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writes:Hey Everyone! So this morning I was totally blown away.I wrote on here a few days ago about how I just couldn't get over my ex. She is everything to me. I've tried everything to get over her. I've kept myself busy, gym, work, even dated other girls, but nothing has ever happened. I've accepted this girl is the love of my life. She is just truly amazing. It's difficult to explain why we split up. I think we were just so into each other. We just wanted to be with each other all the time, but realistically that can't happen. We had silly arguments. We wanted everything now. We rushed things. Which lead to us splitting.Anyway, it's been well over a year since we parted and I'm still so in love with this girl. I decided to contact her a few days ago. She sent me a message back saying a shouldn't have contacted her. Then she messaged me again. I didn't respond like she asked me to. Then this morning I woke up to a message that she sent me at 4am this morning. It was very long. She must have been up half the night writing it. She told me that she had never experienced anything like this before. That she has never experienced hurt like this before in her life. That her life is a daily torture being without me. That when she was with me she just fell for me more and more and that she loved me more and more and couldn't get enough of me. To top it all off it's my birthday tomorrow and she wished me a happy birthday and said she'd be thinking of me.Then she told me that I could never contact her again and asked me please not to.This has totally blown me away. She's told me to respect her and never to contact her again, but she's told me she feels exactly the same way as I do. I don't want to live the rest of my life knowing that the person I'm in love with is in love with me, yet we can't be together. If she told me she didn't, this would make it easier, but now that I know that she does. What do I do? Thanks so much everyone!
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (21 October 2013):
Don't contact her. She is messing with your head. Don't start this again. You deserve better. It will come.
Good Luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 October 2013):
 Been there/done that...
What happened was... .she was writing you that lovey-dovey, sincere letter (text) when her hubby came in to the room (Yes, at 4 AM!).... so she had to try to justify that - and why - she was making a text to you... and so she said to him: "Damn, Huncy-bunchy, this old boyfriend of mine won't take No for an answer and leave me alone... so I'm sending him a note telling him to not ever contact me again... See? It's right here?....."
Then, she went back to bed with him... got a little, and has forgotten about you for the moment...
Stand by for another text, before too long....
Then, stand by for the turmoil in her marriage... which will suck you in to the affair that you and she are destined to have.... And then, wait for the NEXT rejection that you are going to get from her.....
Good luck...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (21 October 2013):
 When a woman tells you that she's in love with you and that her life is torture without her and then tells you not to contact her again, what she is really doing is testing you to see if you WILL contact her again.
It's hard to say what her real state of mind is but it would probably be better to contact her and ask her what's going on and why she is giving such mixed messages.
Women tend to lean toward drama to get what they want and this has drama all over it but are you really going to get over it if you don't give it a shot?? (that's if you want another chance with her)
You gotta know what's happening or else it will drive you crazy. If you do contact her and she gets all hissy then that is your chance to say to her that she needs to leave YOU alone...but I wouldn't ignore it if you want to find out what she really feels.
Good luck x
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