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writes:Hi, I've been with my partner for 15 years and married for 5 of those,she says she made a mistake marrying me and only loves me as a friend,we haven't slept together since our daugther was concieved 4 half years ago,she hasnt let me kiss or cuddle her for many years too,i think she only stays for our daugthers sake but i still love her,she wont go to any marriage guidence,i hoped things would get better but after so many years living like friends am just kidding myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): My daugther gets all the love & attention from me & my wife
just like any normal marraige so thats not not an issue there's not really a coldness between us,we just live like
brother & sister & have done for about 5 years..
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reader, hotty +, writes (17 October 2007):
i think deep down you know the answer. if you continue to stay in a loveless marriage and just for the sake of your child it may cause resentment towards her. your wife has openly come out and said it was a mistake to marry you, why hold on to something that obviously isnt there? let your daughter know that you love her everyday and on her level let her know that the breakdown in the relationship is not her fault. Everyone deserves to be happy, please dont sacrifice your happiness on a lost cause.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): I feel for you as, like you wife, I feel the same way towards my husband but the harsh words have come from him that "he doesn't see me in that way anymore" and that "it was a mistake to get married". Words like this are so cruel and run deep and I'm not sure you will recover from them. You are obviously a very caring man and so my gut instinct is that you will also be a great Dad - whether or not you stay with your wife. The point is that life is not a dress rehearsal, your parents did not look at you as a young boy and hope that for the rest of your life you would be unloved and make massive compromises. Would you wish that on your child? You owe it to yourself and your daughter to give and receive all that love has to offer and if this is not going to happen in your marriage then you must, absolutely, move on.
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reader, Yogichickk  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 I have a gf who treats her husband the same way because she does not enjoy sex with him. Could that be a problem?!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (17 October 2007):
You have a hard decision to make. Most guys would throw in the towel.
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 October 2007):
 Good intentions with a possible bad outcome. It's great wanting to stay together for the sake of a child. That takes patients, and sacrificing. But doing it this way, with no affection, the child will end up suffering.
It could get better, but that's up to the will of your wife too. What your teaching her by having a very cold marriage, is this is what love looks like.
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