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writes:I have an embarrassing problem, that i'm almost too embarrassed to ask you all about.Last night I stayed at my boyfriend's house, we've been together 2 and a half years. I woke up to discover I had wet the bed. I was absolutley mortified, as I haven't done this since childhood. Obviously I was very upset and my boyfriend said not to worry about it and acted ok about it. He was very sympathetic, and told me to forget about it. But i'm so worried he it's changed how he's seen me, from his girlfriend he wants to have sex with to some weird child like girl that wets the bed. I feel so disgusting. Its bad enough that I'm 20, and I wet the bed, let alone it was when I was with him!! I know this is a strange question but if he has changed how he see's me, what can I do to change it back to how it was? How can I forget about this? I'm MORTIFIED! Reply to this Question
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reader, gr33ncountry  +, writes (10 March 2012):
Girl I wouldn't worry about it. On my 21st birthday I had way too much to drink and was sitting indian style in my boyfriends and I's kitchen puking in a trash can, fell asleep with my boyfriend and his bff watching me. (making sure I was okay) I ended up looking up at them with tears in my eyes and said I peed my pants. They both laughed and didn't believe me. His bff pulled the trash can up and they saw my light blue jeans were now a dark blue. Which then lead to them laughing even harder. My boyfriend helped me up took me to the shower helped me clean up and gave me new pants. That was over a year ago and we laugh our asses off about it today. But at first I was mortified and told neither of them to tell a soul. Give it time and if it was a one time thing you guys will eventually laugh about it. They are right below though. It happens more than you think. I have had two men in their 20's pee in their sleep at my house. I never make a big deal about it because it isn't a big deal. I just ask them to clean it up and go on with our days.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (9 March 2012):
 Two and a half years with the guy, don't worry about it. Your not a guest, your not a stranger, your part of his heart and this little thing is so unimportant. What is important to him is when you get upset and cry or when you are hurt. So I know it's embarrassing, but can you pretend it doesn't matter and put on a smile for him, or he will worry about you and be upset with himself because he doesn't know how to help you.
Forget about your feelings, and concentrate on being happy just for him, that's the best thing you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): It happens OP, no big deal. If it's a continuous thing then go see a doctor but other than that don't worry about it.
I once dated a girl who did that. I left her in my bed and went to work and when I came back she was gone, the whole bed was soaked and my quilt was placed over it. All of my bed was soaked from her and she didn't even have the decency to clean it up. I dumped her for that. I would have had no problem if she'd just admitted it and tidied it up.
I haven't wet the bed since I was kid but I have vomited in bed a lot of times and have a weird habit lately of waking up after a night out with a half eaten kebab spread all over the bed, in my hair etc. My girlfriend isn't too impressed when that happens hehe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): I'm seventeen and I have wet my bed like three times since last year! It's very embarrassing, it started happening about six months ago and I wet it because I have dreams where I go to the restroom to pee! It's very weird. Luckily it hasn't happened in a while now but I am scared it might happen again. Reading this actually made me feel better that I am not the only one this has happened to.
Don't worry about it, I bet it happens to a lot of people but no one dares to talk about it because they think it's not normal. It was really bad luck that it happened with your boyfriend but if he loves you, he'll let it go. I actually told my boyfriend about my incident and we had a good laugh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): Agreed some deep sleepers are known to be bed wetters. Also, maybe he does this as well as he seems to have a pretty good reaction to it, like its normal. I had an ex that when he drank too much Beer, he would wet the bed as he was a deep sleeper to begin with.Just start to make a diary of what your day was like the night before and if there are any stresses in your life that may trigger bed wetting. As the psychological side of it could be a symptom of something else.I don't think you should worry. I think it happens more than you think.In the future, if you want to prevent such an accident, drink some cinnamon tea before bed, it helps to prevent bed wetting.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 March 2012):
 I wet the bed when I was pregnant with my older son... it happens...
my last husband was a bed wetter when we married... he finally stopped... his younger brother (they are 40 and 41 not babies) still does it.
some people are just very deep sleepers... you are NOT alone....
talk to him... tell him you are mortified... I'm betting it's not that big a deal.
strip the bed
change the sheets...
use Nature's Miracle or some other enzyme cleaner if you actually wet the mattress to prevent the smell and bacteria....
get a waterproof mattress pad if it makes you feel more secure....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 March 2012):
RELAX!!!!!
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reader, landomando +, writes (8 March 2012):
You have been together for 2 and a half years. It wont change how he sees you because he probably should know everything about you by now.. My roomate pissed his bed a couple months ago. Its really not a big deal. It happens to us all young, old.. I just would try not to worry about it
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 March 2012):
 This is actually a more common occurrence than you think, it just never is talked about (for the reasons you mentioned in your question). The best thing you can do is just not bring it up and let it go away on its own. Sometimes these things happen because of another event though, a UTI or bladder infection is a common cause, or mentally a sexual trauma can trigger it as well. So you should examine if there was some kind of trigger. If it happens again, you should go talk to a doctor to make sure everything is alright physically.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (8 March 2012):
 If you were having sex before the wetting incident, why don't you claim that he had turned you on SO much that you squirted?
No embarrassment, and he will feel proud as a peacock that he made you do that!
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