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writes:hi i'm 18 and the girl i like told me she does'nt think we should get together because shes so busy at uni we now only see each other at wrk and wknds but txt all the time is there anything i can say or do to help relieve all her stress shes been pulling all nighters non stop n missed a seeing a gd comedian because she had a presentation any tips on how to show her im still here n get her to feel better bout it all and xmas present ideas fnx for reading :) Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (27 October 2009):
If she's too busy, you don't want to bombard her by trying to relieve her stress. Putting any extra pressure on her or giving her the idea that you want anything more when she doesn't will only add stress to her life. Just be a friend to her and be there for her if and when she needs you, but if you like her more than a friend, don't set yourself up to be a doormat.
As far as a Christmas present, I don't think it's really a good idea unless you know she's getting you one too. If she doesn't get you anything, she'll feel bad that you got her something and that she didn't get you anything. If you feel it's necessary, don't get anything too expensive and let it be something that has to do with stress relief like stress relief fragranced bath salts or lotions...maybe a giftcard so she can download music? Or if she's really stressed, alcohol never lets me down (haha...as long as it's legal).
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
She sounds like she's very dedicated to her uni work at the moment. I don't think you can change that. Just be a really good friend. Listen to her if she needs to be listened to. Help her if she needs help, and just make sure she knows she's always welcome to go out with you and other friends, and make sure you still talk to her so she knows she's not alone. You may not change her, but you can be a good friend. She will appreciate that. As for a Christmas present, you'd need to know more about her and you'd need to know if she was comfortable gien you're not her boyfriend. You can give her a card though.
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