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writes:Hello Everybody.. I need you opinion, been dating this guy for about 4 months. I am in love with him, i think he is the one for me. He makes me so very happy. Last week we decided to take a break because he is going thru something at the moment and he said he needed some space/ not breaking up just some time to sort things out. We were pregnant and i miscarried, its been really hard to deal with. I did not want to except the fact that he needed a break, he says that its not anythng i've done he just needs some time, i respected it because i love him and i want us to work out. We usally talk every day, but we haven't spoken in about 1 week. I did text him to say i love him and to let him know that i love him and i miss him. He didn't reply, i didn't expect him to but.... i want to call him some time next week and ask for him to meet up with him to grab a drink. I also was thinking about proposing to him (i know awkward) but i love this guy so much and i know he loves me. He is truly going thru something and i want to give him some time for him to think about things.. he doesn't really show his emotions he rather gives u than try.. so before i love the man i love i want to propose to him. I love this man to so much i want to spend the rest of my life with him. Should i go for it or should i just give him some more time???
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reader, nickaust1971  +, writes (27 October 2009):
don't call him he will back right off...I've been through this and Im going through it now.I want to call my girlfriend but I dont want to loose her so I have to be strong.If he comes back then he will and I hope your relationship will be very strong.Also dont propose to him you dont realy know him well enough to be with hime for the rest of your life.good luck and remember to be srong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): This sounds strangely one sided girl! If he loves you so much why does he not prioritize the relationship? Needing a break from his commitment to you after ONLY 4 months is not a good sign.If you were to marry this men, there is doomed to be some times when you wont see him as much as you have up until now. Are you sure your love will handle that? You sound a little pushy now just because he's been away with no contact for a week. Would you last going longer without seeing him?You sound more infatuated with him than you sound dedicated and loving.If this is the big thing, the one you want to be with forever, it wont hurt to wait a little. At least until the guy has his feet under the ground and knows where he is with himself before he can say where he wants to be with you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 October 2009):
No, don't propose yet. I am sorry you had a miscarriage, and I hope you're receiving counselling, or at least making sure you have some support around you.
Unfortunately, when a couple lose a baby, a lot of attention is put on the mother, because it is assumed she needs more comfort. Men tend to end up being let to deal with it themselves, and often have to have a lot of time and space so they can come to terms with what has happend.
It's just too soon to propose. I know you love him, but if you propose now, he'll be even more confused. Give him his space, and ,maybe in another week just ring him to see how he is, but don't excpect him to come back. He needs to be allowed his time. Just keep focusing on yourself at the moment, then ring him in a week and see how he's feeling, but don't propse yet. I wish you all the best.
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