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writes:HiI hope you can help me. Ive been married to my husband for 16 years, we have two children one of each.Life's been great so far but it looks like we have hit a rocky patch. We do all the things a normal couple do and both have our outside interest. Sex is good.The children are fine and doing well at school.My husband is successful and worked his way up from a paper round, to milk man, to owning his own business manufacturing motorcycle accessories, and crash helmets.Here is my problem. He just won't communicate. He talks about general stuff in detail like his hobbies, and some times talks to me in Italian whilst making love. He speaks three languages in total and always ask about my hobbies and takes an interest and sometimes participates with me.But when I ask him how he's feeling, he just say content and happy.Now this as got on my nerves. When I go out with my friends for a coffee I have no problems to talk about, and feel left out of most of the conversations.Though I still talk about fashion and stuff, because I make most of my own dresses, I'm a fashion designer.Well I've continued to ask him about his feelings, and still I get the reply content and happy.We paid a visit to the country about a week ago, walking by the river we were having a lovely time, so I thought it was a good time, to let him know he was safe to let his feelings out. He said the most weiredest thing. His name, a number, and the word private, like a soldier.Now I feel I don't know this man at all, the sex life has took a dive too. I've suggested we go to relate, and get his head sorted out.If things don't change i'm thinking of leaving him.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): I am a bit confused too, so you must be! I honestly don't get the name, number and private thing????? What was that all about other than perhaps he was implying he was under interrigation? Bit strange. That may need answering from a male's point of view!
It worries me that you are feeling that you should now leave him. Why? I understand the difficulty if you feel he is keeping problems inside and not sharing, but to not work through it and just leave him seems a little harsh.
What else has he done to make you feel he is a lost cause? Has he always been like this for the 16 years? Or has he just changed recently... I am a bit lost as to what is really up. Until you know that you have no where to start.
Perhaps others have more insight at this stage that me!
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