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writes:I was in a strange relationship for a few years... I was living with someone else but trying to get out of the abusive relationship and started seeing someone else... I fell pretty hard until he cheated then things pretty much went from hard core romance to more so FWB type deal.... even though he knew I was with someone else I still planned to be with him in the end I just needed some time to get things ready, and only 9 months in he got drunk and screwed someone else... and had a pretty rough time after that trusting him etc and after almost 3 yrs things came crumbling down into a million pieces because I was too afraid and hurt to leave my current at the time after he did that... well I became a bit obsessive and looked up his f/b etc... and to my surprise he was now living with a girl in a house me and home we were supposed to be in ... and then tonight I looked .. like an idiot. ... and she's now wearing the ring he was supposed to give to me originally... even though it's been a while since we ended things, it's crushing me pretty bad that he's now engaged living with someone else... another girl is living a dream I once had which HE destroyed by screwing someone else... How do I get over this horrible feeling? It's literally ripping my heart out....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 October 2013):
 You ask: "How do I get over this horrible feeling?"
Answer: By thanking your lucky stars that you aren't the unfortunate girl who will have to put up with this boorish and unfaithful creep in the future!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (28 October 2013):
 Another girl is living the dream you once had?...are you sure?
He was a cheat...he cheated with you and he cheated on you, that's pretty much how it goes with cheats.
He will most likely do the same to her...so living the dream?...I don't think so.
You got enough problems being in an abusive relationship. Maybe you need to be dealing with that and find a way to get out so you can heal and move on to a better relationship, rather than fretting about someone who basically used you for sex and got drunk and cheated!!
I think the whole internet thing is a bad idea, being able to spy on what someone is doing based on a few pictures and comments...it's just a recipe for disaster and pain.
Block, cut off, delete, ignore, accept that things do end, walk away and sort out yourself...that is the only way to stop torturing yourself...or
wallow, pry, cry, lament, despair, dive into the 'shoulda woulda, coulda's' as much as you want and see where that gets you.
Relationships (however fucked up) end, people fall out of love and lust, see someone better, move away, change their mind, do as they please...it's a fact of life and it's one that we as humans constantly refuse to believe.
You get over it by accepting it's done with and you stop internet 'stalking' and turn your back on it.
Life is too damn short to drag yourself through this over and over again...so stop already!
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