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writes: I'm 22yrs and my guy is 26 plus we've been dating getting to 4 years, we both love each other very much, he calls, pays me visit at my place of work, he treat me well each time i pay him visit. each time i log in my facebook now if he is online he doesnt chat with me except i chat with him first but everything changed suddenly, each time i complain he said i don't call him on phone or chat with him either. any time i pay him visit he hugs and kiss me on the cheeks and left giving excuses that he has an urgent place to go to, but i stil complain to him that each time i'm at your place you're always going to urgent place he laughed.is he using me? which kind of love is this? does he really love me at all? i'm sick,confused and tried , how do i break up with him is just unserious he is not the type i used to know.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (26 March 2013):
 I think the behaviour of your "boyfriend" sounds very suspicious.... enough so that I would suggest that you discontinue seeing him.....
Urgency ... all the time????? "Sounds" to me like he keeps you on the line to fill in when he doesn't have something/anything else to do......
Think hard and long about what this "relationship" brings to you. If it's angst and dispair.. then it's really not much of a "relationship" at all... is it?
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): "which kind of love is this? does he really love me at all? i'm sick,confused and tried , how do i break up with him is just unserious he is not the type i used to know"
Maybe you have both, subconsciously at least, realized you love each other in the wrong way? like a brother and sister type of love? I could be wrong of course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): OP it's been 4 years, I really don't see how any of those things you talk about are this big a deal.
I honestly don't see any reason here to break up either.
I mean you complain after 4 years that he doesn't start conversations on Facebook? How is that a big deal at all? I don't know. You'd think after 4 years you'd know what he's like this way. Frankly it sounds like a petty thing to create drama over, "you don't message me first, I always have to do it" after 4 years of love and being together you want to break up over who is first?
As for the urgent things he goes to maybe he is busy and taking time out of his schedule to see you in the first place.
I'm sorry OP but I fail to see anything here other than you looking to pick fights, making an exceptionally big deal out of very minor things.
And frankly you sound like complain a hell of a lot about things that really shouldn't matter after 4 years.
Have you ever considered that maybe you just don't want to be with him anymore and you're intentionally looking for ways to make it seem like he's the reason you broke up?
You need to think long and hard OP, it does sound to me like you want out. That's okay, if you don't want to be with him anymore then you have every right to leave. But you need to think of some real reasons OP, it's been 4 years and you're telling us you're willing to break up because of how he messages you on facebook, you somehow thinks he's treating you badly because of that or he can't possibly love you if he doesn't message you every time he's online. That's a very strange concept for me.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (26 March 2013):
This is very painful for you and very unfair of your boyfriend.No point in this sort of behaviour to continue and waste your time.Have an indept chat with him and ask him outright What is the real situation between you Have informed information from HIM BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO BREAK-UP.I know this is very stressful on you and the sooner you get answers from your boyfriend the better .Be gentle with yourself.Best Luck. Nora B.
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