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Archived questions from: October, 2007 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

I got pregnant, we got married, he treated me badly, now years later he is trying to mend things, but I don't love him, is there any hope?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6260 days ago

31 October 2007 (F) - I'm extremly confused!!!! Been married for almost 13 yrs. and been together for 15, I had gotten pregnant 5 months into relationship, so i guess i thought it was right thing to do to get married, I thought i loved him, i think i did but i was 19 ...

I live with my in laws, and I feel suffocated in my marriage! My husband is not willing to change this as his mother would feel "deserted."

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

31 October 2007 (F) - ive been married 6 months, i live with my in laws this is something my husband is not willing to change any time soon. He is afraid that his mother will feel deserted if we leave the parental house and even bought a bigger house so we would al...

My inlaws have been in touch with my husbands ex girlfriend and I feel betrayed

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6260 days ago

31 October 2007 (F) - My in-laws have been contacting an ex-girlfriend of my husbands. This women and I do not get along at all. She says that her child is my husbands this he says he is unsure of. DNA testing isin the works. It makes me upset that they are contacting ...

Even though it is just a friendship, since she kept it a secret I am disturbed and want it over

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6218 days ago

31 October 2007 (M) - 8 months ago I discovered my wife was emailing an old guy friend I had never met that she had known from high school. She had written like 40 emails, all very long, one a day. I was very hurt and mad that she did not even bother telling me as ...

I want to leave my husband for my secret boyfriend, but am afraid my family will be angry

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5206 days ago

31 October 2007 (F) - I am in such a difficult situation that I am feeling really desperate with nobody to talk to about it. I have been married for 11 years and have been unhappy for the majority of it - although I have tried to dig in and keep going trying and hoping ...

Is he having a mid-life crisis? Should I go for divorce?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6254 days ago

30 October 2007 (F) - Not sure where to start. I found out my husband was cheating because he was acting wierd and then my 4 year old daughter said that daddy's friend and her kids met them at pizza. It kinda got my wondering... I confronted him and he said they were ...

He's content and happy, but how can I get him to open up to me and have a proper conversation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6261 days ago

30 October 2007 (F) - Hi I hope you can help me. Ive been married to my husband for 16 years, we have two children one of each. Life's been great so far but it looks like we have hit a rocky patch. We do all the things a normal couple do and both have our outside in...

Should I have a sexual relationship with anyone even though there are ways to prevent spreading herpes? - may have caught it from the current husband, sometimes I resent him for it.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6190 days ago

29 October 2007 (F) - I am still in love with my ex husband and I am remarried. We have done a lot to hurt each other in the past. We were young when we got married and he cheated the whole time. I know I am not happy in my marriage now, but I have several things holding ...

Bullied into marrying this man, should I leave him now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6263 days ago

29 October 2007 (F) - Hi there. I married last year in response to an ultimatum-move to the next level or break up. I knew at the time that fear should not have been a part of my decision, but I was not ready to let go-even in spite of the many emotionally abusive ...

Does he love me, or does he just have separation anxiety?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6264 days ago

28 October 2007 (F) - Hi,I would like to know your opinion on this. My husband cheated on me after 5 years of marriage. We have been separated 3 times since the war started one year deployments. The last time he was gone for a year is when he cheated. Now he is gone a...

How do I focus on my marriage, when I still think about the man I couldn't date as he was my brother's best friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6264 days ago

27 October 2007 (F) - I have beening carrying a flame for my brother best friend for a long time, I was his 1st but we never dated because of my brother, we had a fling for a while without him know and hooked up again, I am now married for one year, but I think of him a ...

I'm not convinced he really loves me... Should I stay with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6266 days ago

26 October 2007 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years i'm 33, he's 40 and got engaged last christmas. We have had a very happy loving relationship in this time apart from one incident on his part with another woman about 3 years ago. I forgave him and we moved on ...

Divorcing is a disgrace to my religeon... But I feel trapped. Help me!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 6259 days ago

26 October 2007 (F) - In my religion, it's a disgrace to divorce, and very rare. And the thing is, I've had a husband since I was 13 and now, I'm 19. I feel trapped, I see myself just doing everything for him, with him forcing me to do things, to have sex with him, get a ...

Can anyone please help us to work things out? Please take some time to read this.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5976 days ago

26 October 2007 (M) - There are several threads on this site that are similar to what I am about to present, but none go into the open, honest detail that my wife and I have with each other, and so I would like to present this here, and which I would like the community's ...

How can you tell if your husband doesn't love you anymore?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5023 days ago

26 October 2007 (F) - How can you tell if your husband doesn't love you anymore?...

He cheated on his stag night, now she's pregnant!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6266 days ago

25 October 2007 (F) - I have been with my husband now for 13 years we have 3 children and another one on the way. We got married in August and i have just recntly found out that he has been having an affair with somone who he met on his stag night, now she is saying ...

Should I get rid of him and get on with my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6267 days ago

25 October 2007 (F) - I have been married for 7 years. We dont do anything together or talk and have had no intimacy for 4 years. When he goes to the pub he comes home late expecting his dinner. I think I still love him but can't put up with it anymore. I need a bit ...

I got married 3 months ago and feel trapped!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6268 days ago

24 October 2007 (F) - I ive been in a relationship for the past 5 years and we have a 4 year old boy. I have a great home and dont want for anything materialistic but feel very trapped. I got married 3 months ago. Months before the wedding day I was having second ...

I read her secret diary

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6266 days ago

24 October 2007 (M) - In my wife dairy, she has a crush for a marry man at her work. In the dairy she stated that how much she love his smell, touch, and hug. She also mention that she have problem concentrating at work when he is around and dream about making love to ...

I am approaching the point of giving her an ultimatum.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6267 days ago

24 October 2007 (M) - God I need help. I haven't slept in two days, and am an absolute wreck. Trying to make a long story short, past year been trying to have a child with no success, extremely stressful. Lately my wife has become distant. She said she is depressed ...

He says he has a 'business relationship' with a previous paid escort to him

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5959 days ago

23 October 2007 (F) - My husband has been seeing escorts for a few years (not sure just how many), I found out 2 years ago. He says the physical part is over (I'm not so sure about that); but he has a business relationship with a previous provider. Really! He writes ...

Why do I have sexual dreams, but I am never in the mood to have sex with my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6269 days ago

23 October 2007 (F) - I never get in the mood to have sex with my husband. We have only been married about 1 1/2 months. We were friends for a long time. I used to be in the mood every night, the last time I was pregnant. This pregnancy, I never want to. However I have ...

I feel like a prisoner. My wife is trying to alienate me from my family. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6269 days ago

23 October 2007 (M) - My wife has been bringing up divorce lately, sometimes jokingly, sometimes not. I've never been in this situation before so I'm hoping someone can tell me whether our relationship is worth saving or if we're better off apart. My wife doesn'...

How do I go about marrying a Turk?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

23 October 2007 (F) - hi i have a turkish bf and he says he loves me everyday and i love him and he has asked me several times to marry him i am suppose to be going over there in november to be with him and he wants us to get married then but i have not got a clue how to ...

I insisted I was sorry and he accused me of harassment. Was it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6268 days ago

22 October 2007 (F) - please help, i've been unhappily married for the last several years, just recently ive met someone ive fell for, nothing has happened yet but fot the past five months we had been sending each other very pesonal text messages, just recently i ...

My wife is cheating and acting like a nymphomaniac with a neighbour. Should I tell his wife?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 6191 days ago

22 October 2007 (M) - About a month ago I found out my wife of 11 yrs (we dated 10 yrs before that so thats 21 yrs together) has been cheating on me for the last 3 yrs. I also found out she was text messaging a neighbor and his friend alot and wanting to have sex with ...

Help, My hubby won't sleep with me.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6033 days ago

22 October 2007 (F) - My husband doesnt like having sex with me. It really depresses me so much - I see people on TV etc in love scenes and it upsets me. I have been with him since I was 17 and the only man I have been with. I know people have good sex lives but that is ...

Am I the cause of these angry outbursts? He humiliates me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6138 days ago

21 October 2007 (F) - My husband is a good provider and we have had a good life so far. We have two kids, one teenager and one pre-teen.He is good to me, but when he gets angry with me or the kids, he shouts on the top of his voice, he uses obsene language and just goes ...

Who is right and who is wrong? I woke up in the middle of the night and my husband was at the PC, chatting.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 6271 days ago

21 October 2007 (F) - We had a great day together. Around midnight I went to bed, he was watching a game on TV. I woke up at 2:30am and he was not in bed. Without much thought I went downstairs. He is on his computer, chatting. He said he was chatting with his coworkers. ...

How can I describe to him what it's like to have sex with someone who's so drunk they hardly can recall it? He hid this "habit" until after we got married.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6270 days ago

20 October 2007 (F) - I'm 51 y/o, married 7 months to a total alcoholic, functional in all ways, but a drunk nevertheless. He hid it from me until after we were married. I knew he drank a few beers a day, but not also at least a 1/2 pint of vodka, too, straight from the ...

My husband's parents cause us to fight all the time because of their bickering, how to tell them without risking them to destroy my marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6272 days ago

20 October 2007 (F) - My husband's parents won't butt out of our business they try to tell us how to live our lives and raise our two children. They don't respect us as parents and they cause us to fight all the time because of their bickering, how do I let them know ...

I have everything I ever wanted. So why am I unhappy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6272 days ago

19 October 2007 (F) - what is wrong with me ?. i have just moved into my first home with my partner, i have a beautifull house a wonderfull partner a supportive family and a good career ahead of me but im so so lonely and down. i feel so lonely i have nothing to compl...

I can't understand how he can be happy in this marriage knowing well I love another man who I'm unable to have any contact with. Or should I just be content with what I have?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6273 days ago

19 October 2007 (F) - I'm married to a really nice man, my best friend really, since 1996. For him it's always been real love but I've foregone the passion as I never thought it was that important, but as the years went on I found it more and more difficult to meet my ...

I'm married, but thinking of an ex! I'm so confused and don't know what to do.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6268 days ago

19 October 2007 (F) - Dear Cupid, I seem to be in a lot of confusion...i have been married for 3 years now. i also have a son of 2 years with my husband. My problem is that my past relationships seem to haunt me terribly in the sense that i would love to revive the...

Why wont my husband be as saucey with me in the bedroom as he has been with others?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6273 days ago

18 October 2007 (F) - I know my husband bought lingerie for women before voluntarily and did kinky stuff like videotaping having sex with them and bubble baths together. I've been with him for almost two years now and we have not done anything like that. The other da...

Regarding sex, I want to reject my husband on our date tonight to show him how I feel when he constantly does it to me!

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 6197 days ago

18 October 2007 (F) - Sex is great when we have it, we just don't have it that often. We have sex maybe once a week to appease me. That's not what I want and how I want it. I want him to want it/me. He says he does when questioned but he does not show it and does not say ...

Is my husband of 10 years gay?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6235 days ago

18 October 2007 (F) - Hi I have been together with my husband for 14 years; been married for 10. I'm confused. I think he may be a little gay. He goes on about a lad at work all the time and he also is really homophobic. Not sure if that is a good enough reason to th...

Feeling like Ozzie and Harriet

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6273 days ago

18 October 2007 (F) - Been together with my hubby 5 years but were more like brother and sister, never had brill sex life but now non existent anyone got any idea were to go from here ?????...

Cheated on my husband and now I'm pregnant.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6272 days ago

18 October 2007 (F) - I am in love with a man and he is really good to me. However, I cheated on him and he was always working and not making any time for fun with me. I am pregnant and wondering if I should tell my husband?...

I cheated on my husband while he's away at war, but now I want to fix it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5638 days ago

17 October 2007 (F) - Well this situation is pretty sorted. I feel like the most terrible person in the world. I cheated on my husband while he's away at war! What kind of person does that???? Anyway, here's my situation. Thanks for reading. My husband went away to Afg...

Married to an alcoholic. Can you please advise me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6016 days ago

17 October 2007 (F) - Hello, I'm a wife of an acolholic husband and would like some advice other than my family and friends as sometimes I think they tell you what you want to hear. We met when I was 21 and he was 33. I was a bartender and thats where I met him. He was a ...

He's "miserably" with his wife, I just separated from my spouse. He wanted to date me in high sch. We met recently and there was an undenyable chemistry. How do I approach this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6275 days ago

17 October 2007 (F) - I try not to read into dreams to much as I know sometimes they are meaningless and/or fantasy, blahblahblah...... But I had a dream lastnight that I can't get out of my head. About 1 year ago I ran into an old highschool friend of mine. We are ...

Shouldn't he be the one getting therapy, since he caused the marital problems? Who is in a denial here? Does therapy work? He said it'd be better if I didn't dig back to our issues...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6275 days ago

17 October 2007 (F) - Am I losing my mind. I am so unhappy in my relationship that the only way to keep peace and not to bring up stuff from the past that affects our immediate future is to talk to people with more marital problems than i have and help them solve theirs. ...

He rows with me every time I wish to go out with my friends but he goes on holidays with his wife and says they're just friends? Am I a fool?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6273 days ago

17 October 2007 (F) - i have been seeing a man for three years who has been seperated from his wife for 5 years, however, he phones her every day, spends one day a week with her, and has now gone away on holiday with her. he says they are just friends and that they are ...

He was trying to have sex with someone else. How can I control my anger?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6275 days ago

16 October 2007 (F) - i would like to hear from women whose husband has cheated on them and stayed in the marriage and survived. my husband told me 2 months ago that he had afling with a woman. they didn't have sex because he couldt go through with it on both occassions ...

He doesn't satisfy me - any hints?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6275 days ago

16 October 2007 (M) - I have been married for 23yrs Usually he takes time to come. But in the last few years he no longer makes the effort after making love he masturbates to come. unsatisfied wife. any hint...

We started to treat each other just as friends for 4 yrs. I think my wife's staying for the sake of our daughter. Can it better? Should I leave?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6274 days ago

16 October 2007 (M) - Hi, I've been with my partner for 15 years and married for 5 of those,she says she made a mistake marrying me and only loves me as a friend,we haven't slept together since our daugther was concieved 4 half years ago,s...

Should I stop trying to help my alcoholic / abusive husband and force him to help himself?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6276 days ago

16 October 2007 (F) - I'm not sure what I should do here. I have been separated from my husband for approx. 45 days now due to his alcoholism and mental/physical abuse. I've still been trying to help him by letting him know that I have not given up on our marriage and ...

I found out my husband has been watching gay porn!

This question has 50 answers - newest was posted 4661 days ago

16 October 2007 (F) - I just found out that my husband of 13 years has been watching gay porn on our computer when I go to bed earlier than he does. I'm completely floored and haven't talked to him about it yet. We do have sex but not as much as I would like. I don't ...

My husband is selfish and uncaring. I'm not happy in my marriage. What do I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5988 days ago

16 October 2007 (F) - I have been married for 4 years and don't know where to start. i'm 35 yrs old and married to a pilot who is gone a lot. I have a son from a previous marriage and my husband resents my son just because we have to pay for tuition and things that he ...