My boyfriend is living with his baby mama...
Q. My boyfriend is living with his baby mama... So my boyfriend recently (4 months ago) had a baby with his last girlfriend. We have been dating for seven months and I really like him. He is so sweet and really goes out of his way to make sure that I k...
A. 28 November 2012: What is a "baby mamma?"... (read in full...)
I slept with my boyfriends friend.
Q. Hi, So this may be a bit long, sorry for that. Basically I was with a friends with benefits for a couple of months, but I knew it wasn't going any where. So I went on a dating site just to see if there would be anyone. Fortunately there was. I b...
A. 28 November 2012: 99% chance your relationship is over. Learn from it and try not to make the same mistake again.... (read in full...)
How do I deal or forget her past sexual experience? Because I really love this girl and don't want to lose her
Q. Okay well I have been dating this girl for 2 months and i have really started to love her she is the first girl i have ever wanted to say i love you to but when i start to think about her past with all of the men she has slept with it really ...
A. 28 November 2012: Ugh - you have retro jealousy, and my guess is this is the first you are realizing it. (I was about the same age.)
The bad news is the affliction you have sucks big time and is incredibly painful and difficult to defeat. My advice to anyone w... (read in full...)
He's been separated for 6 years but wont get a divorce, am I a mug for staying with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months, he has been separated from his wife for 6 years! But still isn't divorced! He says she means nothing to him and its only a piece of paper. We have bought a house together and I have 1 child and he ...
A. 28 November 2012: Im one to finish one thing before I start another, particularly when those things are mutually exclusive.
In short, "separated" = "still married." All one does in starting another relationship while still being married is unnecessarily complica... (read in full...)
We don't like her, so we bully her. I think she's going to report us, any advice?
Q. in my friendship group there are 20 of us and we're all really close. since about yr6 we've been friends with this other girl,bertha, in yr7 we had a fall out. i felt really bad so i apologised to her face she accepted it, but did not apologise ...
A. 28 November 2012: Bullying only shows insecurity and cowardice. ... (read in full...)
I fear I've been used by a man I met on a dating site.
Q. I have been such a fool. I joined a dating site and met what seemed like a man in a million. He was a good listener, polite and we clicked. He took me for a meal and we ended up at my home, we talked and he listened to my problems and then we slept ...
A. 28 November 2012: 1 - Yes, it was a one night thing. Who was "used" depends upon your viewpoint.
2 - Meeting someone and moving this quickly, whether it be online or in a bar, carries this risk.... (read in full...)
I showed my online boyfriend a fake picture. Now I'm afraid he wont accept the real me.
Q. 3 years back i met this sweet guy through online.Hes very sweet, after 3 years of chatting i never expect i will fall in love with him and he told me he fall for me too. he always say im the sweetest gal he ever met he has my number and we talk and ...
A. 28 November 2012: You cannot base any relationship on a lie. Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else find certain accents sexy?
Q. I'm from up north and study at university here, this girl I met one night she's from London, but when I saw her in the bar I thought she was beautiful and then when she introduced herself her British accent caught my attention immediately! I lo...
A. 27 November 2012: Its a proven fact that accents are generally found attractive by the opposite sex. My guess is the reason is found (again) in our genetic code. In short, there is a reason for the saying "opposites attract." In genetic terms, the more ... (read in full...)
Does an abusive man ever change for the better?
Q. Does an abusive man change? I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 years who was emotionally, verbally, financially, sexually (and in the end) physically abusive. I have been away from him for months now and moved back home with my parents to heal ...
A. 27 November 2012: NO ONE ever changes who they are. They can fake it for a time at the expense of great effort and energy, but at some point this becomes too much and they revert back to who they are. ... (read in full...)
My wife says there is no love for me and she has fallen for some man online
Q. i have a problem. my wife and i have been together for several years now and we have always had our ups and downs. we have both done things in our time together to hurt each other and we both dont like it. the problem now is that we drifted apart ...
A. 27 November 2012: I third the sentiments of the online "lover." Its pathetic. Also, I would make sure you have documentation of that. You will likely need it in divorce court.... (read in full...)
Should I propose for a second time? Thoughts please!!
Q. What a god damn cliche I'm about to spew, but it's the truth and I need guidance. Girl moves next door in 5th grade, boy befriends girl. They become best friends by the summer before 6th grade and continue this sexually frustrating relationship ...
A. 27 November 2012: Just me, but any woman who turned down me asking a first time sure as hell wouldnt ever be lucky enough to find out what a second proposal feels like, at least not from this guy.... (read in full...)
Guys: would you date a girl if you knew she had done nude modelling?
Q. I have been modeling for an online lingerie site. I was approached by a porn site for nude modeling... The money they offered was amazing! I told them I would NEVER do photos with a man or another woman... Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew...
A. 27 November 2012: I had a friend who went through this very thing. He was also 100% ok with it, until he started caring about the girl. Then it wasnt ok anymore.
Personally, I wouldnt want nude pictures of my wife to be available to the entire world by nothing ... (read in full...)
With holding of sex
Q. why is it when my girlfiend with holds sex its okay but when i do she gets mad about it?...
A. 27 November 2012: If either of you is using sex as a manipulative tool, and it sounds like you both are, you probably shouldnt be in a relationship.... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my mother is still super strict.
Q. I'm 19 and my mother is extremely strict what should I do?...okay so here's the deal. I'm 19 and living at home. But don't worry I pay for my food and my rent. I depend only on myself. I'm responsible and really mature. But unfortunately my mother ...
A. 27 November 2012: I know more than a few older women who told me they had very strict mothers well into their 20s. Now all past their 30s, not a single one of them wishes it were any different....
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Is there any hope of turning this around? I keep finding my Gf on dating sites.
Q. My life seems like a constant cycle of catching my girlfriend on dating sites, breaking up and then somehow ending up back together. When I have caught her she has lied by denying it, blamed me for neglecting her, accused me of jealousy, abuse, i...
A. 27 November 2012: Dude - your 51 - do you really need to be putting up with this type of nonsense? Forget her and move on. You're 51 - you can easily find a woman who will treat you right who is in her late 30s. Have fun.... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship after the "where are we going" conversation! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in an exclusive relationship for almost three years (both of us over 45). We see each other five times a week, taking turns sleeping at each other's home. My home is a lot for me to take care of (large yard and pool), n...
A. 27 November 2012: One question - if you were both sleeping over each others homes, how is it that just YOU were the one "used" for sex? If Im reading your situation right, it seems you both were doing the same thing quite consentually.
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He asked for my number but hasn't called!
Q. Friday night, as I was leaving the bar, a cute guy I had DEFINITELY noticed, who had introduced himself to me that night (but we were never really able to have a conversation), hurried over and tapped on my driver's side window. He said he something ...
A. 21 November 2012: Only thing I can say about him is he seems to be one smooth operator.... (read in full...)
I made a stupid mistake. How can I make things right again?
Q. My problem started last week, i made a stupid mistake a really stupid mistake.something i thought i would never do.and i regret it with all my heart . the only problem is that what i did affected someone very very close to me and no matter how ma...
A. 16 November 2012: Tough to prescribe a medicine when you dont know exactly what the ailment is....... (read in full...)
'Making Love' versus 'Having Sex' with boyfriend.
Q. So I guess this is a question about lovemaking vs sex. I had spent the day with my boyfriend and he was helping me studying. Then after several hours I had to go out to do something else, and we were kissing a bit, and I said, I have to go, and ...
A. 16 November 2012: Good grief, what drama. Ive been with my fiancee for five years, and she has never said no to me, not once. Recently I asked about it, and she said - "For one, I probably want it more than you, and for two, I have friends who wish their man wanted ... (read in full...)
He's a white supremacist but I am not white. So how will he feel about our unborn child?
Q. This is going to sound ridiculous I am non white but my BF is a white supremacist, did time in prison, which is where he picked up the ideology. He wears a Thors pendant, follows asatru and all that. He thinks whites are superior to blacks, but ...
A. 16 November 2012: Funny how many "white supremacists" or "black power" people are really attracted to something other than what they are. Just an observation.... (read in full...)
Sex Survey: how often do you want it?
Q. Questions for married women ages 40-50 in long term marriages. How often would you like sex? Once a week? Every day? How often does your husband initiate? Please state your age, years married and sex frequency you'd like. Also state your % est...
A. 16 November 2012: Me an my fiancee have sex 6-8 times per week. She is Colombian, so there is a taboo with her directly initiating too aggressively, but she always lets me know one way or another that she wants it, which is at least half of the time. In five y... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 16 November 2012: In difference to what k_c 100 says, specifically - "What girl would pick you over him? The one that doesnt want the super hot jerk, the one that wants a nice guy who treats her well. And I can assure you, there are LOADS of girls who want that." ... (read in full...)
I can't cope with my girlfriend's history and don't know what to do.
Q. My girlfriend had 3 boyfriends before me, I had 2. She's 24 and I am 28. We have been dating for 6 months, and it's a serious relationship to both of us. Recently, she asked me how many girls I've slept with before her and we discussed honestly ...
A. 10 November 2012: You are experiencing retroactive jealousy. Its more common than you think, and nothing to be ashamed of. As a someone who shares the affliction, my advice to you is to decide right now if this woman is worth it to you to go through what you... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if your husband encourages it?
Q. What should I do? My husband of almost ten years and I talk about everything. He knows exactly what I like and he satisfies me but I have been having a fantasy about being in a threesome. My husband likes the idea but doesn't think the other guy ...
A. 10 November 2012: If you go ahead with this, your relationship will be permanently changed, and not for the better. And remember, once you do it, you can never undo it. Ever.... (read in full...)
My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What would be a good classy way to break it off ?
Q. Hello everyone. My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What happened is that he suddenly changed his FB password after adding a girl he used to have a crush on... And lately we just been extremely distant so I went through my Facebook and dele...
A. 4 October 2012: LDRs typically have a 6-12 month shelf life until a decision must be made, or it will be made for you. That yours lasted two years is IMO atypically long. If the two of you are not committed to changing it right now, then its over.... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? My boyfriend went out with his friends and he had a private nude lap dance provided for his enjoyment.
Q. I've never posted on anything like this before but I'm really not sure what to do. A few weeks my boyfriend went out with his friends just for a night on the town with the boys. At beginning of the night he and his friends went to a strip club ...
A. 4 October 2012: I dont think its "cheating" per se, but as others have stated, you need to establish boundaries about what is and is not acceptable for the both of you.... (read in full...)
My husband is constantly putting me down.
Q. My husband who is in denial has been putting me down for years for one reason or another. I will point it out to him as he is doing but he sees NOTHING wrong with it. I have question his love for me, but im so sure that he is NOT nor has ever lov...
A. 4 October 2012: You probably want responses about how this behavior is unacceptable etc, etc, but reading your post leads me to believe there is a significant other side to this story. Ie, if we asked your husband about things you do he would have his own laundry ... (read in full...)
Is physical pleasure the most important thing about sex and does sex turn men into horny, unthinking animals?
Q. I feel alienated from people because I don't believe in casual sex and favour intimacy over physical pleasure. I've been told that my views come from immaturity and that once I have sex everything will change and I will become nothing short of a sex ...
A. 4 October 2012: There is definitely a biological need for sex that is separate from how we feel about the person we are having the sex with. That said, as the most civilized creatures on the planet, we also have evolved emotional and social needs that tie into ... (read in full...)
Married to a Serial Cheater. Our baby will be born in January. And your advice about what to do about this situation would be?
Q. I am married to what I think is a serial cheater. We have been together 7 years married for 4 years. Once caught him on sex dating websites, with hidden email accounts and we put an end to it and communicated on what and why he did it and some of h...
A. 4 October 2012: There is something I am very curious about. You seem to have known this man is a serial cheater, so instead of getting him out of your life, you do the opposite and have a child with him, ensuring now that he will always be in your life until the ... (read in full...)
I am SO in love with this girl who is my Ex Gf. But what do you guys think? She says she can't say how she feels.
Q. Hello again, my name is E.and there is this amazing girl. She is my ex Gf. Her personality is amazing we got together the day after my birthday and we stayed together for 6 months and she was 100 percent with me. she didnt lie, she didnt cheat ...
A. 4 October 2012: She doesnt want to be with you dude. No other way to put it. You need to stop throwing away good money after bad. Trust me, if you continue chasing her, you will live to regret the fool you are making of yourself.... (read in full...)
Is it because she has already done it all? She's been wild sexually in the past with others. Now she is happy with if fortnightly.
Q. I have a question and I was hoping I could get some insight from the females on here. I will try to keep it short, but I feel I have to give a little background so you guys know the full story. Both my girlfriend and I are pretty close to getting...
A. 3 October 2012: There have been studies concluding that female promiscuity, especially early, leads to problems with forming strong monogamous bonds later, particularly sexual ones. IMO, your gf's actions are an example of this.
Personally, I wouldnt consider... (read in full...)
Is a 6-7 year age gap really that big of a deal in dating?
Q. I've recently started dating this girl. She's really nice, I get along with her really well. But there's a slight age difference. I'm 22 (23 soon), she's recently turned 30. I've only told a few of my friends about her (we've only been on a ...
A. 3 October 2012: At your age, its not that big of a deal. But your 6-7 year age gap is really a 7-8 year age gap from what you say. The problems from a woman being significantly older than a man typically manifest themselves later in the relationship. To be ... (read in full...)
My husband contributes and so does my Mom. Is my boyfriend contributing enough to live most of the time in my home?
Q. I've been separated from my husband for over 2 years. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 2 years. I live in a house with my three sons and my Mother. My ex husband presently pays $3500 per month for the mortgage and taxes He also gi...
A. 3 October 2012: For starters, my mom had FIVE children, and somehow she worked the whole way through and all of us turned out just dandy, so I don't buy your excuse for not working.
My suggestions to you -
1 - Get divorced before you have a bf. "Separated"... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this? My Bf is constantly implying how much better things would be when we go all the way
Q. hello everybody. i'm in a great relationship for about eight months now - thing is, i'm a virgin, and my boyfriend, who is older and more experienced is not exactly sensitive about it. i mean, he doesn't do anything i'm uncomfortable with, but he's...
A. 3 October 2012: "How much better things will be" = "I really want to get laid."
Having sex in itself will not make your relationship better if it not already good.... (read in full...)
My cousin has a Gf. And he and I flirt a lot. I am still a virgin. Should I agree to sex with him?
Q. Hi guys! Hope you can help me. I am a shy type of girl but i do flirted with my first cousin. Its my 3rd time to meet him last january. He's from jersey,he lives there, he's d same guy i wrote here last 2010 http://www.dearcup...
A. 3 October 2012: Sorry, cant advocate incest. There are genetic reasons for the statement "opposites attract." Incest flies in the face of that. Just thinking about kind of creeps me out.... (read in full...)
Is he using me? We never date, just have sex in the woods!
Q. Iv been seeing this guy for 2 months now and we meet up once a week, he seems nice but he never takes me out on a proper date. We only meet up for sex or heavy petting. He doesn't book a room up, we do it in the woods, Im feeling a bit used. He does ...
A. 3 October 2012: Sex in the woods is for teenagers. Sounds like he is using you, and you are letting him, which could imply you are using him as well.... (read in full...)
If a man in a relationship had a choice of sex or a blow job, then why does he so often prefer the latter?
Q. I'm trying to better understand men. Psychologically, what makes them more in the mood for a blow job over sex in the context of a relationship?...
A. 3 October 2012: Depends on the night. Sometimes one, sometimes the other. Fiancee is always willing...... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my title from Mrs to Ms. Should I, and how do I do it?
Q. My husband is very keen and really wants me to change my title from Mrs. to Ms. He says it is much more sexy. What do others think about this, as I am fairly OK with it, but not totally sure. How would I go about effecting this change? ...
A. 3 October 2012: Sounds pretty foolish to me, but to each their own...... (read in full...)
Does he want more than FWB?
Q. About a year ago I started uni and met a whole lot of new people, I got in an awesome friend group and everything was good. One of the guys from the group was a bit of a slag and hooked up with tonnes of girls, but he was still a great guy. After ...
A. 3 October 2012: For a guy a FWB is much much more likely to revert to "friend" than "girl friend." In the interim though, he will try to maintain the FWB as long as possible....... (read in full...)
Do good looking people stay single for longer because people are afraid to approach them?
Q. Is it true that good looking people will stay single for a longer time periods than 'average' looking people, because other people (who are more insecure) won't approach them thinking they won't stand a chance anyway? I read this in an article a ...
A. 3 October 2012: Not in the majority, but it does happen. I recall many years ago visiting my best friend who was going to a law school at X. In any event, we were out in a bar and I saw this absolutely stunning girl walk in with a guy who looked like a reje... (read in full...)
Because of an open relationship I may lose my gf
Q. a year ago, i asked my gf for an open relationship. i really wanted to experience more sexually from different types of women. We had been together for three years before i asked her, and after five months she told me she would give a try, though s...
A. 3 October 2012: Whenever considering an open relationship with some one you are serious about, please never forget the following two steadfast rules:
1 - Open relationships do not work with someone you care about. Never, no exceptions.
2 - Please see rule ... (read in full...)
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