I've been having an affair for 9 years. I know it's wrong, but how can I break away?
Q. Hi all. I love this guy totally but he's married, so am I. Been trying to stop seeing each other for years. We been together 9yrs now. Each time we fail and whenever we do, we desire each other more and get closer. We have great fun, time ...
A. 28 December 2012: Nine years? Sorry, but given your age, it seems like this has been going on since the day you were married, and hence its WAY past "breaking off" or any type of reconciliation.
Admit to your husband what you've been doing and let him go. Encoura... (read in full...)
My bf likes to sleep with other people and doesn´t mind if I do either
Q. I recently met this guy online who has since told me that he thinks we were made for each other. I was totally into him from the second we first met. We have mind blowing sex and he says he has never loved anyone or anything until he met me. He a...
A. 28 December 2012: Open relationship = no relationship.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Is pursuing a masters degree with a baby realistic?
Q. Hi Everyone! I'm looking to hear from people (especially women) that have raised a family while pursuing their post-secondary education. I'm currently 25 years old and a full-time university student working toward two degrees (simultaneously)...
A. 28 December 2012: Its so refreshing to read someone being so responsible and proactive in their life/career/family planning. 2 - My suggestion to you is to try to get the degree first. A masters doesnt take all that long, and once you have it, you'll always h... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 28 December 2012: You have no business in this mans affairs, literally. You try to disguise your spite and coming off as concerned for his wife. Lets be honest here, you dont care about her and are annoyed that she's "winning." Leave him alone and do not date ... (read in full...)
How do you know if someone is right for you?
Q. When you've found the one if there is such a thing, do you question it? or little things about them that just don't seem like an ideal fit with you. I was in love a long time ago. crazy, stupid, love. I just adored him. (I'm over him now, and don...
A. 28 December 2012: Take it from experience. Im 44 and just getting married this year.
You know when you dont have to ask anymore....... (read in full...)
His family all have health issues. Is this a high risk situation, if we want to settle and have children together?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. I am wondering what is your take on this. I am dating this great guy, who is very serious about me and we have discussed marriage and kids. He has great potential, and we both have nice lucrative careers and by the t...
A. 28 December 2012: One reason we are often attracted to those so opposite ourselves is just this. Most genetic diseases are recessive, so to develop the child needs one from each parent. If the parents are from dissimilar genetic stock, there is a less of a chance ... (read in full...)
Slept with him, but he became a jerk. Broke up. Later slept with his brother. If they know will they both hate me now?
Q. I know I will be judged for this but I really need help please? I slept with a guy a year ago. After I slept with him, he was a jerk to me and left my life, until recently. However, I recently slept with his brother. Now my ex has just started tal...
A. 28 December 2012: You slept with his brother, and HE'S a jerk?
You need to leave both of them alone, and going forward in relationships stay away from your SOs siblings, like forever.... (read in full...)
Unfaithful in my marriage. Why did I do this? Can I keep this secret forever?
Q. I have been married for over 20 years and have always been faithful with the exception of one man, twice. I met him 15 years ago at the gym and I was immediately attracted to him but kept it to myself. After a while, we began to talk and before I kn...
A. 28 December 2012: You need to come clean and tell your husband the truth. Every action has its consequences, and the truth always has a way of surfacing. You made a big boy decision, and now you need to live w big boy consequences.
If I found my fiancee cheated ... (read in full...)
Sex! Is it that I have a sign on my head that every guy I'm interested in sees only that? How do I change that focus?
Q. There is this guy who I've liked for three years now. It's kind of pathetic I've admired him for this long and haven't had the guts to ever do anything until now, but let's say I've let him know I'm interested but not enough for him to know I R...
A. 28 December 2012: Guys, esp at your age, look at you for sex . Unless you right quick show them they should be looking at you for something else. Guys figure that out pretty quick when the girl shows it to them.... (read in full...)
Is there absolutely anyway I'll be able to get over my ex and move past what she did to me? What am I supposed to do with my life now?
Q. So I dated a girl for 3 years, invested everything I had into the relationship: my time, my money (albeit we started dating when I was only 15 years of age) and she absolutely drove me into the ground. I found out halfway through the relation...
A. 28 December 2012: You're 19 years old and have your entire life in front of you. Trust me, in five years you'll look back and regret every moment you wasted fawning over this girl. You have a chance to cut those losses right now. ... (read in full...)
Fake FB account and now I'm stuck. What do I do?? I never meant to hurt anyone.
Q. i know.i messed up. i know i hurt people. i just want advice though. okay sorry if this is long.i fell fast and hard for a male friend. well i wanted to find out if he was insterested in anyone without him knowing i liked him. so i made a fa...
A. 28 December 2012: The next time I see a positive thing come from FB or Twitter will be the first.... (read in full...)
Since my miscarriage and his uncaring attitude I don't think I can love him any more. What are my options?
Q. I have really been feeling like I've grown to hate my boyfriend at times. There are times when I think what would I do without him? I feel I don't want to leave him because all my friends either live on the other side of the country or I've ...
A. 28 December 2012: How about you get married first and show you can commit to each other before you commit to a child? You can then do a "do over" if you find you are not compatible. You cant do a "do over" if you have a child. Also, while your mentioning mone... (read in full...)
We meet up, have sex and then he doesn't call! Whats it all about?
Q. I am in a dilemma here. I met a guy in September at a party, both drunk. We kissed and talked. I bumped into him at a bar 2 weeks later and we just went straight home and jumped into bed. 3 weeks later we meet again at a party and home again. We ...
A. 28 December 2012: Im going to give it to you straight - you are nothing more than a booty call for him, and its that way because you let it.
Forget about any possiblity of a relationship with this man. He will never see you as anything more than the above. ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. I have been single for years I cant seem to meet women interested in me. Women I have dated all dumped me for other people , they all say I am a "lovely guy" but they always see, to go for arrogant pretty boys who usually treat them like crap.Every ...
A. 21 December 2012: I wouldnt. Once you do it, you can never take it away. Its one thing doing with an easy woman, its another paying for it. Especially the first time.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend let me touch him?
Q. I don't understand, but my boyfriend will touch me anywhere,(lying on my bed with clothes on!) but when I try to touch him, he moves my hand. I've mentioned it a couple of times: why don't you let me touch you and he says that he will "but not yet " ...
A. 21 December 2012: He is young yet acting responsibly. You should respect his decision.... (read in full...)
I can't get past the fact that my husband had lap dances from strippers before we were married.
Q. I have known my husband for abt 10 yrs now, married for 6 and we both are very happy, committed and loving to each other, expecting our first baby now. But just the other day, I was talking of pregnancy stretch marks and he goes - dont worry ho...
A. 21 December 2012: I think your husband should be the one posting here if he should stay with you after four one night stands while you were together. ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my cheating husband, but need to straighten out some financial matters first. How can I cope with this in the mean time?
Q. I am married with 3 children. The youngest is 9 months old and the oldest is 3 1/2. My husband is contacting women on Craigslist and emailing them with the intent of having sex with them while he is at work. He has sent pictures of his genitals and ...
A. 21 December 2012: I dont know the laws in Canada, but in the US, you will have a very tough time proving infidelity when to this point he has not touched another woman. You bring a case of "cyber cheating" to a US judge and you'll likely be laughed out of court.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to get married anymore and he says he meant his proposal "at the time"
Q. I will try and keep this brief...... My boyfriend ask me to marry him over a year ago, however whenever i try to talk about the wedding he says that he doesn't want to get married and he meant the proposal " at the time"!! He has met all my...
A. 21 December 2012: I think he's being honest with you that he no longer wants to marry you.... (read in full...)
This relationship feels more like a burden than something good in my life
Q. So, my ex that i was with about 2 years ago recently started talking to me again. We were together for about 11 months until i found out that he suddenly began to have "commitment issues" and was cheating on me. Well once i found out i immediat...
A. 21 December 2012: Oh how you have stumbled on to a gem of knowledge at such a young age. Long story short - relationships shouldnt be obligations, they should be something that is a net value add to your life, not a net value subtract. Once that balance sheet tu... (read in full...)
I can't bring my girlfriend to orgasm anymore and it's beginning to affect my pride
Q. The other day me and my gf hung out and we had intercourse. it was an amazing time but the problem is that i couldn't bring her to orgasm by oral or my fingers. I am only able to bring her to orgasm by penetration and it has to be for a long period ...
A. 21 December 2012: My man, you are 16. Im surprised you can find your zipper at that age, never mind know the details of a womans orgasm. Experience - its your best teacher.... (read in full...)
I have a beautiful friend, and I'm jealous to the point where I don't want to hang out with her in places where she draws a lot of attention.
Q. I have a dilemma. I have this friend, a girl, who I know for the past 5 years. She is very sweet, and we are not that terribly close, but we see each other we really enjoy each other company. The thing that about 9 months ago she broke up ...
A. 20 December 2012: For one, what did you expect your bf to say? "Wow - she is SMOKING hot! Talk about the ass on her! Id really like to get with her!" That's not really a fair question to ask him and complain when he gives you an answer that wont hurt your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is upset about what I did in a past relationship....
Q. My bf is upset about what I did in a past relationship I am with my current bf for about a year and a half now, going on two years. We met in college and have a great relationship. My bf and I recently went back home to my family for the T...
A. 20 December 2012: For starters, he is not being "immature," its that his views of sex seem to be pretty mainstream, while yours are not. Neither is necessarily right or wrong. He is no more immature than you are immoral.
I can tell you the threesome thing bo... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me? He knows my attitude to sex.
Q. My ex and I were dating for about a month and made it offical as boyfriend and girlfriend for 3 weeks. I wouldn't have sex with him yet since I thought it was too soon. So he opted to just completely ignore me and he left me for another girl. (who's ...
A. 20 December 2012: If a guy really likes you, he will wait. As a matter of fact, it will make him like you even more. If he doesn't, he'll be gone like a flash, and on to the next target. Kudos to you for waiting. I know a lot of guys who'd love a girl like that... (read in full...)
A boy is going to ask me out on a date, but my parents don't want me to date till I'm 16. Should I lie to them?
Q. So I am 14 and will be 15 in about 2 months, anyways there is this guy I really like and he is going to ask me out on Friday (my friends ruined the suprise) I am really happy about this but the thing is I would have to hide the relationship from my ...
A. 20 December 2012: Your parents are setting their rules for a reason. You are not mature enough right now to understand that they are correct. You will be someday, in the meantime, you need to listen to them on fiat.... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to show me the attention I need?
Q. well i just started my relation three months ago but it seems something is missing. my boyfrend is a bit different then others. he is less expressive. he never gets angry, talks to me very cutely and bla bla but when i expect a good morning or ...
A. 20 December 2012: He is who he is. Its been three months, and you're just starting to learn the person he is. He is not going to change who he is, so if that person is not the right one for you, you need to move on before you invest anymore time.... (read in full...)
I'm confused, should I just move on from him or continue to hope for something out of this?
Q. I'll now summarize and update the situation. Please advice where I stand now or should I just forget abt the ass cause nth will come out of it. - met him online, ended up he's cooking dinner for first date at his house. Work caught up that's...
A. 20 December 2012: He wants sex from you.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me with another woman. How can I attempt to start working out our marriage issues together?
Q. I have been away from my wife for 3 years now. we were together for 10 great years i thought. She had two kids before i met her, then we had a child to together. We had rough times here and there. From when we lost the house in a flood to losing...
A. 20 December 2012: You can start working out your issues by calling a divorce lawyer.
She likes women, and that is clearly part of the problem. Its not likely to change back. Move on.... (read in full...)
Should I be upset about my Christmas present?
Q. Ok... I'm just wanting some opinions. Last year for our first Christmas, my boyfriend bought me some electronics. such as a DVD player and a Nintendo wii. (which was nice of him.) I know it was the thought that counts, I am more of a romantic person ...
A. 20 December 2012: So, if he doesnt get you EXACTLY what you want, then you should be upset about it?
Sounds like the guy is generous and practical, and a lot of women would love to be with a guy like that. All I know is if I were him and I found out you were com... (read in full...)
I need help understanding what hes wanting...or why he's acting like this.
Q. So my ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. He said that he just didn't have "time." But stil liked me..even said he "loved" me as a gf but didn't want a relationship. Of course I was hurt but we agreed to be friends. We continued texting for ...
A. 20 December 2012: He's a guy in high school. His attention span is less than a commercial break. He's moved on to something else, just the way it is at that age.... (read in full...)
I'm confused and in love. What should I do considering my wife's attitude to our marriage?
Q. What is the true meaning of marriage? My wife wants us to remain married, but i cant have sex with her. I can touch her, but i can only get a kiss from her every once in a while. She left my for her lover and now is single and not dating. She ...
A. 20 December 2012: Cant add more than AuntyEm. You relationship is over, you need to make it official so you can be with someone who makes you happy.... (read in full...)
Why is he still lying? Yet begging to resume our relationship? Will he change or continue to go on dating sites if we get back together?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago for going on dating sites and sex texting with girls. He could not even explain who these girls were, so I assumed they were from dating sites. He is still lying and says he never went on those dating s...
A. 20 December 2012: He asking bc he cant get easy sex anywhere else at the moment. That will change again at some point.... (read in full...)
I feel like he's using me for oral sex and doesn't value our friendship anymore, what should I do?
Q. Hey guys, hoping you will be able to shed a little light on this situation I'm in. There's this guy I've known for awhile, and before we became friends we fooled around (oral sex) over the summer. After this however, we became close friends. There ...
A. 20 December 2012: IMO, you are a bit young for the sexual escapades you are experiencing. At age 16, IMO a person is just generally far too inexperienced about the world and responsibilities to be having sex, and fully taking on the responsibilities that brings.... (read in full...)
I'm trying my best to be a good mother but the kids father is so immature and hurting the kids, still out partying every weekend! What more can I do?
Q. Hello Im having problems with my kids dad we have two and another on the way. I am confused on what to say to him and how to act towards him because sometimes i just feel like shutting him out of my life, hes so immature he still likes to have fun...
A. 20 December 2012: Just out of curiosity, did you consider any of this before you married him? How about before your first child? How about before your second child? How about before the third that is now on the way?
What can you do? You can stop having c... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend owes me money, but is pregnant with another man. What do I do?
Q. I apologize in advance if this is lengthy. I'm 22 years old. I dated a girl for three years who is the same age. We lived together for the majority of that time, however the last eight months of the relationship was very rocky. Sex was a rarity...
A. 20 December 2012: $600? Let me give you a spoiler - if the laws of Canada are anything like the laws of the US, you will never see a single dime of that money. Never, ever, ever.
You can take her to court. Given what I know about people who do the things s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is 50% happy with me but I don't satisfy him sexually like his ex did. Should I have a threesome with them to make him happy?
Q. I purposed an idea to my boyfriend a couple of days ago. The idea having a threesome with him and his ex. Sounds bizarre, good thing I slept on it and really thought about how it will impact the relationship and everyone involved lives. Question ...
A. 19 December 2012: He is playing you like a harp from hell. ... (read in full...)
Guys, is low self-esteem a big turn off?
Q. I have a very low self esteem. I don't know what to do. I admit that some guys have a crush on me but no one makes the first move(no suitors). I'm often being teased in class with some guys but I just make a poker face because I know it's just for ...
A. 19 December 2012: Low self esteem is not attractive in anyone. Its especially detrimental to men, but not great for women either.... (read in full...)
I invested so much into this guy but he has dumped me for his sister's friend! What should I do?
Q. I am in relationship with a guy, he had a problem in school so he left. we see each other on hols and had sex, so many times he confessed his love to me and i went for it. i was happy until he sent me a msg on whatsapp that he is in love with his ...
A. 19 December 2012: Hes moved on. You need to as well.
Regarding investing in relationship, Im going to give you some golden advice at your age. NEVER EVER listen to what a man SAYS to you. ALWAYS watch what he DOES. That will tell you what is really going on... (read in full...)
Guys, if you see a beautiful girl seems to like you, how do you react?
Q. What if you see this girl and you like her because of her drop-dead beauty, all the guys just keep staring at her from afar and then she added you on fb. She steals glances at you from time to time and you think she likes you. What's your reaction? ...
A. 18 December 2012: SVC - be a bit careful. You're generalizing quite a bit in your post. The inference that a man "worth anything" will want the "average girl with a great mind" takes quite a bit of poetic license.
First, I dont think a man's worth comes down to ... (read in full...)
Should I reply to my old friend, who sided with my ex during our messy split?
Q. Dear Cupids, I've been with a guy for 5+ years: as a couple we used to hang out with this other couple- they were originally friends of mine and I introduced my ex to them. Okay, so about a 1.5 years ago my ex and I went through a horrible break-up...
A. 18 December 2012: Maybe she did "side" with anyone and rather aligned with the "side" that she thought was right. If she did, and it sounds that way, you need to stop acting like a three year old. She did what she thought was right, and you're stomping your feet ... (read in full...)
Broke ex, or well-off baby daddy or neither of them? Help me choose!
Q. I am more confused now more than ever, I split up with the one guy who kept asking for money and he did pay me back and said he was sorry that he shouldn't have done that and that he truly loves me and wants to work things out but they are still ...
A. 18 December 2012: Yet again today, not a religious assertion but a relationship one. Why do people not get married before having children? It seems like the norm these days, but for the life of me I cannot understand committing to child before you fully commit to ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to form lasting relationships.
Q. So I'm not first to have this issue and I'm sure I won't be the last. I'm 29, and I've had only one real relationship. That was back when I was 21 and it lasted 3 months. Since then I have "dated" two women. By dated I mean that nothing ever was ...
A. 18 December 2012: Dude, you have to chill out a bit. Woman want a man, they dont want to have to play mom/psychiatrist. ... (read in full...)
Guys, if you see a beautiful girl seems to like you, how do you react?
Q. What if you see this girl and you like her because of her drop-dead beauty, all the guys just keep staring at her from afar and then she added you on fb. She steals glances at you from time to time and you think she likes you. What's your reaction? ...
A. 18 December 2012: True story - When I was in college, I was visiting my friend who was going to grad school at UNC Chapel Hill. Anyway, we were out at a bar, and walks in this complete knockout w a guy who looked like he starred in Revenge of the Nerds. I see hi... (read in full...)
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