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*rzybeaut182
writes:I have been dating this guy for 3 months. He lives in NJ and I live in NY- we are about an hour and a half away from one another. Some background on us- we met 7 years ago on vacation and really hit it off. He had a girlfriend so nothing ever happened between us. We spent the entire week together and after the vacation we exchanged Facebooks and numbers but never reached out to one another again. 7 years later he messaged me on Facebook asking if I remembered him. We got to talking, exchanged numbers and went out on a date. That was 3 months ago and we've been 'dating' ever since. We have never had a talk on what we are. I have met this entire family and all of his friends. They all love me. We have been intimate for a solid month now and when we are together everything is great. Now all of a sudden his entire demeanor has suddenly changed with me. He used to text me everyday almost all day long. Would tell me how much he missed me and and couldn't wait to be with me, and we saw each other pretty much every weekend. Now I barely hear from him and we have no plans to hangout anytime soon. He sends me a good morning text and then a text when he gets out of work. It's like pulling teeth to have a conversation with him. I do have to admit that I never reach out to him, he is always the one reaching out to me. I called him the other day and I asked if everything was okay with us and he said 'everything is fine, I have just been busy and stressed and have no time for myself'. He also said that I am not very talkative either and I can text too. I feel like he is slowly withdrawing from me and I don't know what to do. Need some advise...
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (17 June 2014):
 Hi OP,
Why do you never reach out to him?
I am not sure if he's losing interest because you two are not compatible (for example, the conversation doesn't flow easily) or because he's fed up of you not 'reaching out'. I must admit that if I was dating someone and I always had to be the one to make contact first, I'd start to withdraw.
I think you should try initiating contact with him, plus if you're interested in him, have the talk about 'what you are'. If you're not that bothered (which is what I sense from your post), I think I'd just let it (him) go.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 June 2014):
 Let him complete the "withdrawal" and get on with your life....
Good luck...
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