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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (12 June 2014):
 You put out sex too early. Try to hold back and see if he sticks around and also become more interested.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (11 June 2014):
 I love these two phrases:
"...we both agreed from the start we wanted to be more than fuck buddies...." and,
"...how long should i give it before we are officially a couple??"
You know WHY he's "vague"??.... because of Number 2!!!!! You shouldn't "give it" UNTIL and UNLESS you are a couple. Do you not understand that we guys will say and do most-ANYTHING to get a woman to remove her clothes???? ... as long as WE don't have to make any committment..... and be anything more than a whore-dog.... as long as we get what we want????
Good luck...
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reader, methuselah  +, writes (11 June 2014):
Hi,
Maybe, the sex started too quickly and he doesn't see you as a long term potential. I don't know why, but a girl I met initiated sex on the 2nd date and for me, it sort of destroyed my image of her as a potential wife/girlfriend.
Maybe you slept with him too quickly. Maybe, each to his own.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 June 2014):
It's funny that you say he's vague because after reading your question I was kind of scratching my head. Some people like to take things slow. It's good for the long term health of the relationship and since he's already indicated he's not interested in being your fuck buddy you should allow a little more time before you become concerned about his actions not matching his words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe think text throughout the day and Skype a couple of times a week.....work and children dictate when we see each other as I don't want to introduce him until we are a couple for obvious reasons but we see each other for dates a couple of times a week for coffee and chats mainly
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): You need to be the one to end it. As long as he's getting some sex he will keep being vague until something better comes along and maybe not even then.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 June 2014):
 Since you two jumped the gun on sex, I'd say if he is being vague he isn't sure or he is trying to drag it out so he can continue to have this semi sexual relationship without being committed. YOU have to decide for you how long you are willing to wait to be "official". Personally I'd say if he is still unsure after 3 months... he isn't interested in a relationship past what you two got atm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh no we don't have sex everytime and we both agreed from the start we wanted to be more than fuck buddies and I'm happy with how it is but how long should i give it before we are officially a couple?? Or its not going to go anywhere?? Hes very vague
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 June 2014):
So when you DO see each other is it to have sex? Or do you two go out on actual dates?
Do you talk when you don't see each other, like over the phone,text ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): You've kissed and been intimate. Don't have to be interested in the woman to keep wanting to get that off her.
It's not a waste of time if you can keep getting sexy fun and have nothing better to do.
I've dated women I had no interest in for ages because I was bored, liked the sex and they kept giving it to me. They were a step up from masturbation.
Of course if they'd bothered to ask me my intentions I would have gladly told them but some women are either too afraid of the conversation or assume I'm on the same page without finding out. Not my problem really.
Just talk to him, tell him how you feel and see what he says. You could be wrong about his level of interest too.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (11 June 2014):
Well 5 weeks is not a great lenght of time maybe he likes to take things at a slow pace.However it would be a good idea to have a chat with him.During the chat just ask him is this just a casual friendship and then decide from there .Its always better to make sure of the situation rather then being sorry. Best Luck NORA B.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (11 June 2014):
Well 5 weeks is not a great lenght of time maybe he likes to take things at a slow pace.However it would be a good idea to have a chat with him.During the chat just ask him is this just a casual friendship and then decide from there .Its always better to make sure of the situation rather then being sorry. Best Luck NORA B.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (11 June 2014):
 If you have been intimate quite quickly after meeting, it may be that he has already had what he wanted.
Mark
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2014): Sorry to say it but you have made the error of sleeping with them too quickly.
Future tip for everyone: People who put it on a plate don't come across as attractive. I also find people who give themselves away emotionally aswell as physically aren't very attractive.
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