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Archived questions from: February, 2020 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I feel disrespected because we make plans and his son changes them

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1752 days ago

29 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone I’m reaching out for help as I’m very frustrated. I’m 40 my boyfriend is 42 both divorced and has a kid, same age 12 years old. We have been in a relationship for a year and kids get along well and once in a while we plan for them to meet and do some activities. ... (306 words)

After 10 years my partner has become my room mate and I'm feeling bored.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1752 days ago

29 February 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm not sure what to do in this situation. I am 30 years of age and I've feel like I've had so much going on in my life for ages, I've not been able to have a clear head about what i want romantically. I've had a partner for 10 years, but it's just sort of been this ... (458 words)

He says he will never marry me, which makes me think I am not good enough.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1747 days ago

29 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey all been with my partner for a year I've moved in with him and it's going great he has 2 young children who he sees alot and we have a great time together. Hes been married twice and engaged once. I've been engaged twice and married once. We are in out 40s and between us ... (170 words)

I can't forgive somebody who betrayed my trust.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1755 days ago

29 February 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - What to do if you can't let go of your grudge from that person. My ex-best friend asks for forgiveness and all my friends forgive her. Well, I stayed silent and didn't give any information. I know, I'm a bad person but how can I forgive someone who betrayed my trust? Please ... (58 words)

Men say they cant understand why I am single, yet go on using dating sites!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1756 days ago

29 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Over the years I have had some male friends/admirers who are interested in me romantically but either come across as introvert or lacking in confidence I'm not sure. I am an introvert but am confident. We will get on well and flirt but something holds them back from taking it ... (169 words)

She left because I didn't propose after 2 years of dating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1756 days ago

28 February 2020 (M)

age 51-59 - Hi, I will quickly describe the situation, though I ask you to please not to condemn me harshly. I am in my upper 40s, never married. Met a woman two years younger, also never been married. We dated for two years. It has been my first long-term relationship. I know I have all ... (392 words)

How do I deal with discrimination from a co worker?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1756 days ago

28 February 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - So I’ve been at this job for almost 6 months now my coworker has been here for 8 and I’ve recently noticed that when I ask him a question directly he does not address me. Example: I was sending him a message on our IM system asking him a question for a client and the when he ... (137 words)

I lied to my girlfriend about why I don't drink alcohol.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1754 days ago

28 February 2020 (M)

age 36-40 - About ten years ago, I was a heavy drinker. One night, I got so drunk that I am surprised that I didn't die. I even threw up all over myself and the bed while I was sleeping. After that night, I quit drinking completely. When my girlfriend and I started dating, I told h... (84 words)

My sister is never there for me. Our relationship is so unbalanced

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1757 days ago

27 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been really depressed recently. I've had bad anxiety for years and it's really starting to get me down. I used to have times when it would come and go but now it's a constant. I've made a lot of changes like eating hwalthy, not drinking, sleeping properly, getting outside, ... (545 words)

My boyfriend appears to lack empathy for others.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1754 days ago

26 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all I’d really like some input as to weather I’m being over sensitive . My partner and I don’t see eye to eye on certain matters and I am having a problem distinguishing if I am being too sensitive or if he is missing empathy and human compassion . He’s quite a detached ... (347 words)

He treats me like a queen, but has an appetite for other women, should I leave him ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1758 days ago

26 February 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello I'm 30 years old. Been with my bf for six years he's 32 years old. He's good to me, he's affectionate, loving, kind, considerate, charming etc. I just moved in with him in his parents home,I know what it sounds like, I was going through some situations with my family I ... (312 words)

My husband doesn't understand my stress over immigration

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1755 days ago

25 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid i do not know how to make my husband of a year understand. we are in immigration process (i am from a diff country), and process is stressing me out since this will decide whether i can live here with him or cannot. He thinks i am over reacting and will not get pre... (208 words)

I feel like I'm being a bad friend but she isn't respecting my wishes

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1759 days ago

25 February 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm upset at a friend and scared for our friendship. We used to be best friends but lately things haven't been going well at all. Long story short she positively ID bed bugs in her apartment. She asked multiple times if she could stay with me and I had to google them to freak ... (337 words)

My boyfriend has a leash on him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1758 days ago

25 February 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I am starting to really dislike my boyfriends aunt because she has a leash on him. I want to clarify that I have been in a happy relationship for about 7 months now and I am really in love with him but I cannot deny that his aunt annoys me. I would like to rewind to when w... (564 words)

My friend was like a sister to me but then suddenly cut me off - why?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1760 days ago

24 February 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 27 and in a relationship, but this is a question about a friend. Before any of you jump in saying that it's weird for straight taken guys to have female friends, let me just say that I've had female friends since I was about 3 and that just because I'm in a relationship ... (455 words)

My boyfriend has had more sexual partners than I am comfortable with. How can I find a way to accept this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1676 days ago

24 February 2020 (F) age 41-50 - I'm struggling with the number of sex partners my boyfriend has had before meeting me. I've only been with one other man besides him and that was my ex husband. My bf has had sex with way more people than I have. But he says his morals and values are aligned with my own. When ... (409 words)

I went home for the weekend and returned to find my rented room trashed!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1760 days ago

24 February 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi Agony people. Just wondering can someone tell me whether I’m right or wrong. Rent a room off a lady for college term. Stay Sunday night to Friday and go home every weekend. She is away but at the weekend her son had a party and some people crashed in my bed. Don’t mind ... (93 words)

Is anyone else 'Asexual'?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1758 days ago

24 February 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a 26 year old man and have never had a relationship or any kind of sexual experience, ever. In truth I haven't even tried to because to be blunt; I'm just not interested in it. Going through puberty I did feel like I wasn't like my peers. Whilst they all began to talk about ... (277 words)

Roommates keep eating my food and making messes after or as I clean and then there's the dog.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1759 days ago

23 February 2020 (F)

age 22-25 - I lived in the dorms freshman and sophomore year but now I live in a three-bedroom apartment with M, her boyfriend in the master bedroom and my friend H (gay male) in the second bedroom. I'm in the third bedroom. I brought my mini fridge, microwave, and laptop with printer to ... (935 words)

Should I stop being so uptight and be happy that I'm wanted or should I go it alone again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1761 days ago

23 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a broken person. I know this, i know that my abusive relationships and sexual abuse as a child has had a big role to play in how i cope with things. I am quitr a strong person but it took me alot to get here. Im over protective and now i have a no bs policy to anyone i ... (228 words)

We met on a dating app and spoken for 3 weeks but he hasn't asked me on a date?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1761 days ago

23 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - So I've started to get back into the dating scene after being single nearly 2 years. My friends suggested online dating, which I don't really like the idea of, as I prefer to meet a guy naturally but Ive given it a whirl anyway. I've matched with this one guy who states he's ... (190 words)

Despite a live in boyfriend my life is a lonely one.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1754 days ago

22 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my partner for almost 3 years. We have lived together for 8 months. When we are together I feel comfortable and content, most of the time. I am feeling lonely recently because he has been choosing to go out with his friends both Friday and Saturday night. U... (589 words)

Troubled relationship with co worker involving politics has taken its toll on me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1757 days ago

22 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there, The nature of this post is dealing with work relationships rather than personal relationships. I've been at my company 5+ years. I recently achieved a significant award and recognition. I'm a field employee as opposed to internal management. Returning this y... (584 words)

I was asked to be a Matron of Honour, but I can't really afford it.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1763 days ago

22 February 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - To cut a long story short, my friend got engaged 6 months ago and asked me to be her maid of honour but since then she’s asked me to go to one wedding fair (which I couldn’t go to due to my child being ill) yet her bridesmaid has been to several with her and they’re always ... (185 words)

I need tips on how to overcome nerves.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1763 days ago

20 February 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - In the past year Ive started to become interested in comedy and without sounding too big headed lots of people say im funny and witty etc . one of the things I like about myself is my humour , I enjoy knowing I am making people laugh and happy I like to think . I have rec... (251 words)

I'm broken from a cycle of cheating and being cheated on.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1764 days ago

20 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My long term bf cheated on me few yrs ago so I had a revenge affair. it only brought misery and guilt to me when I found out my ‘affair partner’ is a serial womanizer. I broke up the affair 8 months ago but I’m not able to let go. Also I want to tell his wife about the othe... (111 words)

My boyfriend keeps cancelling plans for me to visit him while deployed.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1764 days ago

20 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is currently deployed. On 3 separate occasions we have made plans for me to travel to see him and he has canceled for one reason or another. Initially I bought into his excuses, but at this point I am skeptical. We have only been dating for 9 months and he has ... (144 words)

Was it a good idea to make a fake account and test my lying boyfriend?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1761 days ago

19 February 2020 (F) age 26-29 - Hello agony aunts, I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. It's been a very rough relationship because we were always on and off because of his controlling behaviour. He lied to me about his age, his family and about him not talking to other girls. We had an argument ... (348 words)

Working with an ex, how do I keep things professional?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1765 days ago

19 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupids, 3 months ago a young calleague and I started getting closer at work and we started seeing each other. He's from the uk and has an ex gf with a 3 yr old daughter. Naturally i wouldn't go for a man with that sort of baggage, but we hit it off so well that I made ... (294 words)

I feel like I'm treading on eggshells at work and don't know where to go from here

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1765 days ago

18 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I started a new job nine months ago. I come from a very different background (many aspects) from my employers. I’m female and relatively young (mid 30s) versus my employers (group of men aged mid 50s-60s). They hired me for my experience which is pretty unique and hard ... (337 words)

Should I trick my husband to let me watch him and a friend?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1762 days ago

18 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all. This might seem an unusual problem for some. I've always known my husband is quite flexible when it comes to sexuality. In college he told me he had a friend that he experimented with on numerous occasions and it never bothered me. Infact I was never really intereste... (236 words)

My in laws have caused so much friction that my husband and I are on the verge of splitting up

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1763 days ago

18 February 2020 (F) age 36-40 - Hi aunties.. firstly thank you for supporting me in this very tricky time in my life. I feel very alone at the moment and am struggling to make sense of everything going on.. so here goes... I was dating a lovely man for around 3 years before he popped the question to w... (999 words)

In love with 2 men I am just in limbo at the moment and don't know which way to turn

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1763 days ago

18 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I have never been so tormented. I am in love with two people. I have been with my boyfriend for 12 years but I got to know someone else. It started as friendship but somehow we have developed feelings for each other. I now have no idea what to do. I didn't mean for this to ... (155 words)

I constantly feel pressure to have sex even when I just don't have the emotional energy and it makes me feel frustrated and resentful

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1762 days ago

18 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm really confused about what to do and I need some advice. Thanks in advance. I'm 36 and engaged to my fiance. We have an exceptionally loving, caring, and loyal relationship. There's no issue there or question about that. Well about a year ago, I had a freak incident... (492 words)

I just moved in and everyone wants me to share my things

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1765 days ago

17 February 2020 (F)

age 41-50 - I just moved in to an apartment complex for low-income people. Before that, I was (1) ten days in a detox facility (2) 90 days in a rehab (3) one year in a Sober Living home and (4) six months in an (shared) apartment for ex-felons who are trying to move into their own place. ... (808 words)

My ex boyfriend got angry about pics on social media.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1766 days ago

17 February 2020 (F)

age 36-40 - I split up with my boyfriend about a month ago, we've not been in contact much since then, but he's gotten angry with me about a photo he found on Instagram. The photo in question is me with a Snapchat filter, the one with the bear ears and nose and because I was in a towel y... (200 words)

Should I try again with the woman I dumped?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1763 days ago

17 February 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my girlfriend because she had a degree and gets paid more than me. She has her own place. I moved back in with my parents because I’m going through a divorce. I have a crappy job she tried to help me find a better one. I kind of miss her the sex was amazing! ... (109 words)

Arranged marriage, should I tell my fiance about my past?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1766 days ago

17 February 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - HI , I am 25 from India. So i was in abusive relationship with a guy from school for 5 years approximately. Through those times he cheated multiple times and dumped me badly. So i was heartbroken went into depression. It was very bad phase in life. I changed from being good ... (217 words)

Am I too messed up and damaged to ever have a happy relationship?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1764 days ago

16 February 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 26 and have lived in a toxic, emotionally abusive household my whole life. I come from a culture where you're guilted into never moving out until marriage. (I'm saving up to move out as soon as I can though). Also, if I ever go no contact with them, my life would be made ... (397 words)

Is casual sex that much better than relationship sex? If so, how can a woman in a long term relationship ever compete?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1768 days ago

16 February 2020 (F) age 51-59 - What's so good about casual sex? How does it differ from sex in relationships? And why would people risk a long term relationship for casual sex? Is a stranger or someone who doesn't care that much better in bed? How can a woman in a long term relationship ever compete??... (50 words)

I want to let go of him with understanding not hatred

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1765 days ago

16 February 2020 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a slightly odd question about a previous relationship that I'm still trying to figure out aspects of because I'm trying to heal and really move on. I am NOT the kind of person who just walks away from things. I know I give far more than I should in relationships and in ... (973 words)

I've just discovered I am the OTHER WOMAN!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1765 days ago

16 February 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been in a sexual relationship with a man for over almost 4 years now. I do not have feelings for him, but had always wondered why he was so distant and indifferent towards me throughout the 4 years. Long story short I just found out through instagram that he has a gi... (322 words)

My husband's actions have made me feel I'm not worth much anymore.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1764 days ago

15 February 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - We've been married for two years now, but all these wounds that I've gotten during our relationship haven't healed. I want to move on so badly from everything but I don't know how. I want to say my anxiety is what is keeping me from thinking about these situations and hurting ... (563 words)

The man I've been going out with made sexual jokes about my friend.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1763 days ago

15 February 2020 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been going out with this lovely man for about 3 months now. We have been official for 1 month. I think he is a great man, goal-oriented, and self-driven. I really like his bubbly personality and how easy it is to interact with him. He makes jokes all the time and I am... (275 words)

This girl is bad for me, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1767 days ago

15 February 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - A long time ago in college there was a girl who was very close to me, very touchy feely and all that. I fancied her, had a really huge crush. Though I didn't know it, she had friend zoned me. One day she said she was moving to the west coast and will be leaving our college. I ... (290 words)

I need answers and support.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1770 days ago

12 February 2020 (F) age 30-35 - My last post here I got super judged on here and went into a depression. More then I already am. So please be kind. I m a 30 year old single mom of an amazing 4 year old. My child’s father and I were together (we never’ married) for 5 years and split. We were on and off for the ... (494 words)

How Do I Get My First Date Before I Turn 30?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 1770 days ago

12 February 2020 (M)

age 30-35 - I am a overweight, not very handsome, not particularly smart or interesting, bald, geeky, awkward male virgin. I am very introverted to say the least. I've never even kissed a girl and I've never been on a date. When I get nervous, I stutter and my teeth chatter so talking to ... (131 words)

I'm a bit naive, how do I get myself out of this pickle?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1771 days ago

12 February 2020 (F)

age 26-29 - I have a co-worker who has a bit of a crush on me. He has been persistent in trying to go to the gym together and he can "show me how to work out". It's actually starting to get a bit annoying because he keeps mentioning it every day on our break. Not only that but he is ... (263 words)

Attracted to my and wife's mutual friend

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1772 days ago

11 February 2020 (M)

age 41-50 - Need help. I became somewhat close friends with a woman a few years back because our kids were in same class. For the first year or two, we just exchanged occasional text about school ect and , although my wife wasn't as close, my wife knew we were friends. Fast forward to ... (344 words)

I don't like the boy my mom has me dating. How do I break up without hurting him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1771 days ago

11 February 2020 (F)

age 18-21 - Dear Cupid, My mom has me and my best friend dating but I don't love him the same way he loves me. He's sending me money and stuff but I have feelings for another person and I'm clueless on what to do. How do I tell the boy i have feelings for i like him and how do i break up... (70 words)