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writes:Hello. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 1/2 months. I have kids and he told me initially that he wasnt ready for a relationship which I accepted because neither was I. We went out and since then I've gotten closer. He says that he didnt think he would get so close to me and now he's very confused because he wants to be with me and finds it difficult to walk away but thinks that he wont be able to handle my situation (kids) and in the end we will get hurt even more. He says he thinks about it all the time but he cant seem to make a decision. I told him we should just take it slowly and I'm not expecting anything from him. But I do care about him and wonder if I should just walk away if I'm causing him so much stress.... at the same time, we are so good together and I dont want to make a mistake. Can anyone give me some advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 October 2009):
I'm afraid he's having trouble accepting that you already have children. He said he wasn't ready for them, and that probably meant he wasn't ready to take on yours as well. And there's the problem. You and your children come together, and if he can't accept them into your life, then he can't accept you. I think you need to sit him down adn tell him that he has to accept you and your children come together, or you'll have to move on. You don't want to be in a position where he just thinks and never gives you an answer, when you could go on and find someone else. Talk to him, tell him you come with children and tell him if he can't accept that, you'll have to move on. Good luck.
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