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writes:Been seeing a guy from work for past 3 months, everything's going lovely, he is 54 and I'm 22! Yeah big age gap I know, I have a one year old but he's completely fine with that my issue is my mum, I currently live with her as she looks after my baby while I work, we're stuck in a rut, I can't afford to move out and work and pay for child care and she can't afford to live on her own as she is on benefits! So she hates the man I'm seeing and currently doesn't know as I don't want the atmosphere at home! I'm finding it really hard to lie as to where I'm going to see my man because she's really controlling! We've decided it's time to tell people but how can I tell her without her going mad and making me chose between him and her! I know she will that's why I am asking! If she knows its him I'm meeting she won't have the baby ( I've asked her 3 times in 3 months) I'm really finding it hard to juggle a full time job, a baby, a fella and a controlling mother! Any advice is much appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, R1 +, writes (28 March 2013):
 A lot of people manage to be single parents and date without having their mothers babysit so I'm sure if you are determined to see the man you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2013): Your baby is the most important person. Save up, get your own place, organise child care. Just focus on this before embarking on any relationship. Baby comes first.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 March 2013):
 why does she hate him again... remind me... .was it because he drinks on the job?? I may be wrong.. currently my ADHD is unmedicated.
The key is as a grown woman you have a choice to make.
mom or the man.
it's going to be that simple.
if you truly believe your long term happiness is with this man, then by all means blow your mom off... move in with him....
on the other hand if you are only dating a short time, are you sure losing your relationship with your mother is worth it?
if you are seeing him regularly who is watching the baby if you only have asked 3 times?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): I'm the OP and they used to work together 7 years ago and they hated each other then and still do now, if I mention his name she says don't mention his name etc, as for the age gap, he's young for his age and I'm mature, age isn't my issue! It's my mother!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 March 2013):
 Before giving any advice..... I need to learn just why your Mother doesn't like your man. Reply?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 March 2013):
 If you really can't afford to move out then I guess your only option is to try and calmly reason with her. She needs to realize that you are an adult now and if she wants to benefit from the extra income you provide then she has to back off a bit. However, I would also have a big problem with a 32 year age gap if I were her.
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