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*boo67
writes:Hi everyone ok i met this woman about 3 months ago its going ok i really like her mores the point i REALLY like her to where im obsessing over her constantly worried as to where i stand with her she has a very successful career as a solicitor where as i just have a basic warehouse job so i have this 'I'm not worthy' thing going on im now 41 had very little experience in relationships tended to go for women in the past that i knew i could walk away from and not get heartbroken. It doesnt take much of that before u begin to realise you're living a fairly empty existence so ever since i met this woman i can feel im getting overly attached i constantly ask for reassurances from her which are unfair and always give it 'what are u doing with me' rubbish which i know is wearing thin on her i dont want to lose her yet i find the prospect of relationships scary but i know i need to make the leap...any ideas how i can change my outlook...many thanks
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reader, jboo67 +, writes (1 February 2013):
jboo67 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs she has told me the issues are with myself she didn't have issues with me I am a sensitive guy my feelings for her are such that I'm not controlling them and am coming across as overly sensitive I know I need to "man up" as it were no woman wants a man that's overly emotional do they..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2013): I work as a hotel housekeeper, and up until a few months ago, I also worked in a warehouse. Does this mean I'm not worthy of my husband, who is a successful accountant?
The point I'm trying to make is you shouldn't let your financial status get you down. As long as you're happy at your job, and you're making enough to live comfortably without anyone else having to help you out, then you shouldn't worry about it. Your love interest obviously isn't concerned with it, otherwise she wouldn't continue to see you.
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reader, jboo67 +, writes (30 January 2013):
jboo67 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks both of u for your answers she has seen other more "successful" guys in the past that didn't treat her as well as I have been doing she's been great with me listed all the things she likes about me more than once lol but after the initial good feeling it gives me it's never far down the line before I'm worrying again about things she would seem trivial! She's a strong woman has plenty going on in her life a child to look after an 80 yr old mum to take care of and her job in between that so doesn't have time to concern herself with my stupid hang ups..even though I work I have more time to myself therefore more time to dwell on silly things..I couldn't be happier to be with this woman yet I spend a lot of time being unhappy with myself maybe counselling is the way forward
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): The problem isn't that you're getting too attached to her its only natural to develop strong feelings for someone that are with. What you need to focus on changing is the self doubt thats getting in the way. And it is about your jobs then don't worry because she is obviously is with you because she likes you and has seen something in you so if your together theb grow with her.Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2013): I mean no offense when I say this to you. You need some counseling to overcome your fears. This is more than just insecurity. It is something that is deep rooted. Until you find out what that is, you are going to run her away. Take things very slowly with her. Best of luck!
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