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writes:I am 13 and I have loads of girlfriends and about a month ago I have been having this weird feeling that I am gay and I don't want to be, I want to straight! What is happening and when will it go away? Please help, I don't want to be gay, I have nothing against them I just don't want to be. its like i lose the acctraction for girls and get a sort of acctration for guys then i get accrated to girls but all my life i have been acracted to girls and this has just started Reply to this Question
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reader, hillbillyash +, writes (30 October 2009):
hi there it sounds to me like maybe your hormones are playing with your feelings.from the people i know that are gay (my brother for one)they have all told me that they KNEW they where gay from as early as 12 they only went out with girls so they did not get picked on at school.why dont you try looking for a help center or a site for gay people or confussed people and anonymously (if it makes you feel better) and one that is registerd and deals with things like this properly for you safety and try talking thigs out with people who have been trhou the same or similar thing as you are. or you perant(s) if you feel that you can talk to them about it.i would advice you NOT to talk about this to a 'friend' as ive been 13 and thses things tend to get out in the open (not saying that being gay is a bad thing,just i know what teenagers are like as i've been one) really hope you try and get some help and advice,and dont let it worry you ok :0)
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reader, openmind  +, writes (30 October 2009):
First of all i hate to say it but being gay isnt a choice and you cant just will it away. If you repress your feelings you will end up quite miserable, i am not saying that you are gay ofcourse my friend but if you are gay or bi then there isnt a damn thing you can do about it so stop being down on yourself if you cant accept your true self gay, strait, or bi then you cant expect others to accept you. But for now you are just thirteen so chill and enjoy life while its easy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): Well, if you don't want to be gay (I know I didn't), all you can do is hope that your gay feelings just go away.
Maybe they will. If so, the problem is solved.
Or maybe they won't. Maybe they'll get more and more intense and overwhelming as you get older (I know mine did). If that happens, you're left with two choices: either repress your sexual identity (very very difficult), or accept it and learn to love it.
At age 13, it can be shocking and pretty terrifying to find out that males turn you on. You'll most likely go through a fairly traumatic time with lots of soul-searching as you try to come to terms with the reality of your sexuality. Lots of guys have been there, and come through it and gone on to live happily.
But there's no rush to label yourself gay/straight/whatever at the age of 13, this might just be a phase. I would say that if these feelings persist for a couple of years, that would mean you're gay or bi, which ISN'T the end of the world, though it might feel that way sometimes.
I hope it all works out, whatever way it goes. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): At your age you are developing your identity and your sexual identity as well. You are a soup of hormones and intense feelings and being an adolescent is all about being self centered and self absorbed.
I would not worry about being gay. If you are strongly attracted to females then you are not gay. You may just be wondering what it would be like to be attracted to a male and also at this time in your life you can have some pretty passionate relationships with other same sex friends with no romantic feelings or sexual attraction, you just really like the guy and that is cool.
It will all work out for you in the end, just stop obsessing about it and go with the flow of life.
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reader, jaydizzle +, writes (27 October 2009):
 its ok you just have a curiousity in guys right now. if you dont act on them then you should stay straight.
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