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writes:i have been seeing a man for three years who has been seperated from his wife for 5 years, however, he phones her every day, spends one day a week with her, and has now gone away on holiday with her. he says they are just friends and that they are not having sex. he is controlling of me as he insists on phoning me every day too, rows with me every time i wish to go out with my friends, but insists that he loves me. am i to believe they are just friends, or am i being a fool?
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reader, tranquility +, writes (19 October 2007):
tranquility is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Tommy7, Sorry for not answering your question. Here goes, he is 60 and his wife he is seperated from is also 60, I am 44, his two kids are all grown up, my three kids are all under the age of 15. Can't wait to see what you advise now. Thanks
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reader, tranquility +, writes (18 October 2007):
tranquility is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the three wonderful people that responded, I say a sincere Thank You.
He is back from his hols with his wife tonight, he has been phoning me every half hour, I have NOT answered the phone once!!!!!! Resutlt!!!
It is hard to realise that someone you love is actually making a fool out of you, particularly if they are so clever at telling you they love you, by buying you presents (guilt presents I am now sure). I thought it was me being over sensitive, but obviously if others can see what I am afraid to acknowledge, I must finally wake up and smell the coffee!! (Just love that expression) Good to have people that can tell you what they honestly think, with no personal involvement. I wish I had come to this site before now, and I thank everyone concerned for it.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (17 October 2007):
You didn't mention whether or not he has kids. If not, you are a fool.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (17 October 2007):
 Dear Tranquility
I am sad to hear that you are in such a terrible relationship, why do you punish yourself in this way, he has you just ware he wants you, speaks to wifeee every day, spends one day a week with her, and if not to insult you enough, he goes on holiday with her, then when you want to see friends he rows with you O girl why are you putting up with this rubbish, do you want to spend the rest of your life being a door mat,let him go on his holiday, and when he is away get yourself out there and find a guy who is willing to treat you with respect, to love you for you and be with you for the right reasons, if you do not then in a year or two you will end up as twisted as he is,he does not know the meaning of the word love if he treats you this way.
get out there girl smell the roses
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): Why are you putting up with this???? I would run like hell and get clean away from this one. He goes on holiday with her!!! Are you completely mad, of course they are having sex. He spends one day a week with her, er why??? For goodness sake, wake up and smell the er coffee!!!
take care
xx
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