Are we moving to fast?
Q. I've been dating a guy for 3 months and the beginning was rough but things have turned out great. I spend the night at his house almost everyday, he takes me to work some days at 7 am, I've net his mother 3 times. He has even joke about how ...
A. 1 February 2013: Yes, you are moving to fast, esp at your age.... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his ex gf? I feel that he is hiding stuff from me?
Q. My boyfriend who I'v been dating for a few months now seems to be hiding a lot of things,and I think the only woman who would know him inside out would be his ex girlfriend they dated 6 years,is it ok if I talked to her?I know her since we went to ...
A. 1 February 2013: 1 - Asking an ex for advice on your current just screams bad idea.
2 - If you feel the need to ask an ex for advice on your current, you really shouldnt be involved with the current.... (read in full...)
It hurts me to see my friend with my girl crush together. Should I cut them off?
Q. Without going into a lot of detail, my closest male friend and a girl I had been crushing on for quite some time now, and for the first time for one of my crushes actually getting on with the person a good deal rather than admiring from afar, ...
A. 1 February 2013: If you liked her, you should of manned up and asked her out first. He did, now you need to man up again and put your feelings aside.... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a guy calls you "high maintenance"?
Q. What exactly does it mean by 'high maintenace'.. The guy I'm dating now its been a few weeks and the reason he dint ask me out earlier is because he thought I would be 'high maintenance'..what did that mean:( ?...
A. 1 February 2013: It means that dating you will be overly expensive - either monetarily, emotionally, or both.... (read in full...)
A phone call shattered my world, find out husband had an affair. If I leave will it stop the pain?
Q. Hi One evening I got a call from a girl saying to ask my husband who she is. I asked ... it is a work collegue who he has being having an affair with for 4 months. He said he ended it 1 month ago and didnt have sex. I believe him and he's promise...
A. 30 January 2013: Im sorry for your pain. That said, the chances that your husband did not have sex with this woman is slim, and thats being generous. A woman does not call the house when she doesnt feel jilted, and a woman feels most jilted when she thinks she was ... (read in full...)
I need the strength to despise him for cheating on me
Q. I don't know what to do. I'm 26, found out my boyfriend of 4 years has cheated on me 2 times, once each time with two different girls. He seemed so sweet and loving up until I just found this out. I have 100% concrete evidence, there's no doubt he...
A. 30 January 2013: If you want to continue being cheated on, stay. Its that simple.... (read in full...)
Everything things my guy and I have the perfect relationship. But I feel confused and I'm thinking of breaking up or cheating. I already talk online to a guy. What should I do?
Q. Hey, sorry for being dramatic about this but I didn't know where else to go for help, thanks for reading. I've been with my boyfriend since 2009, and he is 3 years older than me. I came out when we started dating, and it was hard, very difficult w...
A. 30 January 2013: Sure sounds like you're asking us to give you an excuse to move on from the "perfect" guy....... (read in full...)
My girlfriend does not know if she would marry me, but ultimately wants to be married.
Q. I started dating my girlfriend back in 2010, and for me it became love at first sight. She felt the same and then we started the relationship and everything was perfect. I will admit, I was not the most emotional person and I tend to express my ...
A. 30 January 2013: Make sure the woman you are going to marry is in love with YOU , and not in love with MARRIAGE.... (read in full...)
He's 24. I told him I was 18. How can I tell him the truth that I'm 17 and not lose him when I do tell?
Q. Hello, I'm 17 years old and iv met a guy and we have been seeing each other for about a month and we really like each other. However, I told him I was 18 as we met in a bar that I got into. He's 24. I want to tell him that I'm actually 17,...
A. 30 January 2013: How do you tell him the truth that you're really 17?
You look at him and say - "I need to be honest with you. Im really 17."
That would probably work.... (read in full...)
What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.
Q. Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. W...
A. 30 January 2013: Perhaps you should think about making sure your relationship is working PRIOR to having children with him. ... (read in full...)
What to do? He's abusive to me and humiliates me. I've lost confidence in myself, and in him, because he shares everything about us with his friends
Q. Hi, I just want know what to do with a boyfriend that listens to his friends advices for almost everything. When we planned to buy a house he took all the documents about what was happening.and talked to his friends. He has been abusive to me an...
A. 30 January 2013: Every time I touch the hot stove, it burns me. I tried yesterday and I got burned, and I tried again today and I got burned again! Each day, I awake and hope the stove will be different, but I just dont know what to do anymore!
Please help!
... (read in full...)
He won't let us sleep in the same bed! How to get our love back?
Q. Been with my husband 25 years! But we have not slept in the sane bed for 11 years and he lost interest in sex-until 2 years ago when a neighbour came on to him - he does have problem with Erectile Dysfunction. The affair is over -but he still wo...
A. 30 January 2013: Sorry - I cannot understand what you wrote. .... (read in full...)
Bestfriend is depressed and I am tired of being the rock.
Q. Me and my best friend Lucy have been best friends for almost 3 years, we do lots of things together, have classes together and hang out all the time. She's always been quite high maintenance, she's very insecure and makes up for this by acting ...
A. 30 January 2013: She is what I call a emotional "vampire." They are quite common, and they will suck the life out of you every chance they get, esp when they find you are a willing donor.
My advice is stay far from those people. The relationship will always b... (read in full...)
LDR makes me feel insecure. How do I get over it?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with my current boyfriend and we talk everyday. As far as looks go, I consider myself to be attractive, and I believe we are very compatible personality-wise, and we have many similar interests. We've been ...
A. 30 January 2013: A LDR has about 6-12 months to become a non-LDR. Otherwise, it becomes an non-R.
... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have to pay board to their parents?
Q. Hi, just a quick question! I am 20 years old, and have just moved back home. My parents have asked me to contribute $100 a week, for rent/bills/food. I work full-time, making about $600 (aus) a week. I also have my phone bill to pay, as well as ...
A. 30 January 2013: If you dont think its "fair," then you have every right to go out into the free market and pay the "fair" market price.... (read in full...)
Trying to make my marriage blossom, but I can't last 5 minutes without thinking about my lover
Q. Married for 23yrs I met the love of my life who has been married 24yrs. We had an undeniable connection, and made love 24hrs after meeting. His first time and my first, since our weddings. We live in different states. I returned home and ...
A. 30 January 2013: You need to be honest about your adultery and let your husband go. You are a cheater, and a very easily persuaded (read "weak") one at that.
He will likely destroy you in divorce court, as he should.... (read in full...)
Why do people have to make comments that are hurtful?
Q. Dear Cupid, The other night I was talking to this guy that I know fairly well but is still considered an acquaintance. We were texting and he asked "why do you wear so much makeup? Not to say you look bad but i'm sure you're pretty naturally...
A. 30 January 2013: No one can be condescending to you or make you feel bad with words without your permission........ (read in full...)
Why is it online men in their 50's only want young women?
Q. I have been online dating + looking at online personals and I cannot believe how much most men online suck about age. I will be 25 in a couple of months + was shocked to see that there are tons of men in their 50s who specify they want women 18-25! ...
A. 30 January 2013: Actually - I have never heard of older men being less able to produce "high quality offspring." It could be true, just never heard that conjecture, ever.
As far as older men and younger women, I have said this here before, but the basic drive is... (read in full...)
Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?
Q. How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...
A. 30 January 2013: How to "keep" your gf from cheating?
A - Be VERY VERY careful about who you have as a gf. Cheaters usually show themselves very quickly, on one way or another. The first thing I would tell you in selecting a woman is this, before you finish t... (read in full...)
I want a man who doesn't cheat or look at pornography. Does he exist?
Q. I want a man like this does this even exist? Basically i'm after a man who does not engage in any kind of cheating at all (glances at swimsuit pics mildly acceptable.) but no porn, no talking dirty to others, little female friends, no strip clubs. ...
A. 28 January 2013: As others have alluded to, this is not a man issue, this is a you issue. You need to find your confidence and deal with your insecurities. Trust me, the man you are describing doesnt exist.... (read in full...)
I've been married 18 years and have attracted a new butterfly. What do I do about my wife and son?
Q. hi,i'm 48 yr old man, been married 18 yrs, one child, 3 months ago i meant a woman, 45 yrs old, it started out with a casual flirt which later ended up with lunch dates everyday for a month, during our lunch encounters we learned we basically are ...
A. 28 January 2013: You've been out of the game for two decades - anyone you meet romatically is going to feel like its amazing.
You have a wife and son, and your committment is to them. All the time and energy you are putting into this new fling, why dont you inst... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to sell my house and move with him.
Q. I've been with my bf for nearly 4 years. Before i met him, i started building a house and after a few delays it was finished 2 years ago. I have lived there since but he has remained living at home. We are on the verge of breaking up beca...
A. 28 January 2013: Money is difficult. Finding a bf/gf is easy. Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him
Q. I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgustin...
A. 28 January 2013: Is he telling you this unprompted or are you asking?... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my friends don't judge me for having sex?
Q. Okay before I begin please dont judge me. I know a lot of you are going to and I dont come here to be judged I come here for advice. Okay so my boy friend and I are both the same age and we were both virgins. We both decided that we were ready an...
A. 28 January 2013: Mature enough to have sex? Maturity means taking full responsibility for your actions. If you get pregnant, the cost for raising a child from birth to 18 is around $250,000.
Are you "mature" enough at 16 to take that responsibility? ... (read in full...)
My partner is constantly belittling my looks, my opinions and my intelligence.
Q. I love my partner and he loves me, but I dont feel like he appreciates me. I am an attractive lady and have always had a lot of male attention my whole life. I am now 36 yrs old and look probably 28 yrs old. Not that I am basing who I am off my ...
A. 24 January 2013: You know, I keep banging my head against the wall, and it really hurts. I got up this morning, and I banged my head against the wall, and it hurt. I did it yesterday, and it hurt, and I did ten minutes ago, and it hurt. Can someone please t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost her virginity at 16 and it makes me extremely jealous of her
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for months now, she is my first proper girlfriend and the first person I have sex with, I am 22 and she is 20 , she lost her virginity at 16 and it makes me extremely jealous of her , I cant stop picturing her ...
A. 24 January 2013: I'll add one more option to what Yos wrote - You can be with her You can be alone or You can be with someone who has a past you can accept. Choice is entirely yours.... (read in full...)
A virgin dating a player. I'm scared about having sex with him!
Q. Hey everyone, I'm dating a well known business man of my city,and even before I knew him I'd read about how he's a player and is not really looking for a relationship,I never ever thought for the life of me I'd date him some day!so when I got into...
A. 24 January 2013: The chances of you being with this guy long term seem slim at best. At your age, it seems you have been saving your first time for someone special. There are plenty of guys who will appreciate that, this one almost certainly wont. The one p... (read in full...)
I can't commit to someone else because I'm in love with a married man
Q. I have been in contact with a married man with two older children since 2009 . We chatted for about 6 months before i let him in my life. We got serious and within 3 weeks his wife found out . He called if off. I was gutted , he would avoid me at ...
A. 24 January 2013: You "chatted" for six months, were "serious" for just three weeks, and you cannot got over him?
For one, he's married. Leave him alone, and tell him to leave you alone. For two, given the limited contact you've had, you shouldn't be even thi... (read in full...)
How do I get over constantly feeling anxious about my husband working with so many girls who idolize him?
Q. My husband and I have been together for five years. Three years into our relationship, he got a new job. He manages a store, with a lot of employees. He works closely with a lot of females, all of which of course idolize him as he's the boss. One ...
A. 24 January 2013: I can sympathize with him. I used to run a division at an investment bank, and there were six women who reported directly to me. Now, I own/run a business in an industry that is predominantly women. As the boss, yes, women do try to get close to ... (read in full...)
Do relationships develop from sleeping with someone you have just met?
Q. Do relationships develop from sex? I’ve always been the type of person who hasn't slept around and would never let myself be used by a fella for sex. By doing this I think I have kept men at arm’s length and therefore have never developed any long...
A. 24 January 2013: If you sleep with a guy on the first date, he will never respect you and he will never look to you for anything other than sex. If subsequent guys find you did this with other men in the past, many will also see you this way, whether you did so ... (read in full...)
Why do some women find aggressive behaviour in men a turn on? I don't get the female mind!
Q. Hey all I have a question on the confusing female mind! I was chatting with a couple of women recently and they both confused the hell out of me. One had slept with some chavy guy who she regretted sleeping with but said she did it because the h...
A. 24 January 2013: I have heard many woman say they dont like an aggressive male. I have not seen many act that way.
I have heard many woman say they dont like an arrogant male.
Right before they date the Wall St trader, the Navy SEAL, or the lead guitarist
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had me charged for a crime when she was the one who has been abusive
Q. My life is in such a mess! I was with my girlfriend for about two years. Anyway, after a few months I caught her cheating. But I took her back. Then I caught her cheating again and I took her back. She then started to raise her hands to me abou...
A. 24 January 2013: Get away from her. If she ever calls, writes, texts, emails, etc, save them and make a record of it.
Hate to say it, but as the male in the relationship, the law is against you in this case. All a woman generally has to do to make your life mis... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has no endurance to be on top during sex
Q. My boyfriend can't be on top during sex. He's about 220 lbs and he's around 6 feet tall, so he's a little overweight but not obese or anything, anyways he gets tired really easily and can't last on top at all. Like 5 to 10 minutes and he either has ...
A. 24 January 2013: I am 6ft, 188 lbs, and in shape. My fiancee is 5ft, 100 lbs, and in shape. We have never had an issue with any position. Someone below stated he needs to get in shape. Thats the bold truth.... (read in full...)
Gf sending dirty texts to another man
Q. Hi, I've been with my gf for nearly 3 years, it's had it's ups and downs but we've got through them, between us we have 4 children, she has 3 girls I have one boy. The two youngest girls dad left when the youngest was born, and hasn't been around ...
A. 24 January 2013: If you have a gf who is sending sexually explicit texts to another man, I would argue that you dont have a gf.... (read in full...)
How important is oral sex?
Q. The basic question here is how important is oral sex to you? I'm aiming this at both genders just to get an overview from both sides. I've been with some people who absolutely love oral and others who aren't really that interested in it and i'd li...
A. 24 January 2013: I wouldnt date someone who didnt participate. If she doesnt want it, thats no skin off my back, but Im more than willing to provide it. I wont budge on the recipient side though.... (read in full...)
I want to get married but my partner's been married twice before and doesn't think he wants to marry me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for going on 2 years. He recently told me that he loved me but wasn't in love with me. But he wanted to be. He said that he wanted to work on things. He stayed. Now he says that he loves me. And he is glad that he ...
A. 24 January 2013: Make sure you are in love with the person more than you are in love with marriage....... (read in full...)
My GF doesn't want to lose her virginity until we're married, but that won't be for 10 years! What can we do?
Q. I have been together with my girlfriend for nearly a year. We both never had sex, we only experimented with foreplay etc.(Basically everything but just the most vital part, sex) She told me she will only be willing to do that once we get m...
A. 15 January 2013: Ten years is your own doing. This girl has her standards, and I applaud her for holding to them. Either respect them or find someone else.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband to evict him? And that I've been flirting with the younger cute male student we sub-let a room to?
Q. Times have been hard lately for my husband and I so we got a room mate to help split the rent of our 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home.I'm 27 and my husband is 29 our new room mate is a 20 year old college student, pretty quit and geeky. I'm a stay at home ...
A. 15 January 2013: IMO you have already committed adultery, and IMO are only a pocket-protector away from it having gone the full way already. You are well on your way to losing your husband. Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Broke up due to his use of dating sites. Not civil either. So why does he try to deny or hide that he has a new GF?
Q. My ex went on a mid life crisis spree..we split up because he was on the dating sites and setting up relationships with them every month......why ? He has stopped communication with his kids....and as far as facebook everytime he comes on he deact...
A. 15 January 2013: Cas - Im going to be blunt with you. The actions you are taking and the things you are posting just reek of being a stalker and OCD. "I want him to own up...." "Hes a compulsive liar." "I would love for him to tell me....." You need to st... (read in full...)
Can or have men been able to stop using Porn once they meet the woman who is the 'ONE'?
Q. Is there any men here who stopped using porn once they found a girlfriend who they thought was the one? Am I just dreaming here or can this happen? I have read about this happening as soon as they started the relationship. ...
A. 14 January 2013: Like anything that has short term reward, it can be addictive, especially if you are weak-minded. I have used it before myself, but now that I live w my fiancee, I see no need to look on a screen for what I can get in real life. When she leaves for ... (read in full...)
I can't get over this mystery breakup.
Q. Hey guys, well, I'm trying to find the best advice on how to move on with my life or keep fighting for my true love. My ex girlfriend and I went out for 6 months and we were a decent couple, we never had big problems or any huge fights while we...
A. 14 January 2013: Read what mouse wrote below. Says it all.... (read in full...)
Broke up due to his use of dating sites. Not civil either. So why does he try to deny or hide that he has a new GF?
Q. My ex went on a mid life crisis spree..we split up because he was on the dating sites and setting up relationships with them every month......why ? He has stopped communication with his kids....and as far as facebook everytime he comes on he deact...
A. 8 January 2013: One more vote for - you are broken up two years - why are you still stalking him? Given the way you are acting, Im inclined to understand why he decided to leave.... (read in full...)
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