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writes:my ex gf cheated on me and then broke up with me the next day. She didnt tell me til about a month later and said that was the reason she broke up with me. She said she felt guilty. I forgave her and we remained friends. We even discussed hangin out sometime. I was actually goin to try to get back with her and I think she sensed that cause I told her that i wanted to hang out with her really bad. She texts me the next morning and says she never liked me and hurtful things like that. I know its not true because I had a few ppl tell me that she was interested in me before we ever started dating. I think she told me that to try to make me stop liking her cause she was afraid of hurtin me again if we started dating. Could I be right? I would like some more opinions. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): Putting myself in her situation I would be likely to do that too. To tell you hurtful things just to keep you away. However it is a slightly odd way to go about it. It shows that she doesn't like herself for what she did, and would like you to be mad at her, angry with her. If you still want her after she confessed what she did, hurting you saying things like that might make you angry at her, punishing her the way she feels she deserves.I think it was honorable of her to pull out of the relationship with you instead of going on in a lye. But more honorable would be to put herself in the weak spot and let you judge how the relationship should be from now on. In other words: she chickened out. She was afraid to take responsibility for her actions, and dropped the entire relationship with you. Sit her down and look her deep into the eyes. Tell her you know that what she said wasn't true. You know she cares for you. And ask her honestly, does she want to be in a relationship with you? I think pushing you away is much easier for her, than having you push her away. But it might just be the punishment she needs. Tell her that if she does want to be with you, YOU are the one who gets to decide whether you end the relationship or not. Then if you decide to take her back, make sure you need to work on things, she has to earn your trust back. For your own sake, you need to work on this too, so that you won't turn into a man who is constantly watching his gf to make sure she's not cheating again.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 October 2009):
I'm not sure where she's at. At first, I thought there would be a chance that you could get back together. She cheated, finished, but you seemed to be getting closer. But then she texted you that she never liked you and said hurtful things. I think she's very confused at the moment, and I'm not really sure what she wants. To be honest, I'd avoid her. She doesn't really know what she wants and I think you would be better off meeting other people who won't hurt you this way.
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