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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I ive been in a relationship for the past 5 years and we have a 4 year old boy. I have a great home and dont want for anything materialistic but feel very trapped. I got married 3 months ago. Months before the wedding day I was having second thoughts but was convinced it was pre wedding nerves. My husband doesnt really help much with our child and I feel like ive completely lost my freedom and my personality. I take and pick up our son up from Nursery, I work 4 days a week, I look after our son while my husband plays football also if he goes out with his friends. I feel so depressed and tired. I have spoken to him about this MANY times but he says im just being over the top! Its now got to the point where he will just walk out of the room if i mention it! Im starting to wonder if I would be better off leaving because I think I would feel happier but ive only been married 3 months, how bad will that look to my family and friends!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (24 October 2007):
 You can't worry about what friends and family will think of you if you left him, anyway i think you will be surprised at the support you will recieve from friends and family if they know the situation.
If you are really not happy and he has no interest in listening to you when you try and talk to him about this then why should you stay?, i agree with peoriaman marriage is a team effort and it sounds like he has some growing up to do and start to realise he has responsibilities.
Take care.xx.
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reader, dazzleberry +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Firstly don't be afraid of what your family and friends will think of you, if they love you they will understand. but try and work through things, you don't mention whether you've been treated for depression as this is an understated illness you may want to check thing's out with your GP. Although you have been together for 5 years marrage is a life changing experience which can take some getting used to, try mentioning couples councelling as this is very benificial to many people you can refer to RELATE via the internet, if you and your husband still love each other this could be the way to go. But all in all your son is the most important factor in this problem and if this is affecting him in any way you may need to re-think thing's. shine on, dazzle x
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