Boyfriend mentally abusive because he cannot forget my escort past
Q. This situation is extremely complicated, but here goes. I am currently teetering on the verge of insanity due to an extremely psychologically, and emotionally abusive relationship with a man who cannot forget my past as an escort. I met this man...
A. 5 July 2012: For one, you need to get rid of him because he obv cannot handle your past. Its just not a good situation to be in.
Second, you need to realize that there are going to be a lot of men who are going to have a problem w you being an escort, ... (read in full...)
I feel badly because I don't want to hang out with my friend because of her lifestyle and yet I want to help her!
Q. We've been good friends since we were kids... we've definitely drifted apart throughout the years, but we still get together and talk when we can. We are now both almost 23 years old. She's been meeting guys online for years now and I thought ...
A. 5 July 2012: If she doesnt want to change or help herself, you need to cut and run. To a significant degree, the way your life turns out is dependent upon who you surround yourself with. If you surround yourself with morally upstanding and hard working people, ... (read in full...)
Should I Reconcile With My Emotionally Abusive EX?
Q. I really need advice as I've backed myself into a corner. I recently broke up with my boyfriend after I realized he'd been emotionally abusing me, lying to me, cheated (via email and asking for a girls number at a bar) and one time pushing me ...
A. 5 July 2012: 1 - Get your money.
2 - Never speak to him again.
3 - Count your blessings that you never had children w this guy so he can actually be out of your life forever.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said I can sleep with prostitutes if I wear a condom
Q. I have the most loveliest girlfriend in the world. She is so sweet and adores me. I love her so much and I can't imagine not being without her. Then 2 days ago she said to me she allows me to have sex with prostitutes if I wear a condom. She sai...
A. 5 July 2012: If my fiancee said something like that to me, my first thought would be she doesnt feel the same way about me as she used to.... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to have my parents put their house in my name now?
Q. can someone help me please with a bit of advice on what to do about parents house. my parents in their 60s but own their own house. im live with them but cause im not working at the moment and finding it hard find work i cant move out. im on the ...
A. 5 July 2012: 1 - if you want to house, you need to earn your own money to pay for it. Just the way it is.
2 - the reason many nations are going bankrupt is by many people doing the same exact thing you are proposing. So what you're saying is everyone... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to compromise for what he wants, not what We want?
Q. Hi all. Yesterday me an my boyfriend we had a fight. My problem with him is that when he want something I have to be the one who has to compromise for everything. Yesterday he was off duty at work. He was at his place. I don't know what he was doing ...
A. 5 July 2012: Sorry, but all I got from that "question" was a tirade of complaints. So when he's tired, he's the worst, but when you're tired, he should know better to even ask. I see. ... (read in full...)
Is it true that the most attractive girls don't get married first?
Q. My friend has some theories on why the most attractive girls often stay single longer than the less attractive ones. Tell me if you think this is true, or if there are some major confounders at work that would explain it better. If all ladies ...
A. 3 July 2012: Good looking girls (or guys) are a dime a dozen. I never understood how some of my friends would chase a girl forever over looks. IMO, for every good looking woman, there are 10 more behind her that would love to go out with you.
While... (read in full...)
I'm starting to give up on women!
Q. I hate how women are so complicated, i think that everyone has relationships in the past that alter their veiws on other potential parnters, as how to act and how to behave and what not to do. I find that saying so true nowadays that women are so ...
A. 3 July 2012: Hang in there my friend - you are at a rough age to be chasing women - it will pass. For some reason, from the ages of 16-24, the human female can be one of the most puzzling creatures the world has ever seen. Its almost as you need to do the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to date a man with kids. Am I expecting too much?
Q. So I have a son who is 16 months old. And for some reason I don't think dating a man with a kid is an option. I find that men with kids tend to have a lot of baggage; child support, baby mom drama, and no money.. I simply don't want a guy who is ...
A. 2 July 2012: I made it a point to never get serious about a woman who had children, but I didnt have any of my own. I dont think I would be able to make the same demand if that werent the case.
As other posters have alluded to - you are coming yourself... (read in full...)
Want to date but want freedom too
Q. I have a question that I feel is slightly odd tbh. I seem to have a bit of a fear of commitment, in the respect that when I'm in a relationship, I obviously won't have the freedom of a single man... It's not like I have a huge amount of fem...
A. 27 June 2012: Issue as old as time.
I want to buy a new car, but I really want my savings as well.
I want to be thin, but Id love some more ice cream.
Few things in life are just upside. With any choice, you have an opportunity cost, its up to ... (read in full...)
The way he asked for money made me feel like an outsider, like an cash machine
Q. Hi everyone. I hope you can help me get some perspective. My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to lend him some money,just to get him through the week til payday. I helped him out, and he told me afterwards it was because he had to pay an unexpected ...
A. 27 June 2012: RED FLAG.
JMO, but if a man (assuming in his 30s) needs to ask his woman to float him money "just to get him through to payday," then you are dealing with one of two things -
1 - A loser who cannot make/save enough money to support himself ... (read in full...)
Guilty of leaving my wife and son for my mistress! What should I do?
Q. This is a tough one. I been separated from my wife of 10 years for 9 months now. We have a loving 2 year old boy. The reason for the separation is because I fell in love with my mistress. I been living with her now and we now have a relationship ...
A. 27 June 2012: For starters, you need to stop being so selfish. You have a two year old son, not to mention your "committment" to your wife. That should come before you tend to the wiles of your willy. If there is something you need to work out with your wife, ... (read in full...)
How small is too small in the penis department?
Q. Hi there Me and my gf are getting to the point where sex is the next move and I am not to worried about it I will do my best but I was just wondering Because she likes big penises she told me and I'm not to bad in that department but how how smal...
A. 27 June 2012: If your sig other thinks its "too small," then I would say its "too small." Otherwise, you're fine.... (read in full...)
He cheated throughout our relationship, what do I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 1 year, i guess u could say a bit longer than that but we spent a few months getting to know each other 1st. Through out the course of the year, i suspected he was up to no good, he called me ...
A. 27 June 2012: Ok - I have a question for you.
I have this car Im leasing. For the last two years, it has left me stranded on numerous occasions, the brakes regularly go out causing me multiple accidents, it guzzles gas, the heat and air conditioning doesnt w... (read in full...)
Why would he go away so far, with a woman 24 years younger? And leave his devoted loving wife?
Q. so i know this is out there a lot but my husband left me for a younger girl 24 years younger. they are living together oh and she has a 2 year old. Anyway just wanted to know if anyone could shed light on why he would leave a good wife that woul...
A. 27 June 2012: Look, in itself, a someone "leaving" for someone else is an unhappy event. That said, no one leaves without reasons, whether they be good or bad ones. All you have stated is he left you for a younger woman. My hunch is the real story is much more... (read in full...)
Manipulative, not being real? What are the signs that a woman is just using a guy?
Q. What are the signs to look out for that a woman does not really love you but using you? ie for sex, boredem, rebound etc ...
A. 27 June 2012: Chigirl is right on point about doing only things that benefit her. In that, I would tell you to never listen to what she says, judge her 100% by what she does. It will tell you everything you need to know about a person, any person. Does she ... (read in full...)
I feel a fool for hooking up with somebody who only wants sex!
Q. Me and this guy had been talking for 6 months online (I'm english, he is german) we eventually meet up and we end up sleeping together. Big BIG mistake. We were on different wave lengths in regards to what was happening, I thought we were going to ...
A. 27 June 2012: "And somehow we arranged to hook up again."
What you really mean is - "I fully know the score, what he is after, and what the final result will be, yet 100% upon my own free will agreed to let it happen again."
You said you feel like a fool... (read in full...)
I know she gave her number to a random guy so I want to go with her when the meet
Q. ok this is abit of a wierd question Just say ur gf gave her number out to some random dude on the internet and u found out, and they havent met yet, but u forced them to meet , woud it make the situation better or worse? say for isntance, i call...
A. 27 June 2012: My girl giving out number to random guy = not my girl anymore.
Nuff said.... (read in full...)
I cheated on him and now he has cheated on me, I feel alone and sad
Q. We are in a relationship living together with one daughter. Known him for six years now. Together for about five of them. Idk where to start my question I guess I feel trapped , and alone. I cheated on him and our cheating/decieveing issues goes way ...
A. 27 June 2012: So you have a long history of cheating in a relationship yet you decided to have a child together.
Honestly, sometimes I wonder if some people even think for a nanosecond before embarking on the most important decisions of their lives.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to only want sex?
Q. Is it ok to only want sex? I mean I see that women are often irritated because the new guy they just met only seems to be interested in sex. What's wrong with that? ...
A. 27 June 2012: It is totally fine as long as its mutual that way. A man doesnt use a woman for sex any more than a woman uses a man for sex. Its knowing the parameters of the interaction beforehand, and everyone is responsible for that themselves. If someone ... (read in full...)
How can I make him jealous on Facebook?
Q. Im dating a guy and everything is going on well. The only problem is sometimes i don't feel like he loves me. So i have come up with a plan that is to make him jealous. I know it might sound silly but thats the only plan i can think of. He really ...
A. 27 June 2012: I was going to write exactly what Tisha below said, but she beat me to it.
You sound like you're 13, not 18....... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband with his brother. How do I fix things?
Q. my husband and i separated while we were split up i had an affair with his brother. I understand wat i did was wrong. I wanna fix things with my husband, but he keeps telling me he doesnt know, and he has another girlfriend. How do i get him back ...
A. 26 June 2012: This is not a fixable problem. For all of the men in the world, you chose his brother. You couldnt have made a worse and more final choice. For his brother to even entertain it - he must be a real winner as well.
Your relationship with your fut... (read in full...)
We had sex on first date, deal breaker?
Q. I met a guy the other night through friends and he was fantastic. Great looking, well educated and smart. We are about the same number (attractiveness) and went to the same college. I asked him to do something towards the end of the night and he ...
A. 26 June 2012: With 90% of the guys I know, having sex on the first date will preclude any chance of a further relationship beyond a booty call.
Simply put, its a turn off to most guys. Few men want to invest emotionally in a woman who will sleep with a guy on... (read in full...)
He smokes weed, is jobless and homeless but there's no denying the sexual tension! What next?
Q. I kept seeing this guy who I thought was cute but he had sketchy lookin friends and im sure he is usually high. Today we some how started talking and i gave him my number, then he walked me to the train station. He told me that he smokes weed and i ...
A. 25 June 2012: I have no idea why, but for some reason between the ages of 16 and 24ish, a certain slice of the female population becomes irresistibly attracted to losers. Im 44 and thus far have not quite put my finger on exactly why. What I can tell you is ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I used to work as an escourt? How do I get over my intimacy issues?
Q. Background: I am 22 years old and am just graduating with a university degree and am going on to get my masters. When I was 18 and in my first year of university I was having some financial problems because I found out that I did not qualify for ...
A. 25 June 2012: 1 - Agree with those below who suggested counseling. You have to get right with this before you expect anyone else to. 2 - He absolutely has the right to know. You would want to know, anyone would. He then has the right to make his own decision... (read in full...)
Is getting pregnant at 15 the right thing to do?
Q. Well, im 15... And me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months, now heres my issue, when we hit a year... My boyfriend wants a BABY..... Okay look, I absoulutly ADORE babies, I LOVE them. And I have no problem with pregnancy at this age.... ...
A. 25 June 2012: Its absolutely the right thing to do if you have met the following criteria: 1 - You already have the necessary $240,000 that it costs to raise a child in the bank. 2 - You are absolutely certain beyond the shadow of any doubt that you wil... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my social anxiety with women?
Q. I find it really difficult to maintain any form of relationship with women of my age. My problems do not stem from being unable to talk to women, I can talk but I can't feel comfortable in their company. I feel anxious around them, like they are ...
A. 25 June 2012: It all comes back to confidence, and it sounds like you need to get yourself a bit more than you have right now.
When speaking to a woman, you need to absolutely believe she is as lucky to be talking with you as you are with her. If she cant see... (read in full...)
Why does he say he just wants to be friend? Yet then he keeps making moves on me?
Q. I feel like in getting mixed signals from a guy friend. We hang out in the same crowd but mainly at the bar or a friends house when we are drinking. We ended up kissing at the bar a while ago and at the next get together he was ackward until he...
A. 25 June 2012: What he is telling you is that he doesnt want to date you regularly, but is more than willing to have drunken hook ups.
... (read in full...)
Should I follow my dream?
Q. Hi all, this is not a relationship question, rather a life question. I have just graduated uni with an accounting degree (I did extremely well and was accepted into a big 4 accounting firm). The thing is, I love film. I figured it out in my last ...
A. 25 June 2012: Im going to be blunt - unless you are EXTREMELY lucky and/or EXTREMELY talented, film is a hobby.
Remember, there is really no such thing in the world as "what do I really want to do when I grow up." Biggest fallacy out there. Why? Because ... (read in full...)
My head is going in circles, is my wife cheating?
Q. hi im 54 and my wife is to , this is killing me we have sex once a week now and for some reason she wont let me suck on her nipples like i use to never real got that rough where it leave scab on the base of her breast where the nipple start to ...
A. 25 June 2012: This is a much better problem solved with a simple question rather than thoughts of infidelity, at least right now.
Why dont you do something crazy like just ask her?... (read in full...)
My wife does not initiate sex!
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3yrs. we have 1loving daughter together but she has no sex drive and never initiate sex I always initiate and when we have sex she just lay there she gets into it but we only do it like 8 times a year if that and ...
A. 25 June 2012: For starters, eight times a year is low, for just about anyone. Ive been w my fiancee five years and eight times a week sounds a bit more like it.
Second, the passing gas thing seems to be all about her finding a way out of it. For whatever... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend but he has an attractive roommate!
Q. Advice? My bf has to find a roommate and found a nice place to live...I helped him look. Now he is completely trustworthy but he found a very nice place but the roommate would be female and she is decent looking. Should I worry? I have a male ...
A. 25 June 2012: If you have a male roommate, you dont have a leg to stand on to even initiate the conversation.... (read in full...)
I found these email and now I can't shake the feeling that I should no longer trust him!
Q. my husband and i have a wonderful relationship but the one thing that bothers me is that i have found certain emails where hes told one woman that she was hot and another one where he states that hes horny too and cant open up the website and what ...
A. 25 June 2012: Just for clarification - does "I found these emails" really translate to "I was snooping around incessantly and finally found something and it was this."
Im only asking because if its the latter, and I suspect to some degree it was (lets face fac... (read in full...)
I've had anxiety as we had a threesome and his condom fell off!
Q. hi. my girl and i recently had our first threesome with another guy , and the rule for the other guy was to wear a condom. well, while he was in the middle of things, his condom came off. now, im ok with the fact that we did the threesome, but not ...
A. 25 June 2012: 1 - Why any man would want to watch another dude screw his woman sits right at the top of "Things that are Beyond Me."
2 - You just a threesome - and now you're freaked out about another dudes johnson? What did you think he'd be using - his elbo... (read in full...)
He is not looking for a relationship - should I go out with him anyway and hope it turns into something more? Could we end up as a happy couple?
Q. hi cupids I have this dilema and would like some advice were possible. I have over the past year had a crush on my bus driver ( I know pretty out there ) lol and one day I became a bit brave after a few dutch courage drinks and wrote my phone n...
A. 21 June 2012: Ive seen this movie played with different actors many times. The ending is always the same.
Like someone else said, what he is telling you is he will use you as a slam piece as long as you will let him. If you're fine with that, go for it. My ... (read in full...)
How do I play the game? And how do I make this online relationship work?
Q. Okay, well me and boyfriend have been online dating for almost six months now. I truly love him and he loves me, or so he says. We know each others faults- for example, my pessimism- and we look past that. We are good. But then some days he giv...
A. 21 June 2012: Have you actually met this person? IMO finding relationships online is a very dangerous endeavour. Proceed accordingly.
... (read in full...)
The ugly guys get the girls!
Q. What's the deal with gorgeous girls dating ugly guys? I'm a 20 year old male and VERY good looking. I'm not big headed about it, just stating what is an objective fact. I can say this and still claim to not be big headed, as I don't feel proud...
A. 21 June 2012: IMO, the thing that women are most attracted to in a guy is confidence (if not a touch of arrogance - many women will deny this, and then within an hour be talking with the most arrogant guy in the bar.)
Looks help, but nothing brings in the l... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and its driving away a good guy
Q. How can I stop being so jealous? I've been hurt badly in past relationships, lied to and cheated on time and time again. I'm now with a wonderful man who treats me better than I ever thought I could be treated, but my jealousy issues are driving him ...
A. 20 June 2012: I have been the male in the relationship you are describing. She was cheated on by her husband, and she watched me like a hawk. I never gave her a reason to, but it was too much. Shed freak if I didnt answer my cell. She look at me cross ... (read in full...)
My crush thinks he's too old for me. What do I do?
Q. I'm 25 and went on a date with a 35 year old. We got along great and had things in common. But he seemed to think the gap was too big. I didn't think so. My friend got engaged and has the same age difference. Should I tell my crush this?...
A. 20 June 2012: The rule of thumb is half his age plus seven. (Empirical evidence has revealed this formula to be rather reliable.)
Being 25 puts you in the range, albiet at the bottom. If you both matured at normal rates, it should be fine.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife that I cheated on her once?
Q. I need advice on an age old question. To tell or not to tell. I cheated on my wife one time. After 1 year of marriage. I felt horrible and vowed to never do it again. Promised myself I'd make up for it by being an amazing husband. And I have been....
A. 20 June 2012: Very simple answer to this question -
If she did the same exact thing - would you feel you had the right to know?
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriend because of his ex! What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing this guy fro 3 months now and things are awesome with him! I feel great when I am with him. But I have a huge insecurity when it comes to his sons mom. I know they had strong feelings for each other but I also know he really ...
A. 20 June 2012: 1 - Your bf has a son. With that, his mom will always be part of his life. (This is one reason I always tell me friends be sure of marriage and be damn sure of kids.) You need to either accept that right quick, or you need to find a man with no ... (read in full...)
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