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writes:So I went to high school with this guy a few years ago. I lived in a small town so we all knew each other. I have started "talking" to him and we have grown so close, we have not had sex. Well, this may be TMI but, I have herpes. And I was too scared to tell him so i decided to end the relationship. He would not go for it. He said he doesnt care what i have we will still move forward.I said well dont think I have AIDS or anything trying to lighten the mood up. And he replies (because he is out on the boat we text a lot) "It wouldnt matter to me". SO my question is, is it weird that he was serious when he said this? I was like WHOA, either you are very attached or very careless, (because AIDS is no joking matter really) and he responded "look i told you that i love you and will do anything to be with you" and so on and so forth..Should i be weirded out by the super strong attachment he has already? because i do believe he WOULD in fact be with me if I did have aids. Opinions please??
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe just recently, (VERY RECENTLY) did the "deed"..as in like yesterday..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits not a LDR nor a fantasy, WE SEE EACH OTHER for minimum 2 weeks of the month. hes only out on the boat for 2 out of four weeks. I do not have AIDS, it was a JOKE. we both have children, we both work, we both have no time to go out and party, or go to the bar or here and there to meet people and chave a bunch of people come in and out around our children. So..Im sorry if how i worded my post mislead some of you, but we do know each other in person, we did go to school together, and i do have herpes, nothing else, but when i was scared to tell him (before having sex), i was like "dont worry i dont have AIDS or nothin" to lighten up the mood...thats all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): I would'nt be worried if he is in love with you like he says he is then thats love and people have done things that are even more crazy in the name of love. So if your feelings are strong for him like his are for you then you should go for it.
Hope this helps.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 January 2013):
 he's out on the boat... are you the one who asked if a man at 21 can be ready to settle down???
SLOW DOWN... you currently have an LDR with this guy and LDRs are not the same as being together full time.... until you can see if this will work in real life, it's a fantasy. and in a fantasy you can love and support anyone with anything.
FWIW.. my brother has HEP C and has for 25 years
his husband has HIV and has for about 25 years.
they are not a celibate couple but they are safe and they do not share their respective illnesses with each other..
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 January 2013):
 I think there's a serious matter of responsible maturity that's missing, between the two of you....
Herpes is a fairly-benign infection related to the same virus that gives us chicken pox..... and gives one irritating - but not serious - outbreaks occasionally.
AIDS is also a virus... and is life-altering (if not life-THREATENING, any more)...
His flip reaction to your announcement shows him to be 'way more dramatic than sensible....
You (and he) will be wise to treat this issue seriously if and as you remain together as a couple... It's not quite that same as saying, "Sure, hunchy-bunchy, I love you and I'll stick with you even if I catch your cold...."
You can find lots of information about both diseases on-line, or by asking your Doctor.... Don't let misinformation affect your decisions in life...
Good luck..
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