Will she always be a cheater? How spot and avoid a cheater in future?
Q. I just have a question about an ex. I met this girl through work, we flirted and it was as clear as day she was interested. But things were kind of weird, she was also flirting with two other guys at my work. I ended up leaving for a few weeks and ...
A. 29 December 2010: I tend to agree w TimmD below.
If there is one absolute I have discovered in dating women - if there was only one thing about dating that I could pass on to my future son - it is this.
Early on in relationship, ask the prospective fema... (read in full...)
My selfish girlfriend
Q. What do you if you are on a relationship with a selfish woman? She thinks everything revolves around her. I love her dearly but I have been holding back on getting engaged because of this issue? Is it possible that with time and cpmmunication she ...
A. 28 December 2010: Good gosh - sometimes I have to shake my head at the questions asked here. How about - "My significant other hits me as hard as they can at least five times a day, and then demeans me afterwards. What should I do? Should we get married?"
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He wants to have a kid but I'm definitely NOT ready for it! Help!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and he asked me if I would have a kid with him. We are both 15 and I just laughed it off as if he was joking and when he didn't mention it for the rest of the night I thought it was a joke. The next ...
A. 21 December 2010: Tell him the cost of raising a child to 18 is about $225,000. The cost of a four year state college is about $32,000. Since these costs are bound to go up at least as fast as inflation, let him know that if he therefore has at least $257,000 ... (read in full...)
He's married, but I want him back. What should I do?
Q. i had been in affair with married man for 7 months. i knew having sex with married man is no good. but he was a good looking 47 years man and he has a nice body. first, he drove me home after work and he was saying he had cheated his wife befo...
A. 20 December 2010: After I read the first paragraph I did not need to read further.
You are openly, knowingly, and willingly had an affair with a married man. You are both to blame. Any heartache that you feel is self inflicted.... (read in full...)
Thoughts on having sex on the first date?
Q. is it ok to have sex on the first date/night you meet someone?? recently i haven't had a lot of sex, its been almost 6 months, and although i thoroughly enjoy it, i feel the need to get out there and have a few one night stands.. ive been chatt...
A. 14 December 2010: If your relationship goal is to be nothing more than a high-five in a locker room, then this is a great strategy.... (read in full...)
I wasn't her first. How do I cope? How do I move on?
Q. How can I let go of the things she did before me? We've been together for almost 8 months now, and we're very happy. Of course, there have been some bumpy spots here and there, but we've overcome all of them. There's just one thing that I ...
A. 13 December 2010: I understand how you feel. Few things -
1 - You have something called retro jealousy. In itself, there is nothing wrong with you, it is simply a product of male evolution.
2 - The more you care about the women in question, the more it will... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about leaving my husband if he doesn't stop looking at porn
Q. I have been married for 5 years now and my husband and I are both young only in our 20's and have 3 little girls I found his porn 6months into our marriage and we have had problems every since he says he's gonna quit and never does and now just gets ...
A. 13 December 2010: Just a hunch - but I highly doubt a judge would grant you a favorable divorce, if at all, predicated on the basis that your husband watches adult movies....... (read in full...)
Am I ready for this baby?
Q. im pregnate and dont know if im ready for this baby.my boyfriend wants the baby but im not sure if i do. we have known each other for two years but we have only gone out for 2 months.i think we are to young for this baby.i have only told my best ...
A. 11 December 2010: Just to be Capt Obvious - you cannot even constuct a sentence in standard English and you are asking if you are ready to have a baby or not......
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Boyfriend won't use condoms because he says they're gross and smell bad!
Q. Hi Im 21 years old and i have been with my boyfreind for 4 years and recently he wont use condoms he says that they are gross they smell and that he cant feel anything when they are on and he gets turned off. it make me upset that he doesnt want to ...
A. 8 December 2010: Ok - tell him thats fine providing the following -
The lastest figures on the cost of raising a child to age 18 is $222,360. The cost as an OOS student for four years at a public college is $74,192 (and rising fast.) That means if you have a c... (read in full...)
Long distance communication problems....
Q. Hello..I've been in a LDR with my boyfriend for 8 months now. When we first met, we talked all the time. He'd text me througout the day and would call me every night. He was always saying sweet things and telling me how he felt about me and such. ...
A. 8 December 2010: LDRs do not work long term. I have been in two of them - both great for a short time - both mistakes.
This behavior will continue because you are not around. Just the way it is. Do yourself a favor and get out and do not get into another ... (read in full...)
Women: Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Q. Warning:(The following contains broad generalizations to illustrate a point, there are no rules nor concrete all encompassing truths in what I write, there are always exceptions. This applies to men too) I've been on this site for a while now and ...
A. 8 December 2010: Why just to "women" though? I could easily say the same thing for men regarding women.
Fact is - words are easy. Actions are difficult. Just all PEOPLE by the latter. Ignore the former.... (read in full...)
Why do women play hard to get?
Q. I don't know if there's something wrong with me, but I get extremely angry when a woman is interested in me but she plays hard to get. Why do women do that? Why can't they just throw themselves at you if they are genuinely interested. It w...
A. 8 December 2010: Because the last thing a guy wants is a woman to throw themselves at us.....
Almost no guy wants a woman that is to easy. In fact, the more they make us work at it, the more we usually like them in the end.... (read in full...)
Has he always felt disgusted by my past and my son's ethnic origin? Or is it just an excuse to dump me?
Q. My boyfriend is a bit older than me, we've been together for about 18months. I have a son from a previous relationship who is 5 years old, he idolizes my bf and I thought the feeling was mutual until just recently. We have been having a lot of ...
A. 8 December 2010: My hunch is his problem is not with the race so much - its that you son is a constant reminder you had sex with another man. That you say he has problems with your sexual past supports this.... (read in full...)
What to do with an arrogant surly girlfriend?
Q. my question is to get the discussion started about this my question is has anybody had a girl friend who disreguards cuts you short when you start to talk says honey dont ask that thinks your untrained e.t.c direguards your funny statemen...
A. 7 December 2010: If you stay there for another minute you're a fool. Actions like this will tend only to get worse with time as well.... (read in full...)
I feel like this is what a real marriage is about, being friends and having a sexual attraction for your mate.
Q. I am a 40 year old, married, mother of two. I am very bored with my 20 year marriage. I have come to realize I married my husband for the wrong reasons (stability, maturity, and fear of loneliness stemming from my childhood). So, basically my ...
A. 6 December 2010: IMO it sounds like you are rationalizing your actions. Of course after 20 years kissing someone new is exciting. It is also cheating........ (read in full...)
I know how much my past hurts him, but now his behaviour is hurting me!
Q. Hi everyone, I am 22 years old girl. I am deeply in love with my boyfriend since 6 months ago. He's an international student, we both met in college roughly one year ago. It was a romantic how we first met, but we didn't start our relationship since ...
A. 2 December 2010: His problem is not that you lied, its that you did it. (Trust me on this.)
He has retro jealousy, a concept not well understood by more than a few posters on this thread. You need to investigate just what that is, why he has it, and if you can ... (read in full...)
I spent a few minutes in the car, now she's mad at me!
Q. I called my gf to let her know that I am leaving work and heading to her place. We usually eat out together when I get there. The trip took about an hour due to horrible traffic. Once I got there, I found a parking space that was close to her ...
A. 2 December 2010: As soon as I read your post, I went back up to the top with the full expectation of seeing an American flag next to your name. Low and behold..... I am an American guy, but I have given up on American women, for exactly the reason that is impli... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act when I've traveled 1,200 miles just to get rejected?
Q. Well I met this girl on facebook and we started chatting casually. We were truely interested in each other. We talked and texted on the phone with alot of pictures for a couple months and so I decided to make the trip over this thanksgiving holiday ...
A. 1 December 2010: Two rules when it comes to long distance relationships -
1 - Never get into a long distance relationship for anything other than a short term (like one time) thing.
2 - See rule 1.
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Concrete, specific, short-term advice for coping with a breakup
Q. It was a wonderful fairytale relationship. She was perfect and we were perfect together. Before our fifth anniversary, she met another guy, and one week later, she dumped me. I know it sounds a lot like many other stories around here, and I've r...
A. 1 December 2010: Im going to be a little brutally honest because you need it. 1 - If she dumped you that fast, then it was no where near the storybook love you thought. What you though to be true and what WAS true were two different things. Your pain now is over... (read in full...)
My friend is so boring!
Q. What do you think of quiet people.? My friend is way too quiet!, but it's like sometimes she will just sit there and say nothing at all. She will talk for a little bit then she would shut up. When others see her sometimes she just gives them a s...
A. 30 November 2010: She is introverted. Its a personality type, not a flaw.
Further, it sounds like you could learn a bit from her when it comes to work ethic and dealing with classless people. To me, her ignoring her antagonists is the ultimate slap in the face... (read in full...)
What is the deal with women and high heels??
Q. I really wanna know the answer to this question especially from females - Do you females really like wearing sexy high heeled shoes or do you do it only for attention. I have heard of shoe fetish but I dont know how far it is true. Does it also have ...
A. 15 November 2010: See what happy24birthday said. What turns them on is knowing they are turning their man / men on.
Do you wear a suit because it is comfortable? Do you lift weights because the results turn you on? These are the things you do for others..... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings and don't know which way to turn
Q. Hi, I posted a few months ago about my boyfriend and things are no better really. We have been together for 14 months now. I am 38, divorced and he is 43, divorced. We are meant to be getting engaged at Christmas but I am having doubts. I have ver...
A. 15 November 2010: Engagement is supposed to be the honeymoon of honeymoon periods. If you have a SINGLE DOUBT during this time, my advice would be to move on. Rarely do I see issues that manifest during this period improve, and the norm would be to for them to get ... (read in full...)
Why do some women feel the guy is ok to hear EVERYTHING about their past?
Q. We had a perfect relationship, until she started getting into details about her past.. I never asked for details, I just asked for a number of partners, and about her last serious relationship.. Why do women feel comfortable with some men to the ...
A. 15 November 2010: You have retroactive jealousy. Its ok, its a normal side effect of being a male, and MANY guys have it in different degrees, me being one of them.
You have a few options. The first is agree to NEVER pry in a womans past that you are dating i... (read in full...)
Why does a girl become special only after a guy cheated on her?
Q. After a guy cheats on girl, why does she all of a sudden the love of his life? He starts saying things like: -Your the beautiful girl i wouldnt trade you for anything -I cant wait to spend the rest of my life with you -You mean so much to m...
A. 11 November 2010: This may sound strange, but I know many guys who tell me how much they appreciate their gfs more after cheating. I think one reason is deep down many guys are disgusted by women who will give themselves easily, and this is most often the case w the ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to her and ask her out? She is very pretty and I am the guy that gets bullied!
Q. I really like this girl in my class (me and her are 14) i like everything about her but i dont know have to talk to her. She is much taller than me :/ and some people dont like me (just for no reason) and sometimes bully me. She is not part of that ...
A. 11 November 2010: Dont let your height allow you to be intimidated. When I boxed competitively, I was five full weight classes heavier than my trainer, yet he could lay me out in about two seconds. Knowledge of fighting will determine the outcome of 90% of fights, ... (read in full...)
Tough love or mean parent?
Q. Ok guys this is a question that is not about love or sex this is a very hard tough love question. My son and his wife split up and i let him move in with me. I am single and have new house and car and bills. He knows i make good money. He has no job ...
A. 11 November 2010: He man enough to have children but not man enough to earn money to take care of them. That is not a man, it is a little boy. Stop enabling this petulant child and make him be man for the first time in his life.... (read in full...)
Husband failed to mention he was eating lunch with his female co-worker!
Q. I just found out that my husband has been lying to me for the past six months (the same time he had just started work at a new location - same company, but in a different area of the state). When he comes home from work, I'll ask how his day was, ...
A. 10 November 2010: Are you the jealous type? He may have deleted the female name just so he wouldnt have to go through a jealous episode. In itself, I see no problem with eating lunch in a group on people where one happens to be from the opposite sex. In fact, its ... (read in full...)
We're both shy, who makes the move?
Q. I'm sixteen years old and have never had a girlfreind, but a few weeks ago (well, 7) I met a girl who is just about perfect, it's just that I have the age-old problem of not knowing if she likes me or not. She seems to be the shy type which makes ...
A. 10 November 2010: Women like men. Men make the first move........ (read in full...)
My wife has never cared about me in our 20 years of marriage, and now I think she is in love with someone else....
Q. i am married for nearly about 20 yrs. but i have never found my wife caring about me. now she is in love with someone else i guess. help me....
A. 10 November 2010: "am married for nearly about 20 yrs. but i have never found my wife caring about me. now she is in love with someone else i guess. help me."
And your still there because......????
And after 20 years you think what is going to change????... (read in full...)
Why are younger women attracted to older men?
Q. I am posting this to ask for opinions more so than answers. It is my hope that the opinions expressed by people in reply to this can help me to answer my question - myself. What I would like to get your opinions on is this Why do you think tha...
A. 10 November 2010: The one word that can sum up 90% of the questions on this board is - evolution. We are a products of our history, and there is just no way around it. Generally men are attracted to younger women bc of fertility. Generally women are attracted to ... (read in full...)
I feel more like roomates with my wife, I desperately want to feel wanted but she is so cold and it has led to me starting an affair....
Q. I have been married for 21 years. My wife is a wonderful person. Kind. Caring. Hardworking. A great mother. She is a well paid nurse. I do well running my own business. We have two teenage children that are doing great in every measure. ...
A. 10 November 2010: #1 - End the affair immediately. What is occuring to you is not an excuse for adultery. If you decide to divorce, then you may do whatever you wish.
#2 - You sound like you have done the right things w date night and the 20th annivers... (read in full...)
Why do some women wish they were taller?
Q. The question is easy: why do some women wish they were taller? This is the reason most women wear high heels for example. I'm just wondering why, is it to scare off predators or do they just think taller women are more attractive? Is i...
A. 10 November 2010: Im a 6'0" nordic white man. My gf is a 5'0" (vertically challenged she calls it) Colombian woman. We are almost complete opposites in every way. Probably why we are like magnets to each other........ (read in full...)
After 14 years, what should I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 years in a common law relationship. He is honest and trustworthy, and we have a lot of fun together when the times are good. Over the years, I've always worked full time and consider myself to be quite ...
A. 10 November 2010: Dont kid yourself, it IS about the money. You just admitted so yourself by saying you believe in a 50/50 relationship.
IMO, you let this go on to long and in doing so reinforced his behavior. You need to have a very frank conversation with him... (read in full...)
Why am I feeling sick to my stomach at the thought of him with another woman?
Q. I broke up with my b/f one month ago due his really bad temper. He has never hit me, but will break and throw things when he gets mad. Sometimes over trivial things. I knew it was best for me to leave him, which of course he threw a fit when I did. ...
A. 10 November 2010: You clearly made a decision you were better off without him. You need to stick to that thought whenever you think of him with someone else. He's her problem now.... (read in full...)
How do I talk to her and ask her out? She is very pretty and I am the guy that gets bullied!
Q. I really like this girl in my class (me and her are 14) i like everything about her but i dont know have to talk to her. She is much taller than me :/ and some people dont like me (just for no reason) and sometimes bully me. She is not part of that ...
A. 10 November 2010: Nothing is more attractive to women (of any age) than confidence (if not arrogance.) My suggestion to you is to first start standing up for yourself. Take up boxing if you need to learn how to fight. (I did - it worked wonders for me.) Trust me, ... (read in full...)
My ex abandoned me during my pregnancy, started taking drugs and now wants to come back
Q. I am pregnant and due in less than a week with my first child. The father and i broke up around my third month of pregnancy because he decided he did not want a baby..in fact he said it was solely my fault i got pregnant.. and refused to help ...
A. 10 November 2010: "The father and i broke up around my third month of pregnancy because he decided he did not want a baby..in fact he said it was solely my fault i got pregnant.. and refused to help support us by quitting his job.
He also starting popping painkill... (read in full...)
Any suggestions, as I watch her try to decide what to do with her marriage?
Q. I am a male, age 56 and recently left a 30 year marriage after falling in love with another woman...Gosh, heard this before, I'm sure. Anyway, to complicate things, she is in an unhappy 30 year marriage herself and is in love with me as well. We ...
A. 9 November 2010: My view on this -
You are 100% married until you are 100% divorced. This is almost exlusively a binary condition.
I cant help but to wonder why people thing getting into a marriage is such a big deal, but getting out of it is completely non-c... (read in full...)
My wife's been going out with her ex!
Q. Well I guess my story is not much different than so many on these forums. It is somewhat comforting but also depressing how much of this goes on. Here is my story...my wife of just over a year, recently admitted to me that she was still seeing a g...
A. 9 November 2010: If you believe that this stopped (or will stop) with pictures, then I have some Florida swampland to sell you.
Once again, you have all the information you need to know about this woman. Is this what you call marital bliss? All I know is I wou... (read in full...)
My lover is threatening to tell my wife everything and have me beaten up if I don't leave my wife for her!
Q. I have been having an on off affair for 3 years, and I just don't know what to do, I have a good wife I have been with since I was 17 and 3 beautiful daughters, the woman I am having an affair is loving and the sex is just fantastic.... but ...
A. 9 November 2010: If you knock on the devil's door long enough, sooner or later someone is going to answer...... (read in full...)
What do I tell her when I ask her out?
Q. Simple question. Do I tell her exactly how I feel, or do I just ask her out? Or both? Thank you....
A. 8 November 2010: If you want any shot at this girl, DO NOT REVEAL YOUR FEELINGS EARLY. Esp when you first ask her out. In my epxerience women do not like or respect men who do that.
Your angle should be Joe Cool as a Cucumber. Kinda like - "Hey lets go out, but... (read in full...)
She doesn't even care...
Q. Uhm Hi. I'm only 16 years old, going on 17 and my girlfriend is the same age as me, though 8 months younger. I've been with my girlfriend for a bit over 17 months. Things were really good when we started going out: she was really nice to me, she ...
A. 8 November 2010: What you have just explained boils down to something like this -
I give 100% to her.
She give me nothing.
Can you please help?
You say you "love" her. We dont love people narrowly speaking. We love what they do, who they are, their acti... (read in full...)
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