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writes:Hi,I would like to know your opinion on this.My husband cheated on me after 5 years of marriage. We have been separated 3 times since the war started one year deployments. The last time he was gone for a year is when he cheated. Now he is gone again and is all paranoid that I will cheat on him or will ask for reasurrance on the relationship. The thing is that when he was with me he did not show his affection to much cause I guess he was getting over the affair, emotional/sexual. We did 7 months counseling and before he left for the last 3 months we started to reconect. The separation was really emotional and diferent. My question is: Does he loves me or he just has separation anxiety? He has become really jealous and wonders where I'm at all times. He keeps reasuring me that he loves me sexually and that he wants me and how great I'm sexually. But at times he also withdraws and make no contact for 2 to 3 days Why is he doing this?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 You are most welcome hon and I hope that it helps.
Have a blessed day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Thank You for taking the time to reply. I appreciated.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (29 October 2007):
Hopefully he has realized that he loves you and as you said you were reconnecting with one another. I am sure by now he knows just what he has to loose Since he is the one who messed up by cheating he could be afraid that this time you won't be there waiting.
I once was seperated from my husband of 5 years when he left to go to Korea. He cheated too. I can say that we stayed together for another 9 years after that. What could I have done differently? I really don't for sure. We however never had counseling when he came back and I regret that we didn't as it might have worked at making the marriage work better. That is a plus on your behalf.
I will say that if I were you I would send lots of letters and cards from home, pictures of family and friends. Make lots of nice ones of you and any children you might have. Try doing a scrap book of memories you two had in your last 5 years to keep his memory fresh. Call him from time to time so he can hear your voice. Make a video or cd for him.
Try (Ham radio operators.) They usually do this for free to military families. If you can't figure any other way to call check with the military command post. They are here to assist you. It is hard being in a war zone so far away from family and freinds. Keep him close at heart and let him know it!
I hope that your marriage will turn around. Pray for God to watch over him and to help bring him safely back to his loving family. God bless you all.
Godspeed.
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