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writes:I am a 21 year old female, and I find myself fantasizing about much, much older men. They are normally well over 60, and usually the older or uglier they look, the more the fantasy turns me on. I'm not saying elderly men are ugly by default, but this is the shape of my fantasy. I don't find very ugly old men attractive, but something about the idea of being with someone like that really gets me going.Do any other women feel this way? Does anyone else share this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2013): Hey- I'm 62; fit, cute; educated; musician; divorced seeing a 25 yr old beauty who barely kisses me- for over a year. We get along ok but she will not own up to her immaturity because she is immature. She has drug problems and I don't. Anyway she causes me much pain and thinks she knows it all and talks over me when I try to explain things. Very annoying.
It is harder on the older ,man to deal with a younger woman. Unless they are having great sex it's easier to overlook. No sex with us which makes it even more painful. The older person has to have great patience.
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reader, BunnyGirl09  +, writes (26 March 2013):
So, I thought I would add my two cents! I'm twenty so only slightly younger than you, but ever since I can remember I've always been attracted to older men. The bigger the age gap the better. Although I've never thought of anyone in their sixties(no offence) and to be honest I don't quite understand the ugly part (but different strokes for different folks, hey). I've personally always had a huge thing for Bruce Willis and Paul Holiday... I've dated people ranging form forty one to fifty one. I have never had the desire to date anyone my age, I find them immature, some can be clingy. I prefer someone to be really masculine as well. As for the fantasy a lot of people keep saying keep it in your head, if it's something you enjoy, if he isn't married and you're both consenting adults, why should it matter? You might try dating one and completely hate it. I've now been dating someone for a couple of years (in his twenties) and however much I love him, I just don't find him exciting.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 March 2013):
 The whole point of a fantasy is that its something you probably don't think is normal or else you might be doing it. I find older men attractive myself, and I've been sharing my bed regularly with a man who is not 67 and would not win any beauty contests. But it isn't for everyone - keep fantasies where they belong, in your head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2013): I know a young lady who had a wonderful experience with a man in his
Sixties. It lasted two years with a friendly separation.
She is now with a man of her age, very happy but glad that about her past.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 March 2013):
 Fantasies can be oh-so-wonderful.... because they can be outrageous, naughty, embarrassing or any other adjective that you can add here..... AND, they are not constrained by time, space and real physical limitations....
HOWEVER, it's important to be sure to remember that the fantasy(ies) are NOT reality.... and you've got to LIVE your life in the real world..... As such, one must be careful to engage - actually - only in those fantasies which are harmless and legal....
Don't feel that you should need to be embarrassed by a fantasy; nor should you worry about what is "normal".... since - in fantasies - you are entitled to establish YOUR OWN "normal."
You will probably hear others (Aunts and Uncles) who, like me, have great partners who enjoy and share fantasies... and find them to be a rewarding part of their relationships...
Have fun, and good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2013): In sexuality their is no right or wrong.. well along as it is legal of course!
What ever gets you going as people say..
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