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writes:Hey I need some help. I'm a young woman who is in college. I know this is embarrassing but I don't really have any friends and not much of a life either. I guess my college isn't really the best place to meet people because nobody really interacts with each other here. Most of the people I've met here have their own families and their own life and are busy. Everyday my life is the same and it's just boring. I go to my classes and come home and don't do much else. I never have anything to do on the weekends. I don't know where/how to meet some people and keep a friendship going. I also would like to start dating and meet a guy but I haven't had any luck with that either. So my questions are how/where can I start meeting people and having friendships? And how/where can I start meeting guys and dating? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): Try joining a group. Maybe a dance class, or a choir or something that's in your town. You can also try some dating websites, because you can make friends there, as well as finding someone special.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 March 2014):
 You comment: "I guess my college isn't really the best place to meet people.." I "reply": ARE YOU CRAZY???? There is no better place than a college, university or other institution of learning for a girl - or a guy - to meet like-minded people..... people who are already-proven smart..... and interesting.
Your viewpoint will clash dramatically with some of us Aunts and Uncles who will recount for you that our college days were dating-Utopia. OOOOddddles of hot young men and women.... AND, lots to do... and plenty of opportunities to take part in activities that will put you and guys in the same place at the same time....
IF you are rather shy and "shrinking violet", then this is a great opportunity to break out of that (if you wish to do so).... since you are amongst many others who may be in the same boat as you....
Go out, socialize, be seen..... (AND, of course, STUDY HARD)... P.S. The Library is a great place to meet guys. Forget the "SHHHhhhh," aspects of library, and make lots of eye contact.... and smile like crazy... and make sure you get (and stay!) in close proximity to those guys who you find "interesting."
Good luck..... I hope to hear, in six months, that you are having trouble keeping your "dance card" in order...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): Have you joined any of the clubs or societies that operate for students on or around campus? I have never heard of a college or university that didn't have a plethora of these.
A "hobby" group where you work on a project together is better that a purely social group as you will have to get up and interact with other members. In a purely social group, the tendancy for a shy new member will be to sit in a corner and wait until someone comes and talks to them, which doesn't always get results.
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