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51-59,
*ldmanphx
writes:I'm dating a woman 16year younger than me. We get along most of the time but our bad times are or feel extreme. I have trust issues with her due to her deleting texts after snding and having multiple numbers under a contact e.g. she has my number under her moms name. I let the cat out of the bag by telling her about my snooping. She swears she's faithful but I'm not believing it. She lies about things that I know are true and I never tell her how I know. I do love her but emotionally I'm tired and feel stupid. She drinks a lot and thinks that she is getting away with hiding the numbers and deleting the text. I see her do it and don't confront her all the time. Am i wasting my time although i love her?. Should I put distance between us? Help!!!!
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reader, tochiro343  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 I have been in this situation and it will do your head in.This doesn't sound like the road to a happy place.I know it must feel great to be with her at times but in the long run allthough you turn a blind eye to her habits and suspect actions allways trust your gut instincts.Try and find someone who is worthy of your affection.On average with large age gaps it,s usually the older person that loses.If you never let go of the wrong one you'll never find the right one. All the best from someone who's been there.
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reader, llifton +, writes (23 March 2013):
 you should put a lot of distance between you. so much so that you don't see her anymore. lol.
she's a liar and a cheater. you know this. some reason you're trying to deny it to yourself. the sooner you get away from this woman, the better you'll feel. who needs that kind of treatment?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 March 2013):
 Here's your answer... right in your own sentence: "...Am i wasting my time although i love her?...."
Yes, you're wasting your time. The remainder of that sentence is of no import....
Good luck.....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 March 2013):
 You don't trust her so you snoop
she doesn't trust you so she hides things.
she drinks alot
you are emotionally tired
you feel stupid
she deletes texts
these are all good reasons to leave
now give me all the reasons you haven't left her yet...
you say you love her...
tell me why
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2013): Yes. Try dating a women your own age who is trustworthy and doesn't need a pacifier (phone) .
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