How do these foursome things usually move along?
Q. am talking with an old friend, who is married now and he and his wife want to have a 4 some together the 4th person is a good friend of my old friend, but neither his wife or i have met this other male. i trust my friend completely... just curious ...
A. 18 March 2015: "These things" probably go something like this:
1. You and "old friend" meet... and you meet his wife.
2. You and "old friend" and wife meet up with "4th guy,"
3. Some fooling around happens... and you and the other three wonder "Wha'... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really trapped in this relationship.
Q. so me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and two months and I absolutely love him to bits!! But he's overly sensitive. I feel like I've become his councillor. He is so emotionally unstable and I've tried so hard to convince him to see a ...
A. 18 March 2015: When you write, "....But I'm feeling really trapped, I can't break up with him I honestly don't think he could handle it ..." remember that you are NOT his Mother... nor are you his therapist or counsellor.
YOU can be "trapped" ONLY if you allo... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 18 March 2015: John: I'm "telling you" that you seem to be taking this issue FAR TOO SERIOUSLY. RELAX!!!!!!!!! ... (read in full...)
Odd Description of Past Boyfriends
Q. My wife and I had been talking about our past including some of the boyfriends/girlfriends which we had sex with and we are cool about it i.e. no jealousy. In our discussion fell upon at least 3 of her boyfriends/flings cheating on her. Her reaction ...
A. 17 March 2015: Would you like a guy's point-of-view?
Mine is that... once you've opened the Pandora's box of what occurred in the past in your B/F,G/F,SO, wife's life... then you need to be prepared to FORGET what you hear... quickly and complete... (read in full...)
How do I ask my employer for fewer hours to work my other job? I am leaving this employer
Q. I'm a full time Nanny that works with a work from home mom. I work 9-5 Monday through Friday with no benefits (no vacation days or sick days and no contract). Since the job is going to be up in May, I went job hunting to make sure I'm not jobless in ...
A. 17 March 2015: Short of a contractual agreement, anybody is an "at-will" employee, and can leave whenever they darn well please....
The graceful way to handle this situation might be to tell the person for whom you are the nanny that you intend to work elsewher... (read in full...)
Why do I care so much about girls noticing me? As soon as I stop caring a girl will notice me then I get too happy and go back to square one!
Q. Whenever I'm at school I'm always hoping for a girl to see me and think "Hmmmm I wonder who that is" and just want to talk to me. I'm always hoping some girl will see me and think I'm cute (To be honest I'm average looking-to cute to some people). ...
A. 17 March 2015: John: When we are little kids, our parents often dote upon us. They do this because they love us, and want our lives to be idyllic..... Sometimes, that doting continues for an extended period... and we kids get the impression that THAT (doting) ... (read in full...)
He broke my heart and I can't trust him, but I really want him back!
Q. So I need help getting over my ex, we split up last summer after being together for just over a year as i found out that he had been cheating on me after several times after i had already forgiven him for doing it once before. And the thing that ...
A. 17 March 2015: OP: As I read through your submittal, I couldn't help but believe that you are, deliberately, some sort of masochist who enjoys being abused romantically, emotionally, spiritually, and any OTHER kind of "...ly" that this cad can inflict upon ... (read in full...)
I definitely want to have sex with him, but also wouldn't mind a serious relationship!
Q. I met this guy about 3 weeks ago at a party for a conference we were both attending... danced with him all night and we ended up making out. We spent the next day at the conference together, even at the closing party- and he invited me back to his ...
A. 17 March 2015: You write: " Is there anyway to turn this around, and make him see me as more than a potential sex partner?"
Did he TELL YOU that he views you only as a sex partner? It's really OK for two people to actually talk about sex... AND about what is,... (read in full...)
How did I become the family villian?
Q. A question: If a kid gets punished for something they did not do, is it child abuse even if not excessive just because the kid was innocent and the parent did not believe them? I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years for this reason. ...
A. 17 March 2015: I agree (with SVC) that you haven't given us much to comment upon..... HOWEVER....
One thing is certain. You and your family have fantastic memories... and beautifully clear rear-view mirrors-in-time.
I've known others like this (as I descr... (read in full...)
He's inexperienced in the art of oral, any tips or tricks to help it be amazing for me?
Q. Hi there, I am in a long distance relationship and so on the rare occasion we see each other, we want to make the sex as good as we can! I have only recently started to enjoy him going down on my but he is still inexperienced. Has anyone got some ...
A. 17 March 2015: One thing, for sure. GIVE HIM FEEDBACK!!!!!
IF'n he does something you LIKE... TELL HIM!!!!..
Say something like: "OOohhhh, Hunchy-Bunchy... THAT is fantastic!!!!... DON'T STOP!!!!" (and hope that he DOESN'T (stop))....
All of us guys ... (read in full...)
I'm in a total quandary! In love with my FWB and wondering if I should tell him?
Q. I'm in a total quandary! I've been in a "friends with benefits" relationship for over two years with a guy who has a girlfriend, but whom he is mostly only with for financial "trapped" reasons. Debts and life's stresses mean it is nigh on impossible ...
A. 16 March 2015: FWB arrangements often morph such that ONE (of the participants) is more "interested" in the other, than is his/her partner interested in him/her. Usually (as in your case) it is the LADY who - sort of - falls in love with the guy. These commonly ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years already. Everything started in a random way because we used to work together in the same hotel, he in the kitchen and me in the restaurant. He asked me 3 or 4 times to got for some drinks with him but ...
A. 16 March 2015: If you and he don't have common ground relative to the S/S and I between you (that's Sensuality, Sexuality and Intimacy)... then you can reconcile to yourself that you and he are not sufficiently "in sync" to make it as a couple. Sorry, but it ... (read in full...)
He lied about having a wife and a kid!
Q. Hi, I am very sad..I am dating a guy for a year so far, he is from Iraq but we both met in US..after 6 months of being together I saw a pic on facebook of him with a baby..I asked him whos this baby..he said is one of my nephews..anyway I believed ...
A. 16 March 2015: Take a deep breath. When you next see him... do so ON YOUR TURF.... and tell him that he is a lying cad.... and that you never want to see him again.
IF you do anything else, then YOU will have abetted him in his charade... and will have ALL... (read in full...)
Any advice on giving advice to someone whose heart is broken?
Q. So my sister-in-law is 6 months pregnant and just found out that the guy who got her pregnant doesn't want to be with her anymore. I want to give her advice but all I can manage is to tell her that he's not worth her time of he's so quick to give ...
A. 16 March 2015: Be a good, and attentive Sister-in-law for her as she faces HER travails in the future. YOU can't "solve" her problems... but you can lend her moral support. THAT is your role in this matter...
Good luck to both you and your S-i-L....... (read in full...)
He flirts with me and he's younger than I thought. Do I act on my feelings or forget him?
Q. Theres a bar i go in and each time ive gone theres a young guy who works there always chats to us, this week he had more time to chat and got quite flirty. He told me how old he was i was shocked he was as young as he was id like something to happen ...
A. 16 March 2015: Is there a problem here??????
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I miss the cuddling. How can I engage in any relationship in my situation? And are my friends right about arrive together and leave together?
Q. Hi everyone, need an advice. I am a single mom with 2 teens, 15 and 17. My life is very busy with work and kids. I don't date as I really have absolutely no time for that or energy. I concentrate on my kids and my job. But still I am a sexua...
A. 16 March 2015: You "sound" a lot like a man. Man, you may recall, abdicate much of what would otherwise be sensible thinking to their lower brain... the one in their penis..... I suppose your's is in your lady-parts......
You have to decide if you are goin... (read in full...)
I have a huge secret crush on a woman who has become friends with my own fiancee. Do I reveal my crush, or not?
Q. I'm engaged to a wonderful woman that I have been with for 8 years (since I was 18). She is a beautiful person, inside and out, and I feel terrible guilt about asking this. She has become friends with a girl (let's call her Jane) over the past two ...
A. 16 March 2015: You need to pour ice water over your genitals, whilest, at the same time, saying to yourself...."what kind of a dip-shit AM I????? I have a great woman/partner.... who happens to have a friend who is gay... and who has no interest in me... AND, I'm ... (read in full...)
How do I get past this? I keep thinking about the other guys she saw.
Q. Help me please.... what should i do.. . im a guy that has spent 4 and half years with a girl . we were engaged, but had problems with drinking and fighting,issues from past and her 22 year old kid that has caused so much trouble in the family thtat ...
A. 16 March 2015: You ask: "...how can i get past this?"
From all that you've "asked" in your submittal...I'd ask, "Why bother?" You and she are CLEARLY not much of a match....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Guys: How can a man last so long after not having sex for 7 years?
Q. Hi I have been dating my bf for 2 years and r engaged to be married. We were great friends before we started dating and shared all our secrets with each other. So we know each others past and stuff. He had told me that he had sex with his 1 st ex gf ...
A. 13 March 2015: I think the two of you should RELAX more during your intimate moments.... and ENJOY those intimate moments... and put your report cards away.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My baby daddy wants to wait till the paternity test results come back and then says we can be a family
Q. It's a weird situation but my baby daddy and I had a one nighter and had a baby. He ran away in the beginning so a new guy stepped in until he just didn't want a child that wasn't his. I've tried to tell the guy my baby's his for 1.5 year and ...
A. 13 March 2015: TWO guys.... neither one of which REALLY LOVES YOU.. and you're ready to give either one of them a "pass" for being an A-hole......
Think long and hard about who YOU want to spend your future with.... Neither of these characters would be on my "A... (read in full...)
My family doesn't want me to marry him because of his caste!
Q. Hi, I'm in a moral dilemma and would love to receive some advice. I'm in relationship with a guy since two years. we are very happy together. and wish to get married. but he does not belong to my caste I intro...
A. 13 March 2015: You are the victim of what happens when people spend their lives looking backwards.... they CLING to what they think were "the good old days".... and they prevent themselves from ever experiencing anything "new"....
We have Amish and Mennonit... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is bisexual and I'm really uncomfortable with it!
Q. My gf is bisexual and I'm really uncomfortable with it. I feel this way because we've had some issues where she was making lustful statements about women she knew on social media and basically flirting with other women while we were together. When I ...
A. 13 March 2015: You write: "My gf is bisexual and I'm really uncomfortable with it."
Sooooo, what's the question???? Get away from her and resume your life... perhaps with some OTHER woman in it... which woman is hetero-....
Don't make this such a big matte... (read in full...)
Can a relationship really survive without desire
Q. After 9 months of an on off relationship we have settled onto seeing each other two or three times a week due to distance. I feel its not enough for me as we never spend whole week ends together or go away as he's too focused on his business. He is ...
A. 12 March 2015: You are experiencing something that I call the "S/S/I" divide. i.e. If you and he cannot reconcile your Sexual, Sensual and Intimate (S/S/I) menues... then you cannot continue what YOU are calling your "relationship."
Show your submitta... (read in full...)
My boyfriend talks the talk but doesn't walk the walk and its making me feel sad and confused
Q. I've been in an LDR with my bf coming up to a year. I see him a few times a month and the time I get with him is precious. However, I feel lately that he's making no effort in our relationship. He tells me the things I want to hear, like he loves me ...
A. 12 March 2015: I suggest that you ask him WHICH of his two girlfriends he fancies the more; YOU, or the OTHER ONE.
Once you know that, you can make a wise decision to either continue to hang with him... or to dump him and get on with your life...
Good lu... (read in full...)
How can I improve my social skills so that I can hold on to a job and improve my life?
Q. I am scared what will happen to me as I have no useful skills and no future. I am a social pariah, so out of 100 desperate job applicants you would not pick me. Lucky for me I have a nice family and my mum lets me live in the house, but at 27 I need ...
A. 12 March 2015: Cripes.... if I was going to write a novel about a person who was a useless nobody.... I would contact YOU to help me write the manuscript.....
Go back through your submittal.... put a check mark on all the negative words you used to describe... (read in full...)
I told my brother his wife was cheating and now she hates me!
Q. I asked for advice here bout my sister in law cheating on brother and told him about it but i think that was a mistake because he is still with her and now she hates me and doesn't even answer the phone when i want to talk to my nephews.She has ...
A. 12 March 2015: Sometimes... when one tries to "save" someone from some third party.... they step in a large cake of bullshit... from which bullshit it is hard to emerge.... clean your shoes off... and go on, in life. "Sounds" like that's what you've got....
... (read in full...)
I love him but his behaviour is repelling me!
Q. Hi all! I'm here cause I think my boyfriend is about to go through a mid life crisis. He's 39 and I'm 24. He's posting these teenage looking pics like one of them is with his very rare credit card and some with hoodies etc. it's turning me off. He'...
A. 12 March 2015: Cool it with this guy who is perilously close to "mid-life"... a time during which many, real CRISES occur.
Take six months apart... and send us a report on September 14th...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to get married this weekend but I don't want to! I don't love him!
Q. I am supposed to be getting married this Saturday, but i really don,t want to and i am scared. im 21 my dad wants me to marry him but i don't love him, i don't even like him. its not about religion or anything. my dad just thinks he wi...
A. 12 March 2015: If your Father thinks that he is such a "catch"... then ask HIM to marry this guy!!! YOU, meanwhile, would be wise to get your a$$ out of town, so that you can't be bamboozled to be at the church where this guy (who you don't even like!) is ... (read in full...)
Why is he waiting to get physical?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for over 2 months. During the past 2 months we have text eachother quite a lot every single day and we see eachother at least twice a week for nights/days out and in. The relationship is going very well, we respect eacho...
A. 12 March 2015: Any guy who doesn't expect you to put out by the third date should be considered "suspect." Does he have a wife?... a (another) girlfriend? .... is he bi- or gay?
Pose those questions to him and see why he is at such odds to the "real" rules th... (read in full...)
What should I include in a CV/Resume to make it look good?
Q. Hello! As a lot of you know I have been on this website for a good couple of years now and have ended up having a rather difficult time when it has come to education. I have suffered from various mental health problems since the age of 13, and d...
A. 12 March 2015: I'll "pass" on replying to this... because this sort of drama doesn't do much for me....
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Should I suggest having a threesome with my guy?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my partner for 3 years, a few months into our relationship he told me that he would like to watch me have sex with another man! This was like a bombshell to me. Our sex was great in the beginning but we only have sex ...
A. 12 March 2015: The FIRST threesome is exciting. All subsequent threesomes are the precursors of the end of your "relationship." Is that what you'd like????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He goes on the attack and puts the blame on me when I raise his cheating. Why does he need to go on these dating sites?
Q. I was wondering if I could get some advice thanks. My husband has a history of cheating on me in the past on internet dating sites and when I discovered this 6 years ago he hurled abuse at me and called me a man-hater and lied and denied and turned ...
A. 9 March 2015: Your submittal has two classic subjects:
1. Men who never grow up... and think that Internet contacts are the equivalent to pulling a little girl's ponytail in the playground, and,
2. Being caught in his inappropriate behaviour... the... (read in full...)
Do my emotional reactions to songs that remind me of my ex mean that I'm not really ''over'' my ex yet? If not how do I get over him?
Q. Very quick question here. Certain songs always remind me of my ex! Who broke up with me when he came back off of holiday (I wrote about this in another question). Its been nearly a year now, and I feel like I'm pretty much over it. The only t...
A. 9 March 2015: The list of my "exes" and the songs that remind me of them would be about the size of a Manhattan phone book. If'n I teared up every time I heard a song that I associated with one of "my girls".... I'd be a snivveling idiot most of the day, every ... (read in full...)
My sister is OCD about everything except a day's work
Q. My close relative and her husband have both been unemployed due to anxiety and stress. They both seem to be OCD about everything apart from a day's work. They have both gained a lot of weight and are now eligible to a brand new car worth 20k ev...
A. 9 March 2015: Please allow me a moment's political commentary....
THIS (what you've described) is what happens when our "welfare state" is so generous that it undermines peoples' incentive to make it on their own.....
That said.... I don't see how it needs... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my fiance to call his parents and check in with them when we go somewhere
Q. A little background. When my fiancé was in his late 20's he was in bad car accident and he was in a coma for 3 weeks and rehab and then went home after 3 months. That sent his parents into a frantic mode, which would be a normal response to that ...
A. 9 March 2015: I wouldn't be as generous as Honeypie in giving this guy and his parents a "pass".....
The predicament that triggered their (parents') anxiety and behaviour happened a long time ago (using my arithmetic and your title-line). It's time for them... (read in full...)
My ex is in a relationship
Q. My ex is in a relationship, the first I know of since we broke up over 5 years ago. Would it be ok to msg her? She did tell me not to msg her again but she use to say things like this all the time when she got pissed of at me. So I haven't msged ...
A. 9 March 2015: Is there REALLY a "question" here???? You and she broke up... a long time ago... both of you are IN new relationships..... WHAT THE F**k??????
Wake up and keep away from this girl. She's entitled to AT LEAST that much from you. (and, P.... (read in full...)
Why won't my ex give me back my garage door opener? Is she punishing me or does she want me back?
Q. I broke up with my ex about a month ago, we were together almost a year though a LOT of ups and downs. She was frequently insecure and jealous and would always accuse me of trying to sleep with other women. We're talking about friends 10 years ...
A. 9 March 2015: She probably put the darn thing in her pillow case, because it has a bit of residue from your after-shave, smells like you, and she can't resist!!!!!
Try getting a new garage door opener... change the code, so that the one that she kept won't wo... (read in full...)
I met the long-lost, love of my life after 20 years...but I'm married with a son
Q. How can someone I hardly knew from 20 ago capture my heart again? But I'm married with a child. 20 years ago (I was 18) I met the most beautiful girl I had ever seen at a carnival. We swapped numbers and met up a couple of times and for the next...
A. 9 March 2015: Been there/ done that..... there's only the remotest chance that what YOU think there "is" really "is."...
Cool it for six months. IF you and she think that you (and she) should meet (and try to ressurrect things)..... then try it then.. and - wh... (read in full...)
I've been talking to a guy on and off for 3 years... however for some reason he is never available on the weekends. Should I move on?
Q. I've been talking to this guy off and on for about 3 years now. I met him online. We have not slept together, but have gone out on several dates. We live about 2 hours away from each other. I am incredibly attracted to him and he always says that I ...
A. 9 March 2015: He "disappears" on weekends because his WIFE.. or his REAL GIRLFRIEND put a squeeze on his time....
Think twice about spending even another MINUTE with this cad.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Our relationship is draining me. How do I know if its worth fighting for?
Q. My very first real relationship, as the previous one was mostly long distance...Its been over one year of me and my boyfriend being together, yet I still feel like I dont know him. We find ourselves in similar fights, but dont seem to really learn ...
A. 9 March 2015: The monitor wrote this: "How do I know if its worth fighting for?"
From what your wrote, I would opine that it's NOT (worth fighting for)......
Get a better girlfriend....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why do men prefer sex with younger girls?
Q. My question is too short .I just need an advice on this.Why men prefer sex with young girls.What so special in young girls that older girls don't have? And Does older virgin have same intact hymen if he didn't had sex or just young virgin g...
A. 9 March 2015: We men like you younger girls because you are HOT, HOT, HOT... and THAT is the end of it....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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