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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My fiancé and I have been through a lot. We got together and it was great. We were both single and worked together and formed a relationship quickly. We had sex every day... Sometimes twice a day. I used to call him from work and tell him I was going to masturbate and he'd tell me not to, to save it for him. I went out partying with my friends, one of them told me he'd been lying about something that really bothered me. So, I called him and I asked him. He acted very confused so I got nasty with him. I said some terribly nasty things. He told me he never wanted to see me again. So I left. A few weeks later, he wants me back. I'd been seeing someone else and I'd slept with him and I didn't tell the guy who was trying to get me back that I'd slept with anyone. My brother told him. He asked me and I told him the truth. That same night, he proposed to me. I said yes. He asked me to move in with him. I did. 8 months later he says he needs a break telling me to go home to my mom. He said we weren't even because I'd slept with someone else and he hadn't. Keep in mind, you can't tell me you never want to see me again and expect me to mope around waiting for you. I went home to my parents, but I couldn't stay. My step-dad was dying of cancer and I couldn't watch that. I came back to my boyfriend. I told him we could work on it. He suggested a 3some. I like an idiot went for it. I cried. I wanted to die. The images that I have burned into my brain about that night. Yeah that's right, I made the 3some happen. And it killed a part of me. Things got better a while later. But then our sex life came to a holt. The same thing that was happening before. I discovered he was watching porn constantly. Okay I get it, porn will make you desensitized to sex. I know this. But after another 6 months of basically having to force myself on him to have sex, I messaged him while I was at work one day. I said if things don't change then I'm leaving. We don't kiss. Not really kiss. When we got together we kissed all of the time. But now it's like, it takes a lot to get him to even brush his teeth. I know that sounds horrible... It is horrible. I just don't get how a guy like that can make a girl like me (if you met me you'd understand) feel like nothing. He's 31, has a 10 year old, and gets a crazy check. I'm not talking bad about him. I mean heck, there's obviously SOMETHING wrong with me that I'm with the guy right? I guess my real question would be... Is this repairable? Do you think that we could fall back in love because I think that's what's happened... I think we've fallen out of love... or rather he's fallen out of love with me...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 June 2014):
 AS I read your submittal my mind wandered to a 1954 Chevrolet sedan. Its engine burns oil and sputters. The muffler is rusted through, so the car sounds like a tank going down the street. The brakes barely bring the car to a halt.... and God-forbid that you'd ever have to come to a screeching halt. The upholstery is tattered... one of the inside door handles is missing, so you have to roll down the window and open the door from the outside. The radio has never worked....
With that image in my head, I asked myself: "Is this car repairable?"
That's my "reply."
Good luck..
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