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51-59,
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writes:I have been involved with someone for around three years he is Indian and I am British.He deceived me and went to India and got married and he broke my heart,we split up nearly a year ago and I still think about him sometimes.The biggest thing for me is that I feel he made a fool of me and i feel used and it hurts.We are not in contact anymore I had all my numbers changed as I felt truly deceived and so heartbroken when he announced he was happily married on the phone.Just would like to know from others if they believed that I was used or did he have feelings for me?I have to know for a little bit of sanity
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2009):
I'm afraid he did use you, yes. His marriage was probably arranged for him, and while he was here he wanted sex and went with you. I know you'll be hurt, and I'm very glad that you've changed your numbers and started to make preparations to move on. He has treated you cruelly, and I'm sorry for that. But don't beat yourself up. You could't help what he did to you, and you really shouldn't blame yourself or sit around upset about it. Now you need to start loving yourself, giving yourself time to grieve for what has been lost, and just taking positive steps to move on. Make sure you're socliazing with friends just to get you out the house, and why not try taking up a new hobby that allows you to mix with other men and women? You'll find your Mr Right. Just take your time, really get to know a man when you're interested, adn when you're ready, you'll find him. Good luck
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 October 2009):
 It is hard to know for sure, what his motives was/is. Sure it is not uncommon for men who are to have an arranged marriage to date women outside of their faith/culture til it's time to do as the family wants ( marry a picked out bride). It doesn't mean he didn't care for you or even loved you. In the end he did what his family expected of him.
I'm sorry he broke your heart.
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