type (physica...

Why does my B/f still have pictures of his ex girlfriends on his laptop? Would it be unreasonable if I asked him to delete them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4810 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together one month, but we were seeing each other before that for about 4 months as I moved away and we had liked each other for a year previously, now were finally together I couldn't be happier, although I seem ...

Why is my G/f behaving like this?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - The first time discovered my girlfriend on the internet asking for quickies and affairs she became angry when I tried to discuss it and she just told me I`m paranoid and was being mentally abusive by making allegations through my own guilt, and I ...

Boyfriend cheated on me and now I can't trust anyone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4810 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Why would he do that to me? what did I ever do to him:(? I loved my ex boyfriend so much, I thought he loved me too. He was so sweet and so lovely but then he asked to go on a break and started acting weird. Then he broke up with me saying h...

He seems really interested in me, yet looking at his Facebook account, there are many signs pointing to the fact that maybe he already has a girlfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - I met a guy at a club last night and we were interested in each other so we swapped names and numbers (I didn't kiss him or go back with him or anything, just talked). This morning he added me on facebook, has been texting me LONG texts all day, and ...

Should I be concerned that the guy I'm dating is still occasionally logging on to the online site we met on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4795 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - I'm wondering if I should be concerned that the guy I'm dating is still occasionally logging on to the online site we met on. Here's the background: - We've been dating for almost 6 weeks - We live two hours away from each other - He told me...

Is it true that A Man can't win? Why does it seem that women are ALWAYS right? Feels like that to a guy !

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4809 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - We've all heard the saying that a man can't ever win. But no-one ever explains why! So, quite simply, here it is. Women make the rules. And even if the man makes the rules, Women enforce them. For example, Have you ever had a situation that spa...

Do I need to explain to her that it will not always be this way? She ends up paying too often. It's temporary.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

27 October 2011 (M) - So, i'm a teenager, in full-time education. I run a band, and the Band is getting more and more popular by the second, and have just signed onto a label. Unfortunately, this actually means being really busy, and getting literally no money. However, ...

Am I jealous? Or wrong to feel this way? She took me shopping to find a present for her ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4810 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - So, i'm in an AMAZING relationship with my girlfriend. She makes me happier than anything in the world. However, i get so upset about certain things. For example, she speaks about her ex alot. Like, "once we went to this place and it was grea...

I do have the confidence to ask a girl out. But do you think I sound likable to girls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4808 days ago

26 October 2011 (M) - I am very nice, really cool, strong, tough, funny, loyal, really sweet, a caring guy. I do have the confidence enough to ask out a girl. I'm not trying to rush in these things, when ever I meet a pretty girl I just smile and be nice. When I h...