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Archived questions from: 27 October, 2009 (see latest in Big Questions category)

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Why is the father of my baby so stingy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - What to do if your boyfriend is stingy but earns three times more then you?? I just broke up again with my boyfriend cos the little things started to eat away at me. First - am pregnant and he is being totally unsupportive. Well he had bought me...

I've been an emotional zombie ever since my fiance passed away.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - 3 years ago during the summer of 2006 I met my fiance at a family get together she was friends with one of my sisters and we hit it of great. We got engaged in Spetember 2008. we got in to a car accident coming home froma news years eve party 2008 ...

The whole time we were together, I used Viagra, and she doesn't know!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - I dated a girl a couple of years ago for about a year, she went her way and I went mine. She now lives in a different city. However, recently we have been talking a lot on msn messenger and it feels like we are on the verge of maybe getting back ...

I suddenly have this weird feeling that I am gay!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - I am 13 and I have loads of girlfriends and about a month ago I have been having this weird feeling that I am gay and I don't want to be, I want to straight! What is happening and when will it go away? Please help, I don't want to be gay, I have ...

Should I propose to him... or should I give him more time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hello Everybody.. I need you opinion, been dating this guy for about 4 months. I am in love with him, i think he is the one for me. He makes me so very happy. Last week we decided to take a break because he is going thru something at the moment and ...

Is he, did he, will he cheat? At a loss...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Never thought I'd do this but here goes... any advice appreciated... My husband and I have been together over 3 years. I spent the 1st year drumming it into him why constant sexy emails, calls and texts from EVERY ex he's ever had is NOT cool. He...

I don't want to be gay but I keep getting this feeling... help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

I am in love with a married woman. What can we do about it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - been married for 14 years have 2 beautiful kids but i'm not in love with my wife anymore i'm in love with another women who is also married 20 years. went to school and graduated with this women her marriage is bad also she is not happy we want to ...

Can I help unstress her? How?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - hi i'm 18 and the girl i like told me she does'nt think we should get together because shes so busy at uni we now only see each other at wrk and wknds but txt all the time is there anything i can say or do to help relieve all her stress shes been ...

Did he ever have feelings for me? Or was I used?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I have been involved with someone for around three years he is Indian and I am British.He deceived me and went to India and got married and he broke my heart,we split up nearly a year ago and I still think about him sometimes.The biggest thing for ...

Is sex overrated?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - As the scrren name may suggest i have done a lot of things in my short life, however there is one important thing i am yet to do , and yes , it is to lose my virginity . I am purely writing this looking for honest answers to the question, that is ...

Should I give him time? Or should I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - please read this although its long i really need someone to help me. i was with my boyfriend for three years, ten months into the relationship he cheated on me, it lasted for three weeks until i found out. we stayed together, and his cheati...

He backed off after I told him the truth about my past!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I met somebody about 8 months ago, he seemed to be a really genuine guy with good morals and lots of ambition like me and I really thought it could go somewhere. We had several dates and was all going well only I made the mistake of admitting I had ...

Good girl or bad girl?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - hii.. oh im 19 do i have a bad past or what? when i was like 16 there was a guy i go to church with and i made out with him one time after that i cut him out my life i didnt really wanna be with him... it was bascially me feelin lonely... up to this ...

Not being able to help my husband in his time of need is killing me. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I am in love with this wonderful person who i just found out is a very sick man, he has a few mental issues, anger managment has helped him get over his anger but worst of all the doctors think he may have testicular cancer. I love this man very ...

What to do?? I am I being too possesive?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hello, Am i being too posessive? i was with my boyfriend and he got a text of this random number, that hadn't been saved on his phone. when i asked who it was, he replied, " i don't know it's been texting me all week".so i started to text the number ...

What is happiness?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - When I was in a serious relationship with my ex-girlfriend few months back, I was not happy being around her....constantly thinking about our relationship 's future since she was from rich family and I was from middle class having no secured job ...

Does my girlfriend's dream mean anything?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (?) - Hi, My girlfriends has had many dreams that have come true once she dreamt her father passed away and a week later he did the next time she had dreamt something about her ex. Now she has had a dream where she has been locked up in a room and im wi...

Is there anything I can do to win her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5506 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Three months ago I took a trip to my hometown of Palm Springs California. I moved away four years ago and I had to leave in my senior year in high-school and moved to Bakersfield California finishing my senior year at Liberty High School. Back when ...

What do I do to get it into his head that I do not want to get into a relationship with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5363 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - theres this guy, call him David, i had got to know him during this camp thing from our school which was for 11 days in june last year. we had got pretty close and after we got back, he asked me out sometime near end of august. after eight days i had ...

We have decided to move it together. Good or Bad idea?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hey i turned 18 last month. Me and my bf have been together for 9months and hes 22 and has a secure well paid job. I live with my mum and sister but everything i have they pick at we dont get along what so ever and i spend majority of time in my ro...

Why am I avoiding romantic relationships?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm wondering if it's weird to be basically an adult but just dated one guy for 2 months. I'm scared of the whole dating thing and feel uncomfortable with the fact that someone wants to be with me? I feel that because I am so against the...

Does she think she is not worthy of me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - my ex gf cheated on me and then broke up with me the next day. She didnt tell me til about a month later and said that was the reason she broke up with me. She said she felt guilty. I forgave her and we remained friends. We even discussed hangin out ...

I'm only 34 but I feel like my life is over

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - hey everyone i really need a sympathetic ear here. im 34 years old and feel life is over. im in a dead end job, in a debt programme for the next 4 years and am alone. everyone around me is happy engaged or married and i seem to only be with peo...

Can someone contract diseases such as HIV and others during kissing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Hi Cupid,I asked question here before and i got a reasonable answer. I appreciate that. my question is, can somebody contact diseases like HIV and others during kissing? it confused me sometimes. i don't know how to kiss and i want to try that. ...

Is this guy using me? Or does he like me back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Ok so theres this guy who ive known for years and i didnt relise how i felt for him til not so long back wen sumthing happened to him and it hit me hard. Basically i love him but i dont know if he feels the same because he laffs at me wen he's ...

Is she breaking up with me? What does she mean by 'needing time alone'?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - If my girl friend said to me that we are not breaking up but she ask for time apart is she breaking up with me?...

Should I end our relationship? Is it too stressful for him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hello. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 1/2 months. I have kids and he told me initially that he wasnt ready for a relationship which I accepted because neither was I. We went out and since then I've gotten closer. He says that he didnt think ...

Why do I feel guilty about ending her emotional affair?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My wife had what I figure was an emotional affair a few years ago. There was a lot of texting. I don't think there was any physical contact and she came totally clean about it in the finish. It devastated me at the time and had a pretty bad affect ...

How do I approach her about the lack of sex in our marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My wife and I have been married for a little less than 2 years and we dated for a little over 2 years before that of which more than a year was spent in different continents. At the outset I must say that I love my wife and feel fortunate that s...

Did he cheat with his child's mother?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - sorry to write such a long story. i believe my bf cheated on me with the baby momma on saturday, i phoned him late that nyt the lady picks up and said my bf was asleep and cant speak to him, i hang up.. he called me the following day to say that ...

My girlfriend and I are 14, we want to have a baby, any opinions?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 5482 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend are deeply in love and want to have a baby. Were 14...

How does one delay ejaculation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - okay so here is my question. I am confused about the concept of premature ejaculation. I am a virgin but am talking about sex with with my GF. I can ejaculate fairly quickly by myself if the mood is right and i put my mind to it. Obviously ...

Out of all of my dates, I don't want to date any of them again, am I too picky?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - In the past month I have been on numerous dates. Out of all these guys I don't want to date any of the guys. They all have great qualities and I have a great time with them but I don't want to continue dating any of them. Does it sound like I am ...

There is a guy who lives a long way from me, but I like him a lot, how do I get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5505 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - There is one guy I want to date. He lives a ways away and its hard to get together. I am trying to get over him because I don't think it will work but ever since I have met him there have been numerous guys who want to date me. I find none of ...

Did I do the right thing by calling my ex back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

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How do I tell her I have a thing about feet?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - So me and my girlfriend love each other very much and I trust her a lot, enough to maybe reveal my secret to her. I have foot fetish, she has the cutest feet I have ever laid my eyes on, and she makes it so I can't keep my attention off them some ...

How do I change my name legally and what would be the cost?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - dear all friend, can anyone tell me how to change a legal name? and how much it will cost me to change the name? i immigrant to California, usa, about 5 years now, and i just got my citizenship so i decided to change my name. now i got to many thin...

He wants his space and thinks I need it too!

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, we moved in together after the first six months. I love this arrangement and spending time with him, but he feels like he doesnt have enough space and has suggested living apart again when our ...

How can I tell my friend of 7 years that I like him as more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Hello! I just recently got out of a relationship that lasted for 2 years and we lived together, so pretty serious, but it didn't work out for us. We mutually decided to break up although I was the one who brought it up because I started to like one ...

What is so gross about breast feeding?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Why do other girls give me looks when i say im breast feeding my baby? why does people think its gross? i mean thats way babys are ment to be feed. i think with it being flu season and babys die from the flu it would be selfish for me not to breast ...

How do I get my husband to feed the baby?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I just had a baby a month ago and my husband worKs alot and when he is home i wont him to care for the baby to bond with him and also so i can have a brake to get things done that i cant do while i am holding a baby. well the baby does not realy ...

I have cheated on my husband resulting in 3 abortions and now he wants a baby!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - its been 10 weeks since my abortion im trying for a baby but it keeps coming negative.iv had 3 abortions. Due to careless behind my hubbys back.but now my hubbys really desperate for a baby.please help....

I can help but think my boyfreind's ex is a better lover than me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I've written here before, but I'm afraid I just can't get past it. I (20 years old) have been with my boyfriend (22 years old) for a little over nine months now. Everything is going fine, though we're both very busy holding down full-time jobs and ...