I'm in love with my mistress, but can't divorce my wife.
Q. Hi all. I just registered to this forum after googling to see if I'm alone. I am in the same situation as many of you and I'm completely devastated. I have been married for six years and have two wonderful kids with my wife. over the past six yea...
A. 7 December 2012: I didnt read anything past the question itself, as I didnt think it was necessary.
In romantic relationships, you need to finish one thing before you start another. No exceptions. End of story.... (read in full...)
Is he a player if he's busy on the weekend?
Q. Hi, I just met a lovely guy, he's South American and seems like the perfect guy. He's sweet, attentive, funny, complimentary etc. We met only 3 days ago and slept together on the first night - there was so much chemistry and we were both pretty ...
A. 7 December 2012: I just asked my fiancee this question, and I think she's a good proxy since she is also South American.
Her answer -
"Not 100%, but only maybe 99.999% percent chance that he's a player."
and added
"With South American men, never listen... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy sex, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi, I'm 17, and I've had sex before and done other stuff too, but I don;t enjoy it. The thought of doing anything intimate like that with anyone makes me feel really ill. I don't know why it is, I will still get turned on, but I could never ac...
A. 7 December 2012: At 17, you're probably just too young at this point. This will likely change as you mature.... (read in full...)
How to break it to my boyfriend's traditional family that there will be no wedding?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over five years. We’re both over 30, at a good place in our jobs/ finances, and happy together; so marriage seems like the next step to both of us. I am not a traditional girl, and although I’m fai...
A. 7 December 2012: Seriously, its one day. If thats all it takes for harmony in the family, Id probably say its worth the "sacrifice."... (read in full...)
My best friend's younger sister wants me to pop her cherry and give her a crash course in lovemaking...but she has a boyfriend
Q. There's a girl who wants me to take her virginity and teach her about sex with a guy. She's a friend, but not a girlfriend, and I'm unsure about how to handle it. I'm 23 and hope to graduate next May with a degree in marketing. I'm unattached ...
A. 7 December 2012: Best friends sister/family/gfs/past gfs are all off limits IMO. Way too many women out there that to ruin a friendship over one.... (read in full...)
I've never met my long distance boyfriend, and lately I've been feeling insecure and having some trust issues.
Q. Hi everyone sorry this might be long but im really desperate and need adivice, ive been dating this guy for about two years now. we are in a long distant relationship and havent met yet( but we are planning to see eachother soon) and and , bu...
A. 7 December 2012: Human relationships have developed in close proximity, not over the phone or in cyberspace. You dont have a relationship, you just think you do. ... (read in full...)
We break up, we make up, but nothing has changed. What do I do about her?
Q. I have been back with my girlfriend only a week after us breaking up. We broke up because I found she had been registering on dating sites. Not only that but had been engaging in explicit conversation and exchanging photos. At first she denied it ...
A. 7 December 2012: If you want your significant other to treat you like "the best available" to her at the time, then I think you should keep seeing her.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants space so she can find out if she is happy
Q. I am 22 years old,I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now.last night she told me that she isn't sure if she can be happy and I deserve someone who is 100% committed to me.she said she wants to take a 2 week break so she can hopefully find ...
A. 7 December 2012: Some tough love here. Abusive past relationships, has a kid, now she needs "time?" Sorry, way too much baggage for me - Id be gone in a flash. IMO, a relationship should be a net add to you in someway. This girl seems like she would always be a ... (read in full...)
Would I be right to tell anyone I meet in the future that I'm a virgin because I feel like I am, despite having tried to have sex a number of times?
Q. Dear cupids, I do not know how to explain how I feel at the moment. I am disgusted with myself. After I experienced bleeding, I still tried to have sex again like a month after. I bled again and every time I bleed. I believe I am still a virgin cos ...
A. 7 December 2012: Nope. A lie is a lie is a lie.
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Girlfriend wants to take a 2 week break!
Q. I am 22 years old,I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now.last night she told me that she isn't sure if she can be happy and I deserve someone who is 100% committed to me.she said she wants to take a 2 week break so she can hopefully find ...
A. 6 December 2012: See what anon wrote below.
So many people now a days live in cyberspace they mistake it for the real world. Its not. You have no more relationship with her than you do a character in a romance novel.
Human relationships have been based ... (read in full...)
He says he can't marry me because I've been divorced and have a child. His parents would never approve of me.
Q. i am 27 years and my boyfriend have 26 we r met 5 years before and my mother died when was young i got married when i was 19 and due to some problemwe r seperated and i had a kid now he was seven years my problem is before 5 years i met this guy he ...
A. 6 December 2012: He is really saying "I dont want to marry a woman who is divorced w a child."
Thank him for being honest about the direction of the relationship and move on.... (read in full...)
After 5 months of dating I'm not sure if I love him or not but he's my boss!
Q. My boss says he's in love with me and after five months of dating, I'm not sure if it's true or if I love him in return. Sometimes, I do feel like I do. But, at others, I'm so confused. We're constantly scared of getting caught since it's highly ...
A. 6 December 2012: Never fish off the company pond. Almost never turns out well.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of the bickering! Should we just go to therapy?
Q. I have been married for over 4 years. My wife and I have had a rocky relationship, we are both strong willed people. But we always seem to make it work and we love each other. However, because of our differences, it seems our communication is...
A. 4 December 2012: My guess is you are not having issues because of your "differences," but rather because of your "similarities." You said you're both headstrong. My guess is there are other things you have in common that end up clashing. IMO, there is a reason ... (read in full...)
Can FWB relationships work and become something else later on?
Q. I live with a friend of mine who I have know for about 15 years, we met at school and have always been good friends. We hung out in the same group and when we were at college became closer. When I broke up with my ex I needed help with the rent and ...
A. 4 December 2012: If a guy wanted you as a gf, then why would he settle for just FWB when he could have the full monty?
Moral of the story - if you're a FWB, thats likely the highest relationship you will ever rise to with this person.... (read in full...)
What is the key to being single and happy?
Q. I am a 24 year old female. I have a good head on my shoulders, I'm career oriented, and for the most part, lead a very balanced and fairly busy life. But ever since I started dating in high school, I've noticed that I've never really been happy when ...
A. 4 December 2012: For whatever reason you want to attribute to this, some people just have a harder time being alone than others. For me, I always thought it was better to be alone than to be wasting time with the wrong person. Im 44 now and engaged for the first ... (read in full...)
Whenever I see him he stares at me. He's the lead singer in one of my favorite local bands. Should I add him on facebook?
Q. There is this guy I've met last winter (so about 5 months ago). well, we didn't really meet. We were at a bar and kept looking at each other. We took the night bus back home together and he talked to my best friend a little bit while stilll looking ...
A. 4 December 2012: Please dont live life through facebook or twitter. I have seen very few truly good things come from these sites.
If you like him, maybe you should talk to him, face to face...... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on having an extemely self-centered, selfish, hypocritical friend?
Q. Z and I started hanging out with each other (met her through my close friend Y) at college, and at first I thought she was a very fun, talkative, and easy-going person. She just has that charm when she first meets new friends. Z and I would spent ...
A. 4 December 2012: Although you cant choose your family, you can choose your friends. I dont keep any friend in my life who is a net drain on me. I choose friends who make me better, and I make them better. ... (read in full...)
Struggling with long distance
Q. Hi... Well right now me and my boyfriend are in a pretty rough state. About 4 months ago i moved to america from persia and he is still there. We were madly in love. the things we went through together was beyond the average girlfriend boyfriend... ...
A. 4 December 2012: In general, LDR last for 6-12 months, at which point it becomes a non-LDR, or a non-relationship........ (read in full...)
We were getting along fantastically until I told her how taken I was with her, now I don't hear from her.
Q. You guys have prevented me from making some monumental blunders in the past..see some of my past posts..But I've NEVER needed your help more than I do now! Scenario: I live in Wash, DC. I'm cycling back from tennis practice when I hear, from acr...
A. 3 December 2012: You need to back off. If she feels that way about you, backing off will make her chase you.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and it's embarrassing. Should I get a male prostitute so I can get the first time out of the way?
Q. Probably the most humiliating thread to post. So anon for obvious reasons. Well, basically I'm a virgin girl 21, and for the past year or so I have been teased by literally everyone who found out I was a virgin. It hasn't at all been for lack of ...
A. 3 December 2012: Read what sageoldguy wrote. I believe the ribbing your getting is rooting in jealousy and by people who do not have your best interest in mind.... (read in full...)
What gives girls the right to be angry with men who did not respond to their advances and rejected them in the past?
Q. A little over a month ago I moved back to my hometown after many years of absence. Since returning I have had a few "blast from the past" encounters (in the shape of eye contact and non-verbal communication only, mostly over the frozen chicken isle ...
A. 3 December 2012: Whats the quote - Hell hath no fury....... (read in full...)
While house-sitting for my girlfriend, I discovered she is not the person she lead me to believe she is.
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend about 4 months and I thought things were going great. We got serious very quickly however and ended up spending almost every day together. Lately I've felt very uncertain about several things I've discover...
A. 3 December 2012: A cheater and a liar. Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
What should be shared in a relationship and what should be private?
Q. What should be shared in a relationship after a year and 3 months? Is it wrong to want to see his facebook, cell phone etc? I have no problem showing mine! I feel like people with nothing to hide, hide nothing and all he says he wants is privacy! ...
A. 3 December 2012: The need to "share everything" is just a disguise for saying "Im really insecure as hell and really cannot fully trust anyone."
You cannot have a real relationship without trust. If you cannot trust someone, you need to work on that yourself... (read in full...)
Would you commit to someone who treated you like this?
Q. Hello -- I've been with a girl (30) for 15 months now. Initially everything was great, but as the months wore on, some issues have came to light. She's pushing hard for commitment; living together, marriage, kids eventually, etc, and is threatening ...
A. 3 December 2012: Every alarm is going off in your head right now for a reason. You would do well to listen to them. Everything you need to know about her you already know. If I were you, I would dump her before my next cup of coffee, and I drink coffee all day. ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old son is in love with a woman who is 24 years older than him!
Q. My 16 year old son is in love with a woman 24 years older than hisself, he met her when he was in a Subway with friends, he's told me theyve been secretly dating for over a month now and that the relationships not based on sex but proper love. She's ...
A. 3 December 2012: As others have said, in three years, there is no chance they will be together. The biggest risk is them having a child, in which case they will never be rid of each other.... (read in full...)
He got a stripper pregnant, and is staying with her but says he still loves me.
Q. My exboyfriend first cheated on me with a stripper, then lied to me saying that he longer had connections with her. Within 3 months the stripper is suppose to be pregnant with his child, and now it has been 5 months and she claims they are married. ...
A. 30 November 2012: Ok - let me get this straight -
1. He cheated on you, with a stripper.
2. He lied to you about her
3. He got said stripper pregnant
4. The stripper claims they are now married
For one, you can find out in a NY minute if they are in f... (read in full...)
Help me to be reasonable and rational about this matter please? My Bf wants me to use Birth Control Pills but I think it's risky.
Q. I have been seeing this guy almost for a year. We are thinking about starting to have a future together soon. We are no longer use condoms every time after we became exclusive and came clean to each other about STD history and all. We sometime...
A. 30 November 2012: Having an uplanned out of wedlock child is much much much more "risky" than a few typically temporary side effects from the pill.... (read in full...)
Why can't he ever address me by my name?
Q. There is a man who I think is attracted to me (flirts, smiles, let's off so much positive energy and shows interest in me etc), but he NEVER has once said my name. He even has written to someone else about me to discuss a detail and referred to me ...
A. 30 November 2012: He probably doesnt know it....... (read in full...)
He says we have sex less often because I've put on weight. Could this be the real reason?
Q. hello, i have a problem. i have been with my boyfriend for 7years. we only have sex sometimes once a week or once a month. he says it's because i've gained weight and it feels different. Can this be true? Also i sometimes think he's cheating ...
A. 30 November 2012: Read what kc100 said. Right on point.... (read in full...)
What are my chances? I thought it was mutual love from the start. But is she having doubts?
Q. I met this girl a few months ago love at first site on both sides. She is still married and has a kid with this Guy. He lives in another state so I'm not worries but they saw each other a few weeks ago at their daughter's birthday party a...
A. 30 November 2012: After I read "still married with a kid" I stopped reading.
You cannot have concurrent mutually exclusive major life events. Cannot happen. She needs to get divorced before you even think of starting or continuing a relationship with her.... (read in full...)
In love with a drug addict
Q. there is this guy. he is a couple years younger than me. i'm 22 he is 20. i've known him for about 3 years. he has extreme depression and social anxiety. he is extremely shy and it was a lot of work to build a friendship with him. we have only hung ...
A. 30 November 2012: You are not Florence Nightingale, and it is not your job to save him. He is a big boy, and is completely responsible at his age for his own actions. He is who he is, and is not likely to change anyway, despite your best efforts.
Im going to... (read in full...)
Should I end our affair in person? Or is a goodbye text enough?
Q. I've decided that even tho I'm hopelessly in love with a guy I've been having an affair with, it's time to end it. He is married, and I know he's never gonna leave her, I'm just tired of holding my emotions inside, and waiting for him to be mine, ...
A. 30 November 2012: Given the circumstances, I think a text is fine.... (read in full...)
Great girlfriend but emotionally demanding and has temper, what to do?
Q. Hi, I just need a bit of advice about my girlfriend whom I have been dating for 9 months. She's a great girl and we have very strong physical attraction to each other. We got sexual very early on in the relationship and still enjoying an active sex ...
A. 30 November 2012: I dont mind the temper so much, but the emotionally needy thing gets REALLY old REALLY fast. Work and life is tough enough - you dont need to come home every night to be drained of the little remaining energy you have left by dealing with ... (read in full...)
Why make happy holiday memories when we are having a hard time, and even might break up?
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and we have had a lot of problems recently with money and changing jobs and living apart after living together due to his work placement. Anyway, I have often been really angry at him and ...
A. 30 November 2012: Why bother getting up today if Im just ultimately going to die at some point?
The point is - whatever situation you are in, you only get so much time here. Make the best of every minute.... (read in full...)
Would these be deal breakers? Does it suggest I should be calling the wedding off?
Q. My boyfriend, now fiance are planning our wedding and deciding on a wedding date. We have been engaged for one year. Dated for a year prior. I don't know if it is butterflies in my stomach but a few of his behaviors I am starting to ques...
A. 30 November 2012: Bending the truth about past relationships I can somewhat understand, and he may feel bringing the past into the future does no one any good.
Gawking at other women, esp in your presence, is not acceptable behavior, and you should not tolerate... (read in full...)
Honesty, porn -- how do I process my boyfriend's behaviour?
Q. Hello everyone. I have a problem which i would really appreciate it if you helped me out. My problem has been on going on 4 months and i want some clarity as i don't know what to do anymore. My problem first started when i found porn on my boyfr...
A. 30 November 2012: 1 - Sorry to tell you, but a very large proportion of men do it in some way or another. Look at it like alcohol, not all guys use it, but most do to some degree or another.
2 - Just like with alcohol, there is a difference between use and addi... (read in full...)
How do I break up with my LDR boyfriend?
Q. We've been together for over a year, and because of this, I believe a text might be really bad. But the problem with that is that it is a long distance relationship, so I can't meet up with him to do it. Also, we very rarely talk on the phone. We're ...
A. 30 November 2012: I think you need to repeat to him the things you just wrote here.... (read in full...)
What would you think if your other half seeks emotional support from the opposite sex?
Q. I have a boyfriend (tgt about 3 years) and everything seems to work out ok between us. I don't know about other ppl, but I always need to feel "connected" to the one I love by having deep conversations, I love sharing deep thoughts, ideas......
A. 30 November 2012: I cant speak to men who seek "emotional support" from the opposite sex, but in my experience when a woman does it, its a red flag. Whenever one of my friends has spoken to me about a troubled relationship and says shes speaking to a "friend" whos ... (read in full...)
My child's father treated me badly but wants another chance, but I'm with someone new! What should I do?
Q. i got involved with a guy in the university and in our final year i got pregnant and asked me to abort and i refused by then i was 29years of age so i told my mum about it an she called him to asked if he knew i was pregnant for him,accepted and ...
A. 30 November 2012: I get tired of typing this here, but wouldn't it be a good idea to make sure that someone treats you well BEFORE you have children with them? Once you have kids, that person is in your life forever, like them or not. ... (read in full...)
Why are married men attracted to me?
Q. Well I am going to start off saying this I don't understand why married men seem to be attracted to me I don't flirt with them under no circumstances they seem to aim my way.I am not the one to break no ones home up I don't believe in doing this ...
A. 30 November 2012: The short answer is in your age bracket, a large %age of men are married. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is living with his baby mama...
Q. My boyfriend is living with his baby mama... So my boyfriend recently (4 months ago) had a baby with his last girlfriend. We have been dating for seven months and I really like him. He is so sweet and really goes out of his way to make sure that I k...
A. 28 November 2012: What is a "baby mamma?"... (read in full...)
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