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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 I agree with the poster below me... just lay low and let him come to you... 3 weeks is WAY too soon to be pressuring him for a commitment.
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reader, Played again +, writes (12 March 2012):
That means he still wants to see you text him less and he will come around more don't always be so available trust me I just lost someone pressuring them
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 March 2012):
 It "means" that he wants to keep you on the hook long enough to see if you will put out (do s*x) with him.... and - if you will - then he will TELL YOU that he and you are "in a relationship."
IF you are smart enough to tell him that you like him and would like to see him several more times before you decide that you would/might like to get closer, you will have "called his bluff".... and you will see him disappear faster than a 1959 Edsel.....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): Ok. I didn't mean to cause any offence. If you haven' slept with him then maybe he just thinks 3 weeks is too soon to be thinking about a relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 March 2012):
Personally I think after 3 weeks you jumped the gun a bit...
But what's done is done.
If you have slept with him STOP.
if you have not slept with him, DO NOT.
he may be confused and not know what he wants.
he may like you enough to be FWB but since you want a real BF that won't work for you so he may be stringing you along to get to that stage where you can't say no to him...
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HE MAY really like you and want to see if it grows since like I said 3 weeks is not a long time to decide if you want to forsake all others (even temporarily)....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): "He doesn't know if he can be my b/f but yet he keeps texting me"
He won't know if he can be your b/f until he knows for sure if he can sleep with you without being your b/f.
If he can sleep with you without obligation or commitment, then he can't be your b/f because he doen't have to be in order to get what he wants from you, which is likely frequent regular ongoing casual no-strings on-demand sex without obligation or commitment.
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reader, helpquickly  +, writes (11 March 2012):
i think he just doesn't know what to do with you. wait a while, respond to him and talk to him, but don't ever give him the idea that you are needy and desperate. guys don't dig that. some might just take you up out of pity and that's not right. give it some time, act independent, "when in love act like a woman but think like a man." good luck with the acting!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): I would respond and tell him that if he wants to see you then fine but it would be in an ongoing 'dating' basis. It is early days as you have only known him a month. But if you feel you want to be clear with him, just tell him. It is good to have boundaries and you are less likely to be messed around.
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reader, RachakaRoni  +, writes (11 March 2012):
RachakaRoni is verified as being by the original poster of the question I haven't slept with him no and I have made it clear I don't want to do the sex bit without the relationship part. Thanks
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reader, RachakaRoni +, writes (11 March 2012):
RachakaRoni is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI haven't slept with him no. and I have made it clear I dont want to do the sex bit without the relationship part. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): Not trying to be rude but have you slept with him? If so, he's probably stringing you along. If not then i'm not too sure what his deal is. Maybe he's still hurt over a previous relationship or maybe just doesn't want anything serious but doesn't know how to tell you.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (11 March 2012):
It's only been 3 dates (one month). It is soon to make a decision And commitment like boyfriend / girlfriend. However what is not clear yet is 1) he's not ready for any relationship 2) he's not sure you're the girl he wants as a girlfriend. (again only a month)
I suggest you keep it casual and go on dates with other people for a few more weeks. Do NOT sleep with this guy yet. And if you want a boyfriend do not get sucked into a casual relationship. You will get hurt.
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reader, BeckySmith101 +, writes (11 March 2012):
This just means that he isn't ready for a head-on relationship with you. He still wants to be really good friends with you but just doesn't have much attraction with you. I wouldn't take offence. He want's to be one of your closest friends that you can have a laugh and a drink with. Someone who tells you what they truly think of them but can laugh with them as well. I think he is looking for something more than a serious relationship. sometimes, friendshiip is more powerful than any boyfriend could be.
Hope this helps!
xx
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