How do I help my sister with our overprotective mother?
Q. Hi there, please advise? My mother is very overprotective of my sister, who is 18. Really, she has not allowed the girl to learn to do tasks on her own (such as grocery shopping, checking the mail, hanging out with friends, simple cooking, etc.) a...
A. 23 November 2014: Your Mother's scheme is destined to make your Sister a social misfit through never learning how to deal with life.
Encourage your Sister to make - and keep - distance from your Mother... and remind your Mother that, unless she lets her daughter... (read in full...)
My wife won't have sex with me anymore and won't tell me why not
Q. I think the title says it all. We have been married for 7 years, together for 10 years, and the sex went from twice a night (which is normal in a honeymoon phase) to never over the course of 2 years. Over the last 5 years we have not had se...
A. 23 November 2014: If/when there is such a sensual/sexual mismatch as you describe...THEN the "relationship" is over... DOOMED...
Don't give it a second thought.... and get away from her and re-start your life elsewhere....
Good luck...
P.S. I am speaking f... (read in full...)
I don't want him to feel he can disrespect me
Q. Me and the guy I'm seeing were having a phone conversation. I'd be feeling a little down because he's not very affectionate and generally i feel like he takes me for granted. While I was speaking on this I could hear him watching a girl's snapchat ...
A. 23 November 2014: No... you should stay away from him, because his behaviour makes it clear that he doesn't give a damn about you...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my alcoholic boyfriend while I gear up to leaving him?
Q. I think my boyfriend of 6 years is an alcoholic. We met when I was 18 and he was 20, and we've both always been social drinkers and have grown up together in the pub culture. He has always drunk maybe 6 times a week, but not enough to get drunk on ...
A. 22 November 2014: We can answer these questions, which you've posed:
"Do you have any advice on how I should handle this relationship in the meantime? How much should I tell him? I really do love him, he's family to me, and I can't imagine him not in my life but... (read in full...)
My wife wants all the details of my past relationships
Q. i have a problem, now i am married i love my wife,i never hurt her feelings.i never lie to her,but i had an ex girlfriend, i had mentioned about our relation to my wife.Now my wife wants to know what kind of relation did i had with her, like love ...
A. 22 November 2014: Sometime, when things are calm at home.... you sit her down and say to her:
"Hunchy-Bunchy, you know that I've had at least one woman friend in the past... and you've asked me about details of what went on between us.... even INTIMATE details.... (read in full...)
How can I tell in advance if a threesome will mess things up?
Q. I'm unsure about whether or not to have a threesome (ffm) with my boyfriend. We have a solid relationship. Used to have some issues but we've worked through them. I know he would love to have one and I'm not closed off to the idea at all, I think it ...
A. 22 November 2014: Having a FFM threesome with your B/F and another girl has an 88.4 percent chance of scuttling your relationship with your B/F.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel disappointed in your relationship?Should a partner make you feel special somehow? And what if they don't?
Q. Is it normal to feel disappointed in your relationship? I've been with my bf for 4 years. He asked me to marry him 2 1/2 years ago and I felt shocked as marriage was never something I wanted with anyone at all, which he knew. I didn't want to upset...
A. 21 November 2014: "Is it normal to feel disappointed in your relationship?"
No. IF that's how you feel about your "relationship" then you need to step back and decide if it's really a "relationship" at all.......
IF your interactions with someone who you ... (read in full...)
Why do women cheat?
Q. I don't mean to sound sexist or come off as judgemental I'm just really curious as to why married women cheat? I mean I can understand why men cheat, they produce sperm like every freakin day of their life so of course they're gonna wanna let ...
A. 21 November 2014: Women cheat because THEY - much like men - sometimes find out that they are stuck with a doo-widdy for a partner, and they have suffered with him for a long time... and they can no longer suppress their natural, human desires to be with a guy who is ... (read in full...)
I'm shattered, horrified,torn apart because my daughter just told me she's a bisexual
Q. Hi, I'm shattered, torn apart. I can't seem to function. Just caught my daughter kissing a girl. Horrified, livid. I can't seem to accept my 16 yr old daughter telling me she is bisexual. I'm still 2 days later so angry wth her, calling her so ...
A. 21 November 2014: "Any feedback I can try to comprehend would be helpful..."
Yes. She's your DAUGHTER!!!! You should LOVE her.... WHAT goes on in her life - as and when she becomes an adult - is HER business.... NOT your's....
Swallow your macho "pride" an... (read in full...)
We have a great sexual relationship but she will not touch me below the belt!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year we have a great relationship we started out as best friends grew into a sexual relationship, talking about marriage kids I will 9 yards. Let me start by saying I'm 34 years old she's 10 years my ...
A. 21 November 2014: You write: "....who is or at least can grow to be just as attracted to me ...."
Don't be stupid.... IF she isn't "attracted" to you now.... she ain't gonna be in the future.
You, Sir, need to make a decision. It is this: Are you going to... (read in full...)
Does a blow job require this in order to feel good?
Q. Guys when a girl gives you a blow job, does a girl have to deep throat for it to feel good for you. Answers from guys only please. ...
A. 18 November 2014: If I can get a girl to come back to my house.... she's pretty-much covered all my s*xual requirements.
Anything beyond that - removing her clothes, for example - is like me getting a hole-in-one, a 300 string in bowling, and hitting a grand-sl... (read in full...)
When it comes to sex she calls the shots
Q. My girlfriend Is controlling sexually she keeps rejecting me every time if try to have sex. It's destroying our relationship so much, I try to talk she won't We have sex 1time a month on her command. It is destroying my masculinity Help me flip...
A. 18 November 2014: WOW... I could have written this, a couple of years ago...
So... now I claim to be the expert in such matters, so will repeat to you my mantra, in this regard: If two people cannot reconcile the sexual/intimate part of their lives together... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to understand that I can't text at work! How can I make it sink it?
Q. Is there any way I can stop my man being so needy? I love him to bits and he is everything I want in a partner but he's very clingy and dependant on me which is really starting to annoy me. He texts me all day every day. At his job he can. At my job ...
A. 18 November 2014: Try this:
"Hunchy-bunchy, I'm flattered that you are both so desperate to communicate with me... and, have texting availability at your work.... that you send me texts, endlessly, all day. HOWEVER, I have a REAL JOB that I go to during the day.... (read in full...)
I had a feeling he was texting other girls, and he was! How do I approach this as it will reveal I went through his phone?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months. Recently I haven't been feeling the same, like I still love him but I get the feeling he doesn't. Things have changed a little over the weekend and I don't like the way it's going. I had a feeling he was ...
A. 17 November 2014: Honeypie has it right... dump him. IF you feel uncomfortable just up and leaving... and IF you and he have any sort of discussion about your leaving.... you can simply say:
"Hunchy-bunchy, I was a BAD GIRL and snooped through your phone...... (read in full...)
Why do people automatically assume I'm a bumb?
Q. Hi all, I'm somewhat of a professional gambler, and I was wondering why is it so socially unacceptable to be a gambler? To make things clear, I'm not a problem gambler, I've been doing it for a living for the better part of 10 years. I'm a poker ...
A. 17 November 2014: I wouldn't spend a lot of time and/or mental energy worrying about how OTHER people feel about you and what you do to make your living.....
IF you are being successful.... then, have at it.... AND.... if/when you encounter people who are Hell-ben... (read in full...)
A love that hurts at times
Q. Ok so long story short, I met the love of my life 8 months ago. I say the love of my life and you're probably asking why I'm on here... I need help from your opinions on understanding a few things.. Mainly the women using this. First of all.. The ...
A. 17 November 2014: This makes me think of a mock-competition that my S/O and I sometimes have. It goes like this....
Her: "I love you."
Me: "I love you, more."
Her: "I love you the MOST..."
Me: "I love you, even most-er than that!".....
Bein... (read in full...)
I told him its me or the weed ...
Q. my boyfriend stopped smoking weed and recently he talked about starting back. but me on the other hand hate it and don't want to be around it. What should I do? I told him to pick me or weed and he says its up to me.. help!...
A. 17 November 2014: OP: Don't tease yourself and allow your hopes and dreams to obscure the FACTS before you.
You wrote: "...I told him to pick me or weed..." HE has made a clear decision. So, YOU have to either stick by your ultimatum, OR continue compromi... (read in full...)
If there's another woman she doesn't deserve this either
Q. I have been with the same guy for six years. In this entire time we have gone out two times as a couple. Most of the time it's just the mattress mambo and nothing else. I have spoken to him about building a more solid relationship together over the ...
A. 16 November 2014: WHY would you waste another iota of time and/or energy on this creep who has used you as his sexual toy for the last 6 years???? Get away from him... quickly and to a great distance... then take a deep breath and get on with your life.... You ... (read in full...)
We have broken up but I know he still loves me!
Q. me and my boyfriend are getting back from break up and now he's passive aggressive towards me. I know he still loves me. We've been in serious relationship and he's ready for commitment before but now things changed. He loss his patience, passion, ...
A. 16 November 2014: "Sounds" to me, like you're prepared to give him "passes" for most any stupid and/or inappropriate behaviour.
Decide if you want to continue being his shill for the rest of a long "relationship".... OR, would you prefer to salvage your self-res... (read in full...)
I told him its me or the weed ...
Q. my boyfriend stopped smoking weed and recently he talked about starting back. but me on the other hand hate it and don't want to be around it. What should I do? I told him to pick me or weed and he says its up to me.. help!...
A. 16 November 2014: What's your question????? He said that YOU make the decision... and it requires only that you say to him: "I told you that, if you hang with weed, then you can't hang with me.... and you've indicated that you're going to continue hanging with the ... (read in full...)
He texts another female everyday, and she sends him selfies .... I told him it makes me uncomfortable but he doesn't seem to care.
Q. Is it normal to be texting the opposite sex everyday if you are attached? My bf has been texting a female friend everyday for the past month and she sends him her selfies a few times a week. Although the photos are not sexual, I do feel ...
A. 16 November 2014: What you're being "unreasonable" about is not having kicked him to the curb, yet..... AND asking here, in your convuluted way, for justification to do so.....
Wake up!!!!! Good luck...... (read in full...)
I need to end this affair
Q. I need the big push to end my 9yr affair with a single man. I'm wed. A bad scene to be sure. If I cared that much I would have left my marriage and If my lover cared that much he would have asked me to! no sex with husband great sex with lover! Help ...
A. 16 November 2014: dishy doll: What can WE (Aunts and Uncles) tell you, that you don't ALREADY KNOW.... as evidenced by your submittal????... (read in full...)
My boyfriend goes to the pub after he visits me
Q. Hi there everyone Just looking for some advice as to know I am over reacting or not. I have been in a relationship for 2 years with a lovely man. We see each other 2-3 times a week but he'll stay one night a week, midweek. The other times, ...
A. 16 November 2014: Can you spell: "he's using me for sex... and nothing else"??????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I've had enough of my crazy mother in law
Q. My husband and I are in our first year of marriage and we had the opportunity to move hundreds of miles away from his family and his meddling mother. Yet she visits us almost every week-end! Now she's talking about moving to our city and I am at ...
A. 16 November 2014: Your "issue" really has nothing to do with your Mother in Law..... It's between YOU and HUBBY!!!!!!
IN order to change things, it's incumbent upon YOU to tell HUBBY: "I'm sick and tired of your Mother butting in to OUR lives..... and YOU have... (read in full...)
I've been supportive about my husband's cross dressing. So why has he resorted to tells lies to me now about his activities?
Q. Ok so I have known that my husband was a cross-dresser since before we got married. When he first told me about it, he started making craigslist posts to meet up with others to experiment... He never told me about it but I found the posts... He ...
A. 15 November 2014: From the "sound" of it... I'd guess that the problem before you is less one of "crossdressing".. and more one of a man who has intense.... and unorthodox .... sexual cravings.......
I'll assume that you and he are going to continue talking.... (read in full...)
Do I believe him or not? My older married lover says he'll leave his wife when I finish college.
Q. My older, married lover tells me he will eventually leave his wife once I finish college. He has brought up the idea of having a baby together recently. Does this mean he is serious about our relationship and would having his baby be a good choice? ...
A. 15 November 2014: "My older, married lover tells me he will eventually leave his wife once I finish college...."
Yes, and it won't snow in Minneapolis, this winter......
And you want to procreate with this cretin?????
Good luck........ (read in full...)
I have the hots for the amazingly hot baby sitter
Q. I have an amazingly hot baby sitter, she is new to my family, just me and my daughter, but I have known her sister for while now. How do I find out if she has any interest? I wont lie I would love to see her in more ways than just my baby sitter. I ...
A. 15 November 2014: Well.... at least you've revealed that she's 18 YO ....
Otherwise: No comment.... Have at it....... (read in full...)
My guy even takes his phone into the shower! Whats going on?
Q. Ok so almost every morning before my guy goes to work I'll catch him looking on his phone and then get out of bed. Either going to the bathroom or in the kitchen. After awhile he'll either shower or stay gone for some while. I know he's masterbating ...
A. 15 November 2014: I'm imagining this guy's phone with dried-up smegma all over it.... Yeeech!!!! (Be glad that he takes the phone in the shower to rinse it off, before he brings it out and lays it on the kitchen table!!!)... (read in full...)
How do I continue with this relationship with my married boyfriend when I have periods of doubt creeping in around his ability to be faithful to me?
Q. Hello DC Friends. I could use your advice. Not judgement or answers which predict future behaviour and outcome. None of us knows what will happen with certainty. And let us remember that not every man is the same nor is what they do nor is every ...
A. 15 November 2014: Perhaps it would help to clarify some of the details in your query. To wit:
1. "He cares about me." No. He doesn't.
2. " It is more than sex." Not for him, it isn't.....
3. "Neither does he." Yes. He does. Sorry.....
4. "...I ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend complains that I don't see her but I have to work!
Q. Me and my gf been going out for 2 years. We have struggled with money but now have finally found jobs. I am not happy with my job however I want to make the most of it. I work Monday to Friday 7.30-5.30 am And second job is Monday t...
A. 15 November 2014: Before I'll "answer" your question... I'd like to ask you to reconcile the overlapping times of your work schedule...
Thanks.... (read in full...)
I have resentment toward my husband who won't talk about his business and never gives me support!
Q. I am building resentment toward my husband. My husband though is a nice man has no ambitions whatsoever. He has his small business, which basically pays for itself. I don't even know what he does with his money. He pays for his clothes, outings...
A. 15 November 2014: You've been with this man long enough to have "...2 kids already done with colleges... " and you are JUST NOW beginning to question what your hubby does with his time and life??????
YouWish is giving you the "starting position" that you must... (read in full...)
Communication is becoming impossible!
Q. She asks "Would you like a biscuit" - I answer "yes please, just one" - "but you normally have two" - "yes but I'm not hungry, just one would be nice" - "You don't like my biscuits ?" - "yes but I'm not hungry" - "I've spent all this time cooking ...
A. 14 November 2014: How does your exchange - with your G/F - compare to this one, which I might have with mine:
G/F: "Would you like a biscuit?"
Me (you): "yes please, just one"
G/F: "but you normally have two"
Me (maybe, you?): Listen, B@#*ch, I said "... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom wants to be my best friend
Q. Ok so I know this sounds like a good problem to have but my boyfriend's mother (my eventual MIL) wants to literally be my best friend. She comments on ALL of my photos, shared posts, statuses, EVERYTHING on Facebook. She even will comment on my ...
A. 14 November 2014: Count your Blessings. The alternative is often a nightmare!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How long should no contact continue for her to make up her mind?
Q. Please, please help! Im going thru so much pain right now. Insecurity grew in me, i read her private messages, we ended up in a fight. I called her a lier and broke up. Please read, this why i read her private messages http://www.dea...
A. 14 November 2014: I went "no contact" with a girl who jilted me in high school..... 49 years ago (!!!!) ... and I'm STILL WAITING for her to come to her senses!!!!
Be prepared for a long wait....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Text to an ex? I quit smoking!
Q. Ok so a guy I was seeing broke things off when he realised I smoked (really anti smoking as a close family member died) and he couldn't be with a smoker. A bit on I am thinking if sending him the below txt, thoughts? Hey, I just wanted to sen...
A. 13 November 2014: I agree with SB.... It's OK to send that note... AND this guy may really like the you WHO doesn't (now) smoke.
If it rekindles things... .good... if not; then what diff does it make?????
Good luck... and you are wise to have given up smoking... (read in full...)
Subtle signs of male jealousy or tension between two guys over a girl?
Q. From body language to speech, what are subtle signs that a male feels competition with another male over a girl? Especially in the case where the girl is already taken by one male...what kind of subtle tension in body language and words do you see ...
A. 11 November 2014: The best way to determine that there is tension between two guys, vis-a-vis some girl, is to note the guns which each pulls out when he (they) say, "Keep your f%*#king hands off my girl, or I'll blow your f%*#king brains out!!!!"
I assure y... (read in full...)
Naked pictures in a long distance relationship, she wants to see mine but won't show me hers!
Q. I am in a long distance relationship for over a year, yet we have not seen each other in person, but we communicated daily in web cam, phone, facebook, etc. I love her and she says she loves me very much. We have plans to meet soon and we want to ...
A. 11 November 2014: This whole, damn, submittal is stupid!!!!!!
IF you and she want to see each other in some for of provocative settings... then do so at one or the other of your homes.... and sear that in to your memories....
This B/S about "sexting" and se... (read in full...)
Who do I leave my money to?
Q. I'm going to make a will.I'm quite comfortable financially, with a property paid for and money in the bank.I'm only 55, but you never know... Thing is, my only son (from a divorce) is 27 and has basically never worked. He occasionally works as a DJ ...
A. 11 November 2014: Like you.... I would struggle with leaving my $$$ to a layabout son who doesn't know how to work.....
I suggest that you make sure to leave him EXACTLY $1000.... and the balance to your G/F. What the H???? HE hasn't done a done thing to better h... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend's friend went to a hooker, does that mean your boyfriend could do it too?
Q. Hi everyone. Should I worry that a friend of my boyfriend has been using prostitutes? (The guy is single). Does that mean my boyfriend could also do it? I am just wondering if the people your boyfriend considers friends could have an impact on his...
A. 10 November 2014: I remember when I was a kid and all my little friends wanted to go ice skating on a pond when the temperature had only been just below freezing, overnight. The ice was clearly not thick enough for all of us to skate on that pond. I pleaded with ... (read in full...)
I can't leave him until December. How do I stay strong until then?
Q. I am coming here because I need advice on how to stay strong. I feel like writing this all out may help as well as receiving advice from others. I have been with a guy for seven years and he is leaving me for the same woman he has left me for ...
A. 9 November 2014: Wasn't it Albert Einstein who said that insanity can be described as ".... doing the same thing.... time and again... and expecting different results...."???? How many times will you ALLOW this guy to make a fool of you - and disrepect you - ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like my boyfriend and I feel bad going against their wishes
Q. I have been dating this boy for about 5 months now. I am 22 and while I've gone out with a few guys, I've never been in a serious relationship before as my parents are mega strict on these matters. The boy I am dating lives in Manchester (I am in ...
A. 9 November 2014: Some parents really struggle when "their little girl" grows up and becomes an adult.... and commences to making adult decisions on her own behalf.....
I think that's what you have described.... and the only thing that YOU can do is remind them tha... (read in full...)
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