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writes:Ok so there's this guy, I've liked him for about 4 months. His name is X and we met at a battle of the bands back in January. In June we started texting and getting to know each other. (: He turned out to be a really sweet guy, and always said cute things and stuff. However, we both realized we liked each other. Whenever I get my phone taken away or it gets broken, whenever we start taking again after he seems really distant.. like he's not even into me, and it takes a while for him to get into me again. This has happened alot. I'm 14 and he's 17. :P However, lately it seems like he doesnt' like me at all. He says that if he ever stopped he would tell me, but I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one he likes, or wants. He says that if I wait he'll date me. He talks to me everyday, but all he ever wants to talk about is sex. I've noticed I dont want a relationsship like that, and tried tmove on, but it seem somewhat impossible.. :( He makes me happy, and I am comfortable around him, and he's like the super cutest guy ever but I don't know what to do.. is he worth the wait to date, or should I just move on? :o
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reader, Nizbit +, writes (30 October 2011):
Nizbit is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much :) you've all givin me the same answer and helped me out immensly. Taking into consideration, I chose to stop talking to him for now. I don't want that and I refuse to take it. I told him we should just be friends and not to worry about the other stuff. He accepted, and so far its going good. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2011): Oh sweetie please, plesae, don't fall for this boys silly words.I've been there in the same situation at your age, this boy is probably saying the same thing to many other girls, it hurts and you probably don't want to believe it because you believe when he says he likes you, but the honest truth is, he is a 17 year old teenager who is just interested in sex. Which you are far too young for.And he says if YOU WAIT he will then date you? What a jerk. I'm sorry darling but for a guy to deserve your time, you need to be what they want, but telling you to wait for him? Have you ever asked him why you have to wait for him? Don't wait. You already know that's the answer, he seems like a sweet guy but please honey don't fall for it, he is just saying what he can to get in your pants.It's horrible realising these situations and can lower self esteem tremendously and cause embarrassment, but it's very good you realise that it's probably not the right thing to do to wait for you. Move on sweetie, because he won't change, and if you ever end up dating him, he will only pressure you into sex and break things off if he doesn't get them.Boys can be so cruel at that age, it's not only the males though, some females are just as bad, just stay strong, get out maybe meet some more guys your own age, and if I guy only ever wants to talk about sex, give him the flick instantly, he's not worth your time!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 You've answered your question yourself : you don't want this kind of relationship.
So, what are you waiting for ??
No, of course it's not worth waiting for a date !
First, what's theer to wait, his convenience ? If he liked you, he'd asked you out alreday ! He's probably invlved with someone else and keeping you on the bences just in case.
Second, if sex is all he talks about, sex is all he wants. Are you looking for sex only ? At 14 ?
Last, so far you've have engineered everything, and pushed and shoved for attention, and he's been reacting in a lukewarm way. Of course he warms up when you are persistent enough and stroke his ego enough , anybody would , particularly at his age. But if you'd leave him be, you'd disappear from his mental radar in no time.
And, with these premises, are you still waiting for a date ?...Too naive even for 14.
You CAN move on, and you'll find it much easier than you think the moment you take with yourself the firm committment to archive this false start and do just that, move on. But , until you indulge yourself with wishful thinking and perhaps , ifs and buts, it won't happen.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (29 October 2011):
 It sounds to me like he isn't the nice guy you might think he is.
If he only talks to you about sex and them seems distant sometimes it could mean that he is doing something called "sexting".
Unfortunely as you are rather young he could of thought you would be none the wiser so he could take his opportunity to strike.
He only talks to you about sex for one probable reason, so he can get off on it. And then once he's done he does'nt want to talk to you because he isn't in that "mood".
It could simply be harmless questions about sex and nothing explicit but there is a possibilty he could still be enjoying it.
I would stop conntacting him.
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