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writes:I don't mean to sound sexist or come off as judgemental I'm just really curious as to why married women cheat?I mean I can understand why men cheat, they produce sperm like every freakin day of their life so of course they're gonna wanna let off some steam in that aspect but women are only born with a certain amount of eggs and after awhile they just don't work whereas a male produces sperm til he's like 60And our eggs are only useful before 30. so why do married women cheat ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2014): I think its bullshit to put more noble or understandable reasons on women cheating than men.
I don't think women are "better" about cheating, just more elaborate (and sometimes more self-deceiving) with how they justify it. I don't think this is more respectable than a man who admits he indulged a stupid physical impulse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2014):
Firstly many women have children after thirty , even after 40.
Secondly, sperm and eggs are about baby making and have NOTHING to do with cheating
Nobody ( including men) NEEDS to cheat
It is a decision! A choice!
People, both women and men make this choice because of a variety of reasons. Maybe they are bored, lonely, or the opportunity just arises
But rest assured men have no more excuse for making that choice than women do!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 November 2014):
 I actually forgot the most important factor...
Men and Women cheat because they MAKE a choice to do so.
Just like those who stay monogamous CHOOSES to stay monogamous.
Gender really doesn't matter when it comes to cheating. It's a choice.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 November 2014):
 Lol! No offense, but this has to be a troll question. According to your theory, women would not want sex after the age of 30, lmao. In the case you are sincerely asking, someone ought to inform you that a mans sperm, a womans eggs, sexual drive and willingness to cheat; are not related. Men who are asexual also produce sperm! And women do carry on wanting, and having, sex until they die.
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reader, lifesgreat  +, writes (22 November 2014):
The way I see it even know it may not make much sense is that women have more opportunitys too.
But that is only because a lot of the time Men have to hit on Women. So if you have had a gf for so long and potentially the spark is going , there are always going to be some lad that will hit on her.
Where as a lad unless he is an arse and hits on women when he has girlfriend there is not going to as many chances to cheat
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reader, KC12 +, writes (21 November 2014):
 I think the reasons men and women cheat are way more than just biological. I think you can break cheaters into 3 categories: 1) some people are just compulsive cheaters by nature, 2) some are opportunists who think they will do "just once, but not get caught" (but are usually caught).3) those that cheat because they are unhappy in their current marriage/relationship. I think the majority of women fall in the last 2 categories, opportunists and/or unhappy in their current marriage. Maybe a combination of the 2. Please don't get me wrong, I do not condone cheating by any means nor do I mean to say that only men are compulsive cheaters either. I think there is a fair mix of males and females in each category. If I were to break it down, VERY roughly, I'd say 1) 80% men 20% women, 2) 60% men, 40 % women, and 3) 25% men, 75% women. This is based off of people I know personally, and situations I've known about. Take it for what it's worth ;)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 November 2014):
 Women cheat because THEY - much like men - sometimes find out that they are stuck with a doo-widdy for a partner, and they have suffered with him for a long time... and they can no longer suppress their natural, human desires to be with a guy who is NOT a doo-widdy.....
Does that help????
Good luck.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2014): First of eggs are still still good well over 30. Nowdays no one is even having kids before 30.
That's a good excuse you found for guys to cheat. Women are as sexual beings as men whether they are childbearing age or not. The difference between women and men cheating is that men will cheat no matter what happy or not happy they are in their relationship, most women won't cheat if they are happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2014): For the thrill of a new lover when neglected at home or when bored
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the answer:)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 November 2014):
My guess? Now speaking PURELY biological (like you did with the men and their sperm).
Because putting ALL your eggs in one basket isn't a sure bet. And there will always BE a smarter/stronger/better provider male out there.
WOMEN are as SEXUAL being as men are.
THAT would be the biology of it.
REALITY is, men AND women have "cheated" since the beginning of marriage and monogamous social rules and constructs. Mostly because WOMEN wasn't an equal, she was a possession of first her father, then her husband. Her SOLE purpose was to produce offspring/heirs. WOMEN were expected to BE monogamous (men weren't) in order to ensure that the HUSBAND's line would continue. Can you imagine being 12-14 and being married of to a 40+ year old dude? Do you not think it would have been SERIOUSLY tempting to "cheat" with a young(er) guy?
Let's take in something most modern women might find HARD to grasp..
The female orgasm has been "discovered" several times over the past 130 years. The Victorian Era had given rise to the myth that women didn't have orgasms, and many medical researchers adopted this idea as truth because it was impossible to prove that women were orgasming the way you could prove men were.
Because MEN couldn't prove that women were getting off, it simply DIDN'T happen. Ironic, don't you think?
Again, SOCIAL rules have expected women to NOT enjoy sex (not too much) because? Women are the VESSELS of a MAN'S offspring, not a "sexual being.
How do you think virginity plays into all this? Do you not think by telling a girl her VALUE it tied up to her hymen, it's telling her to basically go against nature, but to comply with what MEN want. No sex for a girl till marriage, again to ensure the husband's bloodline. Virginity is another SOCIAL construct to "control" females sexuality.
And "our" eggs are fine til mid-late 30's.
*steps of her little soap box*
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