I have all these feelings for her and I don't know what to do with them. Please help!
Q. So I've known this girl for around 10 years and we've always been really close friends but more recently I've developed feelings for her that I just can't seem to shake. Not long ago I decide to tell her how I feel and I asked her to be my GF. She ...
A. 24 July 2012: Tough spot to be in. You need to go 100% in one direction or another. You need to either forget about her romantically, or you need to forget about her completely. A hybrid of friend/gf will NOT work, and only lead to heartache. First though, ... (read in full...)
Is 11 inch height difference too much? People keep telling me she is too short for me.
Q. Hello, My height is 6'1½" inches, she is around 5'3" we have nearly 11 inch height difference. We have been together for half a year I have never thought of height difference as a problem. I'm OK with it. I love her and we are planning our futu...
A. 24 July 2012: Im 6ft and of Northern European ancestry. My fiancee is 5ft and from South America.
Our height difference has never ever been an issue. In fact, she loves how I can pick her up twirl her around at a moments notice. So do I......... (read in full...)
I love my boss and want to tell her that
Q. I am in a problem. I really madly deeply truly seriously fall in love with my boss. She knows that thing. She is beautiful, cute. Whenever she passes me there I can feel the wind of Love. The problem is She is 43, unmarried and I am 25 un...
A. 24 July 2012: Its a power thing - many a man has been where you are.
IMO, you do not "love" her, you are infatuated with her because of her position and its a power thing.
She is your boss, and thats as far as this goes. If you want to have your little fant... (read in full...)
Can the age gap and class diversity work?
Q. I have been getting close to a guy I met a few months ago, we are getting to know each other at the mo so it hasn't developed into anything serious yet, but I can feel myself really falling for him the problem is or what I can't help feeling could ...
A. 24 July 2012: The age gap is fine for your ages. It will only shrink as you age.
Class diversity, as you call it, is only as much of a problem as you want to make of it.... (read in full...)
We met on fb, not in person yet but could it be love?
Q. Hey everyone I ask a question about me never being in love, I said If I could change anything to get a guy to love me. And all the aunts that answered told me no, I'm perfect the way I am. I really appreciate your advice. So here's the thing ...
A. 24 July 2012: Meeting someone online allows you to see only the side the them that they want you to see. At best its a very incomplete picture. If you think you are falling in love, you are falling in love with a picture you have likely completed yourself, and ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get the right guy?
Q. okay this is going to sound stupid...I am 15 and 16 in a couple of weeks. Okay i feel propar low my ex split up with me and i got over that but still miss him been around every single ex i have been with has cheated excapt him. Also i hear other ...
A. 24 July 2012: 1 - Dont rush to lose your virginity. Many girls who already have will try to make you feel like you need to as well. Ever hear of the phrase "misery loves company?" Its something you can only do/give once, and once you do you can never get it ... (read in full...)
I need to move forward but don't want to hurt my husband
Q. The one thing that is so diff. B/w me and My husband is he wants material things to make him happy. Always has. Yet these things just create more work for him that stresses him. I get happy from the close moments doing nothing that requires $. My ...
A. 24 July 2012: There is a reason for the saying "opposites attract." I think it is a good thing you have different views - IMO it helps balance each other out.
I think by being only around people who's views completely agree with yours can be a dangerou... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 24 July 2012: katall - I am sorry - I do realize I spoke of age rather than weight, but I do believe they are related. I dont believe your example about how many partners a man or woman can have in a day is relevant, since how many partners a woman can ha... (read in full...)
Should I forget my hopes and dreams for a man who might never get his act together?
Q. I am planning on going overseas in a month in order to continue my chosen career as there are no opportunities in my country at the moment. I am also going because I want to explore the world and travel. My bf is aware of my future plans but not ...
A. 24 July 2012: Six years? He is who he is, and will not change in any significant way until the day he dies.
Make your decisions accordingly.... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men expect all women to be slim and perfect looking, when they are not?
Q. So, I need some love and support tonight, friends. I am 54 and been on my own for over 3 years since my last break up. Last November, I made a promise to myself to really give online dating a chance, and to put myself out there and take risks. And I ...
A. 19 July 2012: Short and blunt answer - because they CAN.
To generalize, our evolution dictates our drives. With that, men are visual creatures and look for beauty/health to reproduce with, and most inconveniently often as many as possible. Conversely, woman ne... (read in full...)
If this online guy has lied about simple stuff like this, I don't know what more he could lie about!
Q. I'm a 18 year old girl. Im pretty mature, not kiddish at all. I met a guy on a penpal site around 3 years ago and he introduced himself as just John (name obviously changed). He told me he was 24 then (should be 27 now) We eventually lost touch ...
A. 19 July 2012: FWIW, meeting people online for relationship reasons is IMO a dicey proposition at best. Your experience is an example why.... (read in full...)
One night stand cheat on my girlfriend of 3 yrs,..Should I tell her or live with guilt?
Q. Ive been with my gf for 3 years now and our relationship has been the greatest thing in my life. Weve been though a hell of alot with each other and theres nothing i wouldnt do for her. Weve talked immensely about not cheating on each other bc we ...
A. 19 July 2012: These moral questions alwasy bear themselves out easily when we are placed on the other end of the debate.
Ie, if your gf cheated, would YOU want to know?
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
I left my husband and now my boyfriend is not interested in me anymore.
Q. I left my husband because I fell in love with another man. I no longer loved my husband. The other man led me to believe he loved me, too and would be there for me when I left my husband. It turns out that he is not. Now I am all alone without ei...
A. 19 July 2012: Simply put, this seems to be a case of what comes around goes around........ (read in full...)
Is he into me or just using me?
Q. I'm seeing this cop and i really like him. i have strong feelings for this cop. he knows that i care about him a lot and he says that he cares and feels the same. we talk to each other every day until he gets off work. is he playing me and just ...
A. 19 July 2012: In the first line of your question, you didnt refer to him as "this guy" but as rather "this cop." Before we go further, I have to ask is his being a cop the reason why you are dating him? I have seen this phonomenon frequently in life, esp w ... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years?
Q. Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years? I'm starting to lose hope! It seems like loads of people are finding their partners cheating on them on line, sexting, etc :( Can anyone be satisfied just by ...
A. 19 July 2012: Yes, of course people can be faithful indefinitely.
That said, of a much more pressing issue is your last statement - "I dont want to be a wife cheated on." That sounds like a much more specific statement about your bf than marriage in general,... (read in full...)
I have no idea how to interact with the opposite sex.
Q. i literally have no idea how to properly interact with the opposite sex. i have never had a long term relationship with a female. Basically i cant make any friends who are girls its like im only good at getting them to like me an then forget about ...
A. 19 July 2012: From what you describe, I bet most woman your age would describe you as a "nice guy." Let me tell you for the vast majority of women, esp ones around your age, the worst thing they can call you is a "nice guy." Woman dont want "nice guys." They ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to look "girly" during sex
Q. okay here goes! I want my boyfriend to wear black eyeliner (around the entire eye) and have sex with me. just once. maybe very occasionally since it's very weird but it's a fantasy i want fufilled! i don't know how he's going to feel about this, ...
A. 19 July 2012: If my gf asked me to do something like this, I would look at her like she had a third eye in the middle of her forehead.
Just my viewpoint, but Im a man and like to be the man in the relationship. Im not putting one womans clothing and Im not p... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend.....
Q. Hey, I'm 15, and I want a boyfriend. I don't want any of that "you're too young" sh*t. Just give me nice answers :). Ok, so I'm home-schooled, and I only know 3-4 guys, one's Wayy too young (he's like 10), one likes me but just as a friend (which I...
A. 19 July 2012: I dont know about "normal," but its not unusual.
That said, I do think 15 is a bit young to have a steady bf or gf. It simply allows just far too many opportunities for choices you're likely not mature/experienced enough to be making.
In t... (read in full...)
I have no reason not to trust my husband but I don't!
Q. My husband always say I'm the only beautiful and attractive woman for him.He says he doesn't find any other women beautiful or attractive.In fact I can't believe him because he's a man.But when I asked my cousin,my sister,my nephew and some of my ...
A. 19 July 2012: You have not a shread of reason not to trust him. All you are doing is stressing your relationship with no foundation to do so.... (read in full...)
I'm having to chose between the gym to keep my body or my girlfriend!
Q. Here' s the thing. My girlfriend has been complaining of lately that I don't spend enough time with her. I can totally understand her argument because I simply have too much going on to devote a large majority of my time to her. I work full time, ...
A. 19 July 2012: Dont trade your health or self-confidence for any woman. If you have your life together and have self-confidence, women are a dime a dozen, esp woman who want to be your gf. Your health and self-confidence are most definitely not a dime a dozen.
... (read in full...)
Guys, what the hell? Why do you do this to us girls?
Q. I've been dating this amazingly gorgeous and super smart guy for over three months now. In the first weeks he was really into me, taking me out to dinner all the time and really affectionate with me. After two months I made the mistake of telling ...
A. 18 July 2012: Because at your age, that is what a lot of guys do. When I was that age, my interest in women also moved quickly from one to another. Its nothing personal against you, its just us following our evolutionary program. Some men get through this ... (read in full...)
Does this woman want to make love with me?
Q. hello friends,Does this woman wants to make love with me?I am 42 years old,my brother's wife, 52-year-old.touched the woman's breast from behind twice in elbow.In the second gave me to touch my elbow stroked her breasts.she did not give me any ...
A. 18 July 2012: As Starlghts said, its your brothers wife.
You should not even be considering this. ... (read in full...)
Why do I enjoy the chase so much, but then lose interest once I have the guy?
Q. I have been in 6 relationships, but only one of them remotely serious, that's tne I am in right now. Every time the same thing happens: I can't stop thinking about the person and in my dreams and fantasies it seems like they are perfect. But on...
A. 10 July 2012: 1 - Because you are 16. Goes w the territory
2 - Because these guys are letting you get what you want. I just said in another thread that after the first date you need to play it ice-cold. At your age, the guy needs to play it ice-cold almost i... (read in full...)
Is he Sweet or Creepy? One date and he objects to the online dating profile still online?
Q. I had one great date with a guy I met on an online dating site. He texts me everyday / a few times a day and asked me for a second date. We've been in contact now about a week and a half. However - one thing is troubling me! He saw me "online" ...
A. 10 July 2012: I would be a bit worried. For one, he's going against every single dating adage that there ever has been. After the first date, you always want to play it ice-cold to stoke the other persons interest. If there is any from the first date, playing ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by an abusive drug addict! Help!!!
Q. OK1 Here is goes! I am pregnant with a guy who is verbally abusive. He accuses me of sleeping with my neighbor who is gay. He looks at pictures I have sent him and see'sguys arms and condoms on my counter. He calls me every namein thebook you can ...
A. 10 July 2012: If he is the father of the child, you're going to have a tough time completely "getting away" from him since now he has a right to see that child for the rest of his life, barring being abusive to the child. As others have said, adoption may be the ... (read in full...)
Will I always be crushing on someone no matter how much I love my boyfriend?
Q. Hey peoples. So I'm in a serious relationship with my boyfriend, I love him to bits. However, I find myself attracted to my other guy friends and I think I'm developing crushes. Just out of curiosity does this happen to anyone else besides me? Will ...
A. 10 July 2012: Looking is one thing - I think we look until the day we die. Desiring and worse, ACTING upon that desire is another. If you have genunie feelings for someone else, I would question how much you really "love your bf to bits." At your age, with ... (read in full...)
How do you stand the pain of separation in an LDR?
Q. So my boyfriend is going to the east coast to finish up his schooling and I'm staying on the west coast because he's a school year older than I am. We are going to do the long distance thing for sure. But I'm just wondering, how do you stand the ...
A. 10 July 2012: It can work, but going through two of them myself, I can tell you odds are against it, esp at that age. I live in NYC, and had one in San Francisco, and one in Miami. Each lasted about 8 months. The upside is whenever you see that person, ever... (read in full...)
I'm not sure who my baby's father is.
Q. I am 20 years old and just had my first child. She was born March 27 2012 . Problem is is I don't know who her father is. I had sex May 30 2011 with my ex boyfriend e and on June 29 2011 with my current boyfriend. I remember the doctors giving me an ...
A. 10 July 2012: I wonder - who BELIEVES he os the father?> ... (read in full...)
If things are going great in a relationship, what is a reasonable amount of time to expect a marriage proposal?
Q. If things are going great in a relationship, what is a reasonable amount of time to expect a marriage proposal? We are both in mid thirties, been together going on 2 years. When is it time to walk away in search of finding someone who will wanna get ...
A. 10 July 2012: There is nothing worse that being forced into a decision like marriage. The only time to get married is when both partners are 100% ready on their own terms. ... (read in full...)
He says he isn't cheating, and I want to believe him, but I don't. What do you think?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years, we have always been happy until recently... i discovered a text on his phone from a girl saying "hey are you missing me, it was good with drinks the other night, u wanna meet wednesday, wat you doin...
A. 9 July 2012: It is possible he is telling the truth, however, its not likely he is. You need to make your own decision from there.... (read in full...)
How can I get over this and enjoy sex with my boyfriend again?
Q. I've been happily with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, he's sweet, funny, and cares about me more than anything. I would never do anything to betray or hurt him. But a little while ago, I received an invite by an old friend to hang out. I've ...
A. 9 July 2012: There is nothing to "get over." If this transpired just as you say, you didnt do a single thing wrong, and therefore have no need for guilt over anything. You told your bf, which is great, but I wonder what he "forgives" you for, because from what ... (read in full...)
My friend cheated on her husband, should I tell him?
Q. I have a "friend" who has admitted to me that she has cheated on her husband before they got married last Sept. Though I do enjoy her company, I'm not close with her. I was rather shocked that she would tell me something like this because my fiancee ...
A. 9 July 2012: If I were you, I would tell my fiancee and let him decide what he wants to do. Cerberus below has it right - your allegiance is w your fiancee. Your fiancee may feel alligiance to his friend, but thats up to him.
On the flip side, if shes tha... (read in full...)
"Just stop looking blah blah" somebody please tell me how that works!
Q. I've heard this over and over again... That the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I'm looking for one, and that as soon as I stop looking, I'll suddenly end up in a relationship. "Happens when you least expect it," "I found my partner when ...
A. 9 July 2012: Ive always been puzzled by these types of posts bc Ive found that finding a gf is one easiest things to do, esp after age 30 or so. What is much more challeging is finding a good gf who doesnt want to get married two weeks after the first date.
... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend's engaged brother
Q. I don't know what to do. I am in love with my best friends brother and he likes me too. He has a fiance and a 2 year old son. I have felt like this about him since 3rd grade and i am going to be a senior. He has felt this way about me for the same ...
A. 9 July 2012: Hes engaged - I seriously doubt "he feels the same way about you" or he wouldnt be engaged to someone else. Word to the wise - never listen to what people say, watch what they do.
You need to move on. He is with someone else, is going to marry... (read in full...)
I lied about my real age online.
Q. I met a man online a year ago and we became friends ,he's 40 and im 58 but i never told him that.I never thought we would continue to talk so what did it matter.Well the unthinkable happened ,we fell in love ... he is single and so am i .He is the ...
A. 9 July 2012: I also believe you cannot be in love w someone you've never met. Its more like you are in love w the idea you've formed of that person, albeit a quite incomplete idea.
Next, never start any relationship on a lie - there is no good that can come... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my boyfriend that I got drunk and kissed another guy?
Q. Me and my best friend (girl) went away camping for the weekend. On saturday we met some guys who took our numbers and invited us over to their camp site for the evening, so we got there and just hung out. They offered us beers and I took one, then ...
A. 9 July 2012: 15 year old girls should not be downing 10 beers and then randomly kissing boys.
If you dont seriously change your behavior, I fear what will happen to you by 21.... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 really not want to have sex?
Q. I am very concerned about the amount of sex or lack of with my boyfriend of 1.5 appx. he recently moved back home his mom is sick, but I am her caretaker..we dont live together and he didnt really want to move back home he likes his privacy. we ...
A. 9 July 2012: Im 44, and I have sex w my fiancee at least six times a week. If I go more than a day or two, I start getting antsy. Ive always had a high sex drive, and I have not seen it abate all that much as Ive gotten older.
... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable that I don't want my son to lie in bed all day?
Q. At 2pm today I told my husband that he should go and tell my son that it was time to get up out of bed and he said "To Do What?" Am I unreasonable not to want him to lie in be all day? ...
A. 9 July 2012: First, I recall being that age and wanting to sleep later than my parents. Its just a fact of the age differences. People in their 40s dont usually sleep past 8am. In your teens, 11am is no problem. Just the way it is.
That said, the "for wha... (read in full...)
What can a 33 year old man possibly see in a 66 year old woman?
Q. I am a healthy, attractive 66 year old female who is being ardently courted by a very handsome 33 year old male. That is a big age gap! What can this man possibly see in me?...
A. 9 July 2012: First, second, and third things I thought were
1) Money
2) Money
and
3) Money... (read in full...)
Girlfriend too busy with texting to make time for me
Q. I have been trying to talk to my gf of 4 years about some issues we have been having, mainly her texting, facebook etc all night and how basically I have to say can we watch tv together/ spend time together and shes like yeah at about 11:30pm, then ...
A. 5 July 2012: Only a fool stays after an ultimatum. Id been out the door before she finished the sentence.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend mentally abusive because he cannot forget my escort past
Q. This situation is extremely complicated, but here goes. I am currently teetering on the verge of insanity due to an extremely psychologically, and emotionally abusive relationship with a man who cannot forget my past as an escort. I met this man...
A. 5 July 2012: For one, you need to get rid of him because he obv cannot handle your past. Its just not a good situation to be in.
Second, you need to realize that there are going to be a lot of men who are going to have a problem w you being an escort, ... (read in full...)
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