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writes:I've known this guy for a few months and been very flirty, to the point of sending flirty texts etc. We both admitted to liking each other - however there were a few complications in our way. Anyway these complications got sorted. We started dating and ofcourse I had sex with him on numerous dates- far too soon - I know big mistake! I should have waited but there was so much sexual chemistry there after months of flirty. Anyway as much as I wish I waited its done so moving on... Since then hes still been interested, still texts now and then, still see him now and then but has definitely become more distant. Is there any way I can save this and make him as interested in me again?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 October 2013):
 Bonnie Raitt said it best "I can't make you love me if you don't"
NOTHING we can do to make someone feel what they don't or can't feel.
Backing off may help, but then when you do see him you can't be physical with him, if he continues to want to see you after that, then that's a good thing but my bet is that he's only interested in the sex...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2013): Sometimes we let our heart make our decisions for us. I know
because I have always given in to guys too soon. But now that I am much older and wiser I try to make better choices, and
no guy is perfect most of them want sex. Being mature enough
to have sex and the feelings that go with it can cloud our
judgment and you have to be able to determine whether you want to continue to see this person. I am dealing with the
same issue right now and when a guy becomes distant he has the chance to think about and possibly miss you. Keep as busy as possible.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 October 2013):
 You can't make him do anything! However, if you notice that as he's become distant, you're wanting to run after him more. That's human nature. And, it's possible that unless he's actually gone, you letting him be distant and filling your life with other things to do may in fact make him miss you. Meaning, pull away from him now.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 October 2013):
 No. Once a girl has thrown herself at a guy, she cannot "unthrow" herself at him... Same concept as you can't "unring" a bell.... Sorry....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2013): No, moving on is a better idea. He is only interested in sex on demand. Yes, you might have offered sex too soon; but that may have been all he was looking for in the first place.Guys who are really interested don't lose it. They are not stupid enough to let someone they really care for get away.The intensity of any relationship will level off at some point; but disinterest, is disinterest. He only thinks of you when he's horny. Don't be used.
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